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CAN THIS MARRIAGE BE SAVED? 
"I Can't Gel Over His Two-Year 
Affair Bv Margery D. Rosen 
WAS THIS MARRIAGE SAVED? 
Our Kids Drove Us Craz\ 
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52 LICENSE TO KILL Reckless drivers are 
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One 0J the mOSt essential needs for a 
happy family life is a roof over one"s head. 
That rnierht sound obvious, but it's something 
that a lot of families in America can't take for 
Granted. That's why, starting last March. 
Ladies ' Home Journal began a partnership widi 
Habitat for Humanity International, and why 
we have profiled one family every month who 
has earned a home through Habitat's life- 
changing program. 

Habitat is a "hand up, not hand 
out" program: families selected 
must be able to pay a no-interest 
mortgage and must also give back 
a certain number of hours in 
"sweat equity'" building Habitat 
houses for other families. 

I thought you'd enjoy hearing 
about how we're bringing our part- 
nership to life. This October, we 
built our first Ladies ' Home Journal 
Habitat house in Paterson. New Jersey, in conjunction 
with Citigroup. The brand-new homeowner is Tracy 
Gist. 34. who recently adopted two boys. Jamar. 11, and 
Keshawn. 9, whom she has cared for as foster children 
since they were toddlers. On the da}- that we visited her 
house mid-construction. Tracy had just started a new job 
with the Paterson Board of Education. 

Like so many Habitat families. Tracy and her boys had 
been Iking in substandard housing. Conditions in poverty- 
level housing, such as pests and poor construction, actually 
make family members sick-particularly children. All of 
us from Ladies ' Home Journal and Citigroup who went to 
Paterson to help Tracy christen her new house were truly 
inspired: This house not only is a safe haven for Tracy 
and her boys, but it also represents a new beginning. 
The house literally becomes a foundation on which to 
build a fulfilling life, a from door becomes an entryway 
into the American dream. 

Habitat, founded in 1976 by visionary Millard Fullard 
and wife Linda, has built more than 50.000 houses for 
families in the L'nited States and more than 100.000 inter- 
nationally. It's easy to appreciate the impact Habitat has 
when you look at it in microcosm, as we got to. up close 
in Paterson. Paterson was the nation's first planned indus- 
trial citv. the brainchild of Alexander Hamilton, who 



JANUARY 2004 




Many hands build a 
house: (above, from 
left) Cheryl Massej of 
Habitat; Tracy Lrist. 
the new homeowner; 
me; Faith Mass in aula 
of Citigroup; and Lvsa 
Rathff of Habitat. 
(Left): Mayor Jose 
Torres, of Paterson 



wanted to decrease U.S. dependence 
on foreign goods. Paterson grew 
into one'of our greatest industrial 
cities, becoming known as the Silk 
City in the mid 1800s. its most pros- 
perous period. Sadly, bv die 1960s, 
the city had fallen into financial and 
social collapse, and many homeown- 
ers simply walked away. 

Today. Paterson is in the midst of 
a truly stirring revival. Under the passionate and indefati- 
gable leadership of Paterson Habitat affiliate head Barbara 
Dunn and her big-hearted group of volunteers and staff. 
150 Habitat houses were completed through 2003. with a 
goal of 50 more by die end of 2006. As a result. Paterson is 
being reborn, block by block. Dunn and Habitat have 
joined forces with Mayor Jose Torres, who has attracted 
$300 million in new investments for housing, schools and 
civic centers since taking office in 2002. Citigroup, as part 
of a multimillion-doOai" national initiative, also reached out 
and is helping to rebuild the city from the inside out. 
Where once diere was blight, there are now thriving neigh- 
borhoods peopled by proud and caring homeowners. 

We at Ladies' Home Journal hope to build other Habitat 
homes, together with corporate partners, and with you. 
our readers. To leam how to get involved in your own 
towns and cities, go to www.lhj.com/habitat or www 
.ludutat.org/geti/re/. And tonight, when you turn out the 
lights in your own house, with your family tucked safely 
inside, take a moment to reflect on how much good flows 
from our homes. I know I did. when I got home, after my 
dav in Paterson. and it's a lesson I won't soon forget. 



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"My son just announced that he's getting married. 
But I can't share the joy of this moment with my husband. 
Greg,' 1 said Diane, 39, who runs a home-based stationery 
business. "We go through the motions of being this happy 
couple, but our marriage hasn't felt loving or intimate since 
his affair five years ago— or maybe for years before that. 



"Greg was literally the boy next 
door. Fd had a crush on him since I 
was 13. He didn't pay any attention 
to me. though, until I was about 16. 
when he came home from college 
one weekend. We started dating and 
quickly fell in love. 

"Actually, love was something of a 
foreign notion to me back then be- 
cause I came from such a troubled 
home. My mother was an alcoholic 
and was abusive to my father. They 
divorced when I was 12; rav vouneer 
brothers and I lived with my mother. 
Some days, after long nights out 
drinking, she wouldn't get out of bed. 
I remember being very worried that 
I'd have to take care of my brothers. 

"Because I grew up in such a dys- 
functional family my dream was . im- 
ple: I wanted to get married, have 
children and be happy. Even though I 
took classes at the local community 
college. I never liked school much. So 



when Greg asked me to marry him 
after his college graduation 



I was 

more than happy to quit school and 
focus on him. He had landed a good 
entry-level job at an insurance com- 
pany. We rented an apartment in our 
old neighborhood and. soon after our 
first anniversary, our son Scott was 
born. Peter came along 14 months lat- 
er. Life was good: Greg enjoyed his 
work and was getting regular promo- 
tions; I had started my stationery 
business and was loving it. Bv the 
time Greg walked in the door each 
night. I'd have dinner on the table. 
We were happy, and to me it felt too 
good to be true. Maybe it was. 

"Looking back. I drink we started 
to have our first real fights about sev- 
en or eiafht vears aero, when our son 
Peter was in junior high. Peter fell in 
with a bad crowd and started getting 
in trouble: skipping school, drinking 
and smoking pot. Once we caught 

BY MARGERY D. ROSEN 



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him sneaking out the bedroom win- 
dow when we thought he was asleep. 
"Peter's rebelliousness pushed all 
of our buttons. I'm fairly strict, but 
Greg is like a Marine drill sergeant. 
We aimied constantlv about how to 
set limits and mete out punishment. 
For instance, when I found pot in Pe- 
ter's room. I confronted him. Peter 
swore it was the first time he'd ever 
used drugs and that he'd stop. I felt I 



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LADIES' HOME JOURNAL JANUARY 2004 




had to give him the benefit of the 
doubt, but Greg thought I was com- 
pletely mishandling him. 'You're 
afraid of your own child." he used to 
tell me. "You're walking on eggshells 
with him!" Well, maybe I was. but I 
didn't have a clue what else to do. I 
was so absorbed with him. so wor- 
ried about getting him back on track. 
I didn't realize how much our dis- 
agreements about how to parent our 



son were driving a wedge between 
Greg and me. Our communication 
was strained. We only bickered, nev 
er talked. By the time Peter was a 
high school sophomore, he had 
thankfully straightened himself out. 
But our marriage was a mess. 

"Greg had started to work longer 
and longer hours. He'd always have 
a reason for why he had to make the 
later train, and I never questioned it. 



Bui he also started acting strangely- 
he seemed agitated, restless Then 
die phone calls started I'd pick up 
and someone would ' tg up. 

'.After about thn t months of this, 
clueless me fir JJy started to wake up. 
I asked Greg if there was someone 
but he denied it. When I asked if 
anything was wrong, he d say no. 
Then one day. I was in the den 
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up the phone and overheard him talk- 
ins; to a woman. I didn't catch die ex- 
act words, but I didn't need to. I 
heard her voice— and his pause when 
he knew I'd picked up. I knew right 
away that my suspicions were correct: 
He was cheating on me. 

"I confronted him immediately and 
demanded he tell me everything, 
which he did. The woman. Amy. 
worked in anodier department in his 
firm. She was a divorced, single moth- 
er with diree young children. And she 
pursued him. Obviously, he hadn't put 
up too much of a fuss. The affair had 
been going on for two vears! Greg 
swore diat he had ended the relation- 
ship and apologized profusely, but I 
was furious— and still had my doubts 
that the affair was truly finished. 

"Tensions were high. We contin- 
ued to fight; one night the argument 
was so intense that Greg walked out 
of the house and went straight to a 
local bar. which he never did. He got 
very drunk and was walking home 
when he tripped over a pothole and 
landed on his neck. It was a freak ac- 
cident, and it left him paralyzed from 
the waist down. Miraculously, he got 
full movement back five months later. 
That period is a big blur. I had to 
take care of the boys and Greg, plus 
shuffle him back and forth to his re- 
hab therapy sessions. The whole af- 
fair incident was placed on the back 
burner for a while. 

"Today, five years later. Greg 
walks with a limp and gets pins and 
needles and numbness in his leg: oth- 
erwise, he's fine. But memories of liis 
affair still pop into my head. I know 
Amy still works at his company, and 
he admits that he talks to her occa- 
sionally, insisting that she's the one 
who initiates the conversations. 

"Preparing for Scott's wedding had 
pushed our problems to the forefront. 



I want to be able to enjoy this time in engagement has been a total wake-up 
our life, and all the other familv mile- call for me. I need to set back on 
stones, with an open, loving heart. I track with my marriage, put all the 
want to share these experiences with pieces of our family back together. I 
my husband. I just don't know how love Diane, but I hate the coolness 
to make us feel close again." between us. I've apologized over and 

over again, but I sense that she doesn't 
months ill rehab made believe me. Whenever she asks me 

about Amy. I tell her 
everything. What 
else can I do? I can't 
look for a new job- 
in this economv and 



me realize what a 
fool I'd been." said 
Greg. 42, a tall, mus- 
cular man with a 
soothing voice. "I 
know how lucky I 
am that I'm not in a 
wheelchair. And 
cheating on Diane- 
how stupid was 
that? There is no ex- 
planation other than 
I was in such an awful state of mind 
at the time. 



"When 

this sexy 

woman came 

on to me, 

I caved" 



so easy. 

"I grew ui 



next 



.up 
door to Diane. My 
family life was not 
as bad as hers— but it 
came close. I was 
the oldest of four, and my dad was 
an alcoholic who bounced from one 



"I feel horribly guilty for what I job to another. Mom worked two 
did to her. I knew it was wrong even jobs— delivering papers and as a 



when I was doing it. but I blocked 



cashier at the grocery. When Dad 



out all sound judgment. Amy is an was drunk, he was an ogre. He back- 
administrative assistant at my com- 
pany She's in a different department, 
but we'd bump into each other a lot. 
Sometimes we'd walk to the train sta- 
tion together. She came to me for 
help with her problems: I was her 
shoulder to cry on. Her husband had 
walked out on her and her three 
kids, and she saw me as the experi- 



handed us a few times. I couldn't 
wait to grow up and leave home. 

"I was offered a football scholar- 
ship, which was my ticket out. My 
college vears. and then when Diane 
and I started dating and first got mar- 
ried, were the best times of my life. 
She and I had so much fun togedier. 
I think she's risrht about when the 



enced father who could offer advice, problems began between us. Peter 

Then it became more. I guess her in- gave us a lot of grief. I thought she 

terest in me fed my ego. Diane and I was letting him get away with mur- 

communicated so litde back then. All der. She'd harangue me for being too 

we did was fight. So. when diis sexy tough on him. We just couldn't get 

woman came on to me. I caved. on the same page. 

''Maybe my accident was God's "That's when I started seeing 

way of punishing me. Who knows? Amy. I didn't like myself when I was 

Diane was an angel when I was in re- doing it, but I did it anyway. Then I 

hab. I was depressed for a long time, had my accident and I realized how 

thinking about what I had done to close I'd come to losing everything. 

Diane and the possibilitv that I'd Since I've returned to work, I've seen 

never be able to walk again. Scott's Amv from time to time continued 



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and we talk, but there's nothing more 
to it. Still, she's a ghost in the room 
with us. Diane cant let it go. 

"Now. so main wonderful things 
are happening to our family— Peter's 
doing well, and Seott is set to marry 
a lovely young lady. Diane and I 
both know we have so much to look 
It 'i ward to— retirement, grandkids. I 
want to get back that connection Di- 
ane and 1 used to have. How do I 
prove that to her?" 

were like many 
long married couples who for various 
reasons, put their relationship on hold 
while they attended to the needs of 
raising a family." said the counselor. 
"On one level, they both believed 
they had moved past Greg's infidelity, 
yet the upcoming marriage ol their 
son triggered feelings ol longing and 
emptiness in both ol them. They 
yearned to relive the joys of their 'old 
marriage.' yet neither knew how to 
rekindle the feelings they had lost. 

"Part ol the problem stemmed 
from their childhoods. Living with an 
alcoholic parent and having to handle 
grown-up responsibilities at dn early 
age forced both ol them to develop 
an unhealthy ability to tolerate emo 
tional distress. The good news was 
that Diane ami Greg knew what a 
happy marriage felt like, and I sensed 
that short term counseling with spe- 
cific suggestions they could put into 
practice immediatclv would help. 

"Even though the affair was years 
ago, Diane was still beset with wor 
nes. still unable to trust, and she con 
tinned to feel threatened and 
insecure. They had never fully 
worked through the fallout of I ! 
betrayal, since his accident forced 
them to locus solely on his recovery. 

"I pointed out that some of the 
chilliness that both of them described 



in their relationship 
could be due to Di- 
ane's maintaining an 
emotional distance 
to protect herself 
against further pain. 
This wall was pre- 
venting her from re- 
establishing intimacy 
and from truly hear- 
ing and accepting 
Greg's heartfelt re- 
morse. On the other 
hand. Greg felt re- 
sentful that, despite 
His apologies, he was 
still being rejected 
by Diane. He be- 
lieved that the 
statute of limitations 
on his crime surely was up. When he 
sensed Diane pulling away, lie pulled 
away, too. 

"When I asked Diane. 'What do 
you need from Greg now?" she 
replied. 'I need him to stop talking to 
Ann- altogether.' I agreed that was 
reasonable. Greg was reluctant to ap- 
pear rude to Amy. So I coached him 
on what to say the next time she ap- 
proached him: 'My marriage is the 
most important thing in die world to 
me. and my wile and 1 are working 
hard to make it stronger. When you 
come by my office, even to chat, it 
makes me uncomfortable, so please 
don't do it anymore.' When I asked 
Greg it he could sav this, he said ves. 
When at the next session he reported 
that he had told Ann' as much. Diane 
immediately relaxed. 

"At diis point. I suggested specific 
assignments that they could do to 
make each other feel special. These 
two plunged into this homework as- 
signment, and found ways to treat 
each other nicelv— leaving loving mes- 
sages on each other's cell phones. 




"I want to 

ret back that 

connection 

we used 

to have" 



giving backrubs, 
buying funny cards. 
The old feelings, 
they soon reported, 
were coming back. 

"By their son 
Scott's wedding five 
months later. Diane 
and Greg were 
ready to end coun- 
seling. They told me 
they were feeling 
closer than they had 
in years, and their 
recovered happiness 
showed on their 
faces. Still, they ad- 
mitted they had 
more work to do. I 
explained that a 
marriage can't move forward unless 
couples let go of past hurts. 'It's not 
that you pretend they never hap- 
pened." I explained, 'but as long as 
you both work on making changes in 
die marriage, when vou let go of the 
pain, you are freer to connect to your 
partner in a more loving way." " iu 

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Inlormation tor Patients 

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Phenylketonuncs: Contains Phenylalanine 2.5 mg pei 15 mg Tablet and 5.1 mg 
pei 30 mg Tablet 
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nooth male and femaleraE • a :. —-eased re incidence of mtest- . 
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Lansoprazole produced a dose-retata: increased rodence of gastnc ECL ce! hyperplasia 
It also oroducec an increased incidence of Sver tumors (lepatoceSufar adenoma plus 
carcinomai The tumor incidences m male mce treated with 300 and 9)0 rtvg/kg'day (40 to 
80 bmes the recommended human dose based on body surface areai and female mce 
treated with 1 50 to 600 nx}to'day (20 to 80 bmes the recommenoed human dose based 
on body surface areai exceeded the ranges of background incidences in historical controls 
for mis strain ot mce Lansoprazole treatment produced adenoma of rete testis in male mce 
receiving 75 to 600 mg/kg/day (10 to 80 bmes the recommended human dose based on 
body surtace area) 

Lansoprazole was not genotoxic m the Ames test the ex mo rat hepatocyte 
unscheduled DNA synthesis | UDS test, the in mo mouse micronucleus test or the rat 
bone marrow cell chromosomal aberration test It was posrbve in m vitro human 
lymphocyte chromosomal aberrabon assays 

Lansoprazole at oral doses up to 40 bmes the recommended 

human dose based on body surface area) was found to have no effect on fertility 
and reproductive performance of male and female rats 
Pregnancy: Teratogenic Effects 
Pregnancy Category B 
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Teratology studies have been performed in pregnant rats at oral doses up to 
150 mg/kg/day (40 bmes the recommended human dose based on body surface area) and 
pregnant rabbits at oral doses up to 30 mcj/kg/day (16bmes the recommenoed human dose 
based on body surface area) and have revealed no evidence of impaired fertility or harm to 
the fetus due to lansoprazole 

There are however no adequate or well-controlled studies in pregnant women 
Because animal reproduction studies are not always predictive ot human response. 
this drug should be used dunng pregnancy only if clearly needed 
Pregnancy Category C 
Clarithromycin 

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Nursing Mothers 

Lansoprazole or its metabolnes are excreted in the milk ot rats It ts not known whethei 
lansoprazole is excreted in human milk Because many drugs are excreted in human milk, 
because ot the potential for senous adverse reacbons in nursing infavrl 
lansoprazole, and because ol the potential tor tumongemcity shown for lansoprazole in 
rat carcinogenicity studies a decision should be made whether to disconbnue nursing or 
to disconbnue the drug, taking into account the importance of the drug to the mother 
Pediatric Use 

The safety and effectiveness of PREVACID nave been established in the age group 1 year to 
1 1 years for short-term treatment of symptomatic GERD and erosive esophagrbs Safety 
and effectiveness have not been established in patients < 1 year or 1 2-1 7 years of age 

Use ot PREVACID in the age group 1 year to 1 1 years is supported by evidence from 
adequate and well controlled studies ot PREVACID in adults with additional clinical, 
pharmacokinetic, pharmacodynamic, and safety studies performed in pediatric pabents 

The pediatric safety ol PREVACID Delayed-Release Capsules has been assessed 
in 66 pediatnc patients aged 1 to 11 years ot age Of the 66 patients with GERD 85% 
(56/66) took lansoprazole tor 8 weeks anc 15% (10/66) took it for 12 weeks 

The adverse event profile in these pediatnc pabents resembled that ot adults taking 
lansoprazole The most frequently reported |2 or more pabents) treatment-related adverse 
events in pabents 1 to 1 1 years of age (N=66| were consbpabon (5% I and headache (3%) 
There were no adverse events reported in this US clinical study that were not previously 
observed in adults 
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Over 4 000 women were Treated with lansoprazole Ulcer healing rates in females were 
similar to those in males Tie ndrjence rates of adverse evens were also similar to 
those seen in males 
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Ulcer healing rales in elderly patients are similar to those in a younger age group The 
incidence rates ot adverse events ano laboratory test abnorr j I 
those see" dosage and administration of 

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trials involving vanous dosages and durabons ot treatment The adverse reacbon profiles 
for PREVACID Delayed-Reiease Capsules and PREVACID for Delayed-Release Oral 
Suspension are similar in general, lansoprazole treatment has been well-tolerated in both 
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51 '-equentft reported adverse events tor pabents who received triple therapy 1 
for 14 oays were diarrhea (7%) headache |6°»| and taste perversion (5%) There 
: 'jtisticalfy significant differences in the frequency of reportefl adverse events 
between the 10- and 14-day tnple therapy regimens No treatment-emergent adverse 
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si 'requently reported adverse events for pabents who received PREVACID 
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creabnine increased alkaline phosphatase, increased globulins, increased GGTP 
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eosinophil, hypertipema. increased/decreased electrolytes increased/decreased 
cholesterol increased glucocorticoids increased LDH increased/decreased'abnormal 
platelets, and increased gastrin levels Unne abnormalibes such as albuminura glycosuria, 
and hematuna were also reported Additional isolated laboratory abnormalibes were 
reported 

In the placebo controlled studes when SGOT (AST) and SGPT (ALT) were evaluated. 
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visit None of these lansoprazole patients reported jaundice at any bme dunng the study 

In clinical tnals using combination therapy with PREVACID plus amoxicillin and 
clarithromycin, and PREVACID plus amoxicillin, no increased laboratory 
abnormalities particular to these drug combmabons were observed 

For more information on laboratory value changes with amoxicillin oi clanthromyan. 
refer to their package inserts ADVERSE REACTIONS section 
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Oral doses up to 5000 mrj/kg in raB (approximately 1300 bmes the recommended human 
dose based cm body surface area) and mice (about 675 7 bmes the recommended human 
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When Michael and Annette's 

children moved back home, 

Michael said the kids needed 

to find themselves, but Annette 

thought thev should move 

on — and out. How did thev 

find harmony under one roof? 




than ever," says 
Annette, here with 
Michael and Jogs 
Thelma and Rosi 



Annette and Micliael ranstein, they couldn I 

stop fighting about their "boomerang kids." 
Mark, then 2b, and Robyn, then 25, had 
both returned home after college "with no 
intention of getting lives of their own," a.\ 
Annette put it when we ran their story in 
May 1995. Even worse, their kids had 
brought four dogs between them, one of 
whom was accident-prone. "I'm tired of be- 
ing a mother," lamented Annette, a retired 
schoolteacher who was ready to fonts on 
herself— specifically to take dance dasses and 
learn yoga. But whenever she raised the 
subject with Michael, a CFO for a national 
homebuilders company, he dismissed her, 
saying she should be more understanding 
because kids need to "find themselves." But 
after two years of a full house, Annette had 
had enough. She moved out. 

"She says that they'll never be able to 
stand on their own two feet because i 
and pamper them," Michael told us. "But I 
feel like I have to be their champion because 
Annette isn't." Annette suggested they teek 
counseling with Susan Heitler, Ph.D., a 
clinical psychologist in nearby Denver, and 



Michael agreed. With Dr. Heitler 's encour- 
agement, Michael, now 6S, acknowledged 

he needed to tell the kids to start lookingjor 
jobs; and Annette, now 67, moved back 
home. Within weeks, Rofan found a posi- 
tion in a CPA's office and a place of her 
own. By the following fall, Mark was in 
medical school and living on campus. Xow. 
almost nine years later, we caught up with 
the Feinsteins to find out how freedom feels. 

We retired to Phoenix not 
long after the kids moved out. Ever 
since they left. I've had die time and 
enersrv to do what I reallv want in 
life. I take painting classes, and I'm a 
certified yoga teacher. I also continue 
to see a therapist. I feel it helps 
strengthen my self-image. 

We each keep evolving 
and growing and so does our rela- 
tionship. Were independent in many 
ways, but we appreciate each other's 
interests. We have a great lifestvle. 
I'm consulting part-time. I play 
bridge often and take classes in phi- 
losophy and history. 

BY SONDRA FORSYTH 



Annette and Michael 
talk to their children on the 
phone almost every day. 
Mark, now 36, is a psychi- 
atrist in Green Bay, Wis- 
consin. Robyn, now 35, 
lives in Denver: she's an 
accountant who's married 
ivith three children. 
Michael: The great thing is that 
Mark and Robyn are glad that An- 
nette insisted that they grow up and 
move out. They see now that she 
wasn't being selfish, and so do I. 
Annette: As a family, we're closer 
now than ever. I think that's because 
we all have our own lives and we're 
not in each odier's hair. 
Michael: And Annette and I are 
now on the same wavelength : I have 
to admit, she was so right about the 
pleasures of an empty nest. 
Annette: Well, it's not exacdy emp- 
tv! We have the "granddogs"— Thelma 
and Violet, and two new puppies. 
Rosi and Luci. It's funny, but once 
the kids and their dogs were gone. I 
realized I missed having pets of my 
own. I'm still cleaning carpets from 
an accident or two. but I don't mmd. 
because this time, it was my choice to 
have them. Life is a work in progress, 
and change is what it's all about. Ck 



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Partners in 

Crime 

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That's 
the rule Jane Martin. 51, an officer 
with the Memphis Police Department 
K-9 unit, knows all too well. When 



Canine "cops" 
pledge to protect 
their human 
partners — to the 
death, as Memphis 
police officer Jane 
Martin found out 



"Bless his heart, 
he's the sweetest thing 
m the world," says 
Martin of her current 
partner, Rommv 



training a new dog to work the 
streets with you. don't fall in love. 
The doe; mav not. after all. work out. 
Plenty of promising dogs aren't ag- 
gressive enough, or are too aggres- 
sive. So don't fall in love— until you 
know lor sure. 

This could be a problem. Because 
here's Rommy. a 2-year-old long- 
haired German shepherd. Martin has 



been training him for about six weeks, 
teaching him to bite padded arms, and 
taking him out on a few calls, "sniffing 
out bad gins." as Martin thinks of her 
work on the night shift. Rommy is al- 
ready a pal. "How can I not fall in 
love with this dog?" she says. "Bless 
his heart, he's the sweetest diing in die 
world." As in most K-9/cop relation- 
ships. Rommy lives at home with 
Martin. He's ahead}' bonded widi her 

BY JEANNE MARIE LASKAS 



three dachshunds, mutt, cockatiel 
and fish, not to mention all tire wild 
birds sheTeeds and that one raccoon 
that visits reeularlv. Ideallv. K-9 dos:s 
are asked to play the seemingly im- 
possible dual role of trusted pet and 
fierce warrior— to be the sort of dog 
who will kiss his master's nose, but 
also, when confronted with a crimi- 
nal, will not hesitate to bare his 
teeth, sink them into an arm or leg. 
and hold on. 

Rommv shows promise. 

Twice ahead}-, while in training out- 
doors, he has found the bad guy and 
erabbed his clothins. "He didn't back 
away." Martin says. "He's got tremen- 
dous courage— and confidence. He's 
got a bright career ahead of him." 

She hopes this isn't wishful think- 
ing. She needs Rommy to work out. 
She needs it as much as she's needed 
anything since she started on the 
Memphis K-9 unit 15 years ago. 

Martin had been working as a beat 
cop for more than 10 years, always 
with human partners, when the 
chance opened up to work on the 
dog squad. She jumped at it— even 
though no woman at the Memphis 
Police Department had ever worked 
with a K-9 partner. But Martin was 
an animal lover since childhood, and 
she believed in the bond. 

Looking back, she thinks maybe 
she needed the bond. Her life was 
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leash," 
Martin savs 



don't run. But v, 
Bryan came out. 
officers ran. Bryai 
tacked. "I cannc I 
cate my dog!" Mam 
veiled into her radi. 
"Has he exited : 
building?" She he; 

lot. Then anotht 
Then another. B\ 
time she got ou;- 
she found Bryan 
readv dead-killed i 

me of duty bj 
other officer. 

But police work 
like war: Trage.. 
commonplace. It's ik 
unheard of for Jo- 



ined police - a smells d gs get harmed or killed b\ 

with icked or starded fellow officers. An 

2 -peed. What no one told so Martin is working on forgr 

Martin was that there was a hole in and forgetting. 

ig in the rear wall, a hole Rommv is her bright spot. "Mi 

i temporarilv I'm putting too much pressure 

gged with a garb.. _ S savs. "He might not be Si 

would never have released Brvan had perdoc. so I've got to go easv o 

she known diere w - him. Yiv. a lot to be a mothc 



getting away from her. Brvan went 
ile. He broke through and 
from sight. 






hen. I'm really trying to stay guardec 
and not let him into my heart." Bi 

e - already in. And maybe lo\ < 
the end. is the critical piece. "\o 
\ know. . age runs up and down the 
2 doesn't know the leash." she says. "Rommv gives it u 
rween the smell oi' fear me. and I give it to him." So she ha- 
ul that of a scared po decided: Yes. like Rockv and Bryan 
er. A trained police officer is this a - _ bag to work out i 

sed to know what to do whe 
police dog attacks-put somediins 
its mouth and. whatever vou do. 



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Security is a critical issue these days. Especially for 
high-profile leaders and dignitaries. Nc understands 

this better than Mark Jones, Founder and CEO of a 
security-consulting firm. Mark is a man who earned the 
title of 'go-to guy' by being entrusted to jump from 

S I \ S I 1 >l I S S I O \ 13 ' 000 feet with a former 
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responsible for meeting 
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"Complete the mission." 



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is abusing over-the- 
counter diet supple- 
ments. What can I do 
to help? 

PERRl. 45: Teenage girls exist, for the 
most part, in a world more concerned 
ibout their appearance than their 
health. Try to help her see that taking 
good care of her health is a show of 
maturity and a way of taking respon- 
sibility for herself. At the same time. 



acknowledge that she ma\ 

not always make the choices 

you prefer. You may en 

counter resistance at first: I 

once had a 15-year-old patient doze 

off on the examining table, then deny 

it when I suggested fatigue mig 

an issue! Pay close attention it the 

problems seem more severe: Am 

that she's using laxath e - 

weight or living ^n caffeine should 



triggei mm h erious talk. 

No in itter how you 
the com i ard health. 

the girl will most like I v interpret it as 
being about her appear- 
ance, and feel angry and 
huu. Ii she is overweight, 
chances are she 's aware 
of the problem and 
thinks about it .1 great 
It would Ik more 
productive to suggest solutions such 
as healthier eating or more exercise 
for the whole family, rather than sin 
gling her out. I have a friend whose 
mom cooked separate meals-oatmeal 
for hei and pancakes for her broth 
ers— because this mother was so anx 
ions about her daughter's weight 
gain. I don't think that left anybody 
feeling good. Remember that she'll 
know if you're being hypocritical; if 
you don't exercise, don't urge her to 
run laps. If she pays your suggestions 
no heed, take her to a dietitian in the 
hope that she'll listen to an expert. 
We complain about our moms nag 
ging us. but we do take their opin- 
ions into consideration. 
iHElt Tell the gnl that you are 

concerned about the changes you see 
in her. whether it's weariness from 
lack of sleep or moodiness from eat- 
ing badly. Tell her that no one who 
feels terrible physically 
can be happy or enjoy 
life. On the other hand. 
things often lex >k scarier 
to a parent than the- 
ly ,iu . 1 

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sleep but somehow they did. Now 

don't need as much sleep .is I 

. my children yell at me for 

tig up too late! 

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"Morning pain can't keep me from | 

doing what I love." 





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for Osteoarthritis, Rheumatoid Arthritis and Pain 

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d read this information before you start taking VIOXX'. Also, read the 
•ach time you refill your prescription, in case any information has changed. 
This leaflet pi , a summary of certain information about VIOXX. Your 

can give you an additional leaflet that is written for health 
professionals that contains more complete information. This leaflet does not take 
the place of careful discussions with your doctor You and your doctor should 
discuss VIOXX when you start taking your medicine and at regular checkups. 

What is VIOXX? 

VIOXX is a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drug (NSAID) that is used to reduce 
pain and inflammation (swelling and soreness). VIOXX is available as a tablet or 
a liquid that you take by mouth. 

VIOXX is a medicine for: 

• relief of osteoarthritis (the arthritis caused by age-related "wear and tear- 
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relief of rheumatoid arthritis in adults 

management of acute pain in adults (like the short-term pain you can get 

after a dental or surgical operation) 

treatment of menstrual pain (pain during women's monthly periods) 

Who should not take VIOXX? 

Do not take VIOXX if you 

• have had an allergic reaction such as asthma attacks, hives, or swelling of the 
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• have had an allergic reaction to rofecoxib, which is the active ingredient of 
VIOXX, or to any of its inactive ingredients. (See Inactive Ingredients at 
the end of this leaflet .) 

What should I tell my doctor before and during treatment with VIOXX? 

Tell your doctor if you are: 

• pregnant or plan to become pregnant VIOXX should not be used in late 
pregnancy because it may harm the fetus 

• breast-feeding or plan to breast-feed. It is not known whether VIOXX is passed 
through to human breast milk and what its effects could be on a nursing child. 

Tell your doctor if you have 

• history of angina, heart attack or a blocked artery in your heart 
kidney disease 

• liver disease 

• heart failure 

high blood pressure 

• had an allergic reaction to aspirin or other NSAIDs 

• had a serious stomach problem in the past 

Tell your doctor about 

• any other medical problems or allergies you have now or have had. 

• all medicines that you are taking or plan to take, even those you can get 
without a prescription 

Tell your doctor if you develop: 

• serious stomach problems such as ulcer or bleeding symptoms (for 
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• unexplained weight gam or swelling of the feet and'or legs. 

• skin rash or allergic reactions. If you have a severe allergic reaction, get 
medical help right away 

How should I take VIOXX? 

VIOXX should be taken once a day Your doctor will decide what dose of VIOXX 
you should take and how long you should take it You may take VIOXX with or 
without food 



What are the possible side effects of VIOXX? 

Serious but rare side effects that have been reported in patients taking 
and/or related medicines have included: 






• Serious stomach problems, such as stomach and intestinal bleeding, can d 
with or without warning symptoms. These problems, if severe, could lea 
hospitalization or death. Although this happens rarely, you should watch 
signs that you may have this serious side effect and tell your doctor right ai 

• Heart attacks and similar senous events have been reported in patie 
taking VIOXX 

• Serious allergic reactions including swelling of the face, lips, tong 
and/or throat which may cause difficulty breathing or swallowing 
wheezing occur rarely but may require treatment nght away Severe s 
reactions have also been reported 

• Serious kidney problems occur rarely, including acute kidney failure a 
worsening of chronic kidney failure. 

• Severe liver problems, including hepatitis, jaundice and liver failure, ool 
rarely in patients taking NSAIDs. including VIOXX. Tell your doctor if y 
develop symptoms of liver problems. These include nausea, tiredness. it< 
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In addition, the following side effects have been reported: anxiety, bluni 
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More common, but less senous side effects reported with VIOXX have inclm 
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Headache 

Dizziness 

Diarrhea 

Nausea and/or vomiting 

Heartburn, stomach pain and upset 

Swelling of the legs and'or feet 

High blood pressure 

Back pain 

Tiredness 

Urinary tract infection. 



These side effects were reported in at least 2°<= of osteoarthntis patient 
receiving daily doses of VIOXX 12.5 mg to 25 mg in clinical studies 

The side effects described above do not include all of the side effects reporte 
with VIOXX. Do not rely on this leaflet alone for information about side effects 
Your doctor or pharmacist can discuss with you a more complete list of sid 
effects Any time you have a medical problem you think may be related t 
VIOXX, talk to your doctor 

What else can I do to help manage my arthritis pain? 

Talk to your doctor about: 

• Exercise 

• Controlling your weight 

• Hot and cold treatments 

• Using support devices 

What else should I know about VIOXX? 



Can I take VIOXX with other medicines? 

Tell your doctor about all of the other medicines you are taking or plan to take 
while you are on VIOXX. evei edicmes that you can get without a 

prescription Your doctor may .. ;ck that your medicines are working 

properly together if you are takin J, ones such as: 

• warfarin (a hlood thinner) 

• theophylline (a medicine used to treat asthma) 

• rifampin (an antibiotic) 

ACE inhibitors (medicines used for high blood pressure and heart failure) 
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VIOXX cannot take the place of aspirin for prevention of heart attack or stroke. 
If you take both aspirin and VIOXX :ieater chance of serious 

stomach problems than if you vou are currently taking 

aspirin for prevention of heart at! . should not discontinue taking 

aspirin without consulting your doctor 



This leaflet provides a summary of certain information about VIOXX. If you havt 
any questions or concerns about VIOXX. osteoarthntis. rheumatoid arthritis o 
pain, talk to your health professional. Your pharmacist can give you an additiona 
leaflet that is written for health professionals. 

Do not share VIOXX with anyone else: it was prescribed only for you It shoulc 
be taken only for the condition for which it was presenbed. 

Keep VIOXX and all medicines out of the reach of children 

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decision to have sex at such a young 
age. chances are she's not going to 
confide in you. Girls lie about dieir 
sex lives to just about everyone, and 
that probably includes you, too. If 
she does tell you, it's imperative that 
you not fly into a fit of rage. It's im- 
portant to provide her with contra- 
ception information (or make sure 
it's being provided at school), be- 
cause she may not know as much as 
she thinks she does. In my health 
class last year, a girl put forward a 
theory that if you have sex in a 
tree— I'm not kidding!- -you can't get 
pregnant, because gravity will chaw 
the sperm downward. 

You should know about 
it. But should does not mean will, so 
make sure your young teen knows 
about birth control, sexually trans- 
mitted diseases, and the heavy obli- 
gations of single motherhood. You 
should welcome her questions so 
she understands the complexity as 
well as the beauty and joy inherent 
in sex. In my mother's house, sex 
was a dirty word and we children 
grew up totally ignorant; with my 
own kids, I wasn't always comfort- 
able, but I tried to keep the conver- 
sation going. Now that I'm a ribald 
old lady with more perspective, it's 
easy to discuss sex with my children 
and even grandchildren. 
4. Is it ever okay to snoop in my 
teen's room? And if I find drugs or 
weapons, how can I bring it up? 

!RI, 45: Parents sometimes come 
into my office asking if I can do 
urine tests on their teenagers to de- 
tect drug use-but without their 
knowing it. Or sometimes they ask 
it I can tell from an exam whether 
then daughter is still a virgin. I tell 
them to ask their children die ques- 
tions they want answered, offer to be 
part of the conversation and. if nee 
essary, refer them to a family coun- 
selor. I don't believe in snooping; in 



order to confront your child with 
what you've found, you reveal 
yourself as a sneak and lose moral 
authority and trust. If you think 
she's suicidal or planning some- 
thing violent, you may break this 
rule, but that doesn't mean search- 
ing her room every time you sus- 
pect she's doing something vou 
don't want her to. Diaries and jour- 
nals are off-limits, but I favor some 
kind of monitoring of online activ- 
ity, as long as your daughter knows 
you're doing it and on what terms. 
JOSEPHINE, 14: Unless you think 
she's harboring machine guns or 
atomic bombs, there's absolutely no 
legitimate reason to invade her pri- 
vacy without her knowledge. If 
you're truly worried and you have 
grounds to be suspicious, ask her. 
and if she doesn't reveal anything, 
bring her up to her room with you 
to look through her stuff. If you 
find evidence, take her to a guid- 
ance or rehab center. Searching 
through drawers and shelves— only 
in her presence— is the absolute 
maximum any parent is entitled to. 
Yes. kids do lie sometimes: One girl 
I know 7 stores alcohol in soda bot- 
tles, and another keeps a fake diary 
for her mother's benefit. But a 
mother who reads her daughter's 
diary or censors her instant messag- 
ing conversations is committing a 
grave invasion of privacy: if discov- 
ered, it will most likely result in a 
serious lack of trust. 

Having grown up as 
one of three siblings sleeping in the 
same room. I respect and value pri- 
vacy. Onlv it vou have very good 
reason to suspect drugs or weapons 
do you have the right to violate 
your daughter's trust. Let her know 
that you're motivated by love and 
you're too scared to just stand by 
and allow her to put herself in such 
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new year is a 
special affair for me and my husband. Steve, and our two 
young sons, Riley and Brandon. Fust, we have a quiet— 
and very early-New Year's Eve dinner. Then it's off to 
bed, because our family's real celebration begins early 
the next morning with a hike in the breathtaking Santa 
Cruz mountains, which we are lnckv enough to live 
nearby. We started the tradition five years ago when 
Riley was a newborn and Brandon was 2: Steve and I 
simply strapped each of the boys into front packs and 
started off in the crisp January air. Now. we start every 
new year with this challenging exercise. We don't have a 
set timetablc-we hike as long as we all can. which gives 



For Jill and Steve 
Bergkamp, ringing 
in the new year 
doesn't involve 
popping champagne 
corks or clinking 
glasses. Instead, 
their celebration 
calls tor pulling on 
hiking hoots and 
hitting the trail with 
their sons 



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ns plenty of time to talk about the year behind us and 
the exciting adventures coming up in the year ahead. 
The boys seem exhilarated by both the fresh air and 
freedom we let them walk a bit ahead of us with their 
carefully chosen walking sticks because the trail is nearly 
empty on New Year's Day). We have such a blast every 
time— even the one when it poured the whole day and we 
didn't have umbrellas! 

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Family life is faster paced than ever. And unfortu- 
nately, when you combine too much to do with 
too much stuff to do it with, the result is over- 
whelming clutter. How to begin to conquer the 
beast. 5 Meryl Starr, owner of Let's Get Organized. 
a personal organization service in LaGrangeville, 
New York, suggests you start by enlisting the 
whole family, and attack one room at a time. Re- 
move everything from closets and bookshclvcs- 
anvwhere "stuff" tends to accumulate. Have all 
family members create a pile of their things, then 
discard broken, duplicate or rarely used items. 
Once you Ve winnowed down the stuff, figure out 
where it really makes sense to store each item, lo 
have ready access to day-to-day items, consider 
shelving, baskets or furniture with built in storage- 
space. An organized home 
is a more relaxing home. 
Stan believes-when it's 
easy to find things, it 
means fewer headaches. 
Organizing also benefits 
your budget, since people 
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1 Instead of using a traditional armoire. we constructed a 
kid-friendly unit using two tall, narrow bookshelves from 
Ikea laid sideways, one on top of the other. Casters on 
die bottom shelf make them easy to move for cleaning, 
and the unit's low height makes it simple for die litde 
people in your home to get ahold of their favorite D\T)s 
or video games. We accented the white shelves widi olive 
green paint. 2 Can't ever find the remote? We solved 
that headache by creating a handy holder out of a cotton 
dishtowel— simply fold the bottom third up and stitch 
pockets, and dien drape die other end over the armrest of 
a sofa or chair, and tuck it into a cushion. It's perfect for 
holding family movie-night essentials, like remotes and 
glasses. 3 It's easy to designate a craft space in the family 
room while keeping die mess factor under control. These 
unfinished Ikea boxes hold pens, beads and other small 
items that would otherwise end up under the coffee 
table. To pretty them up. we decoupaged them with 
leftover wallpaper and used blackboard paint to create 
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1 Is the entrance to your house a mass of piled up 
coats, boots and soggy umbrellas? Turn it into a 
stylish and organized spot that allows you and the 
kids to get out of the house smoothly on hectic 
mornings. This bench is built into a nook next to the 
door, but could just as easily be freestanding— it's 
the perfect spot for kicking off muddy boots and 
shoes. A small peg rack by the door holds keys for 
each member of the family. 2 On the shelf above the 
pegs for coats, bags and umbrellas, we added boxes 
for stashing smaller outdoor items, such as mittens and 
earmuffs. Labeled with each child's name, the boxes 
ensure that everyone will be able to find their cold- 
weather gear as diey run out the door on winter 
mornings. 3 We tucked a shoe rack under the bench 
to keep boots and shoes out of sight, but not out 
of reach. We hung a lengdr of denim fabric from a 
tension rod under the bench, which can be pushed 
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INDICATIONS AND USAGE ARIMIDEX is Indicated tor adiuvant treatment ol postmenopausal women with hormone receptor positive 
early breast cancer The effectiveness cl ARIMIDEX m early breast cancer is based on an analysis ol recurrence-tree survival m patients 
a median ol 31 months (see CLINICAL PHARMACOLOGY ■ Clinical Studies subsection) Further lollow-up ot study patients 
will be required to determine long-term outcomes ARIMIDEX is indicated lor the first-line treatment of postmenopausal women witn 
rer »ptor positive or hormone receptor unknown locally advanced or metastatic breast cancer ARIMIDEX is indicated lor the 
advanced breast cancer in postmenopausal women with disease progression following tamoxiten therapy Patients with ER 
negative disease and patients who did not respond lo previous tamoxifen Iherapv rarely responded to ARIMIDEX CONTRAINDICATIONS 
ARIMIOEX is conlramdicaled in any patient who has shown a hypersensitivity reaction to the drug or to any ol the excipients WARNINGS 
ARIMIDEX can cause lelal harm when administered to a pregnant woman Anastiojole has been lound to cross ihe placenta following 
oral administration ol 1 mg;kg in rats and rabbits (about I and 1 9 limes me recommended human dose respectively on a mg.'nv 
basis) Studies in both rals and rabbits at doses equal to or greater than 1 and 02 mg/kg/dav respectively (about 1 and 1/3 respec- 
tively, the recommended human dose on a mg/nV basis) administered during Ihe period ol organogenesis showed that anastioiole 
increased pregnancy loss (increased pre- and/or post-impianialion loss, increased resorplion ana decreased numbers of live tetusesi 
effects were dose related in rats Placental weights were significantly increased in rats at doses ol 1 mg/kg/day or more Evidence ol 
leioionciiy including delayed fetal development (re incomplete ossification and depressed fetal body weights) was observed in rats 
administered doses ot 1 mg/kg/day (which produced plasma anastrozole C ,.,„and AUG M , that were 19 times and 9 times higher 
lhan the respective values tound in postmenopausal volunteers at the recommended dose) There was no evidence ol teratogenics in 
rats administered doses up to 1 mg/kg/day In rabbits anastrozole caused pregnancy failure ai doses equal to or greater than t mcykg day 
(about 16 times the recommended human dose on a mg/nv basis) there was no evidence ol teratogenicity in rabbits administered 
2 mg/kg/day (about 3 limes the recommended human dose on a mg/m' basis) There are no adequate and well-controlled studies m 
pregnant women using ARIMIDEX II ARIMIDEX is used during pregnancy or it the patient becomes pregnant while receiving this drug 
the patient should be apprised ot the potential hazard to the telus ot potential risk lor loss ot Ihe pregnane) PRECAUTIONS General: 
Before starting treatment with ARIMIDEX. pregnancy must be excluded [see WARNINGS: ARIMIDEX should be administered under the 
supervision of a qualified physician experienced in the use ot anticancer agents Laboratory Tests: During the ATAC trial more patients 
receiving ARIMIDEX were reported lo have an elevated serum cholesterol compared to patients receiving tamoxifen (7% versus 3*. 
respectively: Drug Interactions (See CLINICAL PHARMACOLOGY: Anastrozole inhibited in vitro metabolic reactions catalyzed by 
cytochromes P4S0 1A2 2C8/9, and 3A4 but only at relatively high concentrations Anastrozole did not inhibit P450 2A6 or the 
polymorphic P450 2D6 in human liver microsomes Anastrozole did not alter the pharmacokinetics ol antipyrme Although there have 
been no formal interaction studies other than with antipyrme based on these m vivo and in vitro studies it is unlikely that co-administration 
ot a 1 mg dose of ARIMIDEX with other drugs will result in clinically significant drug inhibition ot cytochrome P450-mediated metabolism 
ot the other drugs An interaction study with wartann showed no clinically significant effect ot anastrozole on warfarin pharmacokinetics 
or anticoagulant activity Clinical and pharmacokinetic results trom the ATAC trial suggest that tamoxifen should not be administered 
with anastrozole (see CLINICAL PHARMACOLOGY Drug Interactions and Clinical Studies suosectionsl Co-admimstration ol anastrozole 
and tamoxifen resulted in a reduction of anastrozole plasma levels Dy 27% compared with those achieved with anastrozole alone 
Estrogen-containing therapies should not be used with ARIMIDEX as they may dimmish its pharmacologic action DrugAaboralory Test 
Interactions: No clinically significant changes in the results ot clinical laboratory tests have been observed Carcinogenesis: A conventional 
carcinogenesis study in rats at doses ol 1 to 25 mg/kg/dav (about 10 lo 243 times the daily maximum recommended human dose on 
a mg/m- basis) admimslered bv oral gavaoe tor up to 2 years revealed an increase in the incidence dt hepatocellular adenoma and carci- 
noma and uterine stromal polyps in females ana thyroid adenoma in males at the high dose A dose related increase was observed in 
the incidence ot ovarian and uterine hyperplasia in females At 25 mg/kg/day plasma AUC pJ4 r „ levels in rats were 1 10 to 125 times 
higher than the level exhibited m postmenopausal volunteer at Ihe recommended dose A separate carcinogenicity study in mice at oral 
doses ol 5 to 50 mg/kg/day (about 24 to 243 times Ihe daily maximum recommended human dose on a mg/m- basis) for up to 2 years 
produced an increase in the incidence ol benign ovarian stromal epithelial and granulosa cell tumors at all dose levels A dose related 
increase in the incidence ol ovarian hyperplasia was also observed in female mice These ovarian changes are considered to be rodent- 
specific effects ot aromatase inhibition and are of questionable significance to humans The incidence of lymphosarcoma was increased 
in males and females at the high dose At 50 mg/kg/day plasma AUC levels in mice were 35 to 40 times higher than the level exhibited 
in postmenopausal volunteers at the recommended dose Mutagenesis: ARIMIDEX has not been shown to be mutagenic in in vitro tests 
(Ames and E coli hactenal tests CHO-K1 gene mutation assay) or clastogenic either in vitro (chromosome aberrations in human lympho- 
cytes) or in vivo (micronucleus test in rats) Impairment ot Fertility: Oral administration ot anastrozole to lemale rats (from 2 weeks 
before mating to pregnancy day 7) produced significant incidence of infertility and reduced numbers ot viable pregnancies at 1 mg/kg/day 
(about 10 times the recommended human dose on a mg/m- basis and 9 times higher than the AUC y 2i , tound in postmenopausal volun- 
teers at the recommended ddse) Pre-implantahon loss ol ova or telus was increased at doses equal to or greater than 02 mg/kg day 
(about one-firth the recommended human dose on a mg/mz basis) Recovery ot fertility was observed following a 5-week non-dosmg 
period which followed 3 yveeks ol dosing II is not known whether these effects observed in lemale rats are indicative ol impaired fertility 
m humans Multiple-dose studies in rats administered anastrozole tor 6 months at doses equal to or greater than 1 mg/kg :: 
produced plasma anastrozole C< in „, and AUC, , ., that were 19 and 9 times higher than Ihe respective values tound in postmenopausal 
volunteers at the recommended'dosel resulted n hypertrophy ot the ovaries and the presence ot follicular cysts In addition hyperplastic 
uteri were observed in 6-month studies in female dogs administered doses equal to or greater than 1 mg/kg/dav (which produced plasma 
anastrozole C,,., ,, and AUC,,.;- h , that were 22 times and 16 times higher than the respective values found in postmenopausal women 
at the recommended dose) It is not known whether these effects on the reproductive organs ot animals are associated with impaired 
fertility in premenopausal women Pregnancy: Pregnancy Category D (See WARNINGS Nursing Mothers: it is not known it anastrozole 
is excreted in human milk Because many drugs are excreted in human milk caution should be exercised when ARIMIDEX is administered 
to a nursing woman (see WARNINGS and PRECAUTIONS Pediatric Use: The safety and efficacy ot ARIMIDEX in pediatric patients 
have not been established Geriatric Use: In studies 0030 and 0027 about 50% ot patients were 65 or older Patients > 65 years ol age 
had moderately belter tumor response and time to tumor progression than patterns < 65 years ol age regardless ol randomized treatment 
in studies 0004 and 0005 50% ot patients were 65 or older Response rates and time to progression were similar tor the over 65 and 
younger patients In the ATAC adiuvant study, 35% ol patients were <60 years ot age. 38% were >60 to <70 years ol age. a- i 
>70 years ol age The number ol events bv age group were insufficient to pertorm a subset efficacy analysis ADVERSE REACTIONS 
Adjuvant Therapy: The median duration ot adiuvant treatment tor safety evaluation was 37 3 months 36 9 months and 36 5 months 
lor patients receiving ARIMIDEX 1 mg. tamoxifen 20 mg and the combination ol ARIMIDEX 1 mg plus tamoxifen 20 mg respectively 
Adverse events occurring with an incidence of al least 5% in any treatment group dunng treatment or within 14 days of the end ol treatmen 
are presented in Table 7 

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durino treatment, or 


within 14 davs of the end ol treatment 
Number (%) ot patients 


ARIMIDEX 1 mg plus 


Body system and adverse event by 


ARIMIOEX 1 mg 


Tamonlen 20 mg 


Tamoxifen 20 mg 


COSTART-prelerred term - 


|N=3092) 


|N=3093) 


(N=3098) 


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Asthenia 


512(17) 


491 (16) 


468(151 


Pain 


461 15 


435 14 




Bark Pain 


256 (81 


255 (81 


258(8 


Headache 


277(9) 


216 (71 




Abdominal Pain 


227:7' 


223i7: 




Infection 


223i/ 


225(7; 




Accidental Iniury 


221 (7) 


221 (71 


226 (7) 


Flu Syndrome 


154(5) 


170(51 


170(51 


Chest Pain 


164(5) 




152(5) 


Cardiovascular 








Vasodilatation 


1082(351 


1246(401 


1261 (411 


Hypertension 


292 (9) 


252 (8l 


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Digestive 








Nausea 


307(101 


298(101 




Constipation 








Diarrhea 




1 86 1 6 1 




Dyspepsia 


166(5) 






Gastrointestinal Disorder 








Hemic and Lymphatic 








Lymphoedema 


267 (91 


299(101 




Metabolic and Nutritional 








Peripheral Edema 


255(81 


275(9) 


261 (9) 


Weight Gain 


25. 181 


250.5 


2&-S ,9 


Hypercholesteremia 




79(3) 




Musculoskeletal 








Arthritis 


- 






Arthralgia 


390|13l 


251 181 




Osteoporosis 


229 (7) 


161 I5i 




Fracture 


219.7: 






Bone Pain 


165(51 




- 


Arthrosis 


179(61 




- 


Nervous System 








Depression 








Insomnia 


266(9) 




:r - 


Dizziness 


198(61 






Anxiety 








Paraesthesia 






- 


RespiralO'v 








Pharyngitis 








Cough Increased 








Oyspnea 




'85 5 


175 5 


Skin and Appendages 








Rash 


300(101 




326 '■ 


Sweating 


121 (41 




142 5 


Urogenital 








Leukorrhea 


75(21 




277 9 


Urinary Tract Inlection 


192(6) 






Breast Pain 


205 (7) 






Vulvovaginitis 


180(61 




134(4) 



COSTART Coding Symbols lor Thesaurus ot Adverse Reaction ' 
N=N umber o! patients receiving the treatment 
"A patient may have had more than 1 adverse event including 
Non-pathologc fractures were reported more frequently in the 
patients (13? K%]1 Certain adverse events and combination? :' 
macologic properties and side effect profiles of the ' 
loskeletal events and fractures (including fractures of sr> 
-.■• MIDEX had a decrease tn hot flashes, vaginal ctet 
lin 3 deep venous thrombosis) and ischemic cerebrov* 



■ ! : 
- 

■ 

■ 



ARIMIDEX - (anastrozole) Tatrtets 








Table 8 ■ Number 


ISI ol natients witn Pre-soeeified Acwse Ever 


in ATAC Tnal 






u « :e> 


'■-.i ■-.' 






N=3092(S) 


N=3093(M 


:::■ M : 


95% a 


All Fractures 


224 








Fractures ot Spine H 






" 4; 




Musculoskeletal Disor 






• ;i 


55 


Ischemic Cardiovasc. 


- 








Asthenia 


513 17 








Nausea and vomiting 


348 It 




102 




Mood Disturbances 






. 


93-116 


Cataracts 




- 


091 




Hot Flashes 










Venous Thro- 






0.60 


044-0.81 


Deep Ver 


- 


- 


066 


43 - 1 03 


Ischemic Ce-:' 


40 ' 




053 


035-080 


Vaginal B -- 


- 








-charge 


- 




023 


C1S-0.28 


Endometrial Cancer 


3(0.1 


15 15 


::: 


J.04-0.7C 


' Refers to |Oint Symptom; 


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- 

- 

■-. ■ ■- - - 

-ease m pott" iu 

First Line Therapy ■ "rals 0030 and C C : " 

- 
menta-eY 

Table 9 
Number (%) of Subjects >.,-:■ - s.-.e-- 

Body System ARIMIDEX Tamoirten Body System ARIMIDEX *im:i 

Adveise EverrP |rfc506l (n=511| AttWfse Ewnt" ln=M6i a=S 






Whole body 

Asthenia 



; 



Metabolic and MutntiDnai 



51 1C 





- 


. 


Musculoskeletal 










68 13 




- 




Headache 


- 


- 


Nervous 






Abdominal Pain 






Dizziness 






Chest Pain 










■ 














Pelvic Pam 






Hypertonia 




26 


Cardiovascular 






Respiratory 










106(21) 
















51 10 


47 


Digestive 












Nausea 






Skin and Appendages 






Constipation 


- 






38(8) 


- 




- 




Urogenital 






Vomiting 


38 I 


36 ■ 


■ — rtea 


9(2) 




Anorei a 




-: 









» A patient may have had mo 1 ? fta 

Less frequent adverse experiences reporter rt patients receiving ARIMIDEX! mgtnerl ere similar to 

reported for second-line therapy Based o^ results from secorxHirte tnerapy and the estabfESV : noxrfen tne incio 

of 9 prespeofied adverse even; categories - \ one or both of the therapies because of their pharmacolo 

were statistics - ; -vers seen between treatment groups 

faMe IB 

Number (n) and Number (n) and 

Percentage ot Patients Percentage of Patients 

ARIMIDEX NOLVADEX ARIMIDEX NOLVADE) 

1 mg 20 mg 1 mg 20 mg 

tn=5Q6, (n=511, w (n=506) (n=S11) 



>:.-- : -r i.e-l fjrcuFH 



Adverse t'.e r " j': , _;: ; 



' 





23 : 


32(6] 


hoi r-iushes 


134 (26 


• :- 


Tumor Flare 




18 - 


Vaginal Dryness 


912) 


311) 


Thromboembolic Disease* 








6(11 


15(3) 




5 


15 


- eedmg 




11(21 
8(2) 


Mid Cerebral-- 


13 


19 


Weiaht Gain 


11(2) 


Gastrointestinal disturbance 


•:: 34 


196 i38i 









* A patient may have had nore rhar 1 adverse event 

c Includes pulmonary embolus mrombophlet jmbosis 

- includes myocardial infarction myocardia 1 ischemia angina pectoris cerebrovascular accident, cerebral ischemia and cerebral mfart 

Despite the lack of estrogenic activity for ARIMIDEX there was no increase in myocardial infarction or fracture when compared with 

Second Line Therapy. Ah v DEX was )E ed m two welt-controlled clinical trials (i e Trials 0004 and 0005) with 

less than 3; ol the megestroi acetate-treated patients withdrawing due to an adverse 

event The principal adverse event more common with ARIMIDEX than megestroi acetate was diarrhea Adverse events reported m 
greater tnan 5% ot the patients m any of the treatment groups m these two well-controlled clinical trials, regardless of causality are 
presented below 

Table 11 
Number (n) and Percentage of Patients wrth Adverse Event* 

Megestroi Megestroi 

ARIMIDEX ARIMIOEX Acetate ARIMIDEX ARIMIDEX Acetate 
1 mg 10 mg 160 mg 1 mg 10 mg 160 mg 

|n = 262) |n = 246) (n = 253) In = 262) <n = 246| (n = 253j| 



5 :■ .. . 



Adverse Event 



, 



Astheoa 




33 13 


47 19 


--3', "'- ,; 


16(6 


23(9) 


; 


Nausea 






:; n 


Dizziness 


16(6) 


12(51 


- 






-■ 


- 


Rash 


15(6) 


15(61 


19|8i 1 










Dry Mouth 


15(6) 


11(4) 




Pain 




38 15 




Penpheral Edema 




21(9) 


28(11) 


Back Pain 








Pelvic Pain 


14(5) 


17(7) 


13(5) 




- 






Depression 


14(51 


6(21 


5(2) 








16 6 


Chest Pain 


13(5) 


18(7| 


13(5) 










Paresthesia 




15(61 


9(4) 




. 




7(3] 


Vaginal Hemorrhage 


6(2) 


4(2) 


13(5) 










Weight Gain 


4(2 


9(4) 


30(12) 


Abdominal Pain 


18 7 


14 i6i 


18 " 


Sweating 


4(2) 


3(11 


16(6) 




IB " 


19(8] 


•- « 


Increased Appetite 


0(0) 


1(0) 


13(51 


Bone Pain 


17 [6 


26(12) 


19(8) 











T A patient rt - 

adverse enpenences reported in pahents receiving ARIMIDEX 1 mg in either Trial 0004 or Trial 0005 a 

- body system and are in order ot decreasing frequency within each body syste 

ega-dless ol assessec causality Body as a Whole: Ru syndrome fever neck pain malaise accidental iniury infection Cardiovascuia 

■ Hepatic Gamma GT increased SGOT increased SGPT increased Hematologic: Anemia leukopeni 

Metabolic and Nutritional. Alkaline phosphatase increased weight loss Mean serum total cholesterol levels increased by 5 mmot 

rases in LDL cholesterol have been shown to contribute to these changes Musculoskelela 

fracture Nervous: Somnolence: confusion insomnia anwetv nervousness Respiratory: Smusit: 

Skin and Appendages Hair tninning, pruritus Urogenital: Urinary tract infection breast pain The incidences ot ft 

.-■■■■■'. :a usaity related to one or both ot the therapies because of their pharmacology were statistical 

embolic disease gastrointestinal disturfaance hot flushes and vaginal dryness These s 

'ne groups were prospectively defined The results are shown in the table below 

Table 12 

Number (n) and Percentage ol Patients 

ARIMIOEX ARIMIOEX Megestroi Acetate 

1 mg 10 mg 160 mg 
[n = 262) (n = 246) (n = 253) 



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idobc ^:sease 
ness 
Weight Gam 



9(3) 

5 : 

4(2) 



S' 1 53 
29(12) 

4(2) 

3(1) 
10(4) 



__ 



■WW 

35(14) 
35(14) 
12(5) 
2(1) 
- ; -' J12) 



'"■:.-'•:: .■ " -legesttoi acetate reported weight gain as an adverse event compared to patients treated with AHIMiutx 1 m 
e r e not statistically significant An examination of the magnitude ot change in weight in all patients wa 
rani (872531 of the patients treated with megesirol acetate experienced weight gam ol 5% or more an 
■?ated with megestroi acetate expenenced weight gam of 10% or more Among patients treated wit 
. experienced weight gam ol 5\ or more and 3% (6,262) expenenced weight gain ot 10% or more 
jam represented between 6 and 12 pounds No patients receiving ARIMIDEX or megestroi acetate discor 
- ;- eC i w eigm gam Vaginal bleeding has been reported infrequently, mainly in patients during the first tei 
stincj hormonal therapy to treatment with ARIMIDEX II bleeding persists further evaluation should b 
--is and postmarketing expenence ioint pain/shftness has been reported in association with the use r. 
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Jessica Lynch puts aside her crutches, 
then sits on the edge of her bed. 
Slowly, she hoists one stiff leg, then 
the other, onto the red-and-white 
bedspread, and tries to arrange her- 
self comfortably against the pillows. 
Her left leg hurts all the time now. a 
painful tingling that never goes away. 
"It's like if your foot or hand falls 
asleep, and you can shake it off. But 
this never wakes up." she says. "It's 
just a constant tingling. 24-7." 

She tugs the left leg of her denim 
bell-bottoms up over her knee, re- 
vealing a line of scars along her pale, 
white leg. Frowning, she starts rub- 
bing that leg vigorously. If she rubs 
long enough, it helps ease the pain. 
At night, when the tingling stows 
worse, she'll sit up in the dark and 
massage her leg with a vengeance, 
trying to make the pain go away— and 
longing to forget why it's there. 

By now. most people know her 
story: how Jessica dreamed ol being 
a kindergarten teacher, joined the 
U.S. Army to help pay for her c 
tion. and trained as a supply clerk: 
how she was part of a U.S. convoy in 
Iraq diat made a fateful wrong turn 



Jessica Lynch s ordeal as a 

prisoner of war in Iraq 

riveted the American 

public. But her hero's 

homecoming hasn't been 

easv, and now she's 

fighting to get back to 

a "normal" life 
BY MARTHA BARM I 11 



into a deadly ambush in the heavily 
armed town of Nasiriyah. 

When U.S. special forces whisked 
her from an Iraqi hospital more dian 
a week later. Pfc. Jessica Lynch be- 
came an overnight legend. Hailed as 
an American hero, along with 
Shoshana Johnson, the other female 
soldier who was taken captive and 
rescued, she was welcomed home 
with a patriotic parade. 

Far from savoring her celebrity. 
Lynch is aching for it all to be over. 
More than anything, she craves an 
ordinary life: "just the normal things 
you do every day— school and work 
and having a family." she says. 

But more dian fame stands in the 



way of those dreams, for she came 
home from the war held together 
with sclcws. rods and metal plates. 
When she was first brought to an 
Iraqi hospital— some three hours after 
she was pulled from her bullet-riddled 
Humvee— Lynch had been severely 
battered and brutalized. A four-inch 
gash ran along her hairline. Her left 
leg was shattered, and her right foot 
was crushed. Her right arm was bro- 
ken, leaving her right hand all but 
useless. Her spine was fractured in 
two places, causing nerve damage 
that left her without control of her 
bowels or bladder. 

Bv sharing such details in her au- 
thorized biography. / Am a Soldier, 
Too: The Jessica Lynch Story, by Rick 
Bragg (Knopf), released in Novem- 
ber—and granting a few select print 
and television interviews— Lynch 
hopes once and for all to answer all 
the public's questions, then simply 
get on with her life. 

In October, the Lynch family wel- 
comed Ladies ' Home Journal into dieir 
home. nicked away in a rugged hollow- 
in the West Virginia mountains. Her 
father. Greg, is a truck driver, and 
mom Dee works from home providing 
customer service for a photography 
business. Three months had passed 
since Lynch completed a grueling ini- 
tial rehabilitation at Walter Reed Army 
Medical Center, in Washington. D.C.. 



48 



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I 

1 want to show people that I'm not g 
to be in a wheelchair the rest of my 

and two months since she retired from pounds, with perfect little porcelain 

the Army for medical reasons. doll features. She often seems far 

She's gracious, if guarded, here in youngei than h ars. Her voice 

her cheery bedroom adorned with is high and sweet. 

teddy bears and Beairie Babies. She's lil is baby fine. 

petite: just 5 feet 3 inches and LOO It's was chosen 



■'./ / JUSt 



Miss Congeniality 2000 at the Wirt 
County Fair in her hometown. "I 
love to laueh." Lvnch savs. with a 
broad smile. And she lausfhs a lot. as 
long as the conversation is limited to 
ordinary, everyday tilings. 

When I mention her boyfriend. 
Ruben Contreras, an Army sergeant 
she met while at Fort Bliss. Texas, 
she shrusrs her shoulders, then dis- 
solves into giggles. Ask what she 
likes about him. and she'll roll her 
eves and srifffifle even more, until at 
last she falls over on her side laugh- 
ing. unable to say another word. 

Finally, she shows off the ring he 
gave her. then dreamily puts her hand 
to her heart, and giggles all over 
again. Later though, she'll tell me how 
Contreras. who was at her side dur- 
ing pan of her stav at Walter Reed 
Medical Center, has motivated her to 
heal. '"He would push me. He made 
me want to get up and walk." 

For a moment, it's 
possible to forget about 
the torture she en- 
dured. But only for a 
moment. On her dress- 
er sits a brass-colored 
MIA bracelet, with Lynch's own 
name on it-one of many worn by 
people praying for her safe return. On 
her bedside table, there's a framed 
photo of Lynch's best friend. Spc. Fori 
Piestewa. 23. Piestewa. a continued 



;oni£ 
life" 



49 






IN THE NEWS 



Hopi Indian and mother of two 
young children, was eligible for a de- 
ferment due to a shoulder injury, but 
chose to go to Iraq so Lynch wouldn't 
have to go it alone, according to the 
biography. During or shordy after the 
ambush. Piestewa was killed. 

It's hard to ask many of the ques- 
tions I'd brought with me-about the 
war. the controversies, the politics, 
the feelings-harder still because 
Lynch's face changes completely at 
such questions, as if some kind of 
wall comes down. Sometimes she 
seems to look right through me. or 
just gazes straight ahead, as if she's 
seeing it all over again. I've read be- 
fore about the so-called "hundred- 
yard stare"— the eerie, blank gaze of 
traumatized combat veterans. I can't 
help thinking of that now. 

When we switch back to small talk, 
the wall disappears. Lynch actually 
looks forward to her grueling physical 
therapy sessions, and insists she en- 
joyed the rigors of boot camp. "I like 
a challenge," she says with the same 
kind of scrappiness that must have 
helped her survive her ordeal. "'I was 
not going to stay in that bed forever!" 

Now she spends about two hours 
a day, five days a week, at a rehab 
center 30 minutes away, strengthen- 
ing; her muscles and trviner to learn to 
walk on her own. Her record without 
crutches: 38 steps across a room. 

"I want to show people out there 
that I can do it-that I will do it— that 
I'm not going to be in a wheelchair 
the rest of my life." There's a fierce- 
ness in her voice as she glares at the 
wheelchaii at the foot of her bed. 
now stacked full of neatly folded 
laundry. She uses it only occasionally 
now. for out-ol trips. 

Still, she admit 'ring crutches is 
exhausting. Doctors are unsure if 
she'll resrain leelinc, in her foot, which 



could prevent walking on her own. 
Throughout our visit, she's rubbed 
that leg almost nonstop. 

Her other wounds are healing, 
she says, pulling up her sleeve to re- 
veal a crooked scar on her right 
arm. The paralysis she initially suf- 
fered in that hand is gone, and she's 
taking medication to help heal the 
nerve damage. 

"After physical therapy and stuff. 
my whole body aches, but that's only 
because I've had a good workout." 
she says. Usually ibuprofen is 
enough to cut the extra pain. 

"A good day is when I acuially feel 
good, and therapy goes well. A bad 
day is when I get so frustrated I just 
want to explode." she says. "I stress 
out easily now." To deal with diat frus- 
tration, "usually I just try to sleep." 

It's not the first time sleep has been 
an escape. Sleep helped keep her sane 
while held captive. She compares 
those brief periods when she drifted 
off, to commercial breaks that come 
in the middle of a honor movie. An- 
odier thing that got her dirough: She 
would imagine that Piestewa was sit- 
ting with her, calming her. 

This past August. Lynch's younger 
sister Brandi planned to start Army 
basic training herself, but dropped 
out after Lynch's ordeal. Lynch savs 
she was hugely relieved, "just be- 
cause of everything diat happened to 
me." Her eyes mist over, her voice 
faltering. "I wouldn't know how to 
deal with it if she was deployed." 

Again, she is staring. I ask about 
the future. 

Right now. her recovery is a full- 
time job. but she's eager to go back 
to school, and still wants to teach 
kindergarten. She enjoys evenings 
"just hanging out" at friends' houses, 
talking on die phone, watching TY- 
just about anything but die news. She 



closes her eves, shakes her head. She I 
can't bear to watch the news. She I 
can't even bring herself to read all of I 
her own biography. "There are parts I 
I named to skip over." She closes her I 
eyes and shakes her head. 

We finish our chat, and she excuses j. 
herself to change clodies for physical 1 
therapy. A few minutes later she hob- S 
bles out. wearing a black-and-white I 
Wirt County Tigers jersey, and white 
sweatpants with a tiny bit of pastel- 
colored embroidery on one side. Her 
sister Brandi will drive her to her 
physical therapy session: her parents 
are off to run an errand at die hard- 
ware store. Maybe they could all I 
meet for dinner afterward, someone 
suggests, get some Chicken Mc- 
NuErsrets or somethinsr. 

Suddenly. Lynch wails: "How 
come v ou always want to sro to din- 
ner when I'm dressed like this?" She 
looks down at her clothes. "Thev 
don't even match!" 

Her family laughs: they've heard 
this voice before. Those who know 
Lynch well say she's a little "prissy." 

"Match? You want a "match"? 
We'll "ive vou a match to carrv!" her 
fadier teases, pleased with his pun. 

Lynch is pouting. The kitchen 
lings with laughter as if there's still a 
giddy relief in their voices— pure joy 
that Lynch is there to whine and 
complain and be prissy, that they 
have her diere to tease at all. 

And in that moment, it's clear that 
if Lynch can feel safe anywhere, it 
will be here, in the embrace of her 
family and this tiny community. 
Here, along these winding country 
roads, where wooden fences and sign- 
posts still bloom with yellow ribbons, 
some long since faded to white. Here, 
in this sturdy hollow that reaches al- 
most all the way around the house, 
like strong, protective arms. Q 



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What happens when drivers arc 

repeatedly arrested for 

speeding or reckless driving 

even when they maim or kill! 5 Here, why 

the system doesn't protect ns, and what needs 

to be done to keep our roads safe 

By Lawrence Goodman 



Terry Clifford stood in the kitchen of 
her suburban Rhode Island home, 
phone pressed to her ear, expecting to 
hear that her fiance was dead. When 
she had gotten home five minutes be- 
fore, her answering machine had five 
messages on it. all from the police in 
nearby Scituate. "Call immediately," 
an officer said. Her fiance. Tim 
Porter, 50, had been in an accident. 

It was March 23. 2003 and in five 
months, Clifford, 46. and Porter were 
to marry. Phone in hand. Clifford 
had a dark vision of herself at Porter's 
funeral instead of their wedding. 

Finally, a police sergeant picked 
up. Porter and his friend were hit by 
a car while out running. Tire vehicle 
swerved from the other side of the 
road, across the yellow line and into 
the shoulder, striking Porter from be- 
hind. Clifford asked if Porter was go- 
ing to live. "Yes." the sergeant said. 
"it looks like it." She hung up and 
rushed to the hospital. 

Several hours later. Porter was 
wheeled out of sur^erv. He had a 



fractured pelvis, back and neck, plus 
a punctured lung, three broken ribs, 
foot fractures and a leg so badly bro- 
ken that it almost needed to be am- 
putated. Porter was too weak to 
speak, but he did manage to mouth 
the words. "Where's Howie?" 
Howard Mackey, 56. was Porter's 
friend of more than 10 years; they 
jogged together at least once a week. 
Mackey had died instantly at the 
scene of the crash. 

A few days later. Clifford learned 
more about the driver who was ar- 
rested for causing the accident. 
Jonathon L. Raymond. 37. was at the 
wheel illegally. His license had been 
suspended. Indeed, his license had 
been continuously suspended for 
nearly 15 years. But Raymond kept 
ciriving anyway. 

Raymond was well known to 
Rhode Island's police officers, judges 
and prosecutors. Between 1991 and 
2002. he had been arrested seven 
times in Rhode Island for driving 
with a suspended license. He had 




been slapped with five tickets for 
breaking various traffic laws, such as 
speeding and not using his turn sig- 
nal correcdy. And he rarely showed 
up for court hearings or paid the 
thousands of dollars in fines he 
owed. The toughest punishment he 
ever got was three months in jail. 
"How could it be that this guy was 
still on the road?" Clifford asked. 
"How could diis have happened?" 



5Z 



JANUARY 2004 




The 



answer 



to the 



question 



turns out to be a complicated and 
frightening one for anyone who puts 
a car key in the ignition and drives 
anywhere, anytime, on Americas 
roads. Nearly 43.000 Americans 
died in car accidents in 2002-an av- 
erage of 117 people a day. Up to 90 
percent of those fatalities were 
caused by driver error or a traffic vi 
olation. such as swerving out of a 



lane or running off the road 32 per- 
cent', speeding (20 percent), failing 
to yield (8 percent, disobeying 
fie signs 5 percent), or generally 
driving erratically or recklessly 6 
percent, according to National 
Highway Traffic Safety Administra 
tion NHTSA statistics. "I just don't 
think we're doing a very good job of 
keeping the I John 

Kaye. the chief prosecutoi in eastern 



PART THREE IN OUR SERIES 
ON DRIVING SAFETY 



New Jersey's Monmouth County. 

who also served oi I NHTSA 

panel that studied the nation's ag 
gressive driving problem. "Too 
many crazy people are out there op- 
erating cars." 

For the last several decades, law 
enforcement officials have cracked 
down on drunk drivers, but now. 
mam- experts feel, there needs to be 
more emphasis on going after anoth- 
er group of drivers— those who con- 
stantly flout traffic laws, rack up 
huge numbers of tickets and treat the 
roadways as if they were their own 
personal race courses. "Drugs and al- 
cohol are a big part of the reason 
why our roads are dangerous." saws 
Oregon Driver and Motor Vehicle 
Services spokesman David House. 
"The other part is the people who 
constantly disobey traffic laws." 

And the offenders are not all social 
dropouts or quasi-criminals. as stereo- 
types might lead you to believe. In 
August 2003. Congressman Bill Jan- 
klow of South Dakota allegedly flew 
through a stop sign at 71 mph (16 
miles over the speed limit) killing a 
man on a motorcycle. Janklow. a for- 
mer governor of the state, had been 
involved in several previous accidents 
only one of which resulted in injury) 
and had been cited a dozen time 
speeding. He was charged with sec- 
ond-degree manslaughter in the mo- 
torcyclist's death. As of press time, his 
trial was set for December: he has 
pleaded not guilty. 

iroblem. contend experts, is 
that many reckless drivers remain 
on the road legally, year after year, 
violation after violation. And even 
those whose licer continued 



55 



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have beer, taken away— as mjonathon 
:ase— continue to drive 
\: anv given moment, an es- 
ed 5 percent of Americans who 
;ed to drive about 10 million 
people have had their license? s is 
pended or revoked. But about 75 per- 
cent of those illegal drivers are still 
on the road, according to separate 
studies by the l ia Department 

of Motor Vehicles and the University 
of New Mexico in Albuquerque. And 
a study done in 2003 by the AAA 
Foundation for Traffic Safety found 
that drivers with suspended or revoked 
licenses are involved in as many as 6 
percent of all fatal accidents. 

Compounding the problem is the 
fact that repeat of- 
fenders frequently 
are not charged with 
a crime at all. or 
don't get convicted 
of one. Too often, 
even those who've 
killed get just a legal 
slap on the wrist and can walk right 
out ot the courthouse and get back 
behind the wheel. "We reallv need to 
be worried about how the system is 
dealing with these drivers." says Jim 
Wright, a highway safely specialist at 
NHTSA. "The^e drivers are uncon- 
cerned with traffic laws. Thev have 
no concern for the safety of dieir fel- 
low citizens. And the system has a 
difficult time controlling them." 



pended license after he failed to pay 
a fine for a previous traffic violarion. 
He was pulled over by a Rhode Is- 
land police officer. State DM\ 
records do not explain why but the 
record would suggest it was because 
Ravmond was driving: erraticallv. 
The officer asked Ravmond to take 
a Breathalyzer test, and Raymond 
refused as was his prerogative under 
state law. Refusing to take a Breatha- 
lvzer in Rhode Island results in au- 
tomatic suspension of a driver's 
license. But because Raymond was 
already driving on a suspended li- 
cense, all the officer could do was 
give him yet another fine in Rhode 
Island at the time, the maximum 



'Tines are paid. Deals 

are struck. It's on to the 

next case," savs Kave 



Jonathon Raymond was 

a menace on the road even before he 
qualified to have a license. When he 
was 15 and still a year from being 
able to drive legally in Rhode Is- 
land, he was arrested for driving 
recklessly. He was sentenced and 
served 30 days in jail. 

Eight vears later, in August 1988. 
Ravmond was driving with a Mis- 



fine for driving with a suspended li- 
cense was S250 for a first offense 
and a summons to appear - in court 
to have his license reinstated. 

Ra\-mond never showed up for his 
court appearance, and he continued 
to drive. By June 1992. he was 26 
years old and had been arrested three 
times for driving with a suspended li- 
cense. He had also been arrested for 
us non-driving offenses, such as 
shoplifting and petty theft, for which 
he received a summons to appeal' in 
a district court. This time. Ravmond 
showed up. The judge sentenced him 
to three months in prison. 

Even after doing his time behind 
bars. Ravmond continued to drive 
with a suspended license and. accord- 
ing to DMV records, rack up even 
more traffic violations. Yet. he was re- 
peatedly a no-show at his many court 



hearings. Still, all the courts did in 
response was continue to suspend 
Raymond's license. Each of the sus- 
pensions just tacked on three or six 
months more to the length of his oth- 
er suspensions. He had accrued more 
than 50 citations on his driving 
record over the last 15 years. StilL he 
continued to drive. 

Then, in September 2002. Rav- 
mond got into a minor crash in War- 
wick. Rhode Island. He was charged 
with leaving the scene of an accident- 
using the breakdown lane to make 
a turn. and. once again, driving 
with a suspended license. He was 
pulled over not far from the scene of 
the accident, arrested and given a 
summons to appear 
in court. 

The county judge 
who heard Ray- 
mond's case. Robert 
Rahill. could have 
sent Raymond to jail 
for a year. Inste a .. 
Rahill suspended that sentence, 
which meant Ra\mond didn't have 
to serve a single dav behind bars, but 
he was put on a year's probation. His 
driver's license still was not valid: in 
order to have it reinstated, he had to 
pay the thousands of dollars in fines 
that he owed, attend a drr exs 
training course, and prove he had car 
insurance. Raymond failed to dc 
of these things. So after he left the 
courthouse, he continued to drive 
with a suspended license. 

If Rahill had. in fact, sent Rav- 
mond to jail for a year, he wouldn't 
have been on the road the dav he 
maimed Tim Porter and killed 
Howard Mackey. 
Judge Rahill. contacted b) I 

Home Journal, says c can't i 1 why 

he issued the sentence he did. but he 
stands bv it regardless. "I make the 




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HOW TO KEEP RECKLESS DRIVERS 
OFF THE ROAD 

o prevent crashes such as the one that injured Tim 
Porter and killed Howard Mackey, states must adopt 
new policies and procedures. Here are what leading 
traffic-safety experts say need to be done: 
•Revoke offenders' license plates. In Michigan, a police officer 
who catches someone driving with a suspended license can strip 
the car of its license plates on the spot. The car then gets 
temporary paper plates the driver must display where the original 
plates once were. In order to get his plates back, the driver must 
go to court to resolve the charges. If he doesn't, and still drives, 
he'll be in a car with "plates" that will easily stand out to any 
traffic cop. Still, a 2002 University of Michigan Transportation 
Research Institute study found that 30 to 70 percent of people 
whose plates were revoked continued to drive. But the same 
study also found that the law, enacted in 1999, reduced the rate of 
crashes among drivers with suspended licenses by 30 percent. 
This has potentially saved many lives. 

•Impound cars. Thanks to a 1995 law, California's police officers 
can tow away the car of anyone who drives with a suspended 
license. It is also now an offense— punishable by up to six 
months in jail and/or a maximum fine of $1,000— to knowingly 
let someone with a suspended license drive your car. A 1997 
study by the state's DMV found that the law is working: Crashes 
involving drivers with suspended licenses have since dropped by 
as much as 35 percent. 

•Allow no more second chances. Over the last decade, some 
24 states have enacted "habitual offender" laws. These laws 
typically require that drivers who are constantly racking up 
points on their driving records face stiff penalties. In Florida, for 
example, a driver is declared a habitual offender if he 
accumulates 15 traffic convictions within five years. Habitual 
offenders are automatically barred from driving for the next five 
years. They are not allowed to clear their records by participating 
in diversion programs. The license suspension is final. 
•Make state records high-tech. Iowa has taken the lead in 
streamlining its traffic records with a software program. Police 
cars are equipped with laptop computers. An officer can scan a 
bar code on a driver's license and the driver's personal 
information will immediately be entered into the computer, 
saving time and increasing accuracy. Then, the officer can 
electronically send the violation (such as a speeding ticket) or 
accident report to the Department of Public Safety. The driver's 
updated record is then available to the state's traffic courts. 
Twenty-three other states have signed up to use the system 
Iowa developed. —LG. 



on based on the informal 
in front of me." he sa\ s. 
don I made." 
ttcr to Portci three weeks af- 
ter the crash. Raymond expressed his 
moment goes 
by . . . where I don't feel pain and an 
guish from this horrible traged) ... I 
want you to know that I'm not a bad 
person. I care about people as well as 
their feelings ... I hope someday you 



can forgive me. 



We were unable to reach Ray 
mond s lawyer for comment by press 
time, but Raymond's grandmother. 
Marjorie Raymond, says Mackey's 
death and Porter's injuries were the 
result of an accident. "Tonathon fell 
asleep at the wheel." she says. She 
says she also received a letter recently 
from her grandson. "Grandma." Ray- 
mond wrote. "I killed a man." 



"B 



etore you 



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pay 

traffic ticket, speak to an attorney for 
FREE." reads Florida attorney Barry 
Kaufman's Web site. For legal fees as 
little as $39. Kaufman promises he 
can beat any non-moving traffic vio- 
lation: for S50 more, he'll beat a 
speeding ticket or other moving vio- 
lation. Web sites such as Kaufman's 
are commonplace on the Internet. 
On his site. Kaufman promises that 
in most cases, there will be no court 
appearances, no traffic school, and 
most importantly, no points. 

Points are. of course, what you get 
on your drivine record when you're 
convicted of a traffic offense. Nearly 
every state has a point system de- 
signed to ensure that the worst driv- 
on the road are properly 
punished. Rack up enough points in 
ar— typically it's about a dozen, 
the equivalent of three or four mov- 
ing violations— and your license is au- 
tomatically suspended, continued 



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usually for three to six months. In 
theory, the point system is the best 
defense we have against drivers who 
have no respect foi the law. But Kauf- 
man's Web site message— "We guar- 
antee your money back in writing if 
you receive points on your license"— 
shines a light on how many loop- 
holes there are in the system. 

Kaufman and the six attorneys 
who work for him ply their trade in 
traffic courts throughout southern 
Florida. There are traffic courts just 
like them in almost every town and 
city in the country, and almost all are 
underfunded. Except in the largest of 
cities, the judges and prosecutors who 
work there are part-timers. They each 
handle dozens of cases every day. 
They are. almost without exception, 
underpaid and overwhelmed. 

When Kaye. the New Jersey prose- 
cutor, sat on the NHTSA symposium 
that studied how the legal system 
handled the cases of aggressive driv- 
ers, he says they found that traffic- 
court judges and prosecutors were far 
more concerned with burning 
through the paperwork on the day's 
docket of cases than serving justice. 
"No one really pays much attention 
to these traffic cases." says Kaye. 
"Fines are paid. Plea deals are struck. 
It's on to the next case." 

It's precisely this eagerness to 
strike plea deals that Kaufman counts 
on. He says when he gets a client 
with a ticket for speeding or running 
a red light, he'll work out a deal with 
the court so the driver gets off with 
an average fine of $80 and no points 
on his license. There won't have to 
be a trial. The case is removed from 
the docket. "Since the courts are so 
bogged down with cases." Kaufman 
says, "most judges are more than 
willing: to stive a motorist a break." So 
bodi parties leave happy: The diner 



WHEN DOZING OFF IS DEADLY 

atigue, lack of sleep or blackouts play a role in roughly 3 
percent of all fatal traffic accidents. To prevent such crashes, 
at least one state is cracking down on drivers who doze. 
Seventeen percent of drivers, or 32 million Americans, 
admitted to falling asleep behind the wheel at least once in the 
previous year, found a recent poll by the National Sleep 
Foundation. Under the New Jersey law, motorists who haven't 
gotten any shut-eye in the last 24 hours and then cause a fatal 
accident can be charged with a felony. If they're found guilty, 
they face at least three years in prison. 

Although no other state so far has followed New Jersey's 
lead, there's a bill being considered in Congress that would 
allocate $5 million for further efforts to educate drivers about 
the risks of missing sleep. —L.G. 



returns to the road and the court 
saves time and money. 

There are lawyers doing what 
Kaufman does all across the country 
because most states' point systems 
are already shot through with loop- 
holes. In Georgia, for example, state 
law requires that a driver who earns 
15 points on his record within two 
years have his license suspended for 
a year. But all a driver needs to do if 
he gets this many points is to attend 
a six-hour driver education class. 
Once he completes the course, all his 
points are erased. "The system is in- 
tended to educate these people." says 
Wayne Yancey, director of legal serv- 
ices for the Georgia Department of 
Public Safety. "It's less concerned 
with punishment." 

Leila Osina. executive director of 
the National Committee on Uniform 
Traffic Laws and Ordinances, a non- 
profit group which studies the na- 
tion's traffic laws, says half the 
nation's states have procedures simi- 
lar" to Georgia's. In fact, many states 
have so-called "diversion programs" 
where bad drivers can get second, 
and even third, chances at clearing 



their record simply by paying a fine 
and/or attending a class. "But at 
some point you have to say enough is 
enough." says Osina. "These drivers 
have got to start facing the music." 

Even if diversion programs were 
eliminated, that alone won't solve 
the problem of how to ground bad 
drivers. Fingering the repeat traffic 
offenders in the first place is what's 
so difficult. DMY records are noto- 
riously riddled with holes and full 
of inaccuracies, says NHTSA' s 
Wright. "A car dealership probably 
knows more about its customers 
than a lot of DMY officials know- 
about the drivers in their state." he 
says. "There are huge gaps in our 
information system." 

There are many reasons for this. 
First, and most mind-boggling, is that 
most of the nation's traffic courts are 
not computerized. Instead, records are 
kept by hand. Reams of paperwork 
need to be filled out for every traffic 
\iolation. If the courts were die only 
ones who needed access to dtis infor- 
mation, it wouldn't be so daunting. 
But in each state, die DMY office re- 
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an assistant 



them when a driver is convicted of a 
traffic offense. As with all operations 
dealing with mountains of paperwork, 
there are often missing and lost docu- 
ments. As a result, the lag-time in re- 
porting violations to the DMV can be 
as long as a year. 

Prosecutors, in turn, depend on 
their state's DMV to inform them 
about a driver's record. They use diis 
information to assess the severity of 
a sentence for a defendant. The rule 
of thumb is. the longer the record, the 
harsher die penalty. But with so much 
missing information, prosecutors 
often work in the dark. "We don"t 
even know what we don't know," 
says Matthew Tice, 
district attorney in 
Portland. Maine. 

The federal govern- 
ment, via NliTSA. is 
supposed to be help- 
ing with this record- 
keeping morass by 
maintaining a central- 
ized database called the National Dri- 
ver Register. The register contains 
information from all the country's 
DMV offices about drivers who've 
been convicted of serious traffic of- 
fenses and who've had their licenses 
denied, suspended or revoked. Be- 
cause people move all the time, it's 
critical, prosecutors say. that the}" be 
able to find out about a driver's 
record not only in their own state, but 
in other states as well. 

But right now. prosecutors don't 
have access to the register. In fact. 
many don't even know diat it exists. 
That's not NHTSA's fault, says Glenn 
Karr, the official who managed the 
register. He says NHTSA routinely 
shares information in die register with 
the state DMVs. and they are then 
free to share it with prosecutors. 

Meanwhile, the American Associa- 



tion of Motor Vehicle Administra- 
tors AAMVA). the trade group that 
represents each state's DMV in 
Washington. D.C.. contends their 
members have been told by NHTSA 
not to give prosecutors access to the 
driver register because it's against 
federal law, says Jay Maxwell, the 
AAMVA's chief information officer. 

Ladies ' Home Journal suggested to 
NHTSA's Karr that the federal gov- 
ernment educate prosecutors direcdy 
about the existence of the register 
and how they can gain access to it 
through the DMVs. "You're probably 
right," Karr says. "The education 
thing is probably a good thing to do." 

Yet despite consistent pressure 



These drivers have to 

start facing the music/' 

says Georgia's Osina 



from prosecutors and law enforce- 
ment officials to increase awareness 
of the register and make it more ac- 
cessible to them, no plans for reform 
have been put into action. 

In a perfect world, drivers 

who have long records of reckless- 
ness and causing fatal accidents 
would face vehicular manslaughter 
charges, a felony offense, and would 
spend as many as 20 years in prison. 
But instead, experts say. these drivers 
typically get off widi sweetheart plea 
deals in which all they have to do is 
pay a fine on a traffic ticket. Leslie 
Abernathy. the solicitor-general in 
northern Georgia's Forsyth County, 
coordinates the prosecution of traffic 
offenses in her state. She says unless 
blood tests show the driver was 
drunk or high, most prosecutors will 



decide the crash was "just an acci- 
dent" and wont charge him with anv 
crime. "Their attitude." savs Aber- 
nathy. "is that these things happen." 

According to experts, even drivers 
who are charged with vehicular homi- 
cide are rarely convicted. There are 
three key reasons why: 

• Inexperienced prosecutors Ve- 
hicular homicide for "vehicular 
manslaughter." as some states call it) 
cases are some of the most complex 
and tough to prosecute. Prosecutors 
need to be facile with a huge amount 
of tecfihical information in order 
to grasp the forensic evidence gadi- 
ered and present it clearly to a jury-. 
Yet in almost all of the country's 

district attorney's 
offices, it's the newest 
and youngest attor- 
neys who work in the 
traffic division. That's 
because for the most 
part, die work in the 
traffic division is dull 
and unglamorous. such as prosecut- 
ing drivers with traffic violations and 
speeding tickets. 

• Sympathetic jurors Case reviews 
show that jurors in vehicular homi- 
cide cases tend to identify more with 
the driver than the victim. So many 
of us have been in, almost been in, 
or seen traffic accidents, that in a 
jury setting we tend to believe the 
defendant when he claims to have 
made an honest mistake. "We lose 
about half of our [vehicular 
manslaughter] cases." says Kaye, the 
New Jersey prosecutor. "No matter 
what we tell them, the jurors usually 
decide it was an accident." 

• Complex laws Most states' vehic- 
ular homicide laws require proof not 
only that someone was driving reck- 
lessly, but also that he knew his be- 
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crashes— and even figure out why they 
occur. Here, some of the latest technologies: 

• The U.S. Department of Transportation is 
encouraging car companies to equip cars with a 
computer chip that reads data from a radar 
sensor and global positioning system in the car. If 
the device senses there's about to be an 
accident, either because a car is approaching too 
quickly or vehicles are spaced too close together, 
it alerts the driver by vibrating the driver's seat 
and flashing a warning signal. 

• Honda has developed a "collision mitigation 
brake system," in which a radar sensor on a car's 
front bumper can determine if a driver is 
approaching the vehicle in front of him too 
quickly. If he is, his seatbelt tightens, a warning 



buzzer sounds, and the brakes are applied 
automatically and begin to slow the car down. 
The system is not yet available in U.S. vehicles, 
but it should be in the near future. 
• In the same way that black boxes help 
determine the cause of airplane crashes, a 
computer chip placed inside a car now records 
crucial crash data, "it gives whoever retrieves 
the data a snapshot of what just took place," 
says Jim Schell, a spokesperson for General 
Motors. Prosecutors can present the near- 
irrefutable data— such as how fast the cars were 
going at the time of the accident— to the jury to 
help prove a case. Right now, the boxes come 
standard in all General Motors and Ford vehicles 
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reckless enough to lead to a crash. If" 
someone has been drinking, it's fair 
ly easy to prove— everyone knows 
that drinking and driving can be a 
lethal mix. But how about someone 
who was going 15 miles per hour 
above the speed limit? 

The vehicular homicide cases that 
most often lead to convictions are 
usually those that involve drugs or al- 
cohol, regardless of the length of a 
driver's rap sheet. Judges and juries 
are typically less sympathetic to drug 
users than reckless drivers. 

That's why Clifford and Porter 
were encouraged when [onathon 
Raymond was ultimately charged 
with three counts: driving to endan 
ger, death resulting: driving to en- 
danger, serious injury resulting: and 
driving with a suspended license. He 



was also charged with two counts of 
driving under the influence of a con- 
trolled substance a blood test taken 
on the day of the accident -bowed 
that Raymond was positive foi 
caine). He faces a maximum sen- 
of 36 years in prison. He is 
now- in jail sei 1 8-month sen 

tence for violating his probation 
stemming from the Warwick acci 
dent by driving with a suspended li- 
cense. His trial for Porter's accident 
is scheduled foi early 200 1: he has 
pleaded not guilty to all of the 
charges against him. 

I ast August. Clifford and Portei 
got married on a beach along Rhode 
Island's Narragansett Bay. Doctors 

rter's leg 
from amputation. 1 i run- 

ner b,. ilk down 



the aisle to await His bride. He's still 
healing from his injuries and as of 
press tune, be was awaiting vet an 
other surgery on bis leg. He is hop- 
ing to return to work— lie's a manager 
of a local supermarket-by the spring. 
Porter and Clifford are now push- 
ing lor changes in Rhode Island law 
to make driving with a suspended li- 
cense a felony rather than a misde- 
meanor. They are working with the 
attorney general's office and the 
lition on Highway Safety, a state 
advocacy group. "I am disappointed 
with the system. Evervone was basi- 
cally passing the buck, not taking 
responsibility." says Clifford. "No 
one made the tough decisions that 
would have prevented this tragedy. 
The law should keep guys like Ray- 
mond off the road." A 






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'Adopting Was 
the Smartest Thin, 
Fve Ever Done 7 ' 

Diane Keaton has dazzled for decades in roles that 

have captured women's shifting place in the world. 

Here, the Oscar winner talks about her new comedy 

and why being a mom is now her top priority 

by Merle Ginsberg 



DIANE KEATON IS ENDEARINGLY OBLIVIOUS TO MANY THINGS: 



the weather, the time, the sun beating down on 
another day in Los Angeles' eternal autumn 
heat wave-but then, who'd expect her to be 
otherwise? The Los Angeles-born actress, who 
will be 58 this month, has built a prosperous ca- 
reer out of die Annie Hall persona Woody Allen 
cast her in 27 years ago: neurotic, funny, flaky. 
and brainy, all with bohemian flare. Even olf- 
screen. she's always dressed the part. Today 
she's got on another one of her Keatonesque 
"Outfits" with a capital *'()": a black wool jacket 
buttoned to the throat, black jodhpurs, a black. 
pleated wool skirt, a tan wool cloche and signa- 
ture wire-rim glasses. To call it "the layered 
look" wouldn't begin to do it justice, particular- 
ly piled on her still svelte frame, and no one 
gets the humor of this better than Keaton. cspe 
dally on a 95-degree day. 

"I've always been a fashion victim." sh< 
laughing, which she does frequently and often at 



hersell. "I'm an addict to beautiful things. It's a 
form of self-expression, the fashion thing. It's 
very personal, very deep. Besides. I'm always 
cold. I think I have cold blood, like a snake." she 
says, as she slips into a corner booth at The Polo 
Lounge in The Beverly Hills Hotel— a spot she 
particularly loves. She poses a question that could 
also be asked of the historic restaurant we're in: 
"Why should I change now?" and then orders 
the famous McCarthy salad with shrimp instead 
of chicken, to suit her semi-vegetarian diet. 

While her acting track record is impressive 
by any Hollywood measure— she has starred in 
movie classics from The Godfather to Rctl.s- 
Kcaton's creative energies have exploded in re- 
cent years. She has directed movies including 
Unstrung Heroes and Hanging Up, and she recent- 
lv executive produced Gus Van Sant's pseudo- 
documentary about a high-school shooting. 
Elephant, which won the top award continued 



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at the 2003 Cannes Film Festival. 
Still, .she remains humble, even self- 
deprecating. "I'm constantly amazed 
that people like Meryl Streep, Leo 
DiCaprio. Robert De Niro or Jack 
Nicholson want to work with me." 
she savs. nibbling on flat bread. 
"What do they see in me?" 

Writer and director Nancy Meyers, 
who has worked with Keaton on lour 
films, obsiously sees lots ol very good 
things. Meyers worked with Keaton 
on Bahx Boom, dien on the two Father of 
the Bride mo\aes. and most recently on 
Something's Gotta Give— Columbia Pic- 
tures' big. Christmas-season box-office 
romance. In it, Keaton stars as a mid- 
dle-age. divorced, critically 
acclaimed playwright who 
has a love affair with her 



onscreen as diey are in real 
life, fully alive and passion- 
ate and hot. 

Q: You met Nicholson 
when you were invoked 
with Warren Beatty in the 
early '80s. and worked to- 
gether on Reds in 1981. 
Had the two of you 
stayed in contact? 
A: I hadn't seen Jack in 
about 20 years. I won- 
dered what he would be 
like now. He's become 
such a big star, an icon. 
really. I had a lot of fear 
about it. But I have a 




onscreen daughter's much 



THE MOVIE'S NUDITY WAS IN THE SERVICE 
OF A JOKE ON ME, SO, THOUGH IT WASN'T 
FUN, I COULDN'T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY" 



older bovfriend— played 
with humor and panache 
by Nicholson, a notorious chaser of policy about fear: It cripples the soul 



young women, onscreen and in life. 

Q: When Nancy Meyers wrote this 
movie, she had you and Jack Nichol- 
son in mind for the lead roles. Do 
you think she was toving with your 
real-life images? 

A: Oh. you mean Jack as a womaniz- 
er and me as neurotic and uptight.' 
Yeah. 1 would say that could be true. 
Q: Tire intensity of the sex scene be- 
tween you and Nicholson is <roin<> to 
incite a whole lot of discussion. 



so you just have to fight it. Now that I 
did this movie with him. I will always 
love Jack Nicholson. I mean, we had 
to kiss for. like, hoursl One day on the 
set we were just kissing and kissing 
till we were sorel I'm glad it was widi 
him— Jack's so comfortable with sex. 
and with himself, he made me more 
comfortable. We had a lot of laughs. 
Q: You've had the opportunity to do 
love scenes with a lot of great guys. 
A: Mel Gibson was one of the great- 
est. When we were shooting _U/ N 



Q: There's a moment in Something's 
Gotta Give when Nicholson's charac- 
ter sees you naked in your bedroom 
doorwav. Was that a bodv double or 
was that really you? 
A: Yes! That's really me. naked. 
Q: How long were you there naked? 
A: Not long. We just had to scream 
and yell back and forth at each other. 
It was like E.T and the kid—Drew 
Barrymore. That's one of my favorite 
movie scenes. 

Q: Were you nervous about doing it? 
A: It wasn't fun to do. but who cares 



A: Yes. it's nice to see a good middle- fel, and he played mv lover. I was in at this point? It's such a done deal. I 



age. healthy sex scene. Let's face it. 
people my age and Jack's age are 
much deeper, much more soulful, be- 
cause they've seen a lot of life. Thev 
have a great deal of passion and 
hope-why shouldn't diey fall in love? 



heaven! I loved looking at Mel's face. 
It was so beautiful, it was kind of 
hard to believe. That lace, saying 



such wonderful things to me. it was 
really the perfect way to have an af- 
fair with Mel Gibson. In real life it 

Why shouldn't movies show that? would have been more complicated. 

It's so uplifting and real. There are This way. it was just a pure love situ- 

so many people with rich inner lives ation. I love having the opportunities no-brainer. I probably should have 

out there and it's great to see them to be in these perfect love stories. dieted or gotten a trainer or some- 



wouldn't do a nude scene in Hair in 
1968. and it was a big drama. But 
then I did do it for Looking for Mr. 
Goodbar in 1977. because the material 
really did demand it. In Something's 
Gotta Give, the nudity was in the sen- 
ice of a joke, a joke on me. so I 
couldn't take it too seriously! It was a 



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thing for it. but I just didn't care thai 
much. You spend so much time when 
you're young looking in the mirror, 
it's just not productive, and I won't 
let myself do it anymore. 
Q: Today's actresses can't seem to 
wait to take their clothes off. What 
do you think of that.' 
A: Everyone needs to do what's right 
for them. It just didn't feel right to 
me when I was young. If a young girl 
is confident, well, she's got more 
nerve than I did at that aee. 



Q: Like I. 

A: I have no 

Spears. She'-- a i 

dancei an< 

hei records arc kin te. It's just 

that when she sums ta ibout 

politics that I get a little concerned. 

I'm political-a lifelong Democrat 

and I believe this country is all 

everyone voicing then opinions 

having no fear of speaking out. but 1 

also think you should be educated on 

the big subjects. 

Q: It seemed like you had great 

chemistry with Frances McDormand. 

who plays your sister in Something'^ 

A: Isn't she hilarious.' I 
love Frances. She's so 
right on the money. She's 
so unflinchingly honest- 
in hei work, in her life- 
she has no fear. 
Q: You have two very 
handsome nun in love 
with you in this movie- 
Nicholson and Keanu 
Reeves. And you looked 
very hot in a slinky black 
dress for your movie date 
with Reeves! 

A: Hot. huh. 1 [laughing I 

just don't see it. But I did 

like that dress 1 Keanu is 

such a sweetheart. 1 F s 

still so sweet and shy and humble. I'm 

so glad he got this part: he gets to 

show a whole different side ol himself 

m this movie, a ven charming, light 

side. He could be the next Hugh 

( .i.i i u after this role. C l.m you imagine 

a gin like that asking me out? 

Q: ( iome on. • ve never 

been involved with a youngei man:' 

A: Me? No. nc Not my 

thing. I'm wa 1 

that. Besides. I've iked men 

m\ cm :i horn I 



. up to and respect. 
Q: You've often said that the thing 
lon'l like about being an actress 
to be picked— or chosen. 
A: Y hate that. It makes me 

ulnerable. I always thought 
ho are beautiful must have 
But then I read that 
Michelle Pfeiffer and Julia Roberts- 
true beauties-feel that they haven't 
always had thai much control ovei 
careers, either. I'm sure beauty 
like that brings its own set of prob- 
lems. I've always felt fairly plain. 
Q: You might see yourself that way. 
but vou've been with some amazing 
men. 

A: Yeah, that's true. But no more. I'm 
done. Older relationships are harder: 
there arc so many more complica- 
tions. And in my family, we make it 
more complicated because we 
put up walls. You reach a certain point 
in your life when it's about other 
things. So. now I'm staying away from 
love stories— except in the movies. 
Q: Speaking ol past loves, what do 
you think of the possibility that 
Woody .Allen might be writing a big 
tell all book— for quite a hefty sum.' 
A: It doesn't concern me. The roman- 
tic pan of our relationship is ancient 
history. We've been friends for 20 
years. I wouldn't have had the career 
I've had without Woody .-Mien helping 
me find my humor. I thought I was 
_ to be a musical actress— I'm not 
re. lib that funny. I can't tell a joke. 
Woody would write jokes for me and 
they'd fall flat. He'd watch and say. 
"Okav. you can't tell a joke. I'll re- 
write that." So he wrote funny situa- 
tions for me instead, and they suited 
me. lie's so smart: so much smarter 
than you'd ever even think he is. 
Q: It must have felt good to stand up 
for him during the Noon Yi. Mia Far- 
row affair. 



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A: Look, no one needs to stand up for 
WoocK Allen. He's a much stronger 
person uian the characters he portrays 
in movies. He can take care of himself. 
All I said was diat he has been a true 
and honest friend for 20 years. 
Q: Now, you've said you're rampant- 
ly against plastic surgery-but you've 
also said you always change your 
mind about everything. Have you 
changed your mind yet? 
A: No. Wish I could. I'm stuck in 
this idea that I need to be . . . au- 
thentic. That's just who I am. My 
face needs to look the way I feel. I'm 
not going to be negative about 
women or men who've had plastic 



I know it's probably easier for me 
than manv other single mothers. I 
can afford help and can usually bring 
my kids to the set with me. I'm very 
lucky that way. 

Q: A few years after adopting your 
daughter, you decided to adopt a lit- 
tle boy [Duke, now 2]. How has par- 
enting a boy changed you? 
A: It's definitely changed the way I 
look at 2Town men! He's totallv vul- 
nerable and affectionate and sweet. 
But the main reason I did it is be- 
cause I wanted Dexter to have a sib- 
ling. I knew it would improve the 
quality of her life. My siblings are so 
important to me: they've had a larger 



younger, but it's working for me now 
Q: Do you think it's that we're jusi 
easier on ourselves as we get older? 
A: It's important to forgive yourself 
for your transgressions. I realized a 
couple of years ago that I had to give} 
myself permission to be impractical. I 
was born that way. and that's the] 
wav it is. There are worse things to 1 
be. Impracticality is better than being, 
mean or rude or violent or unhinged. , 
Q: I think this age really becomes, 
you. and your career is just getting 
richer and richer. 

A: Nobody is more surprised than I 
am ab6ut the good roles I'm getting! 
There are thousands of actors and onlv 



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sureierv— whatever works 
for them. It's a personal 
choice. I'm sure it's very 
empowering lor some 
women who do it. For me, 
it's the opposite— I would 
feel like it took some experience away. 
Q: Just before you turned 50. you 
decided to adopt a litde girl [Dexter, 
now 8] and be a single mom. What 
prompted that? 

A: I had been very ambitious when I 
was younger. I was a workaholic. I 
had a number of good relationships 
with men. but when I didn't get mar- 
ried, I started to think. Okay, this isn't 
going to happen for me. Then when 
my father died in 1990. I realized 
how important my family has been 
to me. Going through life with peo- 
ple who are close to you enriches the 
experience. It lakes you out of your- 
self; it allows you to live without self- 
consciousness and improves the 
quality of your life. Just focusing on 
yourself can be really destructive and 
empty. A shared personal history is a 
treasure no one should eo through 
life without. 

Adopting was the smartest thing 
I've ever done. I adore bein« a mom. 



"I ADORE BEING A MOM. JUST FOCUSING 

YOURSELF CAN BE REALLY DESTRUCTIVE 

AND EMPTY. I'M VERY LUCKY" 



effect on me than anybody else. I 
don't know how I would have gotten 
through life without my sisters. 
Q: What do you think you will tell 
Dexter about boys and dadng when 
she gets a litde older? 
A: I'll tell her to like who she is with 
a man, instead of it being all about 
getting— or even giving. It's about lik- 
ing who she is when she's with him. I 
think that's pretty profound. 
Q: You seem to have really come into 
yourself in your 50s— diversifying 
your career, adopting-and also to a 
great place of self-acceptance. You 
were so critical of yourself when you 
were vounger. 

A: Warren Beatty always told me I'd 
be a late bloomer. He was right. I 
guess. I was much more shy when I 
was younger. There are a few good 
things about getting older. I'm 
Capricorn, the Goat: we just keep 
climbing slowly uphill. That doesn't 
sound too exciting when vou're 



a handful work all the time. Susan 
Sarandon and Meryl and Goldie and 
Bette all seem to work a fair amount. 
Being a movie star is a rare job. No- 
body gives you any guarantees that 
you'll get to do it forever. It's a very 
lucky and privileged position to be in. 
Q: Does your history inspire you as 
much as your future? 
A: I love visiting my mother and por- 
ing over her old scrapbooks filled 
with memories and tidbits. Memories 
inspire me. I love to look over the 
pages of a life and see all die wonder- 
ful moments. You've got to make the 
most of every one. You realize that so 
much when you get older. I want to 
be a doer. I've done a lot of thinking 
in my life and I've probably thought, 
well, way too much. Too much think- 
ing can turn negative on you. Why 
concentrate on yourself so much? 
That's a young person's game. I don't 
w-ant to spend that much time in die 
mirror-literally or figuratively. Ca 



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and the magic of mothers 

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onnie Hunt. 39, is the kind of 
person who is so down-to- 
earth, she actually means it when she 
says. "It's always a joy to have 12 
kids around." She's referring to the 
cast of her new movie with Steve 
Martin. Cheaper by the Dozen. We 
caught up with her on the set of her 
hit ABC sitcom. Life with Bonnie, and 
she was full of enthusiasm for her 
co-stars in the film. "It's always ajeat 
to have animals on the set. And chil- 
dren. But let's leave Steve out of it." 
she deadpanned. 



Cheaper by the Dozen is all about the 
nuttiness that goes with big families, 
which you know something about. 
coming from a family widi seven kids. 
How did your mom handle it all? 

You know, people ask me how I 
do everything: acting, writing, pro- 
ducing and directing Life with Bonnie. 
and I think. Wow. it's nothing com- 
pared to what one day in my mom's 
life was like. She just had it all under 
control. You'd lose a shoe at my 
house, look for it for 10 hours, and 
then she'd walk bv and 20. "There it 
is." It's that / Dream of Jeannie magic 
that moms have. 

If you could have your own magi- 
cal power, what would it be? 



The power to heal. I have a sister 
with rheumatoid arthritis, and I wish 
I could take it away. 

Before acting, you were a nurse. 
What's your opinion on Hollywood's 
pla^nc surgery epidemic? 

I don't judge, because I do under- 
stand it. Personally. I'm just afraid of 
it. I've worked in the kitchen, so to 
speak. There are risks involved and a 
big one is that you'll never look like 
yourself again. There's something 
beautiful about the ability to have ex- 
pression and a road map of your life's 
experiences. So many actresses get so 
much done and look like daey're con- 
stantly at their own surprise party. 




Tell us about the adorable Tom 
Welling. SmallviUe's Clark Kent, who 
plays one of your teens in Cheaper by 
the Dozen. 

Please! It was bizarre! He was 
playing my son. and I found him so 
attractive. There's an outtake at the 
end of the film of a moment between 
Tom and me that went horribly 
wrong. We start kissing. 

You're a married woman! Was it 
an improvisadonal moment? 

Of course! We were doing a scene 
and went for the same joke at the 
same time and just started making 
out. I'm going to watch it 600 times 
when I get the video. Ck 



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Julie Chen, 33, is geographicaB" 
challenged: She co-anchors 
CBS's The Early Show in New I 
York City, and hosts the Los 
Angeles-based reality show Bn 
Brother. But luckily, looking gol 
while whizzing from coast to ' 
coast has become second natil 
(well, almost). "I do have the 
luxury of having my hair 
professionally blow-dried and Hb 
makeup done. " says Chen, whcd 
starts most days at 3:30 a.^. Ye 
this self-professed "beauty 
junkie" (she says she used to pf 
•^hairdresser as a kid) still knowsj 
; what to do, makeup-wise, wherf 
left to her own devices. 

"I like a done' look," says 
Chen. She always wears a gooc 
foundation and uses smoky 
eyeshadow, eyeliner and masc 
to create the polished, 
sophisticated look she love 
When hosting Big Brother, 
however, Chen gets a little 
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Eyes That 
Say Wow! 

With all the recent changes in 
Melissa Stark's life, it's hard to say 
which has affected her beauty 
routine more: becoming the 
national correspondent for NBC's 
Today show or giving birth to her 
first child, Michael, now 4 months 
old. Not surprisingly, each new 
role presents its own beauty 
challenges. "On days when I'm 
not working, it may be 5 p.m. 
before I even take a shower!" she 
says with a laugh. 

Her years as a sports reporter 
for ESPN and ABC's Monday 
Night Football taught Stark, 30, 
a thing or two about getting 
camera ready, fast. It all starts 
with a great foundation, she says, 
as well as makeup that makes her 
eyes "pop." "When you're 
speaking, people look at your 
eyes, so they need to look 
special," she explains. To get a 
natural look, Stark uses earth- 
tone shades and lines her eyes 
with a powder, instead of a 
pencil, for extra staying power. 
News to you: Work your best 
feature— and take it to the hilt. If 
you're unsure how to enhance 
your strong points, ask for help 
at your favorite beauty counter. 





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despite her hectic schedule of 
premieres and parties. But it's not 
all thanks to great genes— 
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understan< 
strategies . 
reporter and-q5af1>time actress 
(she has a recurring role on CB 
Without a Trace) is a former 
makeup artist, model ancy*'' 
Massachusetts Teen USA. "' 
pageant world, you have ™ 
your own hair and makei 
says. "So today, having st 
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Hair That 
Works Hard! 

Growing out a shag cut is 
awkward enough, but doing it in 
front of millions of TV viewers is 
downright brave. Daryn Kagan, 
40, the anchor for CNN's Live 
Today, did just that last year, 
although she didn't really have a 
choice. "I was covering the sniper 
story in Washington, D.C., and I 
got busy and missed a couple of 
haircuts," she says. "Then I 
learned that I would be heading 
to Kuwait and decided to keep 
letting my hair grow so I could 
pull it back." Kagan recalls some 
fairly bad hair days on the air, but 
didn't agonize over them. 
Unfortunately, her viewers didn't 
share her carefree attitude. "I was 
covering the space shuttle 
disaster and a woman came up to 
me demanding to know what was 
up with my hair!" Kagan says. 

Still, Kagan respects the power 
of a polished hairdo and is happy 
to have the pros tend to her 
tresses. "You can't replace a 
good blow-dry," she says. 
News to you: Don't ever feel 
married to a haircut. Your 
hairstylist can share tricks that 
will keep your hair looking good 
while it grows out. 





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Hair How-to 

Chen styles her hair so that it stays put without 
looking shellacked. To get that soft hold, she applies 
Sebastian Wet Form Fitting Gel ($8.99) with her 
fingers after shampooing. The gel also makes her hair 
easy to style. Other styling products to try: Terax 
Original Styling Gel ($8) and DuWop Hands2 Hair 
Styling Creme ($16). 

Super Skin Secrets 

"Finding the perfect foundation has been a huge 
challenge, but I succeeded a few years ago when I 
discovered Bobbi Brown's Oil Free Even Finish 
Foundation SPF 15 [$36]." says Chen. She credits the 
formula's yellow undertones for making her 
complexion appear flawless. Many makeup companies 
now make yellow-based foundations, which is great 
news because so many people have some yellow 
tones in their skin. (Prescriptives. which has many 
yellow-based foundations, is also a good line to try.) 

Chen is also diligent about taking good care of her 
skin. She gets a monthly facial to keep breakouts at 
bay. and she's a huge fan of Obagi effectives ($68). a 
vitamin C serum developed by a dermatologist. "My 
skin is oily, and this product has made it better. Even 
my makeup artist told me she's never seen my skin 
look so good." For a similar skin-perfecting effect, try 
Cellex-C High-Potency Serum (S90). 



Hair How-to 

Like countless women everywhere. Stark is utterly 
frustrated by her stick-straight hair, which can fall 
flat quickly. To get a fuller, more voluminous look 
takes some effort, she concedes, but it's possible by 
styling with Velcro rollers, spritzing with a 
thickening product, then blow-drying with a round 
brush. Her current favorite: Catwalk Tigi Root Boost 
($11). Also great to try: Graham Webb Thick Root 
Volumizing Spray ($16.95) and Physique Volume 
Boosting Foam ($6.99). 

Super Skin Secrets 

"Moisturizer is my big thing." says Stark, who says she 
particularly loves Aveda's Botanical Kinetics Hydrating 
Lotion ($28). "Without it, my skin is uncomfortably 
Pry." Another great basic moisturizer to try is Estee 
Lauder Hydra Complete ($40). Stark attributes her 
clear, problem-free complexion to the fact that she 
drinks a lot of water. "I never have skin issues," she 
says. However, her healthy habits don't apply to her 
nails, which she bites. "I need to have manicures every 
week. That way. my nails look so pretty that I don't 
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Hair How-to 

"I wash my hair only twice a week for two reasons." 
says Menounos. "First, my hair takes a major beating 
between highlights and daily styling, and second, it's 
easier to style if it's a little dirty." The problem is 
keeping it from looking too greasy between shampoos. 
Her solution: She rubs a bit of baby powder into the 
roots, which magically makes dull locks look clean 
again. Try traditional baby powder or Bumble and 
bumble's Hair Powder ($27) for the same effect. 

Super Skin Secrets 

Since a healthy, clear complexion is a must-have— on 
the air and off— Menounos is diligent about her skin- 
care regimen. Each night she removes every trace of 
makeup with a handy cleansing cloth, such as one of 
Pond's Cleansing and Make-Up Remover Towelettes 
($5.99). "They're just the fastest way to clean your 
face." she says. She also applies Origins' Eye Doctor 
cream ($25) for instant depuffing and moisturizing. 

Do-it-yourself beauty recipes also work gre 
says, and she gets many of them from her mom She 
taught me to rub a cut lemon on my face to clean out 
my pores, and to place tea bags over my eyes to 
reduce puffiness. They work!" 



Hair How-to 

Growing up with a mane of thick, curly hair, Kagan 
had to figure out how to smooth it out when 
necessary. Today, her get-it-straight kit includes a 
blow-dryer, a big round brush, a flat iron, 
straightening hair gel and hairspray. Paul Mitchell 
Super Clean Hairspray ($10.99) is her current favorite, 
while Bumble and bumble's Straight gel ($20) gets 
the smoothing job done. 

Super Skin Secrets 

Kagan's makeup routine involves many products: 
concealer, foundation (Bobbi Brown Foundation Stick, 
$36), eyeshadow and brow-shaping products. "I 
tweeze and shape my brows daily." she says. "It's just 
my thing to do." 

"I also try tc get eight hours of sleep," she says "I 
e that our bodies are like bank accounts and 
ping records. Cheat yourself of sleep and 
you'll pay for it by either getting sick or getting 
stressed." She helps ease herself to bed with a 
soott body cream, such as Clarms Tranquility 

Silky Smooth Body Cream (S36). d 






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Turtleneck, Jones New York, 
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Gloves, La Crasia. 
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Are these sympton nterfering with your life? 

Not involved \\ cii you used to be? 

Low on energy? 

Not motivated to do tl e looked forward to doing? 

Not feeling as good as you used to? 

If you're experiencing symptoms oi depression and you're not where 
you want to be, talk to your doctor about your treatment options. 

How helps treat depression: 

EFFEXOR XR works on both serotonin and norepinephrine - 
two chemicals in the brain linked to depression. 

Correcting the imbalance of these two chemicals may 
help relieve symptoms of depression. 

Talk to your doctor about your symptoms, and ask if 
is right for you. 

Before starting EFFEXOR XR Capsules, tell your doctor about any medications 
you're taking, including over-the-counter drugs and herbal supplements. 
People taking MAO inhibitors should not take EFFEXOR XR. Pregnant 
or nursing women shouldn't take any antidepressant without consulting 
their doctor. Side effects with EFFEXOR XR may include nausea, dizziness, 
sleepiness, delayed ejaculation, sweating, dry mouth, nervousness, insomnia, 
anorexia, and constipation. EFFEXOR XR may raise blood pressure in some 
patients, so blood pressure should be monitored regularly. When people suddenly 
stop using or quickly lower their daily dose oi EFFEXOR XR, discontinuation 
symptoms may occur. Talk to your doctor before discontinuing or reducing 
your dose of EFFEXOR XR. 



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(venlafaxine HCI) 

mation carefully. However, keep in mind that it should 
e place of you' I If md all of this information or 

■ now more about Ef FEXOR XR 

What is the most important information that I should know about EFFEXOR XR? 

Some people should not take EFFEXOR .our doctor People taking monoamine 

oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs) should ■ ■ can cause a very serious reaction 

it the same time R> R You must stop taking your MAOI at least 

14 days before beginning EFFEXOR XR Similarly, you should wait 7 days after stopping EFFEXOR XR 

ctor or pharmacist if a medicine you are taking is 



Generalized Anxiet\ Disorder 
in adults. 



What is EFFEXOR XR' 

and Social Anxiety D . 

Depression 

Symptoms )f depre depending on the person. Symptoms of 

• A sad feeling tl • lack of energy 

• Restlessness or slowed movements • feeling worthless, or feeling guilty 

• Chanc>=. eason 

• Trouble concentrating or making decisions 
s that • Repeated thoughts of death or suicide 

le attempt is inherent m depression and may persist until significant 
remission occuis 

Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) 

characterized by feelings of excessive anxiety and worry that can't be controlle 

are present for at least 6 months Other symptoms of GAD include: 

• Restlessness or feeling on edge • Irritability 

• Fatigue • Muscle tension 
•Difficult) concentrating or mind going blank • Difficulty sleeping 

Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) 

People with SAD have an extreme, constant fear of one or more social or public situations 
Tnis fear severely disrupts day-to-day functioning. Other symptoms of SAD may include: 

• Avoid • 

.ettings 

• Phvsical sympt ng, sweating, trembling, fast heartbeat, and nausea 

• Unreasonable fear of embarrassment 

Who should not take EFFEXOR XR? 

Do not take EFFEXOR XR if you are allergic to EFFEXOR XR (venlafaxine HCI) or any of its 
ingredier • rhe inaci are listed at the end of this leaflet 

EFFEXO-' )ns worse. Tell your doctor about all your medical problems 

Be sure to tell your doctor if you have or had 

• suictda thoughts 

• high bio j pre EXOR XR can increase your blood pressure. 

• heart disea ■ an increase your heart rate (pulse) 

• liver o: ■ .- dose of EFFEXOR XR may need to be different 

• symptom;. ; • . ; ania, such as persistently elevated or irritable mood, a 

3 thoughts, hyperactivity, and rapid, excessive speech. 
- XR may increase your eye pressure. You may need more frequent 
in increase in eye pressure 
• 

• ■ d problems 

... ctor about all medicines that you plan to take, including prescription ana 
non-presi .. aments (including natural and herbal sup:: 

or will decide if you can take EFFEXOR XR with other medicines 

■ R is not recommended f or weight loss alone or in combination w I 

How EFFEXOR XR works 

I occurring brain chemicals, serotc 

norepine ksl 

How should I take EFFEXOR XR? 

a, and 

• EFFEXOR XR should be 
either in tr e 

• 
or place 

•The capsule can also b< 
applesauce. Tr s 

• 
for the missed dose b . 



In case of an overdose, : 

What should I avoid while taking EFFEXOR XR? 

ee ; :.-. EFFEXOR XR affects . 
operating machine a. cause 

otner side effect! . 

What are the possible side effects of EFFEXOR XR' 

EFFEXOR > - - s ce effects r 

jffects 
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• Nausea • Gas 

• Dizziness 

• S'eepmess 
• 

• Sweating 

• Dry mouth 

Tell your doctor right away if you have 

• ncease 

. ood. I 
• 

• sudden, unexpected eye pain, eye redness, or ;"3"es - : cate 
mcreasec e) 

• symptoms of mania a - tentlyele 
decreased neec 

EFFEXOR XR ma. cause ar 

tests to check your serum c r ces:e'~ 

For mc t :- these a-c other s-se effects assc. ate: ;.- : :: E'>.C : 

doctor or pharmacist : . www.EFFEXORXR.com 

Can children take EFFEXOR XR? 

EFFEXOR XR is not aoprove: i 

increased repon 

harm and I jicide 

What happens when I stop using EFFEXOR XR? 

ng EFFEXOR XR, espetia 

stop therapy. 

When people suddenly stop using EFFEXOR > F 
too fast. Some of these -. .ae 

• Sensory disturbances (including 

• Im ' ; shock sersa' 

• Somnolence ~ess) 
• 

• Dizzines " • •Tinnitus 

• Dn, moutl • 'Tiredness 

• Tremor 

• Sei2 

• Headaches 

-. )f : : FExCR XI :' symptoms. 

General advice about EFFEXOR XR 

ad in patient 
informal . : -at use EFFEXOR ■ I on that has not been prescribed 

b) . a-' doctor Do not a .a E'FEXOR XR to otner people, even if tney have the same 

nation about EFFEXOR XR. If you would like 
more information, tall ii doctor o r pharmacist for inf 

: onals. 

What are the ingredients in EFFEXOR XR? 

EFFEXO- e, ar antidepressant. Inactive ingredients 

■ . cellulose, oe a ose, iron oxide, and titanium dioxide. 

iCReds28, D&C Yellow #10, and FD&C Blue #1. 

How to store EFFEXOR XR 

EFFEXOR XR she . 68 c to 77°F or 20° to . 

::-t and away from cr 

For more information on EFFEXOR XR 

Tn is page amanon, talk to your doctor 

www.EFFEXORXR.com 

based on EFFEXOR XR Prescribing Information W10404C005, 
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FORMATION FOR PATIENTS OR THEIR PARENTS 

TRATTERA (atomoxetine HCI) 

Read this information before you start taking STRATTERA 
:ead this information you get each time you gel 
lay be new information. This information doe:- 
ilking to your doctor about your medical condition or t 

/hat is STRATTERA? 

STRATTERA is a non-stimulant medicine used to treat Attenl 
,'yperactivity Disorder (ADHD). STRATTERA contains at 
ydrochloride, a selective norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor. Your doctoi 
as prescribed this medicine as part of an overall treatment plan to control 
our symptoms of ADHD 

/hat is ADHD? 

ADHD has 3 main types of symptoms: inattention, hyperactivity, and 
npulsiveness. Symptoms of inattention include not paying attention, 
laking careless mistakes, not listening, not finishing tasks, not following 
irections, and being easily distracted. Symptoms of hyperactivity and 
npulsiveness include fidgeting, talking excessively, running around at 

I appropriate times, and interrupting others. Some patients have more 
ymptoms of hyperactivity and impulsiveness while others have more 
ymptoms of inattentiveness. Some patients have all 3 types of symptoms. 
Symptoms of ADHD in adults may include a lack of organization, 
iroblems starting tasks, impulsive actions, daydreaming, daytime drowsiness. 
;low processing of information, difficulty learning new things, irritability. 
ack of motivation, sensitivity to criticism, forgetfulness, low self-esteem, 
ind excessive effort to maintain some organization. The symptoms shown 

, jy adults who primarily have attention problems but not hyperactivity have 
jeen commonly described as Attention-Deficit Disorder (ADD). 
Many people have symptoms like these from time to time, but patients 
With ADHD have these symptoms more than others their age. Symptoms 

' nust be present for at least 6 months to be certain of the diagnosis. 

Who should NOT take STRATTERA? 

Do not take STRATTERA if: 

•you took a medicine known as a monoamine oxidase inhibitor (MAOI) 
in the last 2 weeks. An MAOI is a medicine sometimes used for 
depression and other mental problems. Some names of MAOI medicines 
are Nardil" (phenelzine sulfate) and Parnate" (tranylcypromine 
sulfate). Taking STRATTERA with an MAOI could cause serious side 
effects or be life-threatening. 

•you have narrow angle glaucoma, an eye disease 

•you are allergic to STRATTERA or any of its ingredients. The active 
ingredient is atomoxetine. The inactive ingredients are listed at the end 
of this leaflet. 

What should I tell my doctor before taking STRATTERA? 

Talk to your doctor before taking STRATTERA if you: 
have or had liver problems. You may need a lower dose 
'•have high blood pressure. STRATTERA can increase blood pressure. 



I: 



have problems with your heart or an irregular heartbeat. STRATTERA 

can increase heart rate (pulse). 
| • have low blood pressure. STRATTERA can cause dizziness or fainting 
' in people with low blood pressure. 

Tell your doctor about all the medicines you take or plan to take. 

including prescription and non-prescription medicines, dietary supplements, 
and herbal remedies. Your doctor will decide if you can take STRATTERA 
with your other medicines. 

Certain medicines may change the way your body reacts to STRATTERA 
These include medicines used to treat depression [like Paxil" (paroxetine) 
and Prozac 6 (fluoxetine)], and certain other medicines (like quinidine). 
Your doctor may need to change your dose of STRATTERA if you are 
taking it with these medicines. 

STRATTERA may change the way your body reacts to oral or intravenous 
albuterol (or drugs with similar actions), but the effectiveness of these 
drugs will not be changed. Talk with your doctor before taking STRATTERA 
if you are taking albuterol. 

How should I take STRATTERA? 

• Take STRATTERA according to your doctor's insti s. This is usually 
taken 1 or 2 times a day (morning and late afternoon/early evenii 

• You can take STRATTERA with or without food 

• If you miss a dose, take it as soon as possible, but do not take more 
than your total daily dose in any 24-hour period 

STRATTERA 



time each d ilp you remember. 

' dosage strengths: 10. 18. 25. 40 

i ; 'iore than your prescribed dose 

mportanl safety information about STRATTERA 

or operating heavy machinery until you 
RATI 
loi to 
planning to become pregnant 

• breast-feed-' if STRATTERA can pass into your 

milk. 

What are the possible side effects of STRATTERA? 

The most common side effects of STRATTERA used in teenagers and 
children over 6 years old are: 

• upset stomach 

ised appetite 
la 0! vomiting 

• dizziness 
•tiredness 

• mood swings 

Weight loss may occur after starting STRATTERA. It is not known if 
growth will be slowed in children who use STRATTERA for a long period 
of time. Your doctor will watch your weight and height. If you are not 
growing or gaining weight as expected, your doctor may change your 
treatment of STRATTERA. 

The most common side effects of STRATTERA used in adults are: 

• constipation 

• dry mouth 

• nausea 

• decreased appetite 

• dizziness 

• problems sleeping 

• sexual side effects 
•problems urinating 

• menstrual cramps 

Stop taking STRATTERA and call your doctor right away if you get 
swelling or hives. STRATTERA can cause a serious allergic reaction in 
rare cases. 

This is not a complete list of side effects. Talk to your doctor if you 
develop any symptoms that concern you. 

General advice about STRATTERA 

STRATTERA has not been studied in children under 6 years old. 

Medicines are sometimes prescribed for conditions that are not 
mentioned in patient information leaflets. Do not use STRATTERA for a 
condition for which it was not prescribed. Do not give STRATTERA to other 
people, even if they have the same symptoms you have. 

This leaflet summarizes the most important information about 
STRATTERA. If you would like more information, talk with your doctor. You 
can ask your doctor or pharmacist for information on STRATTERA that 
is written for health professionals. You can also call 1-800-LILLY-RX 
(1-800-545-5979) or visit our website at www.strattera.com. 

What are the ingredients in STRATTERA? 

Active ingredient: atomoxetine. 

Inactive ingredients: pregelatinized starch, dimethicone, gelatin, sodium 
lauryl sulfate. FD&C Blue No. 2. synthetic yellow iron oxide, titanium 
dioxide, and edible black ink. 

Store STRATTERA at room temperature. 

This patient information summary has been approved by the US Food and 
Drug Administration. 
Literature issued January 17, 2003 
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We know, we know: The odds of los- 
ing weight ;ind keeping it <>lf arc dc 
pressingly bad. But thanks to the 
recent efforts of two pioneering re 
searchers, we now know more than 
ever before about what can be done to 
make lost weight stay lost for the long 
term, len years ago. these two people 
decided to launch an in-depth analysis 
of the habits and lifestyles of those en 
viable folks who had maintained a ma- 
jor weight loss over a significant period 
of time. Thus, the National Weight 
Control Registry was horn. 

The co-founders. James Hill. Ph.D.. 
director of the Center for Human Nu 
trition at the University of Colorado 
Health Sciences Center, in Denver, 
and Rena Wing, Ph.D.. director of the 
Weight Control and Diabetes Re- 
search Center at The Miriam Hospi 
tal. in Providence, Rhode Island, have 
built their database to include nearh 



Researchers have long 
studied why diets fail. Now 

the\' know what makes them 
succeed. Here, long-term 

"losers" share their strategies 
for keeping it off for life 



4.0(H) people (for information, call 
800-606-6927). To enroll, participants 
must have maintained a weight loss ol 
30 pounds for at least one year, but 
the average is an admirable 66 pounds 
kept off for 5.5 years. That's quite an 
accomplishment, since main- studies 
suggest that the majority ol people 
who've lost weight will eventually 
gam it back plus more. In fact. 90 
percent of registry members had pre 
viously ii icd and failed— to lose 
weight.' In one stud) ai the Uiuversi 
t\ ol Kentucky, for example, people 
who had completed an intensive 
weight loss prog) am 1 1 ibout 

BY SHARLENE K. JOHNSON 



73 percent of then lost weight, on av- 
erage, in the first three years. At the 
end of seven years, only one out of 
lour had been able to maintain even a 
10 pel cent weight loss. 

"The reason people fail in weight 
management is because they make 
temporary fixes rather than perma 
neni lifestyle changes," says Dr. Hill. 
"They can't maintain whatever diet 
or program they've chosen, so they 
go back to the way they were bchav 
ing before, and all of then weight 
conies back." 

Hut even those who have managed 
to maintain healthy new con i:\nn 



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habits may see their weight loss sabo- 
taged. "When you lose weight, you 
lose body mass, and your metabolic 
rate goes down." Dr. Hill says. As a 
result, "you require fewer calories to 
maintain your weight than you did 
before." You'll burn fewer calorics 
during exercise once you're slimmer. 
too. because your body doesn't have 
to work as hard as it did when it had 
more mass to move. All this, ol 
course, does not undercut the health 
benefits of even a small weight loss. 
"Research shows significant benefits. 
such as improvements in blood pies 
sure, blood sugar and cholesterol lev 
els, with just a 5 to 10 percent weight 
loss." says Stanley Hcshka. Ph.D.. a 
research associate at the Obesity Re- 
search Center and at Columbia L in 
versitys Institute of Human 
Nutrition, both in New York City. 

So. to keep off lost weight, you 
have to eat incrementally less, move 
incrementally more or. ideally, do 
both— for life, "il you reverl back to 
your old lifestyle. I guarantee you'll 
go right back to your old weight." 
says David Levitsky. Ph.D.. professoi 



of nutrition and psychology at Coi 
nell University, in Ithaca. New \ 

That's a difficult challenge, but 
an impossible one. Just ask the peopi 
on the weight registry. They have lit- 
tle in common when it comes to how 
they lost their weight in the first 
place, yet those who have succeeded 
in keeping the pounds off share sever- 
al key habits. Copy these five strate- 
gies, and you, too, can beat the odds. 

1. MOVE IT TO LOSE IT 
Good news for people who don't 
want to sign on for starvation: When 
it comes to maintaining weight loss. 
exercise may be even more important 
than watching what you eat. In stud 
its of people who have lost weight. 
researchers repeatedly single out 
physical activity as one of the most 
important ways the maintainers keep 
the weight from sneaking hack. Ac- 
cording to an analysis ol multiple 
studies in the American Journal of Clini- 
cal Nutrition, "those who exercised 
more had significantly greater weight 
loss maintenance than did those who 
exercised less." 



"I GOT STRONGER AND BETTER!" 

A TV meteorologist in Philadelphia, Amy Freeze Arbuckle (left), 29, has 
two boys, ages 2 and 5. She lost 31 pounds and cut I 1 n half 

four years ago when she and her husband entered— and won— the Body-for- 
Life challenge, a 12-week fitness competition based on the book by former 
bodybuilder Bill Phillips. She's 5 feet 4 inches and weighs 128 pounds 
BABY FAT "After my pregnancies. I was desperate to ' ht, not only 

for my health, but because I'm on camera, so it's important to look nrv> 
THE PROGRAM "I eat six times a day I can exchange a pro* for a 

meal if I want, but it's not an extreme, high-pi I I do about 40 mil 

of strength training three times a week, plus 25 minute cular 

workouts on another three days. It's only 
GETTING FIRED UP "Every 12 to 15 

different goals, whether it's to run a 5k or to gi '■' high- 

school reunion. That helps us stay m 
EMOTIONAL HIGH "After my transf; 
my life— not just physically, but ment- 
increased. I became a better wife, a 



Registry members are no excep 
lion. In fact, only 9 percent maintain 
lien reduced weight without regular 
physical activity. Rut it doesn't have 
to be torture. Walking is the most 
popular activity (chosen by more 
than 75 percent), followed by cycling, 
weight lifting, aerobics, running and 
staii climbing. On average, registry 
women burn about 2,545 calories per 
week through physical activity. That 
equals roughly an hour of moderate- 
intensity exercise, such as brisk walk 
ing. every daw 

What's more, the percentage of 
women in the registry who lift 
weights is more than double the rate 
ol weight-lifting women in the gener- 
al population. This doesn't necessari- 
ly mean pumping heavy iron. Many 
strength-training experts suggest us- 
ing smaller weights and higher repe 
titions to tone up. However, it's not 
clear to what extent weight training 
might be helping registry partici- 
pants keep the weight oil. although it 
may slightly increase metabolic rate 
by building additional muscle. says 
Dr. Hcshka. 

life ins| Knowing you 

need to exercise and actually doing it 
are two very different things, lot 
Heathei llmless. 2!>. part of the so 
1 u t ion was joining an all female 
health club in fort Collins. Col- 
orado. "The women there weie so 
supportive. If I'd miss three or lour 
days, they'd saw "Where have you 
been.' Are you all right?' It was a 
small, intimate environment, and 
they cared about health-not appear- 
ances," says Hui less, who has since 
moved to Emeryville, California, 
where she works with disabled kids. 
Although she didn't ever officially go 
on a diet, she dropped 65 pounds 
and has kept il off for three years 
with consistent exercise. i ontinued 



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AMOUNT OF FAT 
"Despite vvlial i lie did books icll you, 
.1 i aloi ic is a i aloi ic," says l)i. I ,cvil 
sky. "However, l>\ eating fa I you're 
i mistiming a high concent] alion ol 
i aloi ies .u one nine." In a stud) ,u 1 1 u 
National Institutes of I Icallh C ilinii al 
t Icnici Nutrition I )epai i mcnl, in 
lkthesda, Maryland, women whose 
(at intake was less than ' > pen cnl ol 
iheii loial i aloi ies kept nil the greal 
cm share ol iheii lost weighl three 
yeai s latei 

Similarly, registry memhers upon 
getting 2 I pen. enl ol iheii ealoi ies 
horn I. ii. alilu nigh the at (mil number 
m. i\ i i I >c< ause sell repoi led 

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"YOU HAVE TO DO IT FOR YOURSELF" 

Kim Silva (left), 38, lost 105 pounds, primarily on Weight Watchers, 
and she has kept it off for more than two years. She lives in Atlanta 
with her husband and two children, ages 11 and 17, and now works part 
time I "i Wi light Watchers. She's 5 feet 8 inches and weighs 155 pounds. V. 
SCARED SKINNY "When I got to 260 pounds, my blood pressure 
wenl sky high, and my doctor put me on medication. I realized that if, 
I kept 1 1 viii'i in. I eating the way I was, I wasn't going to be around fo 
my kid-- I wasn'l happy, <inc) I didn't want to live like that anymore. 
DOWNSIZED "After I lost the first 40 pounds, my blood pressure 
returned to normal. Now I weai a size 8. I had to buy everything 
new— now I can wear all those cute little styles I always wanted." 
MAINTENANCE PLAN "I eat a lot more fruits and vegetables and less 
meal I pop on the scale first thing every morning, and I work out 
fivi day: a wei -k eithei walking or tal- hg an aerobics class." 
WISE WORDS "You have to lose weight for yourself, not because your 
doctor or your spou e asked you to. You have to decide that you've 
had it with being fat. If you don't change 
permanently, you'll end up exactly where 
you were before." 

THE NEW ME "People say they hardly 
recognize me. I'm still the same person, but 
losing weight has given me the confidence 
to try new things. For example, I've always 
wanted to run the Peachtree, a 10k road 
ere in Atlanta. This year, I did it!" 




less I. u ih. in most people cat, which is 
somewhere around 35 to III percent, 
hui ii isn't prohibitive!) low." The av 

lal ml. ike ol holh groups is two 
oi three times highci ili.m the 10 pci 
cent oi so recommended in very low 
lal diets, yet it's nearly hall the typical 
l.u content ol high-protein, low-carb 
diets, which tan lop 50 percent. 

Although she 
losi 90 pounds on the Atkins diet, 
Jennifer Edmonds, 33, has main 
laincd hci weight loss foi the past 
three years in anti-Atkins fashion l>\ 
keeping a close eye on hci l.u intake. 
'With Atkins. I could ca( a lol and 
feel satisfied and still lose weight. I 
got the results I wanted, bu( it's not a 
diet you can stay on for life," says I'd 



monds, who works in hanking in 
Cleveland, Ohio. "1 want a lifestyle 
where I can incorporate everything; 
il .i hiiilul.i\ is coming up, I want to 
be able to have a piece oi cake with- 
out beating mysell up over it. Be 
cause 1 elect to eat carbs, watching 
niv fat intake is a w.i\ to maintain 
m\ weighl." 

3. REMEMBER THAT 
CALORIES COUNT 
On the other hand, "many registry 
members haven't jusl gone low l.u 
.ind then not worried about calories,' 
cautions Dr. Hill. Aboul II percent 
actually counl die calories thev con- 
sume. As with l.u intake, registry 
member estimates ol eating only 












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about 1,38] calories pel day arc prob 
al)ly inaccurate. "Any time you ask 
people to count their calorics, they 
underestimate," Dr. Hill says. Some 
studies have lound that such calcula- 
tions can be several hundred calorics 
shy of the actual daily number. Still. 
the fact that people can estimate .it all 
is revealing. "The point is. they're 
paying attention to calories, not jusi 
diet composition or lood group per 
centages." says Dr. Hill. Low lat 
foods, lor example, are often still high 
in calorics. 

Yet high lat. high protein plans that 
restrict carbohydrates aren't necessai 
ilv a long-term solution either, despite 
a growing number oi reports that such 
diets can result in rapid weight loss. 
"There's considerably less evidence 
lor weight maintenance on low-carb 
diets than there is loi weight loss." 
says Dena Bravata, M.D., a senioi re 
search scientist at Stanford Universi 
ty's Center foi Primary Care and 
Outcomes Research, in California, 
and author ol a recent review ol stud 
ics on low c aih diets. 

"Studies show (hat people who 
have the greatest long-term success 
on low-carbohydrate diets do so !><■ 
cause they lesinci calories," Dr. Bra 
vata says. As [ennifei Edmonds did. 
they probably compensate lor the ad- 
ditional calories they gel when ihc\ 
Start eating more carbohydrates l>\ 
culling hack on ihc lal and c aloi ic 
lad( ii proteins. For the record, less 
than 1 percent ol registry members 
eat i low ! arbohydrate diet. 
Real-life inspiration Michclc Si 
mon, 38. lost 30 pounds eight years 
ago using the low lal. mostly vegetal 
ian eating plan outlined in Dr. Dean 
Ornish's hook. Eat More, Weigh L:s\. 
She losi another 10 pounds alter gi\ 
ing up most packaged, processed 

loods. Bui even on a < o\ 



Get Your Family 

Donna Boudreau, 39, has 
had company on the path 
to her ideal weight every si 
of the way. Her husband, two 
teenage children and even the 
family dog were literally by her 
side as she walked her way 
from 203 pounds to 140 
pounds. And they have stayed 
there, exercising with her and 
encouraging her, as she's kept it 
off for the past two years. 

Support is crucial for people 
trying to lose weight or keep it 
off, say experts. And studies 
have found that family members 
can have a positive effect. "I was 
determined to get control of my 
weight, and the support of my 
family made me even more 
determined," says Boudreau, a 
municipal clerk in Vassalboro, 
Maine. She said it made a big 
difference to have her family 



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A/ith her as she exercised. "It 
became part of the routine, so 

joing wasn't an option," she 
says. "There was no sabotage, 
no one ever said, 'Oh, it's too 
cold; let's not go today.' " 

In addition to joining her on 
her long daily walks, her 
husband, Jon, praised her 
progress, her son, Michael, 
worked out with her on a weight 
bench in the basement, and her 
daughter, Sara, helped her make 
healthier food choices. 

"There are many types of 
support," says Howard Rankin, 
Ph.D., psychological adviser to 
TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly, 
a nonprofit weight-loss support 
group). "The crucial one is to 
help you keep your perspective, 
to anchor you and keep you 
from sliding off the successful 
path you're on." —Chryss Cada 



I low Emotions Maki; You Fat 

hat's the first thing you roach for when you feel discouraged, 
stressed, lonely or worried? If you're like most women, it's not a set 
of weights or the phone to call a sympathetic friend. More likely, it's 
cookies, chips or ice cream. There's a biological reason we reach for sweets, 
not broccoli, when we ,'s Elizabeth Somer, R.D., in her book 

Food & Mood. "The very taste of something sweet on the tongue," she says, 
"immediately i endorphins, our body's natural morphine-like 

chemicals that can produce feelings &f euphoria and satisfaction." 

y: How Pcopl te Mood with Food and Exercise, 

Robert Thayer, Ph i gy professor at California State University, in 

Long Beach, says he b king the emotional eating cycle 

is finding some way to atigue or bad moods other than 

eating Exercise, of cot best options. For motivation, he 

vou try to w good (and energized) you felt the last 

workout. If th t work, distract yourself from the 

ippy, such as watching a 
hy novel— or buying an article of 

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low fat, plant based diet, she has to 
be vigilant. "I've never been one to 
count calories, bin I do watch portion 
sizes" says Simon, founder and direc- 
tor of the Center for Informed Food 
Choices, in Oakland, California, a 
nonprofit group that advocates a diet 
based on plants and whole foods. She 
says that eating out can be a chal- 
lenge, because portion sizes are so 
huge, 'i try to remember to eat slow- 
ly so my body has time to recognize 
when I'm full." 

4. DO IT BY THE NUMBERS 
"Some weight-management experts 
saw 'Forget the scale-don't wciiih 
yourself.'" says Dr. Hill. "Well, suc- 
cessful pople in the- registry weigh 
themselves frequently. That isn't sur 
prising to me, because if youi goal is 
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"IT'S A SELF-ESTEEM BOOST" 

Zoanne Snider (left). 40, is a registered nurse who's currently a stay 
at-home mom in Poland, Ohio, with her husband and two girls, age: 
5 and 9. More than three years ago, she lost 82 pounds (in about a year 
on the Atkins diet She is 5 feet 5 inches and weighs 123 pounds. 
LIFE-CHANGING MOMENT "After I had my second daughter, my 
weight topped 200 pounds. I remember walking up the stairs, and 
when I got to the top, I could hardly breathe. Something clicked, and 
I knew it was time to take better care of myself." 
SLIM AND TRIM "Every morning, I get on the scale, and that's a 
motivator to me. I'm proud that I've lost the weight and that I'm 
healthy My cholesterol is about 170 and my triglycerides are about 
88, which is phenomenal." 

THE REST OF HER LIFE "The majority of my diet now is salads, 
vegetables and lean meats such as chicken and turkey. I rarely eat red 
meat, and I've even gone to reduced-fat cheese. I eat lots of berries 
and nuts— peanuts, pecans, macadamia nuts. Those are my snacks. I 
also exercise every day, even if it's just a 
walk around the block. I do weight training 
three days a week, and I walk outside when 
it's nice or on my treadmill in winter." 
THE PAYOFF "It's an incredible self-esteem 
boost. I'm much more energetic and 
motivated to try new things. Today we took 
the kids hiking, and I climbed a tree with 
them. I never would have done that before!' 




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going to know if you're doing that it 
you don't weigh yourself?" I low of- 
ten registry members step on the 
.scale varies. Nearly half weigh in at 
least once a daw and about a third 
check the scale at least weekly. "Don't 
worry about the daily fluctuations of 
two or three pounds— that's just fluid." 
says Dr. Levitsky. "Watch the general 
trend and try to keep it steady." 
Real-life inspiration: For Melissane 
Farm. 35. of Fortland. Oregon, who 
lost 81 pounds nearly five years ago 
on Weight Watchers, switching from 
weekly to monthly weigh ins alter 
she reached her goal has worked. "I 
Find it helpful to keep track, but I 
don't want to obsess about it." she 
says, adding that she is particularly 



careful to weigh herself before and af- 
ter a vacation, so she can tackle any 
small gains. "A lot of people don't 
want to get on the scale after a vaca- 
tion, but you have to remember that 
the scale is not the place where you 
gain the weight." she says. "You al- 
ready weigh whatever you weigh, 
and the first step to dealing with it is 
to admit you gained weight." 

5. BRING ON BREAKFAST 
Not only is eating breakfast a com- 
mon trait of weight maintainers in 
the registry (78 percent eat breakfast 
daily), but a separate study by re- 
searchers at the University of 
Massachusetts Medical School, in 
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"LOSING WEIGHT EMPOWERED ME" 

Magdalena Bene (left), 38, lost 51 pounds on the Jenny Craig 
program three years ago. She recently started her own business 
as a diet and exercise consultant to stay-at-home moms. Bene is 
divorced and lives in Pasadena, California, with her 13-year-old 
daughter. She is 5 feet 8 inches and weighs 140 pounds. 
THE YO-YO YEARS "I was a chubby little girl, so I starved myself to 
stay thin as a teen. I put on more weight in college, and from then 
on, I was constantly yo-yoing up and down. You name it— I tried 
every diet. About four months before I turned 35, I was cleaning out 
my closet and realized that my size 14 suits were getting really tight. 
I thought, I don't want to be heavy and miserable." 
WORKING OUT WORKS "I upped my gym workout to six days a week, 
did 30 to 40 minutes of cardio every day— biking or walking— and I 
worked out with weights. For the first time in my life, I was both 
exercising and following an eating plan; and the weight just melted off." 
THE LONG VIEW "It's easy to keep the pounds off because I still work 
out four to five days a week and monitor my 
eating— but on Saturday I give myself a cheat 
day and eat whatever I want!" 
THIN AND HAPPY "Losing weight 
empowers you to feel confident and to do 
things you've never done before. When I 
see someone whose weight is holding her 
back, I want to wrap my arms around her 
and say, 'If I can change, you can change.' 



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people who regularly skipped break 
fast were 1.5 times more likely to be 
obese than those who usually ate a 
morning meal. People in the study 
actually consumed more calorics on 
the days that they skipped breakfast. 

Sonic researchers speculate that 
skipping meals might lead to greater 
hunger, which in turn causes overeat- 
ing later. By that rationale, you may 
actually consume fewer calorics by 
eating frequent small meals. Registry 
members tend to eat between four 
and five meals or snacks every day 
and indulge in the occasional meal 
out. eating fast food about once a 
week, on average, and dining m oth- 
er types of restaurants about two to 
three times a week. 

"When I was 
at my heaviest, I never ate breakfast. I 
was an evenins; eater." says Louisa 




Egcn. 11. a dental hygienist in Sunny- 
vale, California. She started eating 
breakfast as part oi the program rec- 
ommended by fake Pounds Oil Sen- 
sibly (POPS, a nonprofit weight-loss 
support group) and eventually lost 
135 pounds, which she has kept off 
lor 1 1 years. "Breakfast is part ol eat 
nig a more consistent, balanced diet 
throughout the day versus waiting 
until you're ravenous to eat. And I'm 
less tempted by the goodies around 
the office!" Her current morning fa- 
vorite is a shake made with a banana, 
berries and soy protein powder. 

A bottom-line lesson from the reg- 
istry is that persistence pays: The vast 
majority ol registry members had pre- 
viously tried and failed to lose weight. 



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But ultimately, they did succeed, and 
many now say that it takes less effort 
to maintain the weight loss as time 
passes. "That's positive because it sug- 
gests that if you can keep the weight 
off lor three years, your chances of 
continuing to keep it off go up." Dr. 
Hill says. "We started the registry to 
show that there are a lot of people who 
can successfully lose weight. There's 
no simple diet plan that's suddenly go- 
ing to make it easy. It's hard-but al- 
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stay fit and others do not. If someone succeeds in 
keeping weight off for five, 10, 20 or more years, they 
live by carefully planned goals. 

Writing down specific, vividly envisioned goals is an 
absolute requirement for success. With this strategy, you 
will achieve your aim because you will know precisely 



what it is that you want. You will be able to see it, feel it 
and experience it in your mind. 

Express a realistic goal that can be measured. When 
you can measure an outcome, your chances of success 
go way up. There is reinforcement and motivating power 
that comes with seeing yourself succeed. However, you 
must be realistic. Do not set weight goals that are 
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Describe your measurable goal (to lose X number of pounds or to walk X number of steps per day using a 
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Express ycur goal in terms of specific behaviors and feelings. The most effective and motivating goals are those 
that describe behavioral change— in other words, what you plan to do. Also, think about how you hope to feel 
when you reach your goal. 



Describe what you will do (the behavior or actions you must begin, change or stop in order to lose weight): 



Describe how you want to feel (proud of your new shape, more energetic, at peace with your body and so forth): 



Unless you attach a schedule to your goals, they become nothing more than dreams 
or fantasies floating around in your head. 

The thought of losing 50 pounds can be so 
overwhelming that it is paralyzing, but it begins to look doable when broken down. 

Plan to check in with a trusted, loyal person at least once a week to report on 
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U.S. Still, some patents don't see that 
a problem exists-at least not where 
their own child is concerned. 

A recent study from the Centers 
for Disease Control and Prevention 
(CDC) found that one-third of all 
mothers thought their overweight 
children were the right weight, al- 
though moms are more likely to rec- 



ognize the problem in their daughters 
than in their sons. One theory: 
These days, you have to be fatter to 
look Fat to most people. "The popula- 
tion has become more overweight, so 
what looks normal has changed." 
says Stephen Daniels. M.D., medical 
director lor the pediatric weight man- 
agement center at Cincinnati Chil- 
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Daniels suggests asking your pediatri- 
cian to calculate your child's body- 
mass index (also known as BMI-for- 
Age). Both the CDC and the Ameri-I 
can Academy of Pediatrics say that 
the BMI is a good way to gauge if 
your child is overweight. This should 
be done by a doctor because there's 
no simple formula to calculate this at 
home, as there is for adults. 

The growing obesity problem, of 
course, is more than an aesthetic one. 
Overweight kids are also more likely 
to have low self-esteem, and The Jour- 
nal of the American Medical Association re- 
ported that an obese child's quality of 
life is similar to that of a child diag- 
nosed with cancer. They're also likely 
to keep their excess pounds into 
adulthood, making them more likely 
to suffer from heart disease, diabetes 
and other long-term health problems. 
In fact, doctors predict this generation 
of obese children may have a shorter 
life expectancy than their parents. 

Diabetes As more children become 
obese, more are being diagnosed 
with type 2 diabetes, which used to 
be just an adult disease, according to 
the National Institutes of Health. 

In type 1, the pancreas stops pro- 
ducing enough insulin. In type 2, the 
body doesn't make enough or cannot 
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are considering a radical 
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Though some doctors say the 
procedure is safe, others think 
it's too risky for young patients. 

The surgery, which 
reattaches the intestines to the 
stomach after it has been 
reduced in size, is a high-risk 
procedure for anyone: Death 
results in 1 percent of cases. 
Afterward, patients can eat 
only a small amount, and of the 
food they do eat, fewer calories 
and nutrients are absorbed. 

It's this nutritional shortfall 
that critics say could cause 
nutritional deficiencies in teens 



While type 1 strikes children and 
young adults, type 2 often results 
from obesity and can be prevented 
or delayed. Both types can eventu- 
ally result in blindness, kidney fail- 
ure, heart disease and sometimes 
premature death. 

Symptoms of diabetes include re- 
curring gum or skin infections, cuts 
and bruises that are slow to heal, in- 
creased thirst, frequent urination 
and tingling in the hands and feet, 
or there may be no symptoms at all. 
Have your child tested if he is ovei 
weight and has any of the above- 
symptoms or has a family history of 
diabetes. Even if your child is diag- 
nosed with pre-diabetes (impaired 
glucose tolerance i. changes in diet 
(such as limiting starchy, sugary 
and processed foods) and increasing 
exercise can go a long way toward 
preventing full-blown diabetes. 

High Cholesterol A shocking 10 
percent of teens have a cholesterol 
count above 200 mg/dl. or a low 



ieading to anemia and 
osteoporosis, and may impact 
growth and sexual 
development. "We know little 
about the long-term effects of 
this surgery in children 
Sarah Barlow, M.D., assistant 
professor of pediatrics at Saint 
Louis University. 

But doctors who have 
operated on severely obese 
teens say the benefits may 
outweigh the risks. "These kids 
suffer from hypertension, high 
cholesterol and diabetes," says 
Louis Flancbaum, M.D., chief 
of the bariatric surgery division 
at St. Luke's-Roosevelt Hospital, 
in New York City. "If a kid is 
morbidly obese, his life is 
already in danger, so why wait?" 



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gling under the covers after a long 
day. But lately the Portland. Oregon, 
interior designer finds herself lying 
awake, hour after hour, unable to 
turn off the worries buzzing around 
her like flies: Should she let her son. 
Nick, continue playing soccer and 
taking piano lessons, even though all 
the homework he has seems to be 
stressing him out? What if her unreli- 
able ex-husband doesn't take the kids 
this weekend as planned, and she 
can't get caught up on work and 
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it. She was preoccupied about her 
first-grader who is not yet reading. 
about her preschooler who has 
chronic ear infections and may soon 
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Is it normal to worry so much? hi 
a word, yes, says Edward Hallowell, 
M.D.. author of Worry: Hope and Help 
jor a Common Condition. "Most people 
worry about small stuff all the time." 
he says. "Will I be on time? Will it 
hurt? Did I offend her? Was I good 
enough at that meeting? Can anyone 
see through my dress? We also wor- 
rv about big stuff— deadi. the meaning 
of life, tragedy, loss— but in terms of 



106 ' S' HOME .. ■ JANUARY 2004 



sheer volume and minutes spent wor- 
rying, little things snag us the most." 

Linda Sapadin. Ph.D.. a psycholo- 
gist and author of Master Your Fears: 
How to Triumph Over Your Worries and 
Get on With Your Life, says she believes 
it's not only the amount of worry that 
matters so much: it's the intensity of 
it. and whether it's balanced with mo- 
ments when, because you're so hap- 
py, or entertained, or absorbed in a 
project or passion, your worries are 
the furthest thing from your mind. "If 
you take your kids to an amusement 
park." she says, "and all you can do is 
think about them getting hurt on the 
rides, that would be an example of 



is treatable with therapy or chugs. 

Fortunately, most people's worric 
tall into the harmless ran, 
doesn't make them any less annoy- 
ing-especially when th nines 

keep us awake. Women are more like- 
ly than men to say they have difficulty 
falling asleep at night because then 
mental wheels are spinning, says a 
study by the Better Sleep Council, a 
research group in Alexandria. Vir- 
ginia. Worrying may be most com- 
mon at night: two-thirds of .Americans 
say they have difficulty falling asleep 
due to stress, according to the council 
That may be simply because there are 
no clamoring children, ringing phones 



Worryin 




vour worrv s;ettiii2; the better of you." 
A certain amount of worn' may be 
helpful— even productive. For exam 
pie. if you decide to keep your sensi- 
tive 7-year-old out of the funhouse to 
head off nightmares based on similar 
past experiences, or if your concern 
about being harshly judged on a 
work project propels you to put in 
productive extra effort, those are in- 
stances of worry put to good use. 

But other worries may be a waste 
of encrgy-or a symptom of some 
thing serious. For example, extreme 
worrying almost every day for six 
months or more mav signal general- 
ized anxiety disorder (GAD). "This 
toxic kind of worry feels awful." says 
Dr. Hallowell. "It slows you down, re- 
duces your effectiveness at everything 
you do and can make you physical!) 
ill in many ways." GAD. the most 
common psychiatric affliction in the 
U.S., affects 4 million Americans but 

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or people barging into their office. 
says Steven Pinker. Ph.D.. professoi 
of psychology at Harvard University. 

in Cambridge. Massachusetts, and 
author of How the Muni Works. "When 
the mind isn't preoccupied with 
minute to minute concerns, it rumi 
nates over longer term issues." he 
savs. "Bedtime is one of those lew 
times when we have nothing else dis- 
trading us " 

Nagging anxieties can do more 
than keep us awake. "Emotion related 
parts of the brain can influence the 
function oi every other part of the 
brain." says Robert Sapolsky. Ph.D.. 
professor of neuroscience at Stanford 
University .School of Medicine, in 
California, and author ol l\ 

. In fact, researchers 
haw found that the brail doing 

its most intense worrying. 
make physical pain hurt more, thanks 
to chemical changes. "Moreover.' he 



"emotional responses in the 

changes elsewhere 

..i the body, such as the release of 

adrenaline, which in turn can alter 

how well the brain does its job." 

W Trat's more, worry often leads to 
stress, and stress often leads you to 
the doctor's office. According to the 
American Institute of Stress, in 
Yonkers. Xcw York, it has been esti- 
mated that 75 to 90 percent of all vis- 
its to primary-care phvsicians are for 
stress-related problems. Dr. Hallowell 
says that the medical miseries that ac- 
company out-of-control worry can in- 
clude headaches, musculoskeletal 
aches and pains, rashes and even 
heart attacks and strokes. 

You don't have to let your worries 
overwhelm you. though. "There are 
so many sale and effective treatments 
these days for worrying." says Dr. 
Hallowell. many of which are simple 
things you can try at home. To ease 
your anxieties, try the following 
calming remedies : 

If you're fret 
ting about a work project, for exam- 
ple, ask trusted co-workers how they 
think it's going. You may be tearing 
out your hair while everyone else (in- 
cluding your boss thinks things arc 
chugging right along. "Wasteful wor- 
ry is usually based on lack of infor- 
mation or incorrect information." says 
Dr. Hallowell. It you're still worrying, 
come up with a plan that breaks 
down the problem into manageable 
tasks rather than the enormous. 
stressful chore it lias become in your 
mind. Once you accomplish that first 
manageable bit of the project or prob- 
lem you fear, the worry should abate. 

Sometimes it can 
be useful, and even therapeutic, to 
transform your worries into some 
dung proactive. If you're i ontini id 



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worrying th u your teenagi is not do- 
se hoo! unwilling 
to talk to you ibout it. don't just stew. 
Pick : make an ap- 
tment to see his teachers. If 
you're worried about saving enough 
monev to send your kids to college. 
let alone saving enough for your re- 
tirement, sign up for an investment 
seminar that can give you strategies. 
Friends, too. can help you turn your 
worries into solutions. "Talking with 
friends who are upbeat and optimistic 
can help." sav Dr. Sapadin. "But talk 
ing with friends who create gloom- 
and-doom scenarios can actually hin- 
der. Choose friends who will calm 
down, not rev up. your worries." 

Because 
physical exercise reduces tension. 
enhances a sense of well-being and 



improves the ability to sleep, it's great 
for worriers. "During exercise, the 
chemical beta-endorphin pours out of 
the pituitary gland, building up to lev- 
els in the bloodstream around the 30- 
minutc mark that will cause actual 
pain-relieving effects and feelings of 
euphoria," says Dr. Sapolsky. Of 
course, everyone can benefit from ex- 
ercise, but Dr. Hallowell especially 
recommends that worriers get exer- 
cise at least even.- other day. 

Whether it's spending time with your 
friend who always looks on the bright 
side, going for a walk with your tail- 
wagging dog or tinkering around in 
your backyard flower garden, make 
sure you're frequently around people 
and involved in activities that take 
your mind off your problems. Susan 



Jeffers. Ph.D.. author of Embracing Un 
certainty, believes in using whateve: 
tools you have to quiet the negative 
chatter in your mind and promote! 
peace, whether it's trying on lipsticld 
at the mall, indulging in a massage 01 
going to a movie. Visual cues can? 
work. too. "I have not-to-worry re- 
minders all over the place." she says. 
Her favorites include positive affirma-j 
tions such as "Whatever Happens. 1*11 
Handle It." a sisrn that reads "Don'ti 
Postpone Joy." and a statue of a laugh- 1 
ins; Buddha. "He reminds me not to 
take it all so seriously." she says. 

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about your anxieties in a journal may 
help relieve them, says Dr. Sapadin. 
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adapted from The Artist s Way, by Julia 
Cameron, an author and artist who 
lectures on spirituality and creativity. 
Describe yourself at 85. physically 
and emotionally. How do you get 
along with your spouse and family? 
What do you do that you enjoy? 
Write down everything in detail. 
Next, write a letter from yourself at 
age 85 to yourself at your current 
age. What would you tell yourself.' 
What dreams would you encourage? 
What mistakes would von forgive? 
What did the younger you worry 
about that the older you now sees 
was a waste of time? This exercise 
helps you get a perspective on which 
worries won't matter in the long run. 
If you're stressing 
when sou should be sleeping, and ii 



you believe in divine powers, Tamyra 
Bourgeois. Ph.D.. a psychotherapist 
in Baton Rouge. Louisiana, and au 
tlior ol Hon to R 

Emotionally fntellig suggests 

keeping a "worry envelope" 1>\ the 
side of the bed. jot your worn 
scrap of paper, suck it in the envelope 
and leave it for whatever higher pow- 
er you believe in to solve while you 
sleep, she advises. Although no one is 
sure how it works, "mam clients re- 
port that they wake up refreshed." Dr. 
Bourgeois says, "and have somehow 
discovered the answei to then con 

Even withe nit di\ ine ini 

can have restorai ts. In 

i 
Deirdre Barrett. Ph.D holo- 

srist m Cambridge . Mass 



cites do/ens ol inventors, artists and 
other creative types who have found 
not only solutions, but also fame and 
fortune, by using a similar exercise 
in which they consult the wisdom of 
then subconscious minds. She sug- 
gests placing objects associated with 
the problem on your night table. 
along with a pad on which you've 
written down the cause ol the worn. 
Visualize yourself dreaming about 
the problem, then tell yourself to let 
it go as you fall asleep. Upon awak 
ening. she savs. immediately write 
down the dreams you remember and 
am new insights that have arisen. 
You may be amazed at what sola 
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ENTERTAINING 




Spice things up this Super Bowl 
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style part) that'll make even non 
sports fans stand up and cheer 

SUPER BOWL, SUPER 

I'm both Michael Levy, .1 die hard football fan 
since high school, and his wilt-. Bonny Woll 
(known to hci friends as Chili Chei 
Supreme), ol Washington, D.C., Supci Howl 
Sunday is .ill aboul enjoying their two favorite 
things: watching the biggesl football game of 
the vc.11 with li icnds and chowing down on 
drln ions lix.is style chili. "It's the easicsl pai 
iv ever," says Wolf. "We already have the en 
tcrtainmenl, and chili is .1 simple to make 
1 rowel plcas< 1 

Woll. .1 lood writer, and Levy, .1 professor, 
have Wctii celebrating diis marriage ol fun, lood 
.ind football with i\u.\i friends and neighbors 
.ind tlicii kids I01 the last l.i years. Woll says 
thai because dun Supci Howl party is an infoi 

mal affair, she docsn 1 worry aboul having an exact head count. Instead, she makes .1 
i/.c pot ol chili so she can be sure there's always enough, including left< ivers. 
One ol the he. nines ol a one pot meal is thai you can do SO much ahead of 
time, says Wolf. "Chili is actually bcttei once the flavors have had the chance to 
blend so I 1 make ii .1 couple ol days in advance and keep ii refrigerated un 

nl the 1 ol the pai i\." 

A leu d Supci Bowl Sunday, Woll goes to the party store and buys cute 

football-then icd "I <^ei fife size loot ha lis made from papei that fold out in 

ihiee dimensions I. ioard, a\u\ football confetti lot the tables," < ontinued 




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says Wolf. "They're a bit hokey but this 
fun. not sophistication." 

The couple offer guests beer. wine, 
margaritas and sou drinks in the kitchen 
as thev arrive, and then, as kickoff ap- 
proaches, guests who want to focus on 
the game move to the TV room in the 
basement, where chips and dips are al- 
rcadv set out. "The only strict rule." says 
Wolf, "is that the TV room is for watch- 
ins; football, and onlv watching football. 
no unrelated chitchat allowed." 

Guests who would rather gab than an- 
alyze plays are encouraged to gather in 
other parts of the house, such as the 
kitchen or dining room, where decks of 
cards and board games such as Taboo. 
Trivial Pursuit and Scrabble are at the 
read}". One bunch of friends may chat in 
the kitchen where the chili is bubbling 
over low heat, while another group may 
get a game of Taboo under way. When 
the first whoops and hollers waft up 
from the basement, it sismals the besrin- 
ning of the action downstairs. 

Before halftime. Wolf and a couple of 
friends set out the food. While she uses 
her ochre ceramic plates and collection of 
multicolored neckerchiefs as napkins, 
subbing sturdy plastic plates and thick pa- 
per napkins in bright colors would work 
just as well and make clean-up a snap. 

When the game ends. Levy brings 
guests upstairs for dessert. Wolf doubles 
the Chocolate Sheet Cake recipe so she 
can ice two cakes. One she designs like a 
football field by coverine it in green icine 
and piping the yard lines in white icing 
out of a tube. "I couldn't resist these little 
plastic football players and goalposts." 
she says of the figures. "The cake is a bit 
pie love it. and I love it 
nek and delicious." 

ly over a win. or bitter 
ovei rid Wolf agiee that 

nothing is beti chocolate cake and 

post-game cha h good friends. 

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Throw a Party Like a Pro 

Even casual get-togethers need guidelines so everyone can 
enjoy the party to the fullest. Here are some tips from Suzanne 
Williamson, co-author of Entertaining for Dummies: 



Make the start and end times of 
the party clear to your guests 
when you invite them. You don't 
want people coming and going 
during the game. 

Make sure your TV is in a 
separate area from where you're 



serving food, so people who don't 
want to watch won't compete 
with the noise from the set. 

To fit with the Southwestern 
theme, decorate your tabie with 
little cacti, which you can then 
give away as party favors. 



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Total prep time: 20 minutes 

2 medium tomatoes, diced 
1 small onion, finely chopped 
2 tablespoons fresh lime juice 
2 tablespoons chopped fresh 
cilantro 

1 garlic clove, pressed 
!/2 teaspoon salt 

V- teaspoon cayenne pepper 
Va teaspoon cumin 

2 large, ripe Haas avocados, pitted 
and peeled 

Tortilla chips or toasted pita bread 
wedges, optional 

In a small bowl, combine diced 
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cilantro. garlic, salt, cayenne pepper 
and cumin until well blended. In a 
separate bowl, coarsely mash avocados 
with a fork or potato masher. Stir in 
the tomato mixture. Serve with tortilla 
chips or toasted pita bread wedges, if 
desired. Makes about 2 cups. 

Per 1-tablespoon serving: 30 calories, 
2.5 g total fat, .5 g saturated fat, mg 
cholesterol, 39 mg sodium, 2 g 
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Total prep time: 15 minutes 
Cooking time: about 4 hours 

Vz cup masa harina* 
Vi cup chili powder 
5 pounds lean beef chuck, cut 

into 3 /a-inch cubes 
Va cup olive oil 
2'/2 cups beer 
21/2 cups beef broth 
3 garlic cloves, pressed 
2 teaspoons coriander 
2 teaspoons cumin 
2 teaspoons dried oregano 
'/2 teaspoon salt 

1. Combine masa harina and chili 
powder in a large bowl. Add beef and 
toss to coat. Heat oil in a large Dutch 
oven over medium heat. Add 'i of the 
beef and cook until browned on all 
sides, about 6 minutes. Transfer to 
another bowl. Repeat process with 
remaining beef. 

2. Add all the beef to Dutch oven and 
stir in remaining ingredients. Reduce 
heat to low and cook, covered, until 
meat is extremely tender, 3 to 4 hours, 
stirring often. Makes 10 cups. 

Per 1-cup serving: 445 calories, 23.5 g 
total fat, 7 g saturated fat, 148 mg 
cholesterol, 618 mg sodium, 11 g 
carbohydrates, 46 g protein, 63 mg 
calcium, 3 g fiber 

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Prep time: 20 minutes 
Baking time: about 20 minutes 

1 cup butter or margarine 

1 cup water 

V2 cup unsweetened cocoa 

2 cups all-purpose flour 
2 cups granulated sugar 

1/2 teaspoon salt 

V: cup buttermilk 

2 large eggs 

1 teaspoon baking soda 

1 teaspoon vanilla extract 

1 teaspoon cinnamon 



Frosting: 
5 tablespoons butter 

1 box (1 lb.) confectioners' sugar | 
5 tablespoons heavy cream 

2 teaspoons vanilla extract 

1. Make take: Heat oven to 375°F. In a 
large saucepan, bring butter, water and 
cocoa to a boil, stirring occasionally 
with a wire whisk. Remove from heat 
and stir in flour, sugar and salt. Beat on 
medium speed with an electric mixer. 1 
minute. Add buttermilk, eggs, baking 
soda, vanilla and cinnamon and beat at 
medium speed until well blended. 1 
minute "Jnore. Pour batter into an 
ungreased 15xl0xl-inch jelly-roll pan. 
Bake until a toothpick inserted into die 
center of the cake comes out clean, 
about 18 to 20 minutes. Let cool 
completely on a wire rack. 

2. Make frosting: In a medium mixing 
bowl, beat butter with an electric 
mixer on medium speed until light and 
fluffy. Beat in sugar a little at a time on 
low speed, then beat in remaining 
ingredients until frosting is fluffy and 
spreadablc. (If frosting is too thick, you 
may need to add one or two additional 
tablespoons of cream to attain desired 
consistency.) Spread frosting over cake 
in one even layer and cut into 24 
squares. Makes 24 servings. 

Per serving: 290 calories, 12 g total fat, 7.5 
g saturated fat, 49 mg cholesterol, 145 mg 
sodium, 45 g carbohydrates, 2 g protein 
18 mg calcium, 1 g fiber <J 

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As you page through this month's issue, 
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"My Life as a Mom" debuted last 
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everyday foibles. Start laughing 
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of graduating from West Point" said Julie, a 26-year-old, stay- 
at-home mom. "Cadets have to be single. So when we found 
out I was pregnant Matts freshman year and decided to get 
married., he had to drop out. He complained bitterly about it 
for the first two years of our marriage. Now he no longer 
gripes, he just avoids me. He's out late every night with his 
work buddies. Half the time he comes home at 2 A.M.! 



"I'm so sad that we've ended up 
like this. We used to be so much in 
love. We'd been dating a year when 
Matt got his acceptance letter to West 
Point. I was a junior in high school 
and he was a senior. We'd already 
talked about our future-how he'd 
become an Army officer. I'd be a 
teacher, and we'd raise our children 
in exotic places all over the world. 

"Then, when he was home for 
Christmas break, we were careless and 
had sex without a condom. Shordv af- 
ter he returned to school, I missed my 
period. When I broke the news to 
Matt that I was pregnant, he was 
great. He didn't even want to consider 
an abortion or adoption. He said he 
loved the baby and me more than he 
loved West Point. He immediately 
asked me to marry him. and I said yes. 

"When I to >arents .Mom is 



a full-time homemaker: Dad is a 
lawyer), they were supportive, but I 
know they were also disappointed. 
They wished I had waited to start a 
family till after I graduated from col- 
lege like my older sister. Matts par- 
ents were really upset about his 
dropping out of West Point. His dad. 
now an insurance salesman, used to 
be in the Army himself; his mom is a 
high-school receptionist. 

"Matt and I had a simple family 
wedding following my high school 
graduation. I was 17, and he was 18. 
Megan was born three months later, 
just before Matt started at a state col- 
lege nearby. My parents made an 
apartment for us in their basement 
and helped us with finances. I 
thought everythmg would be fine. 

"I couldn't have been more wrong. 
As I sat home alone taking care of 

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the baby day after day. I had a sink- 
ins; feeling that I was never sroins; to 
fulfill my dream of going to college 
and becoming a teacher. My friends 
from high school were doing well in 
college and talking about summer in- 
ternships and job opportunities. All I 
could think was that I'd be stuck 
alone in this apartment for the next 
18 years taking care of a kid. 

"That's whv it infuriated me so 



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much when Matt would start in on 
how much he hated his life. He was 
majoring in finance and was good at 
it. but he was depressed because he 
was working toward a career that he 
didn't want. He was constantl) 
telling me he'd rather be at West 
Point. When I'd tell him that I had to 
give up my dreams, too. he'd say that 
some day / could still become a 
teacher, but his dream of graduating 



from West Point was dead forever. 

"This same argument continued 
until Megan was 1 years old. Then 
one night at dinner. I told him that 
since all we ever did was remind each 
other how we had screwed up each 
other's lives, we might as well get di- 
vorced. Matt's reaction stunned me. 
I le said he loved me and wanted to 
make things work. He promised that 
he would put West Point behind him 



and focus on earning a good living 
for us. And then he told me he want- 
ed another baby. He said it would 
give him a sense of purpose and that 
he'd work hard for all of us. 

"That kind of talk from the man 
you love— and I have always loved him 
in spite of everything— is hard to resist. 
1 swear we got pregnant that same 
night. And he was wonderful during 
my pregnancy, coming continued 



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at a decent hour and helping 

.1 Megan. Widiin die next vear. he 

graduated from college, landed a job 

on Wall Street, and our son Timothy 

was I 

T wish I could tell you that the 
new babv worked some magic for us. 
but it was just the opposite. Again I 
was stuck at home while Matt was 
out with his friends until all hours. I 
began consoling mvself with food. 
Before long I weighed 200 pounds. I 
felt ugly, was irritable and lost all in- 
terest in sex. I think Matt and I had 
sex once in six months-and stupidly, 
we didn't use any birth control. 

"You guessed it. Baby Number 
Three was on his way, along with 
more of the same fights about our lost 
dreams. Here I am. not even 30 years 
old, with a 9-year-old, a 7-year-old 
and a 3-year-old. I never went to col- 
lege, we're still living in my parents' 
basement. I'm depressed and oxer- 
weight, and my husband spends all 
his free time with his friends in bars. 
If you can put our marriage back to- 
gether, you're a miracle worker." 

"Leaving West Point was the 

end of everything I had worked for 
from the time I was 8 years old when 
my parents look me to the West 
Point Museum." said Matt, 27. 6 feet 
4 inches tall and extremely fit. "I was 
fascinated by military history. I knew 
I wanted a career in the Army. 
Everything I did from then on- 
studying hard, being in all the right 
extra-curricular activities, running 
for student government-was aimed 
at my getting into West Point. When 
I got my acceptance letter. I cried like 
a baby and mi did my mom and dad. 
I'm their only child, and this meant 
as much to them as it did to me. 

"The first thing I did after I pulled 
myself together was call Julie. She 



marriage 



was ecstatic. I told her I was on the 
path to the life I had always dreamed 
of and that I wanted to take her with 
me. We'd start our careers and raise 
a familv together, in that order. 

"That's not how it worked out. 
Immediately after we had sex that 
day when I was home for Christmas 
break, I felt guilty 
for not using protec- 
tion. But it was too 
late. Julie was preg- 
nant. I was thrilled 
and devastated at 
the same time. I 
couldn't help but be 
excited about having 
a baby with the 
woman I loved. But 
I knew that the life I 
had always dreamed of was over. 

"What I didn't know was that giv- 
ing it up was going to haunt me. I 
couldn't get past die disappointment. 
I hated the idea of going to a normal 
college. And I hated that I'd be a 
businessman just bringing home pay- 
checks and not having my heart in 
my work. Julie had no sympathy for 
me; she'd just throw her own situa- 
tion back in my face. And she was on 
my case all the time about how I 
should spend more time at home 
helping her with the baby. The more 
she pushed, the more I backed off. I'd 
hang out with my friends until really 
late to avoid her and our arguments. 
Deep down I knew Julie deserved 
more, but I was too miserable myself 
to feel sorry for her. 

"Just before my graduation, my 
guilt started to get the better of me. 
Julie is smart, and I wished she could 
be doing somediing widi her life. Also, 
I knew I hadn't been a big part of my 
daughter's childhood. The way I had 
been acting had kept me from doing 
much with Megan. So I went home 



for her and Megan. 



"I thought 

another bab\ 

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that night to talk to Julie and make 
some changes. 

"Before I could open my mouth. 
Julie said she wanted a divorce. That 
broke my heart. I told her I would 
never mention West Point again, and 
that I'd get a good job and work hard 
I also said I 
wanted us to have 
another baby. I 
know that sounds 
crazy, but I thought 
it would save our 
marriage. 

"Bad move. We 
were both over- 
joyed when our son 
Timothy was born, 
but a new baby just 
made everything 
even more stressful for Julie. She 
started eating more and gained a 
ton of weight. Our sex life nearly 
disappeared. Even so. we got preg- 
nant again. 

"So now it's round three— another 
baby and the same old fights. Leo is 
a really cute kid, just like Megan and 
Timothy, but Julie is overwhelmed 
with taking care of three little ones. I 
can't stand listening to her complain, 
so I've fallen back into my old avoid- 
ance thing, staying out late and not 
being diere for my family. I know it's 
wrong, but I can't stop myself. Is this 
marriage hopeless? Are we ever go- 
ing to escape this vicious circle?" 

"Any couple forced to deal with 

marriage and familv when thev are 
still teenagers faces an incredible chal- 
lenge." said the counselor. "For Julie 
and Matt, the abrupt end of their ca- 
reer goals was the most crushing as- 
pect of their circumstances. For Matt 
in particular, the finality of his dis- 
charge from West Point was almost 
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wing PROCRIT therapy, the possibility of pregnancy should be discussed and the need for contraception evaluated 
Hematology: £<acerrjatjon of porphyria has been observed rarefy m patients with chronic renal failure (CRF) treated with PROCRIT However. PROCRIT 
^ased unnary excretion of porphynn metabolites in normal volunteers, even in the presence of a rapid erythropoietic response 
eless, PROCRIT should be used with caution in patients with known porphyria In preclinical studies in dogs and rats, but not in monkeys. 
PROCRIT therapy was associated with subclinical bone marrow fibrosis Therefore, cancer patients should have hematocnt (HCT) measured once a 
week (QWI until HCT has been stabilized, and measured penodically thereafter Lack or Loss of Response: If the patient fails to respond or to maintain 
a response to doses within the recommended dosing range, the following etiologies should be considered and evaluated: 1 ) Iron deficiency: Virtually all 
patients will eventually require supplemental iron therapy (see Iron Evaluation) 2) Underlying infectious, inflammatory, or malignant processes 3) Occult 
blood loss 4i Undedymg hematologic diseases (ie, thalassemia, refractory anemia, or other myelodysplastic disorders) 5) Vitamin deficiencies folic acid 
or vitamin B12. 6) Hemolysis 7) Aluminum intoxication 8) Osteitis fibrosa cystica. In the absence of another etiology, the patient should be evaluated 
for evidence of PRCA and sera should be tested for the presence of antibodies to recombinant erythropoietins Iron Evaluation: During PROCRIT 
therapy, absolute or functional iron deficiency may develop Functional iron deficiency, with normal femtin levels but low transfemn saturation, is 
presumably due to the inability to mobilize iron stores rapidly enough to support increased erythropoiesis Transfemn saturation should be at least 20% 
and femtin should be at least 100 ng/mL Pnor to and dunng PROCRIT therapy, the patient's iron status, including transferrin saturation (serum iron 
divided by iron binding capacity) and serum ferritin should be evaluated Virtually all patients will eventually require supplemental iron to increase or 
maintain transfemn saturation to levels which will adequately support erythropoiesis stimulated by PROCRIT Drug Interactions: No evidence of 
interaction of PROCRfT with other drugs was observed in the course of clinical tnals Carcinogenesis, Mutagenesis, and Impairment of Fertility: 
Carcinogenic potential of PROCRIT has not been evaluated PROCRIT does not induce bacterial gene mutation (Ames Test), chromosomal aberrations 
nalian cells, micronuclei in mice, or gene mutation at the HGPRT locus In male and female rats treated intravenously (TV) with PROCRIT, there 
was a trend for slightly increased fetal wastage at doses of 100 and 500 U/kg Pregnancy Category C: PROCRIT has been shbwn to have adverse 
effects in rats when given in doses 5 times the human dose There are no adequate and well-controlled studies in pregnant women. PROCRIT should 
be used dunng pregnancy only if potential benefit justifies the potential risk to the fetus. In studies in female rats, there were decreases in body weight 
gam rieigys in appearance of abdominal hair, delayed eyelid opening, delayed ossification, and decreases in the number of caudal vertebrae in the F1 
fetuses of the 500 U/kg group In female rats treated IV, there was a trend for slightly increased fetal wastage at doses of 100 and 500 U/kg 
Nursing Mothers: Postnatal observations of the Irve offspring (F1 generation) of female rats treated with PROCRIT dunng gestation and lactation 
revealed decreases in body weight gam, delays in appearance of abdominal hair, eyelid opening, and decreases in the number of caudal vertebrae in 
the F1 fetuses of the 500 U/kg group it is not known whether PROCRfT is excreted in human milk. Because many drugs are excreted in human milk, 
caution should be exercised when PROCRIT is administered to a nursing woman Pediatric Use; See WARNINGS, Pediatric Use. Pediatric Cancer 
Patients on Chemotherapy Published literature has reported the use of PROCRIT in approximately 64 anemic pediatnc cancer patients ages 6 months 
to 1 8 years, treated with 25 to 300 U1<g subcutaneously (SC) or IV, 3 to 7 times per week Increases in hemoglobin and decreases in transfusion 
requirements were noted Hypertension: Hypertension associated with a significant increase in HCT. has been noted rarely in cancer patients treated 
with PROCRIT Nevertheless, blood pressure (BP) m patients treated with PROCRIT should be monitored carefully, particularly in patients with an 
underlying history of hypertension or cardiovascular disease Seizures: In double-blind, placebo-controlled tnals. 3 2% (N=2/63) of patients treated 
with PROCRIT and 2.9% (N=2/68) of placebo-treated patients had seizures. Seizures in 1 6% (N=l/63) of patients treated with PROCRIT occurred in 
the context of a significant increase in BP and HCT from baseline values However, both patients treated with PROCRIT also had underlying CNS 
pathology which may have been related to seaire activity. Thrombotic Events In double-blind, placebo-controlled trials, 3.2% (N=2/63) of patients 
treated with PROCRIT and 1 1 8% (N=8/68) of placebo-treated patients had thrombotic events (eg. pulmonary embolism, cerebrovascular accident). 
Growth Factor Potential: PROCRIT is a growth factor that pnmanly stimulates red cell production However, the possibility that PROCRrT can act as a 
growth factor for any tumor typ nyeloid malignancies, cannot be excluded ADVERSE REACTIONS Immunogenicity As with all 

therapeutic proteins, there is the potential lor immunogenicity Cases of antibody-induced PRCA in patients treated with recombinant human 
erythropoietins have been riescnbed m publications Very rare occurrences of PRCA and the presence of antibodies with neutralizing actrty have been 
reporta: ; eduction of PROCRIT in the United States (see WARNINGS. Pure Red Cell Aplasia) Cases have been observed in patients 

treated by both SC and IV routes of administration Among reported cases where the route of administration is known. PRCA has been observed more 
with SC administration than IV adnm I cidence of antibody formation is highly dependent on the sensitivity and specificity of the assay 

Additiona ncidence of antjl 1 1 an assav may be influenced by several factors including sample handling, timing of sample 

collection, concomitant medications, and underlying disease For these reasons, companson of the incidence of antibodies to PROCRIT with the 
incidence of antibodies to other products may be misleading Adverse expenences reported in clinical tnals with PROCRIT in cancer patients were 
consistent w - ng disease state In double-blind, placebo-controlled studies of up to 3-months duration invoking 131 cancer patients, 

adverse events . ,; with PROCRIT or placebo-treated patients were as indicated below Percent of 

Patients Repor i - Treated With PROCRIT (N=63) first. Placebo-Treated Patients (N=68) second Pyrexia 29%, 1 9%; 

1%; Asthenia 1 3%. 1 6%; Fatigue 1 3%. 1 5%, Shortness of Breath 
13%, 9%. Paresthesia per Respiratory Infection 11%, 4%; Dizziness 5%. 12%; Trunk Pain 3%, 16% P=004-\. P=0069; ft=000l6. 

P=0 01 7 Although Mtn PROCRIT and placebo-treated patients were noted, the 

overall safety profile ■ advanced cancer Dunng double-blind and subsequent open- 

label therapy in ,-.; , PROCRIT) were treated for up to 32 weeks with doses as high as 927 U/kg, the adverse 

expenence profile of P progression of advanced cancer Based on comparable survival data and on the percentage of 

s i ; ed with PROCRI m discontinued therapy due to death, disease progression or adverse expenences (22% 

respectively; P= treated with PFXRfT and placebo-treated patients appeared to be similar Available 

data from animal tumor r . I : -jmor cells from clinical biopsy specimens in response to PROCRIT suggest 

that PROCRIT does not potenl ,,. possibility that PROCRfT may potentiate growth of some tumors, 

particularly myelpid tumors cannol rj controlled Phase IV study is currently ongoing to further evaluate this issue The mean 

penpheral white blood cell count : "ROCRIT therapy compared to the corresponding value in placebo-treated group. 

Overdosage; The maxin i -mistered in single or multiple doses has not been determined Doses 

of up to 1 500 U/kg 3 times wee- , !re d to adults without any direct toxic effects of PROCRIT itself 

Therapy with PROCRIT can result n polyi , mitored and the dose appropriately adjusted If the suggested 

target range is exceeded, PROCRIT ma , | etums to the suggested target range. PROCRIT therapy may 

then be resumed using a lower dose If po , ibotomy may be indicated to decrease the HCT 

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h ing be< from a promising begins to raise her 

mture. coupled with the stress of new voice when she's 

mothe ept her from hearing talking about her 

Mati frustrations with tak- 

"Although thev did love one anoth- ing care of the kids, 

er. each one was too consumed by Matt shakes his head 

personal grief over lost opportunities as a time-out signal, 

to reach out to the other. The birth of Julie has learned to 

a third child when the}' were still in take a deep breath 

their mid-20s and living in a base- and stop herself, 

ment apartment put more strain on Then they wait a full 

the relationship than it could with- 15 minutes before 
stand. They fell right back into their 
old destructive habits, and Julie 
added a new one: overeating. 

"To help them break this pattern. 
I spent an entire session having each they can negotiate 
of them express their disappoint- productively. For ex 
ments while the other listened with- ample. Julie oudined 
out interrupting. Matt reiterated his some of the ways that Matt could 
feelings about having to leave West help with the kids, such as being in everything; the most important 
Point, but he added that he was find- charge of baths and bedtime so Julie thing in life is your family. Now that 
ing his Wall Street career more satis- can have some time to herself. Matt I'm home more and I've had a 
fyinsf than he had thought and he also started beintr on dutv one chance to sret to know mv kids even 
appreciated his college degree, evening every two weeks so Julie better. I realize how lucky I am. I've 
When he finished. Julie broke down could go out with her girlfriends. got Julie, and I've got Megan and 
in tears. After she gained her com- "At that point. Julie started filling Timothy and Leo. I couldn't ask for 
posure. she said that she deeply re- out college applications so she could anything more. "' '*j 
gretted never having gone to college, earn a bachelor's degree in educa- 
Matt was quiet for a long time, and tion. The plan was that bodr grand- 
then he put his arm around her. mothers would alternate watching 
'You're going to go to college, hon- the children while Julie was in class. 
ey.' he said. 'We're going to make it Julie got accepted to the same college 
happen somehow. And I mean now. where Matt had gone. Then, right 
not down the road.' She buried her before she was supposed to start, 
head in his shoulder. Their body Man's financial firm folded in the 
language was evidence that these wake of September 11th and the fal- 



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something impor- 
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his job. 'West Point 
would have been 
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with ommunicating in a lose almost 50 pounds. Matt found 

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They Had 
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Mark and Laura were devastated when their son's 

birth mother took him back. Laura desperatelv 

wanted to adopt another child, but Mark refused. 

Could she make him change his mind? 



"Cameron was home two 

weeks when his birth mother wanted him 
back." Laura Ban told us in May 2000. 
She and her husband, Mark Musselman, 
had learned early in the birth mother's preg- 
nancy that they'd he adopting the baby boy 
she was carrying; the entire family anticipated 
his arrival. In Colorado, where Laura and 
Mark live, adoption law allows a birth 
mother the right to change her mind after a 
child is born, and in this case she did. 
When Cameron was taken back, Laura 
and Mark were devastated, as were their 
two children, Alexis, then 5, also adopted, 
and Christopher, then 3, their biological 
child. Alexis even asked. "Is my birth mom- 
my going to take me away, too?" 

Mark, CIA) of a sportswear com} 
swori he would never put his family 
through that pain again. "The adoption 
process is so emotionally dunged, I don't 



know if I tan handle it," he said. But Lau- 
ra, a part-time mush teacher, was desperate 
to try one more time. "Two doesn t feel like 
a family to me," she said. "I want another 
baby, and I don 't understand why Mark is 
so against it." The two, now both 37, were 
at a stalemate. Finally, they sought the help 
of Lynn Heitler. L.C.S.W., a marriage 
therapist in Denver :eh<> helped Laura ae- 
cept Mark \ decision of not going through 
the adoption process again. Three years lat- 
iheiked in with Laura and Mark to 
see hme they are doing: 

Mark: A year and a half after we 
went through counseling, one of my 
best friends died unexpectedly. It was 
a tragedy drat made me realize how 
precious, and short, life can be. 
Laura: The morning of the funeral, 
we received a call from the adoption 

BY MARGERY D. ROSEN 



agency. They had not removed us 
from their list of potential parents. To 
our surprise, they said they had a 
baby girl ready for us to adopt. 
Mark: The minute I took that call, I 
knew I wanted that child more than 
anything. Our therapist helped us 
talk about the decision without 
dredging up painful memories. 
Laura: We knew that the mother 
could change her mind again— but we 
felt so much stronger as a couple that 
we knew we had to take the risk. 

Laura and Mark waited patiently for 
two months until the adoption was final. To 
then delight, this time the process went 
without incident and the little girl they 
named Olivia was officially theirs. 
Laura: And then— another miracle. 
When Olivia was 9 months old. I 
found out I was pregnant! 
Mark: Devon is 2. Olivia is 4. and 
now our family is really complete. 
Our life is crazy, with budgets and 
bills and runny noses, but when we 
look at these four little faces, we know 
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how they met 



"He had m;. 
face, I immcJi teh trusted 
him,"sa\ s ' .mic, ha. 
Brer ' .i on their u a 
day at the 2 3rd 
subwa\ station p 



A tragic event on 

a New York City 

subway brought 

two strangers 

together— forever 




Tunnel of Love 



In addition tO transporting 
more than a billion riders every year, 
New York Citv subway trains are 
good for a few other tilings. They are 
a perfect place to catch up on the lat- 
est Stephen King novel, put on your 
lipstick or sip a cup of coffee. 

But the subway has never been 
thought of as an ideal place to find 
romance. So four years ago. when 
Brendan McFeely. then a 27-year-old 
trademark lawyer, began to notice an 
attractive blond woman on his sub- 
way platform during his morning 
commute, he had no idea how to ap- 
proach her. ""It's the mbii'ay," lie says. 
'"You can't really go up to somebody 
and sav. 'Oh mv God. you're cute!' " 



Still, the subway has strange ways 
of throwing people together, and not 
just when a sudden lurch makes 
straphangers lose their balance. 

One morning in December 1999, 
Brendan was waiting for the F train 
at the 23rd Street station when he 
heard someone yelling in panic. He 
looked down the platform: It was die 
cute, blond woman, the one he had 
noticed so many times. "She just 
started pointing at the tracks and 
screaming. "He jumped! He jumped!'" 
Brendan remembers. 

It turned out that the woman. Bon- 
nie Andersen, then 28. a construction 
project manager for a real estate corn- 
pan}-, had looked on as a man pacing 

BY RANDY KENNEDY 



next to her leapt in front of an on- 
coming train. Bonnie was one of the 
only people on the crowded platform 
to witness the suicide attempt. 
(Miraculously, the man did not die, 
but he did suffer serious injuries.) 

The next few traumatic moments 
are still a blur to Bonnie. But one 
memory is clear. A kind-faced, red- 
headed man approached her. offer- 
ing help. "He just looked at me and 
said. 'Are you okay, miss?'" Bonnie 
remembers. "He gave off the sense 
that he was the only levelheaded 
one there. And he said. "Let me help 
you." So I did." 

Brendan waited with Bonnie for 
an hour until the police arrived and 
were able to question her in detail 
about what she had seen. Then, be- 
cause she seemed so shaken, Bren- 
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'I'm seeing someone 
thought 



office, which happened to be 
ss the street from his own. 
As they walked together on 
that cold morninsr. Brendan 
says, he very much wanted to 
ask Bonnie out. But he knew 
that doing so would be inap- 
propriate under the tragic cir- 
cumstances. So instead, he 
fumbled in his pocket for his 
business card and handed it 
over to Bonnie as diey parted. 

It turned out to be wise that 
he'd erred on the side of re- 
straint: Bonnie had a 
boyfriend, but for obvious rea- 
sons it hadn't come up. 
"When Brendan gave me his 
card. I thought about saying 
but I 
Why ruin every- 
thing? He's the perfect gende- 
man, and I didn't want to end 
it on a weird note." 

Over the next several 
months, Bonnie couldn't get 
the man she and her friends 
had come to call "Subway Guy"' out 
of her mind. Their paths didn't cross 
again, but Bonnie admits. "For some 
reason. I just couldn't dirow out his 
business card. I'd tell my friends. 
Someday I'm going to call Subway 
Guy' And they'd say, Call him! Call 
Subway Guy!' " 

Meanwhile. Brendan had several 
opportunities ("good opportunities," 
he says) to leave his job-and get new 
cards-but. he says. "I didn't take 
them, in part because I thought. 
What if that girl from the subway 
tries to get in touch with me? It was 
always in the back of my mind." 

Certainly their lives could have 
diverged as easily as a pair of spec !- 
ing trains. But when Bonnie and her 
boyfriend broke up in spring 2000. 
she pulled out the business card and 




Td tell my friends, 

someday I'm going to 

call Subway Guy. And 

they'd say, 'Call him! 

Call Subway Guy!' 



sent Subway Guy an e-mail. The 
subject line of her message: "Re- 
member me?" 

He certainly did, and in a return e- 
mail prompdy asked Bonnie out. She 
agreed to meet him for a drink. "I was 
a litde nervous because I could hardly 
remember what he looked like," she 
says. "But I had idealized him into dris 
knight in shining armor." 

That drink turned into dinner, and 
dinner quickly turned into the two 
wanting to spend every minute to- 
gether, even though they admittedly 
had litde in common in the way of in- 
terests and hobbies. Brendan likes to 
read and is a Star Trek fan; Bonnie is 
more of an outdoorsy type who loves 
sports and athletics. "But as soon as 
we started talking on the first date, 
we didn't stop." 



"/ didn 't change 
jobs because I 
[bought, What if 
the girl from the 
subway tries to get 
in touch with me?" 
says Brendan, here 
with his bride 



Nearly two years lat- 
er. Subway Guy asked Cute 
Girl to marry him. She said yes. 
And that is how two New 
Yorkers who stood on the 
same subway platform came to 
stand at the altar of the beauti- 
ful Marble Collegiate Church 
on Fifth Avenue and 29th 
Street on January 25. 2003. 
and profess their love for each 
other before 200 guests. 

When a passage adapted 
from the Song of Solomon was 
read before the ceremony be- 
gan— "You have made my heart 
beat faster, my bride"-it 
seemed like a reminder of that day on 
the platform, when Brendan heard 
Bonnie cry out for help. And now. be- 
fore their assembled guests, he helped 
again. When it came time for her to 
speak her vows. Bonnie became over- 
whelmed with emotion and Brendan 
wiped a tear from her cheek, giving 
her a chance to collect herself. 

Bonnie and Brendan still have a lit- 
de trouble believing that such a won- 
derful event resulted from such a 
tragic day in the subway. Says Bonnie, 
"I believe that if fate stives vou a 
chance, you've got to take it. I mean, 
what do you have to lose?" vj 

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V^ wondering what all 
those abbreviations flying 
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beginner's guide to Instant 
Messaging shorthand: 

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laughing 
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HHOK - Ha, ha, only kidding 
- I don't know 
•ou are OR your 
- Been there, done that 
- Anyway 
- Boyfriend, 
Girlfriend 

- Wait one minute 

- Drop dead gorgeous 

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Are Your Kids' Manners a Mess? 



With shows like Fox's Malcolm in the Middle and 
MTV's Jackass increasingly giving bad manners a 
thumbs up, more and more alarmed parents are 
handing their kids over to the pros to learn the finer 
points of etiquette, such as proper table manners and 
how to be a good guest. Indeed, in the last decade, 
the number of etiquette experts in the U.S. offering 
classes for kids has risen significandy says Dorothea 
Johnson, the director of The Protocol School of 
Washington in Pordand. Maine, the largest and oldest 
etiquette training school in the nation. 

In response to the booming interest, upscale hotels 
and department stores, such as some of The Ritz- 
Carlton Hotels. Saks Fifth' Avenue and Dillard's 
stores have also started offering etiquette classes for 
kids. But many parents have to look no further than 
their public or private schools for such training: 
more are working it into die curriculum or running 
after-school classes. To find edquette schools in your 
area, contact The Protocol School of Washington at 
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FIGHTING FOR FAMILY-FRIENDLY BENEFITS 

As companies continue to cut costs in this tight economy, the promise 
of a family-friendlier workplace is becoming more and more elusive for 
an increasing number of employees. Over the last year, the percentage of 
companies permitting flextime dropped from 64 percent to 55 percent, and 
the number with employees who telecommute full-time declined from 23 
percent to 17 percent, according to a recent survey by the Society for Human 
Resource Management. But rather than sit by dreaming about having the 
benefits you need, you can still do something to make them happen. 



TAKE AN INFORMAL POLL OF 
OTHER EMPLOYEES. Find out what 
benefits they would like to see 
the company offer and why. Then 
take your ideas for new options to 
management as a group, says 
Joanne Brundage, executive director 
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to empty his wallet at Tower 
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parents, though, the practice raises 
thorny questions. Chief among 
them: Could my child be arrested? 

The short answer is no-but she (or 
you couldbe sued for as much as 
$150,000. The Recording Industry 
Association of America has brought 
several civil lawsuits for copyright 
infringement against "noncommercial 
uploaders" (the ones who park 
entertainment on the Internet in the 
fust place). You ma}' think that lets 
your child off the hook, but many a 
downloader becomes an unwitting: 
uploader if he (like most users) fails to 



turn off the file-sharing feature of die 
software he's using. 

But lawsuits aside, how do you 
persuade a generation that's grown 
up with free music that downloading 
is wrong? The moral argument tends 
to trump die legal one. "Teens may 
not care if big record companies get 
burned." notes New York City mom 
Mary Chapman, "but they will 
empadiizc with a musician who's 
being denied royalties from Iris art." 

And no one is asking kids to give 
up digital music. Services such as 
Napster and Apple iTunes let you 
download legally for a small fee. To 
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The first alarm 

sounded more than a year 
ago when I saw my 10-year- 
old daughter. Lila. trudmne: 
up the hill from the school 
bus. storm clouds beneath 
her bangs, backpack, full o' 
blues. She usually bounces 
in. kisses the dog and me 
(in that order) and delivers 
the day's news with her 
head in the pantry. By con- 
trast, an after-school mope 
sends her straight to her 
room. Interrogation must 
be gentle and persistent: 
What is it. sweetie? You know 
you (an tell Mom . . . 

I can field the fallout 
from a surprise Spanish 
quiz or a lunchroom faux 
pas. Yet no recitation strikes 
more dread in this mother 
than "Gillian really really hurt my 
teelings today!" followed by heart- 
rending sobs and the whole grisly 
talc: "And then. Rachel, who's 
Gillian's first best friend, told Stacey 
that even though Gillian likes me. 
she thinks I hang out with losers." 

You hug your sad girl and pray for 
strength. Girl Wars (GWs have 
erupted again. Think Suwivor, set in 



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the 
Girl Wars 

s heart a school cafeteria, with girls in pastel 



orthodontia voting the weaker ones 
off the island-in this case, the cool 
kids' table. The poison darts fly: 
"Like, what's up with your hair? Ewww!" 
"Would you call that a barf-green sweater 
or what?" Feared weapons of exclu- 
sion are deployed-whispers, the Icy 
Stare, the Silent Treatment. GWs are 
bom of shifting constellations of loy- 
alties and the ever-expanding nebulae 

BY GERRI HIRSHEY 



of preteen insecurities. They're 
charged with love and fury— and 
drenched in tears. But though the 
jargoning has gotten snappier (one 
recent book classifies combatants as 
queen bees, floaters and wannabes). 
GWs are older than Lucy and 
Ethel's black-and-white TV tantrums. 
They've lonsr been associated with 
the pre-hormonal, I-hate-myselfand- 
evervbodv-else puraratorv of sixth, 
seventh and eighth grades, a time 
that can bring out the inner Harpy in 
the sweetest patootie. 

Even though I'd been picked on 
myself at age 12 by a venomous 
Cruella. I was caught woefully un- 
prepared when GWs erupted in 
Lila's fifth grade. (I'd seen no opposite- 
gender equivalent with Lila's broth- 
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breakout of the Phone Flurries-lots 
ol staccato calls after school and into 
early evening. Offenses are replayed 
and analyzed in low, urgent tones. 
Yips of outrage seep through the 
bedroom door: No way! Shuduuu- 
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When the wailing starts, 

l.ila's brother and dad are sympathetic 
but terrified; they scuttle oil like her- 
mit crabs to the safety /one ol ESPN. 
Rocking my weepy odd girl out, I rea 
son and rage: Nobody's entirely 
blameless in GWs. but why is my 
baby so often the limping bunny? I 
guess lala got the duck-and-cover 
genes ol both her nonconfrontational 
parents. And I take a certain ragged 
pride in realizing that I am the mother 
of a dumper, not a dumper. Now II. 
she's a kind, loyal kid who's had the 
same best friend since they were I. 
She has a nice set of pals. But when 
wanton cruelty hits— say, the arrival ol 
a sudden cold front at recess she's 
baffled and bereft. Me, too. 



Since I can't explain the meanness, "It's not you. She's just having a bad 

I just do my best to comfort her. day." This balm not only deflects the 

And always, I try to stick to my posi- uglier personal aspects, it also invites 

lion as a noninterventionist. Why? I compassion.) 

learned my lesson early on. During We've also been working out a prac- 
onc painful freeze-out of Lila by a pal tical strategy for riding out the wars 
we'll call Michelle, I suggested this that lie ahead, like nudging Lila to- 
sure-fire tactic: "Ask Michelle why ward demilitarized zones— safe, fun 
she's doing this when she knows it places with none of the tensions that 
hints you." Bravely. Lila tried it and build up in school corridors. Her swim 
Ms. M thundered back: "BECAUSE I team buddies cheer her through a 50- 
WANT TO!" Applying adult logic to meter butterfly race and hug her when 
the fiery passions of GWs can result she climbs out. At her book club, she 
in nasty burns. Cases I know of can argue and chatter confidently with 

six odier girls about die ways fictional 
people ueat one another. 

Things are settling 

down a bit. And I've come 
to realize that the girls may 
have a better handle on Girl 
Wars than we horrified 
moms. Just this morning. 
when I picked Lila up from a 
sleepover with her pals, the 
girls sat the moms down to 
watch a video they'd made 
the night before. They'd 
staged an ugly Corridor 
Confrontation in which they acted 
out the classic roles: the stuck-up, 



mom-brokered intervention have too 
often resulted in sonic frosty encoun- 
ters at the PTA bake sale. ("So how's 

Nobody's entirely 
blameless in Girl 
Wars, but why is 
my baby so often 
the limping bunny? 

your janey doing with her anxiety is- 
sues?") And I do believe that when 

evei possible, the girls should sort it lip-glossed Mean Chick and the 

out themselves. They usually do. cringing Victim in off-brand jeans. 

They also know when to seek pro But their sharp and funny perspec- 

fessional help. During one severe tive cheered me. In burlesquing their 

GW outbreak, four girls broke into GW battles, they'd gained some 

tears over successive skirmishes with distance— and power— over them. The 

a wily aggressor we'll call She Who final shot of the video was four girls. 

Glares. Poor thing, she was crying, arm in arm, bellowing "Don't BULLY" 

too, alone in the girls' room. She at the camera. Then they fell into a 

knew she'd gone too far but had no final dissolve of girl giggles— still the 

road map back. Thankfully, the flock sweetest ol sounds. Cj 

ol wounded doves flapped off to a 

11 Next month: How I learned not to cater 

guidance counselor who defused the . , 

. . to kids who are picky eaters. 

mess m the time it takes to download 

a Johnny Depp poster. (I've since Do you have advice or comments jor Gerri, 

made good use of the counselor's or stories to share? Write to 

phraseology, as reported l>v Lila: lhj.mjIifeasamom@meredith.com. 



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"Husband think" is still 

often a mystery, even 

to those ot us who have 

had one for 5, 10, 20 

years— or more. 

In this new column, 

one husband promises 

to crack the code 

for us, starting with why 

men won't put their 

socks in the laundry 



Let me start with my socks. 

Not the oiks I'm wearing, but the 
ones I wore yesterday. The ones I 
took oil last night and plopped on 
the floor in the general vicinity of the 
laundry basket. Yes, those socks. 
Those size 13 socks that are the 
biggest source of discord in my 18- 
year marriage. 

When my wife, Diane, comes 
across my socks— so close to the bas- 
ket, yet so far from actually being in 
it— the incredulity begins to bubble 
up inside her. And then we have "the 
discussion," which starts out about 
socks and ends up being about the 

BY STEPHEN FRIED 



evolution of the species. It's the same 
place the discussion about the dirty 
dishes in the sink ends up. 

Now. this discussion about the 
evolution of the species is actually 
quite fascinating— as long as you're 
not in the middle of it. As it begins, 
Diane, who has a high-school trophy 
on her shelf for "Best Negative 
Debater," poses this query: Are these 
socks (or dishes) left where they are 
because I don't remember she's asked 
me a million times not to leave them 
there, or because I remember being 
asked, but I just don't care that it 
matters to her? 

While I'm trying to figure out 
which response would be better for 
the future of my marriage (or, as the 
guys in my regular half-court basket- 
ball game put it. "which answer gets 
me laid.'"), my wife, a novelist who 
also reads a lot of continued 



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e books for fun, asks a second 

estion. II I don't it-member (which is 
sounding more and more like the 
right answer lure:, is it because I 
wasn't listening to her .ill the times she 
asked, or is there something wrong 
with me physiologically-an actual 
problem with the workings ol my 
brain, some bad sectors on my men- 
tal hard drive? Then she usually 
notes that studies have shown 
that men's brains deteriorate 
faster than women's, 
and at 45, I'm prob 
ably right at the 
point where my 
robust lobes start 
shrinking to the size ol raisins. 

By this point in the increasingly 
one-sided discussion, the right an- 
swer is clear. 

Okay put me down for the brain 
damage. 

If only it were that easy to escape 
the discussion. Usually, I am able to 
wriggle out ol this inquisition be- 
cause my wife knows that I wouldn't 
purposely do anything to make hei 
upset. Hut I suspect she also privately 
takes comfort in the smaller brain 
theory, which is another example ol 
the big lies women tell men about 
si/e not mattering. 

What I would never tell her. ol 
course, is that while I really don't re- 
member that 1 shouldn't let my socks 
decorate the floor, I also don't really 
care. Sine, I care that it matters to 
her. But to be perfectly frank, I doubt 
I'm evei going to really care myself 
or ever, understand why it matters to 
her. Truthfully, when it comes to 
socks or dishes. Diane knows I prefei 
a good, messy pileup and. alter a 
week lor a month) or so. a really 
good cleaning, for situations where 
bacteria and decay aren't involved, 
well, what's wrong with one good 



cleaning a year? After all. isn't that 
where the term Spring Cleaning 
came from? 

I know there are some men who 
undoubtedly remember to put their 
socks in the laundry and believe in 
that same-day dish-doing thing. One 
of my two brothers is actually quite 
neat (we refer to him as "the mail- 
man's child"), so it is quite possible for 
a man to actually care about such 
things. But most men I know 
don't. And won't. 

My friend Tim 
believes that the 




for cognition and memorv. The re- 
search shows that women have better 
"emotional memories" and better 
"autobiographical memories" than 
men. This would support a theory I 
like: Men are physiologically pro- 
grammed not to remember that they 
are supposed to care about stuff like 
the final resting place of their socks. 
(On a more serious note, the re- 
searchers speculate that having a bet- 
ter emotional memory is one reason 
women suffer from depression more 
than men, since "rumination" can be 
a risk factor for depression.) 



When it comes to socks or dishes, 
my wife knows I prefer a messy 
pileup, and then a good cleaning 



real issue isn't remembering or car- 
ing, but lather the sheer volume of fe- 
male communication. "Well, they go 
on and on about so many things— I 
mean, how can you tell which ones 
really matter, anyway?" be asks, exas 
perated. "I think women need to stop 
every now and again and say. 'This 
bit is really important, so you can lor 
get the last lour hours of stuff I've 
been going on about." " 

1 1 hile I have some 

ence with what Tin is describing, I 
still think the reason I can't just 
throw away a cereal box with live 
Cheerios left in it lies in the fuzzy 
area between remembering and car 
ing. So I decided to dig up some of 
those studies Diane always throws in 
my lace about men's and women s 
memories and brains. It turns out that 
the most current work focuses less on 
brain capacity and more on the gen- 
d(i differences in wiring, especially 



expen 



I found another aspect of this 
study especially revealing. This par- 
ticular research was done by show- 
ing groups of men and women the 
same series of images and then ask- 
ing three weeks later what they re- 
membered about them. Apparently, 
the women found four specific pic- 
tures the most emotionally intense. 
Dead bodies. Gravestones. Crying 
people. And a dirty toilet. 

The women found a dirty toilet as 
emotionally intense as a dead bod}'. 

So. here's my query to Diane: It's 
bad enough that you're burdened 
with this horrific association: is it 
something you really wish on me? 

Her answer, of course, is yes. U 



Next month: Why grown men still 
play basketball. 

Have ad\ ice or comments for Stephen? 
I mail him at Jhj.heartofahusband(u 
meredith.com, and read more about him 
at www.lhj.com 'stephenfried. 



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Boo Boo was a feral cat, 

a barn cat, Moody, lorn up, unable to 
walk, wedged between two bales of 
bay. That's bow Frances Morris, now 
54, found the gray tabby seven years 
ago in a stable south of San Francisco. 
Morris bad a horse, Guzzy, that she 
boarded there, and one night when 
she was grooming Guzzy, she saw 
that cat, who bad obviously been at 
tacked by another annual, a raccoon 
or a coyote, perhaps. Morris scooped 
her up and rushed her to a vet. 

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When Frances Morris 
look in a homeless 
eat and saved her life, 
she never imagined 
how Boo Boo would 
someday return the favor 



Moiris. a jewelry designer who 
works out ol her home in nearby 
Burlingame, California, took the 
challenge, even though she's allergic 
to eats, and even though undomesti 
eated cats, who are terrified ol peo- 
ple, present special challenges. "I just 
felt so sony for the poor little thing," 
says Monis. who coped with her 
sneezing, wheezing and watery eyes 

BY JEANNE MARIE LASKAS 



"People say cats 
aren't capable of 
selfless love, hut 
I know better," 
says Frances, with 
husband Scotty 
and Boo Boo 



by taking medication. She made a 
warm, cozy spot with blankets and 
pillows in her garage, and took to 
calling her cat Boo Boo, after her 
many injuries. 

She planned on releasing Boo Boo 
back at the barn— if she survived, that 
is— since feral eats can rarely become 
fully domesticated. But, after six 
weeks, the cat starting walking, and 
Monis cheered. She cheered every 
step ol Boo Boo's recovery. They 
grew close, somehow, even though 
Boo Boo. who would always carry 
the (ear of a feral cat within her, usu- 
ally ran and hid whenever Morris 
came near. 

Then, one day. Morris propped a 
down pillow on the windowsill in 
her living room and invited Boo Boo 
to come into the bouse and live 
there. To her amazement, Boo Boo 
accepted the offer. 

The thina about Boo Boo, 

now 14, is that she's still afraid of just 
about everything. A simple ring of 
the doorbell will send that cat run- 
ning down to the basement, or out 
the cat door and up a tree. She'll re- 
fuse to join in if Morris and her hus- 
band. Scotty, have friends or family 
over, preferring instead to keep a sale 
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pi pie, in fact, Boo Boo fits the defi- sink before bed because she was safe- if refusing to let go of her responsibil- 

nition of a "scarcely cat." ly conscious. But she hat! left it burn- ity. 'Iliere was nothing they could do 

So imagine Morris's surprise ing when she went to sleep, as is the to get that cat to stay outside. 
when, one nighl last spring, she tradition with memorial candles; it's "Five minutes," the fire chief said 
awoke to find Boo Boo howling at bad luck to blow them out. Stroking to Morris and her husband. "If that 
her bedside. Boo Boo never came up- Boo Boo on that odel night last fire had lasted five more minutes, 
stairs at night, preferring the sanctu- spring. Morris drifted back to sleep. you all would have been asphyxiated, 
ary and solitude ol the first floor and Suddenly, she woke up with a start That cat saved your lives." 
basement. That howl! It was loud, and saw Boo Boo standing there Boo Boo disappeared after it was 
and was clearly intended to wake howling, moaning and meowing all at all over. She went into hiding for a 
Morris. Scotty remained sound once. It was the loudest animal noise day. Then she came back, the same 
asleep beside her, while the family Morris had ever heard. Then she saw old scarcely cat. 
dog. a rescued mutt named Brodie, it. Smoke. It was filling the room. r > ; 7 
was snoring away peacefully in the Thick, black as ink, swirling as if hun- It S iXECYl YiCCLYlV a year 
next room. gry to engulf everything in sight. since the lire destroyed Morris's 
"What on earth is the matter, She leapt out of bed and ran to the kitchen, the fire that nearly swallowed 
Sweetie.'" Morris said to Boo up her house. Boo Boo is do- 
Boo, in the kindest voice she -p. -p. , , -. . ing fine, still enjoying her 
could muster. Morris is not a IjOO IjOO KCDI hOWllllP days on the down pillow in 
good sleeper and. in truth, .. , ^ 1 the living room window, 
was annoyed to be awakened clllCl lllOcinin^. V^ICclflV watching the world go by. 
from what was shaping into a ~ J ' Morris wonders many 
deep, satisfying slumber. SllC WclS tlVlllP tO things. She wonders, of 
Boo Boo. in no mood to be J ^D course, why she and her hus- 
mollified, kept howling and \v\ IVlOrriS SOU 1 Ctll 1 IIP" band were so lax in changing 
moaning, howling and moan- O their smoke-alarm batteries, 
ing. Clearly, she was trying to which were, in fact, expired. 
tell Morris something. Morris kitchen, the source of the smoke. She wonders why her dog. usually a 
thought about hei friend Donna, Flames were spiraling up from the barker, had to be woken up during 
who was visiting from Hawaii and drain. Black smoke was pouring out the fire. And she wonders if it's magi- 
spending the night in the guest room. from the cabinet under the sink cal thinking or if it's real: Long ago 
She figured Boo Boo was disturbed where all the kitchen cleaning chemi- she saved Boo Boo's life, and now 
by the presence of a stranger. That cals were kept. (Morris would later Boo Boo had returned the favor, 
poor fearful cat -she couldn't even learn that the beat from the candle Maybe it's silly, she thinks on the 
handle a common houscgucst. Mor cracked the glass around it and the 
us brought her into bed and began candle fell into the garbage disposal. 
stroking her. "It's okay, little girl, There it ignited the plastic pipes be 
everything's going to he okay," she lore the flames reached the com- 

cooed reassuringly, for the moment bustible cleaning supplies, which door to safety. But she didn't flee and 

were just about to explode.) disappear into the night. Instead, Boo 

Morris didn't know any ol thai at Boo came upstairs. "Some people say 

the time. She just knew Boo Boo, a animals don't think," Morris ob 

cat afraid of a doorbell, had braved serves. "Some say cits aren't capable 

the lire to deliver her message. After ol selfless love. But 1 know belter. 

birthda) the horse died lour years Moms dialed 911. and the firelight- Boo Boo is living proof." & 
ago at the ripe old age of ."I Morns ers came with all their equipment 
honored him with a memorial can- and noise and hoses. Boo Boo stayed 
die. She had put the candle in the right there in the kitchen, howling, as 



one band; then, on the other, she re- 
members the cat door. Boo Boo dis- 
covered the lire, and she could easily 
have run, as was hei habit, out the 



at least. Boo Boo stopped howling. 

. 1 /( >rris dhln '/ c\ en consider 

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Alison Sherrill can't .c- 

member exactly what her 1-year-old 
daughter Reagan was doing that day 
to provoke her— leaving blobs of Play- 
Doh all over the living room rug. 1 
Pouring herself a glass of watei d\ui 
missing the glass completely? Whatev- 
er it was. it was pushing the Atlanta 
single mom's buttons. "I was done. I 
was finished. I was about to have a 
meltdown." says Sherrill, 33. Fortu 
nately. Sheila Hays, 11 -a fellow sin- 
gle mom and a pro at spotting 
kid-induced exasperation— was nearby, 
picked up on the cue and invited Rea- 
gan to help her in the garden. "It was 
so nice." recalls Sherrill. "I was able to 
lie on the couch and read my hook for 
1T> minutes. I was like. Oh, Lord, 
thank you. That's the main thing you 
need most as a single parent. Some 
times, you just need a break." 

Sherrill and Hays arc more than 
just good single mom friends happy 
to give each other a break. The)' are 
housemates, and as such are among 
an increasing number ol divorced, 
separated and never-married moms 
who arc saving money, time and a 
big chunk of then sanitv bv moving 



Strapped for cash, desperate 
for child-care solutions, 
and hungry for emotional 
support, solo moms arc 
signing up for an innovative 
sen ice that is creating a 
new kind ot American family 
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in together. Main- ol them are meeting 
through Co abode. com. a successful 
online roommate-matching service de- 
signed loi single moms. It couldn't 
have come at a better time with 10 
million single mothers living with kids 
under the age of IS (nearly triple die 
amount in 1970:. nearly one third ol 
whom live below the poverty level 
(versus 9 percent ol all families). 

Co-abode provides modern-day 
single moms with the kind ol support 
and structure that socially at-risk 
groups-unmarried mothers, immi- 
grants and the elderly— have had 
throughout American history. Indeed, 
sharing living quarters with non-family 
members has long been a way for 
struggling families to save money and 
create a greater sense ol community. 
says Deborah Skok. Ph.D.. assistant 
professor of history at Ilendrix 
College, in Conway. Arkansas. The 
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eater than before. After die Welfare 
Reform Act of 1996 mandated that 
the benefits of recipients— many o( 
whom arc single mothers— be cut off 
after five years, growing numbers of 
are seeking out alternative liv- 
ing situations, says Dr. Skok. 

Finding an alternative living situa- 
tion was the last thins; on Carmel Sul- 
livan's mind in 2000, the year her 
divorce was final and she decided to 
move from Boulder. Colorado, to Los 
Angeles with her son. Cooper, then 8. 
Even though she had two sisters living 
in Los Angeles, she felt profoundly 
lonely and extremely overwhelmed. 
Explains the 48-year-old mom and 
former painter. "Once you're di- 
vorced and or. your own. you're 
wearing every hat. You're the discipli- 
narian, the nurse, the cook, the shop- 
per, the car pooler. And when it's 10 
P.M. and your kid is in bed. and sud- 
denlv you realize you've got no milk 
for the morning, vou're stuck." 

Then it occurred to her drat getting 
a roonunate. preferably a single mom 
with a child her son's age. would 
solve many of her problems. Not only 
could a roommate provide logistical 
and emotional support, she thought, 
but that woman's child could be "a 
playmate for Cooper, someone to get 
him of! the computer and the TV." 

She started looking for a home 
large enough for two families and set- 
tled on a three-bedroom house in 
West Los Angeles. She then placed a 
roommate listing with a local agency. 
Within a week, she received 18 re- 
sponses from local single moms. Af- 
ter speaking with each of them, she 
chose Susan Baden*, because the fel 
low artist had two sons close m age 
to Cooper. Plus, Sullivan says she 
and Baden had similar tastes and 
sizes 1 in clothing and CDs, both of 
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Still, Sullivan couldn't get the 17 
other applicants out of her mind. She 
kept looking over the list and started 
to notice how many had similar inter- 
ests and needs. Perhaps, she won- 
dered, they would be compatible 
with each other and would appreciate 
an introduction. WTien she phoned a 
lew of them and heard their enthusi- 
astic responses, she had an epiphany: 
"I diought. Oh my God, I've tapped 
into ,i real need here." 

Sullivan drew up a business plan, 
commissioned a designer to create a 
Web site, and in 2001, launched Co- 
abode. org. Running the nonprofit or- 
ganization has become Sullivan's 
full-time job; the site, which survives 
mostly on private donations, now has 
close to 9,000 registered members. 
More than 3,50 women have paired 
up in almost every state. 

Sherrill and Hays, of At- 

lanta. are among the most successful 
pairs to find each other through Co- 
abode. In the summer of 2002. Hays, 
a hairdresser who had been divorced 
for four years, needed help widi the 
mortgage payments on her four-bed- 
room home and companionship for 
her son. Dorian. 7. She read about 
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"1 thought, 1 don t 
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savs Carmel Sullivan 
of raising her son, 
Cooper (with her, left). 
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up. After entering her zip 
code, she saw that six 
single moms in her area 
were looking for house- 
mates. Sherrill's profile 
seemed the most compat- 
ible. Both mothers are 
outgoing 'and athletic. Hays swims, 
cycles, runs and in-line skates; Sher- 
rill is a Montessori teacher who's also 
a runner and spinning instructor. 

Over the next three months, the 
two got to know each other by chat- 
ting on the phone and meeting for 
meals. Through their" many conversa- 
tions, they learned that their parent- 
ing styles were in sync. They both 
were trying to raise independent, lov- 
ing and respectful children and be- 
lieved in discipline in the form of 
time-outs and taking away privileges, 
or talking through problems. They 
hammered out potential sticking 
points, such as the issue of Sherrill's 
boyfriend (Sherrill supported Hays's 
strong feelings about not letting him. 
or any other men, sleep over) and 
TV watching. Sherrill didn't want 
her daughter. Reagan, to watch TV 
on weekdays, so Hays agreed that 
she and Dorian would only watch on 
her bedroom set on those days. Hays 
calculated a monthly rent for Sherrill 
that included electricity, water and 
cable TV and asked her to put down 
a deposit to cover potential damages. 
During dris three-month "courtship." 
the women brought their children 
together a few times to see if thev 
clicked. They did. This was no sur- 
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she could remember. Dorian had 
asked when he was getting a sibling. 
When she introduced him to Reagan 
and explained diat she and her mom 
might move in widi them, die boy was 
thrilled. Hays laughs. '"He kept saying, 
'When are they coming. Mommy:' I 
can't wait. I can't wait!" " 

In October 2002. the four of them 
made it official. Now the makeshift 
family eats breakfast together every 
morning. A few nights a week after 
the kids are put to bed. Hays and 
Sherrill hang out in the den and chat 
or watch TV; as often, they go to 
their separate rooms and relax. Occa- 
sionally, one of them goes out with 
friends, leaving the other mom in 
charge of the sleeping kids. (Both 
kids spend weekends with their fa- 
thers, who are supportive of their ex- 
wives' living arrangements.) 

Despite age and gender differences, 
Dorian and Reagan have bonded. 
"They are very sibling-like," says 
Sherrill. "One minute they love each 
other. The next, they can't stand each 
other." The two have plenty of mo- 
ments of screaming "He's in my 
room!" and "She's touching my stuff." 
But after the families spend time apart 
on vacation, the kids nan to hug each 
other when reunited. Sherrill thinks 
that some friction is good for the kids. 
"Reagan gets to deal with the issues 
that children who have siblings do, 
like sharing toys and attention." she 
says, "which is great practice for life." 

ithia Muldrow, 45, and 

Lfli Feldman. 17. would no doubt 
share that opinion. Muldrow, a 
lawyer, and Feldman. a therapist and 
artist, also met through Co abode. 
Feldman and hei daughter. Sofia. 7. 
moved into the three-story Brooklyn 
home Muldrow shares with her 11- 
year-old daughter. Zora. last summer. 




The two families have a bit more pri- 
vacy than the average Co-abode pair- 
ing. Feldman and Sofia occupy the 
house's third floor, which consists of 
two bedrooms, a bathroom and a 
kitchen/living room, and Muldrow 
and Zora live on the second floor. 
The first floor-which has a living 
room and a kitchen and is considered 
Muldrow and Zora's area-is often 
used as a communal space where the 
mothers hang out and drink coffee in 
the mornings and the families watch 
movies or TV in the evenings. Sever- 
al times a month, the families have 
dinner together. But there's a casual 
mingling with kids, grownups (and 
dog Nikki) clattering between floors 
and rooms, calling: each other's 

o 

names, laughing and talking. (Both 
daughters spend half their weekends 
with their fathers.) 

Like the Atlanta women, Muldrow 
and Feldman had pre-cohabitation 
powwows on how to make their liv- 
ing arrangement work, such as how 
to combine their furniture, when to 
share meals, and where the kids 
should do their homework. But as 
move-in day approached. Feldman re- 
alized that implementing their plans 
was harder than she anticipated. "I 
thought. Whoa. I'm not sure how 
much I can do right now. It's a big 



"I'm living with a 
really great girlfriend 
after being alone" says 
Lili Feldman (on the 
floor with daughter 
Sofia) of housemate 
Cynthia Muldrow and 
her daughter, Zora 

deal moving into some- 
one else's house without 
worrying about the de- 
tails." The families kept 
their possessions and 
routines separate at first, 
^ creating distance that 
Muldrow,- recently separated from 
her husband, and Zora especially 
needed. Today, Feldman's furniture 
remains in her suite of rooms, and 
Muldrow's is in hers. The girls do 
their schoolwork in their own rooms. 



One 



DrOC6SS that bodi moms 
have observed with interest is their 
daughters' evolving relationship. 
While Zora has an older half brother 
who lived with her parents most sum- 
mers while they were together. Sofia 
has always been the only child. When 
the Feldmans moved in, Muldrow 
says. "Sofia's expectation was that 
she'd have a playmate whenever she 
was read}." Zora was initially annoyed 
by Sofia's neediness until her mom ex- 
plained die younger girl's perspective. 
Now. Muldrow says. "I hear Zora tell 
her, 'I'm going to make time after my 
homework to play with you." " 

Although the women's families 
and exes are now accepting of the 
women's arrangement, they ex- 
pressed doubt and confusion at first, 
a fact the moms found surprising. 
Feldman says. "Cynthia and I joke, 
'You can meet someone on a bus and 
fall in love after two weeks, and 
everyone thinks it's great. But you 
meet someone like this, and people 

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always looks fabulous. 

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Yes, it's sad to see our 

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when she saw the writing on the wall: 
Her twx> children. 16 and 18. would 
soon leave for college, and almost two 
decades of full-time motherhood 
would come to an abrupt end. "I didn't 
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calls. The idea of work tantalized, but 
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their bags, says Zoller. "I'd figured out 
the road to take." 

She got the master's and then a job 
at a winery, first as a minimum wage 
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moving and filling wine barrels. "I 
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ings." Today. 20 years later. Zoller is 
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she says, "the job I dreamed about." 
1 lei sadness at leaving active mother- 
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after her son and daughter went 
away to college. Cheryl Jones. 4 1. of 
Pascagoula, Mississippi, left a posi- 
tion as a lab technician and went 
back to school herself. "I'd always 
dreamed of getting a Ph.D. and 
leaching at a university," she says. 
Now a student in coastal sciences at 
die University of Southern 
Mississippi, she hopes that 
she will be a professor 10 
years from now. 

"Empty nest" is the term 
that has long been used to 
describe the time after chil- 
dren leave home, and the im- 
age it conjures is pathetic: a 
mama bird sitting alone. 
mourning the loss ol her '■■■ 
life's purpose. It's also wildly 
out of date. As in past generations, 
many of the 38 million women enter- 
ing their post parenting period today 
had children, spent years earing for 
them, and now must watch them 
take off— lor college, marriage, a job 
across town. But arc they suffering:' 
Put it this way: This ain't your 
mama's empty nest. 

NEWFOUND FREEDOM 

What's new about the empty nest 
years? Plenty. For starters, study after 
study is proving that this time is far 
more often happy and productive 
than traumatic. Yes, it hurts to sec 
kids leave home. Rut few moms are 
overwhelmed by pain. A 2002 hook 
published by the National Associa- 
tion of Social Workers found that 
more often than not, mothers of 
grown kids experienced a new sense 
ol adventure, freedom, well-being 
and satisfaction ai having successfully 
done their job as parents. Research 
In- Helen M. DcVries, Ph.D., of 
Wheaton College in Whcaton, Illi 
nois iheisi II an i mpt\ nestei i, found 



that even stay-at-home mothers ban- sional ambitions and pursue long- 
die this time well because in most deferred dreams, 
cases, they'd looked forward to, and "For the first time in 18 years. I'm 
made plans for, the day their children not conflicted about choosing be- 
left home. These studies echo others tween work and parenting." says a 
that have explored the midlife years 52-year-old woman in New York City 
in general. For instance, a major re- who exchanged part-time freelance 
search effort funded by the John D. work for a high-pressure position at a 

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Another difference in the 
modern empty nest is that 
today we regard the post- 
and Catherine T MacArthur Foun- mothering years as a new phase of 
dation. which ran for eight years and life, rather than a brief, empty post- 
involved two dozen scholars and in- script. In part, that's because longer 
terviews with 15,000 people, failed to life spans and better health mean we 
find any evidence of a pervasive "mid- literally have more time than our 




life crisis." Most people do "pretty 
darn well" during this time, re- 
searcher Ronald Kessler, professor of 
health care policy at Harvard Med- 
ical School, noted a few years ago. 



mothers and grandmothers: A 
woman who finishes mothering in 
her 40s or 50s still has several 
decades of active living ahead of her. 
It's also because, compared with 



"Many of them say these arc the best past generations, we believe there's 
years of their lives." no limit to what we can do during 
There arc a number of reasons this time. "I don't think our moth- 
thai our experience and view of this ers would have thought it appropri- 
time has changed. Certainly, fewer ate to celebrate midlife by taking 
women than in the past make their flying lessons," says Aline Zoldbrod, 
children the center of their lives. The Ph.D.. a Boston based psychologist 
nearly 50 percent divorce rate and and sex therapist. Actually, flying's 
growing popularity of joint custody the least of it. Now no one's startled 
means many of us learn to spend to hear about women like Mary E. 
days and weeks without the kids, Trimble, mother of four grown kids, 
even when they're young. A majority who learned to deep-sea dive, went 
of mothers, especially of adolescents, to Gambia with the Peace Corps, re- 
work. Not only is that a distraction turned to college, then became an 
from post -maternal sadness for many, author, or Caroline Rabinowitz. 
it changes the post-parenting years who served as a volunteer with the 
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We also feel entitled to stretch our wings. "It's not 
that women lose themselves when they become 
mothers, but it can be hard to hear your own inner 
voice against the noise and needs of your kids," says 
psychologist Helene G. Brenner, Ph.D.. director of 
Women's Counseling and Psychological Services in 
Bethesda and Frederick, Maryland, and author of / 
Know I'm in There Somewhere. "With the children 
grown, your perspective changes. For the first time in 
years you can feel that it's okay to be self-oriented." 

Evidence of this new self-focus is everywhere. 
"I've watched empty-nest women broaden their lives 
by taking dance classes, going to art galleries, join- 
ing political groups or forming deep relationships 
with other women." says Dr. Brenner. Wilderness 
and adventure trips geared to women have become 
one of the fastest growing travel markets; in Brook- 
dale, California, Barbara Lockwood. 53, who raised 
two children (and cared for more than 100 foster 
kids) runs the Empty Nest Travel Club as her post- 
motherhood career. "My husband doesn't like to trav- 
el, but I wasn't going to stay home!" she says. 

And in suburban homes across the country, where 
mothers once preserved their children's vacant 
rooms as virtual shrines, they now gleefully take 
over the space and redecorate. In 2002. the Ameri- 
can Furniture Manufacturers Association surveyed 
empty-nest parents and found that a quarter planned 
to renovate, with the same number considering the 
kinds of upgrades that had been impractical when 
there were kids around. 

After her second son left for college. Debbie Seely, 
51, of Albuquerque, New Mexico, "redid the boys' 
bathroom. It's so nice. I use it now. We took down 
the posters in my older son's room, put up wallpaper 
and art and turned it into a guest room. That meant 
our former guest/computer/sewing room became just 
my sewing room, and I had it painted bright red. I 
love that room! It's beautiful, and it's mine, and with 
no kids around, it's always clean." 

THE (RENEWED) JOY OF SEX 

Another new pleasure of the empty-nest years is sex- 
ual reawakening. The old cliche pictured the post- 
kid marriage as dismal: a couple sitting in silence at 
dinner because they no longer know what to talk 
about. It's still true that these years can be challeng- 
ing to a long-term marriage though. "Wives tend to 
become ambitious and expansive around the same 
time men are slowing down, looking toward home 



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and becoming more nurturing.'' says 
Claudia Arp, a marriage educator 
and co-author of" The Second Half of 
Marriage. "The role reversal can be 
threatening." 

But though some psychologists 
(and matrimonial lawyers) say that 
the rate of latc-liie divorce is going 
up, confirming statistics arc hard to 
come by. And even if rates are rising. 
they arc still very low: divorce is still 
relatively rare at this time of life. In 
one of the midlife studies funded by 
the MacArthur Foundation. 72 per- 
cent of respondents rated their mar 
riages as excellent, with 90 percent 
saying they were not at all or not 
very likely to separate or divorce. In- 
deed, a 1990 study published in the 
American Sociological Review noted that 
for the first few years, the departure 



of children-especially teenage chil 
dren-makes couples happier. 

It's not hard to figure out why. 
With the end of chicken-finger din 
ners, panic over homework and fil- 
ing stereos comes the eh. nice for 
peace, quiet and adult pleasures. 
Spontaneity returns, 'it's so nice to 
be able to take a last-minute trip 
somewhere without having to make 
arrangements for the kids." says 
Seely. Husbands once again become 
their wives' No. 1. "My husband 
feels a lot more attended to. because 
my attention isn't pulled away by my 
son," adds another woman. 

Then there's sex. It's easier to find 
the energy to enjoy sex when your 
head isn't bursting with to-do lists. 
But perhaps more important, says Dr. 
Zoldbrod. the empty nest years are a 



second only to the 20s for ex- 
ploring one's sexuality— and, if neces- 
sary, repairing what didn't work the 
first time around. "If you're someone 
nevei really enjoyed sex. you 
now have the resources, and more 
important, the time to get medical ad- 
vice, read hooks or experiment ro- 
mantically— to finally give yourself 
the chance to merge with your hus- 
band in a very passionate way. 

"As a mother, you get so used to 
bestowing pieces of yourself on other 
people," Dr. Zoldbrod adds. "Now. 
when there's no one waiting to take 
your outstretched arms, you turn 
back around and look at yourself." Ca 






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helps build bonds. 

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V hus- 
band arc losing their house," I recently 
told Laura, an old family friend. The 
words came tumbling out of my 
mouth as soon as she asked about 
my family, and I didn't think twice 
about telling her. Her eyes got as big 
as saucers, brimming with sympathy. 
"I had no idea," she said. Hours later. 
recalling the conversation, I felt the 
queasiness that always accompanies 
the realization that maybe I should'vc 
kept my big mouth shut. 

Why didn't I? I wish I could say it 
was to help my sister and her family 
find a solution to their problem-but 
the truth is, talking about her dilemma 
had more to do with me than her. 
Confiding in friends is one way to 
connect with people. "Disclosure is a 
vital part of bonding," says psycholo- 
gist Karen Prager, Ph.D., a professor 
of psychology at the Universit\ of 



Texas at Dallas. "Talking about our- 
selves and others is a way to feel bet- 
ter and draw closer." 

Plus, because you often trust and 
value the opinions of the people you 
confide in, sharing secrets can be 
therapeiJtic, almost like talking to a 
psychologist— without the hourly 
rate. You can get advice, sympathy 
and support, and sometimes just 
hearing yourself talk about personal, 
sensitive issues gives you better per- 
spective. In fact, studies show that 
people who confide in others live 
longer, healthier, happier lives. 

For me, actually saying the 
words, "they lost their house," made 
my sister's situation somehow less 
scary. Before I put it into words, I 
was haunted by images of my sister, 
her husband and my nephews mov- 
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was out, though, I could even hear 
myself putting a more positive spin 
on their situation. "Maybe it won't 
be so bad," I told my friend. "It 
could be a fresh start for her." The 
image ol their new place suddenly 
seemed a little brighter and cheerier. 
And Laura responded exactly the 
way I needed her to, with compas- 
sion, offers ol help and an "if any 
one can get through this, your sister 
can" pep talk. 

So if telling secrets can he such .1 
cathartic, healthy thing to do. why do 
you so often feel that immediate sense 
of panic after you let a secret slip:' 

It's hecausc no matter how altruis 
tic your motives, you know that di- 
vulging someone else's secrets puts 
that information in jeopardy of being 
spread even further-and that makes 
you feel guilty, says Sandra Metts, 
Ph.D.. a professoi of communication 
at Illinois State University in Nor- 
mal, Illinois. You can't ignore the lad 
that your loose lips could potentially 
put the person you're spilling about 
in a compromising position. "Betray- 
ing a friend's confidence will usually 
evoke leu and anxiety because you 
know it violates the bond that holds 



If telling secrets can 
be such a cathartic, 
healthy thing 
to do, why do you 
feel that immediate 
sense of panic? 



you together,"' says Dr. Metis. 

Still, despite your own awareness 
of the risk you take, sometimes your 
lips are moving before you have the 



to elope or soon to be promoted. By 
spreading happy news, you get to 
take a short ride on cloud nine your- 
self. But the danger is that the desire 
to hold the spotlight can spur you 
on to spi^l more touchy information 
than you-ever intended, like Trisha*, 
a museum curator, who 
got into a "who hates her 
job more" debate with a 
co-worker and wound up 
revealing that she was in- 
terviewing for a position at 
another company. 

"I blew my own cover 
while trying to top my co- 
worker's griping," she says. 
"For a minute, I felt like. 
Ha! I'm quitting! 'That's 
how much / hate it here. 
Now I just feel like an idiot 
for telling her something that I really 
should have kept to myself." 

The temptation to one-up some- 
one with a secret of your own is often 



opportunity to gauge the impact of too hard to resist, says Dr. Metts. 



what you are saving. Everybody 
loves to hear a juicy story, whether 
n's about you 01 someone else, and 
dishing it puts you in the limelight. 
"Telling a secret momentarily makes 
you the center of attention," s.i\ s Dr. 
Prager. "You're telling a riveting sto 
ry. You know something that others 
don't, and being listened to makes 
you feel important." 

This is especially true for those 
good-news secrets you sometimes 
"accidentally" let slip, like the fact 
(hat a good friend is pregnant, about 



That's because divulging private in- 
formation is a way to show people 
you trust them, and your natural in- 
clination is to want to show your 
friends that they have your full confi- 
dence, says Dr. Metts. But as Trisha 
learned, this can leave you with your 
foot in your mouth. 

Similarly when a neighbor told 
Rhea*, a social worker, about sexual 
difficulties her spouse was experienc- 
ing, Rhea responded by divulging 
that her own husband was taking Vi- 
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it, I knew I'd gone too far." she 
recalls. "I was trying to be com- 
passionate by commiserating 
with her, but I ended up betray- 
ing my husband in the process." 
And then there are the times 
when your lip-slip lets loose a 
nagging issue that's been 
weighing heavily on your 
mind— a big fallout with your 
husband, a health concern or a 
problem at school with your 
child— and you just need to 
purge. Instead of waiting to 
hash it out with a close, trusted 
friend, you go for instant grati 
In ition and dump your secret 
onto the first unsuspecting ac- 
quaintance who happens to ask. 
"How are you?" 

Without meaning to. you've 
exposed yourself (or worse, 
someone else) to unwanted at- 
tention and unsolicited advice. 
If, weeks later, the acquaintance 
asks about that fight with your 
husband-long after you've put 
it out of your mind— your in- 
sides may shrivel as you think 
about how much you revealed. 
Because once the secret is out, 
you no longer have any control 
over the information. 

Even if you say, "don't tell a 
soul," chances arc good that the 
secret will be repeated to at 
least one other person. "Before 
I could stop myself, I told my 
sister in law that I was under- 
going fertility treatments," says 
Susan*, a teacher. "I wanted to 
cat those words as soon as they 
came out. because I knew 
she'd tell her husband, and the 
whole family would be whis- 
pering about us." 

Exposing a secret to some- 
one in your circle of friends can 
aKo be a way of protecting the 
person you're talking about. 



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When Katrina*, a stay-at-home Rathei than carrying around that 

mom, learned that a mother in her jumhle of thoughts and emotional 

carpool group had miscarried— even reactions in youi head which is 

though the mother asked her to when a secret is most likely to spill 

keep the news under wraps-she out-"writing it down lets you or 

told the secret to several people, i ganize it. which then helps you get 

felt guilty, hut I also thought I was better control over it." she says. 

doing her a favor." she recalls. If revealing too much informa- 







"When I had miscarried. I wanted 
people to know, but I didn't want to 
be the one to tell them. I did it to 
spare her the agony, so people 
would be supportive and sensitive 
without her having to relive it by 
telling the story over and over." 
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tion repeatedly gets you into more 
trouble than it's worth, try steering 
your conversations toward less per- 
sonal topics. "Yon don't always 
have to disclose your secrets 01 
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say too much? One way is to confide topic where you would reveal your 

values or opinions— can 
forge the same kind ol 
bond without risking 
over disclosure." 

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eventually, everyone 
docs . you have to imme- 
diately do damage con 
trol: Merely obsessing 
■ about the repercussions 

or n ying to camouflage 
the fact that you're the 
one who blabbed only 
makes the initial Hub leel 
that much more . . . dirty. 

Me. 1 I'm more of a spill and 
confess type. Aftei my runawa) 
mouth incident involving my sister. 
I fell so bad I called to tell her what 
I had done. Coming clean was 
painful and mine than just a little 
bit embarrassing. Fortunately, my 
sistei didn't disown me. but she did 
tell me I should keep my month 
shut from now on. 

I told hei that when it comes to 
secrets and human beings, expect- 
ing perfectly zipped lips might be 
too tall an order. I asked il instead 
On- would accept my apology and 
m\ best efforts to keep my mouth 
d (,, i percent of the time. That. 
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Even if you swear 
someone to secrecy, 
chances are the 
confidence will be 
repeated to at least 
one other person 



in someone with no connection to 
anyone in your social network, such 
as the chatty woman who often sits 
next to you on the train, 01 even a 
classic— your hairstylist. You can 
safely choose anyone who won't be 
able to start a game ol telephone 
that ultimately leads back to you. 

"Sometimes telling too much to a 
friend with whom you have othci 
bunds in common is what leads to 
the sinking feelings of betrayal and 
regret." says Dr. Metis, "because il 
only increases the risk of the story 
getting around." 

If you're looking lor a perfectly 
inscrutable confidant, t in a pen and 
paper. "Keeping a journal meets 
that need to vent," says Dr. Metis 



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When model and actress Lauren Hutton began modeling again at age 46, she 
found that die makeup duit once worked so well years before was now making 
her look older than she really was, even when applied by die best makeup 
artists. "The colors were too saturated, the textures too heavy and the finish too 
sparkly," says Hutton. "It highlighted my wrinkles, rather man hiding diem." 

Since other women gripe about their makeup, too, she created Good Stuff, 
a line of cosmetics in muted shades designed to enhance 40-ish skin and 
conceal imperfections at the same time. 

Hutton offered to use her techniques to make over 46-ycar-oldJoy 
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New Jersey, whose simple daily beauty routine consisted of moisturizing her 
face and curling her lashes. Here are die application secrets Hutton shared. "I 
still look like me. but a better me." says Lewkowski. 




MINIMIZE PUFFY EYES. To reduce 
the appearance of the fatty deposits 
that form above the inner corners 
of your eyes, dab powder shadow 
two shacj.es darker than your skin on 
top of them. Try: Bobbi Brown Eye 
Shadow in Wheat ($18) or Jane 
Eyezing shadow in Rock Star ($3.49). 





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"As you age, brows become thinner 
and shorter. It's just as important to 
apply color to the ends of your brows 
as it is to fill in sparse areas," says 
Hutton. Try: Chanel Sculpting Brow 
Pencil ($26.50) or Ramy Miracle Brow 
($24), a mirrored compact with two 
powder shades and a brush applicator. 



PASS ON THE PANCAKE. 
Instead of a heavy foundation, use 
concealer, such as Maybellme 
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spots, and sheer foundation, like 
Physician's Formula Pearls of 
Perfection Multi-Colored Face Tim 
($12.95). on ruddy under-eye areas 
and laugh lines (See page 79 for 
our story on other new foundations.) 



HAVE LIGHT HIT YOUR FACE EVENLY to decrease shadows. "Face your 
mirror toward a window so it's centered," says Hutton. 



USE OIL-BLOTTING PAPERS to 
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they stop slickness before and after 
applying makeup, but the paper's 
portable size can't be beat. Try: Lauren 
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available at www.laurenhutton.com. 

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CREATE A NATURAL-LOOKING 
LIP TINT. Apply balm, like Smith's 
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pat the same powder blush that 
you've used on your face over the 
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WHAT'S ON THE (SPA) MENU? 
Every spa needs a menu— an array of 
sigh-inducing treatments— and your 
at-home version is no exception. 
While fuil-body treatments do 
require a pro's touch, you still have 
plenty of options, including: 
fabulous Facial Masks: Few things 

:a qi.iite Uke facial masks. Choose 
from one of cur homemade recipes or 
treat yoursaif and your guests to a 
store-bOijg*if clay mask (to purify oily 
skin) or a cream mask (to moisturize 
dry complexions). Some to try: Origins 



You're Getting Warmer purifying clay 
mask ($18.50) and Phytomer 
Hydrating Facial Mask ($23.95) 
Hand and Feet Treats: Take turns 
pampering each other's hands and 
feet with scrubs and soaks. Good to 
try: the all-you-need Lucky Chick 
Tingling Tootsies Beauty Bag ($30) 
with a eucalyptus foot soak and 
peppermint products, including foot 
mist, scrub and foot-and-leg lotion. 
Eye Candy: It sounds so simple, yet 
the act of just closing your eyes can 
help recharge your batteries. Have a 



friend massage your temples with a 
lavender essential oil, such as those 
listed on the next page, and enhance 
the effect with an eye mask. Try the 
tissue-thin Talika Eye Decompress 
($25 for 9 masks), which you first 
into a solution of cooling cfenfloj 
and rose petal extracts. Ano'ther 
option: gel pads, which can be 
warmed up in hot water or cooled in 
the fridge. Pictured here: Oscar + 
Dehn Cooling Eye Mask ($12), at left, 
and Origins Fun and Fruity Eye Lids 
($6), at right. Sigh. 




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HOW TO PREP FOR YOUR PRETTY PARTY 

Your girlfriends are due to arrive, but before 
they do, take 30 minutes to assemble your 
spa-at-home essentials, including: 
Candlelight: A candle's soft glow is 
instantly soothing, and candles are the 
easiest-to-find ingredient of your spa kit. 
Great to try: Aveda Lavandou Plant Pure- 
Fume Aroma candle ($16) and Indigo Wild 
Almond Soy candle ($15) 
Towels: Place an inviting stack of soft 
towels within easy reach of your guests. 
They'll need them to pat their faces dry 
after a good cleansing. 
Aromatherapy Oils: Oils are the key to 
ultimate relaxation, and their therapeutic 
benefits go back thousands of years. 
Dilute a few drops in water, pour into a 
mist bottle and spray the room. We 
recommend these three scents: 

•Lavender: A potent relaxer, lavender 

is tops at easing headaches. Try: Neal's 

Yard Lavender Essential Oil ($20) 
•Rosemary: Uplifting rosemary will give 

your party just the pep that it needs. 

Try: Elemis Rosemary Essential Oil ($30) 
•Eucalyptus: Refreshing eucalyptus 

makes a great decongestant. 

Try: Bath and Body Works Eucalyptus 

Spearmint Essential Oil ($18) 






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Mood Tunes: Music can transform your 
everyday surroundings into a sanctuary. Slip 
an inspirational CD, like Across an Ocean of 
Dreams by 2002 ($14.99), into the sound 
system before your first guests trickle in. 
Tools and Trinkets: Nail-grooming sets and 
neck pillows are fun take-aways. Your 
friends will love Ms. Manicure Marvelous 
Minis ($2.99), filled with nail-grooming 
essentials, or splurge on Dreamtime Foot 
Cozies ($54.99), plush aromatherapy socks. 
Culinary Delights: The kitchen, always a 
magnet for get-togethers, will play a 
central role in this gathering, too. Stock 
up on fresh fruits such as papaya and 
bananas, both for delicious smoothies and 
do-it-yourself skin treatments. Green tea 
is a great hot drink, or dunk the bags in 
cool water and plop them right on your 
eyes— the natural antioxidants will 
instantly reduce puffiness and relax you. 



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CURES FROM THE KITCHEN 

Did you know that you can 
create your own mask? Even 
spas like Salon and Spa Blue in 
Carle Place, New York, whip up 
homemade recipes for their 
clients. "We get inspiration 
from our clients, and from our 
interest in natural ingredients," 
says spa director Lisa Abbey. 
Here are some masks you can 
make from scratch: 



GLOW-INDUCING POTION 

Salon and Spa Blue's Papaya 
Pineapple Perfection Mask 

3 A cup fresh mashed papaya 
1 teaspoon pineapple juice 
1 teaspoon wheat germ 

Combine all ingredients in a 
bowl. Pat mask onto face and 
neck. If you feel tingling, it's 
okay; it means the fruit enzymes 
are sloughing dull skin. Rinse off 
after 15 minutes. 



PEPPY FEET TONIC 
Bliss Spa Exfoliating Mask 
2 cups mashed pineapple 
2 cups mashed papaya 
2 cups warm milk 

Combine all ingredients in a 
big bowl. Soak feet (or hands) 
for 20 minutes. Rinse and 
moisturize with a cream, such 
as The Healing Garden's 
Lavender Whipped Souffle 
Body Creme ($6.75). 




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MIX-IT-UP STORE-BOUGHT 
FACIAL MASKS^ 

• In a bowl, mix AsiJJ 
facial masks with a flH 
of water and voila, a fr 
mask! Try the White Thai 
version ($32), which tighte 
pores and brightens skin. 

• Kitchen staples— such as 
honey, carrot or banana- 
transform the Andrea Face 
Mix Powder Mask ($2 for three 
applications) into different 
masks for various skin types. 



FUN FIXES FOR FEET 

The ancient practice of foot 
reflexology, in which certain points 
of the foot are pressed to deliver 
specific benefits, has made its way 
to your home via beyond-adorable 
reflexology socks. "Diagram-lined 
socks are a great way to practice 
this healing art at home," says 
John Kang, president of Earth 
Therapeutics in Plainview, New 
York, which makes a complete line 
of pampering essentials. The 
reputed benefits of reflexology 
include increased circulation, 
relaxation and tension relief. Feel 
free to practice on yourself, of 
course, but don't shy away from 
grabbing your buddy's feet and 
trying it on her, too. 
Socks to try: Earth Therapeutics 
Reflexology Socks ($9.99) and True 
Blue Spa Sole Searching Reflexology 
Socks ($12), pictured here 












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What does it feel like 

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I am 15 minutes late to meet Diane 
Sawyer. Panicked in the cab on the 
way over to her office at ABC News. I 
do the madi. Let's see: She reportedly 
earns $13 million a year. There are 
260 working days in the year. So each 
eight-hour da}' she makes $50,000. or 
$6,250 an hour. That means if I'm 15 
minutes late. I'VE JUST WASTED 
$1,562.50 OF ABC's money. 

Fortunately. Sawyer is even later 
than I am and apologetic (cost to 
Ladies' Home Journal: about a buck and 
a half). The woman who regularly 
makes best dressed lists somehow 
manages to look put together in a ny- 
lon track shirt, pinstriped Banana Re- 
public pants, moccasins, a pair of 
socks she filched from her husband, 
dircctoi Mike Nichols, and a big fuzzy 



cardigan with a wolf on the back. She 
seems particularly ebullient— not sur- 
prising, since she's got a lot to be 
cheerful about. Sawyer along with 
Charlie Gibson) is perceived as the 
sa\4or of Good Morning America, which 
now regularly trounces Today in at 
least half of the Top 10 markets. For 
her evening stint at Piimetime Thurs- 
day, she is landing some of the most 
both - sou2fht-after intemews: in one 
week this past November, she aired 
interviews with both Jessica Lynch 
and Britney Spears. 

Sawyer, statuesque and slim, gives 
me a handshake and a hug. It doesn't 
feel like die scary boa constrictor hug 
celebrities sometimes give, a hug 
that's more threat than greeting. It 
seems sweet and genuine and very 
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Sun ver, who has been married 

to film director Mike Nichols 

since 1 988, calls their quiet 

weekends together "heavenly . . . 

I couldn't live without them" 



Kentuckian, with "Vails" occasionally 
slipping into her otherwise accentless 
conversation). She claims to have slept 
lor only 45 minutes last night (on the 
floor of her closet yet. because she 
was afraid her restlessness would 
wake her sleeping husband), but 
you'd never know it. There is a pleas- 
ant, burnished glow about her that 
owes nothing to airbrushing or trick 
lighting. It's easy to see why Ameri- 
cans want to invite her into their 
homes each morning: There is some- 
thing forghing and generous in her 
nature. If Katie Couric is the wise- 
cracking, super-caffeinated neighbor 
who bustles in with the newspaper. 
Sawyer is the girlfriend you want to 
linger in the kitchen with, laughing 
and nursing your hangover from the 
night before, and. no neat freak her- 
self, she wouldn't notice the crumbs 
on your counter. 

Amid the Emmys, Opus cartoons 
(The Berkeley Breathed Bloom 
County strip) and photos of her fami- 
ly in her office. Sawyer took some 
time to sip Diet Coke, chat and linger 
with Ladies ' Home Journal. 

Q: Let me tell you. it's frightening to 
interview a great interviewer. I feel 
like handing you my questions and 
going. "Are these good?" 
A: Wh\ don't we pretend this is the 
Olympics.' I'll hold up a card after 
each question ... 9! 10! 5.2! I could 
say encouraging things like. "Don't 
Give Up." 

Q: I'd be very grateful. Anyway, do 
you think that being the host of 
GM4 has brought out a side of you 
the world didn't know about? 



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from-a-trapeze side? It's not that it's 
brought it out, because it's alwavs 
been there, but with evening news, 
there's only one tone. In the morn- 
ing, there's a whole range of experi- 
ence. You get it all in die morning. 
Q: Does it feel schizophrenic to you— 
Vladimir Putin one hour. Jessica 
Simpson the next? 

A: No. not at all. Even, body drinks 
that you have to have these artificial 
boundaries, that you have to main- 
tain some starchy walls around your- 
self in order to have credibility. I 
don't think people think like that. 
They know that doing meadoaf sand- 
wiches at die end of the show doesn't 
detract from your ability to question 
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natural competitiveness. So of course, 
at times. I'm making the call [to get 
a coveted interview] and she's mak- 
ing the call. too. But it's never per- 
sonal, never. 

Q: Do the two of you ever have bets 
about who's going to get a particular 
interview? 

A: No. no! But lots of times you can 
tell going in. Sometimes the fact that 
I've done a lot of investigative and 
foreign correspondent reporting is an 
asset. It can work even - which way. 
Q: So what you're saying is. it's not a 
question of who sends the biggest 
muffin basket. 
A: Right! 

Q: How is it these days, getting up at 
4 in the mornins;? You must naturallv 
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person. My natural rhythm is 
to sleep until 11. and then stay up 
until 3 or ( in the morning. For a long 
time, to get ourselves going first 
thing, we played Tom Jones in the 
makeup room. "It's Not Unusual." 
sometimes "Delilah." We'd sing and 
carry on. Last night I was up late, and 
I just never went to bed. I think I'm 
wired because my stepdaughter is in 



body. I love it so much when we get 
into a cab in New York City, and 
within two blocks he'll have the cab 
driver in stitches, even if the driver 
only speaks Pashtu. 
Q: Is that the diing you find sexiest- 
being funny? 

A: Oh. isn't it always? I read that 
Napoleon said. "A woman laughing 
is a woman conquered." 



good about house-training her and I 
just come around and undermine 
him. I feed her things behind his back 
and under the table, and she leaps up 
at dinner parties and puts her tongue 
up my nose in front of people. That 
drives him insane. 

Q: Why did you decide not to have 
children? Was it because you were 42 
when vou married? 



"I THRIVE ON CHAOS. I LEAVE ALL THE 
IRAWERS AND DOORS OPEN-CLOTHES ON 
THE FLOOR AND FOOD ON THE COUNTER" 

What would be your typical 



town, and stepgranddaughter. and it's 
all too exciting for me. 
Q: You have grandkids? 
A: One stepgrandchild. yes. She's 9. 
She's magical. Her name is Saskia— it 
was the name of Rembrandt's wife. 
Q: Does she call you grandma? 
A: No. She has many grandmothers. 
I'm just Diane. 

Q: Tell me more about your husband 
[Mike Nichols, who directed movies 
such as The Graduate. Working Girl 
and. most recendy. the HBO special 
Angels in America]. You met in the air- 
port. You were then working for 60 
Minutes, and you were trying to land 
him for an inten iew? 
A: Right. We had lunch, at which 
point I sort of did my performing 
seal number: •"You just have to let me 
interview you." He postponed seeing 
me again, and then it just sort of 
trailed off. Then we'd have another 
lunch and trail off. Clearly he was 
never going to give me an interview. 
Q: Was it obvious that there was 
chemistry between you? 
A: I thought he was the most heart- 
stoppingly funny and limitless person 
I'd ever met. To be so funny, and so 
generous . . . it's a rare combination. 
And he's not judgmental about any- 



Q: 

weekend together? 

A: It starts the minute he can get off 
work, because usually, right after the 
show on Fridays. I take off. Then we 
wander around to movies and long 
dinners. We're really the least inter- 
esting people in die world. Occasion- 
ally we'll get in the car and drive 
someplace . . . just to have long, unin- 
terrupted talks, with no phone. As 
passionately as I work during the 
week, try to reach me on the week- 
end. I really do shut it off. I do. 
Q: What is die one thing he does, or 
the one diing you do. that makes the 
other nuts? 

A: -Oh. I think he would say what 
Charlie [Gibson] says, which is diat I 
thrive on chaos. I walk in the door, 
and the clodies start coming off and 
onto the floor. I leave all the drawers 
and doors open, food out on the 
counter. I get more slovenly as the 
weekend progresses. He's extremely 
well organized. I have to say I'm win- 
ning this tug of war. I'm gradually 
bringing him over to the dark side. Fi- 
nally he's having to yield in despair'. 

Also. I have no discipline with dogs 
or other animals. We have a Cavalier 
King Charles Spaniel. Mike is very 



A: Well, it's not impossible at 
42. And I've always had kids 
around-that's family to me. 
My nephews, my godchildren. 
Frit probably the biggest kid in 
the room with them. 
But you know, when we met. Mike 
was 56 and had children from two 
pre\-ious wives, and it just seemed to 
me there was already so much love 
there. I guess I didn't feel that [hav- 
ing my own children] was defining 
for me. I felt we were already a fami- 
ly. And there was so much to be 
done, making sure that we all got 
stitched together, because it's not 
easy to have a stepmother coming in. 
And that's what mattered to me. 
most of the time. 

Q: How old were his children then? 
A: 10 and 12. I met his two younger 
children. Jenny and Max. New Year's 
1988. and we were married that 
April. That's pretty fast, for children. 
It's unnening to have somebody sud- 
denly show up. They were wonder- 
ful, but that doesn't mean it was easy. 
Q: Do they spend time with you 
now that they're adults? 
A: Yes. And their mom lives a few 
blocks from us. We all take vacations 
together. I love their mother. Annabel. 
Q: Did your relationship with her 
take work or was it just something 
that happened naturally? 
A: It wasn't without formality 
sometimes. But no. I think maybe in 
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miestic. because there is no doubt 
in anybody's mind how little I know 
about the things she knows about, 
that we didn't have compering roles. 
Q: Valentine's Day is approaching. 
What's the most romantic diing you 
and Mike do for each other? 
A: We used to do Valentine's Day. 
but that kind of lapsed. I write him a 
note every mornine, and he writes 



A: Yes. he's pierced. I'm forever hav- 
ing to go down at 4 in the morning 
and get him out of some bar here in 
town [laughing]. No. he's the one 
person about whom none of this 
could ever be believed ever. ever, 
ever. He's something of a vanishing 
vanishing species— a truly intelligent 
and gracious man. At least once a 
week on die show, he rescues me. He 



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me notes before I come into work. 
Q: So when you say a note, it's not. 
"Please get some milk." 
A: Right. And he's very romantic- 
much more than I am, probably. He 
gives gifts. 
Q: Like what? 

A: Like . . . sheets. Really soft sheets. 
He knows I have only two decorating 
ideas, which are: scrunch) - and soft. 
Q: So. until you met him you lived 
like a graduate student because you 
couldn't bring yourself to decorate. 
A: Yeah. If it was. Gee. I have an op- 
tion of going to die movies or looking 
at swatches, it wasn't even close. And 
I have no confidence in my taste. I'm 
always die person who would end up 
with the lavender polka-dot sofa and 
then wonder what I was thinking. But 
now. I'm married to a movie director, 
and he's got a sense of set. He's got a 
feeling of what it should be— maybe not 
die specifics, but that doesn't matter 
much to me. Again, scrunchy and 
soft. Feet up on everything, and it 
doesn't matter if the dog has an acci- 
dent. Much. 

Q: Tell me a little bit about the other 
man in your life. Charlie Gibson. 
A: He has main tattoos. 
Q: And he's pierced, isn't he? 



has a kind of trapeze-partner sense of 
when to swoop in. 

Q: Is there a lot of pressure on you, 
as the host of Good Morning America, to 
stay forever young? It's known that 
even women in the news industry in- 
dulge in plastic surgery now. 
A: Evervbodv's doing all different 
things. It got done someplace and 
then moved on. When you look 
across the board at the work we're 
doing collectively, at Barbara Wal- 
ters, at Lesley Stahl. at Christiane 
Amanpour, they're all doing such sin- 
gular work. I just don't see that age is 
an issue anymore. You get to a cer- 
tain place of being in everybody's liv- 
ing room, and it's a thing of respect. 
You're not going to be booted off die 
air. Besides, in terms of being older 
and looking older, it's similar for men 
and women now. Walter Cronkite 
was 65 when he reared, and he was 
thought of as Uncle Walter. But you 
don't think. Uncle Peter Jennings]. 
Look how fantastic and young the 
guys look, despite their ages. They're 
very lean and ready. 
Q: Do you think your looks helped 
or hurt your career.' 
A: It's hard when you don't see what 
other people see. Who doesn't see 



the size of their rear end or wish they 
had a nose like Candice Bergen? Or 
imagine what life would be like as 
Catherine Zeta-Jones? I think high 
school, embarrassing, paralyzingly self- 
conscious high school, is formative. 
Q: You weren't the homecoming 
queen in high school? 
A: I was so nerdy. I didn't have 
dates. I didn't have boyfriends. I 
wasn't in the In Group. We 
had this little group. Three of 
us. we were Unitarian. Jewish 
and Methodist— me— and we 
use& to get together and read 
Thoreau and Emerson, and 
wed sit by this squalid creek every 
dav at lunch and imasine ourselves 
as philosophers— we called ourselves 
the new Transcendentalists. 
Q: C'mon. you really didn't date in 
high school? 

A: Didn't even really have a crush. I 
didn't get asked to the prom. 
Q: Oh c'mon. That's what beautiful 
women always say: T was a dork in 
high school." 

A: Xo. I'm not making this up. This 
is documented. Even when I won 
that contest [Sawyer was 1963s 
America's Junior Miss]. I was geeky 
at Wellesley. I didn't go out. You 
know. I was a real nose-pressed- 
against-the-window-of-the-popular- 
kids girl. I was voted "most likely to 
succeed" in high school, which I 
thought was the dreariest possible 
thing to be. I was so very, very- 
earnest. 

Q: Growing up. did you have idols? 
A: I didn't have distant idols. I had 
proximate ones. (Sawyer's father was 
a judge, her mother a teacher. .\I\ 
mom was so amazing: Everything 
she handled, did. how brave she was. 
Q: Did she have a rough childhood? 
A: They grew up on Kentucky 



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VIOXX (pronounced "Vl-ox") 

for Osteoarthritis, Rheumatoid Arthritis and Pain 

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read this information before you start taking VIOXX*. Also, read the 

your prescription, in case any information has changed. 

, a summary of certain information about VIOXX. Your 

;t can give you an additional leaflet that is written for health 

that >ntains more complete information. This leaflet does not take 

;ce of careful discussions with your doctor. You and your doctor should 

discuss VIOXX when you start taking your medicine and at regular checkups. 

What is VIOXX? 

VIOXX is a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drug (NSAID) that is used to reduce 
pain and inflammation (swelling and soreness). VIOXX is available as a tablet or 
a liquid that you take by mouth. 

VIOXX is a medicine for: 

relief of osteoarthritis (the arthritis caused by age-related "wear and tear" 
on bones and |omts) 

• relief of rheumatoid arthritis in adults 

• management of acute pain in adults (like the short-term pain you can get 
after a dental or surgical operation) 

• treatment of menstrual pain (pain during women's monthly periods). 

Who should not take VIOXX? 

Do not take VIOXX if you: 

• have had an allergic reaction such as asthma attacks, hives, or swelling of the 
throat and face to aspirin or other NSAIDs (for example, ibuprofen and naproxen). 

• have had an allergic reaction to rofecoxib, which is the active ingredient of 
VIOXX, or to any of its inactive ingredients (See Inactive Ingredients at 
the end of this leaflet ) 

What should I tell my doctor before and during treatment with VIOXX? 

Tell your doctor if you are 

• pregnant or plan to become pregnant. VIOXX should not be used in late 
pregnancy because it may harm the fetus 

• breast-feeding or plan to breast-feed. It is not known whether VIOXX is passed 
through to human breast milk and what its effects could be on a nursing child. 

Tell your doctor if you have 

• history of angina, heart attack or a blocked artery in your heart 

• kidney disease 

• liver disease 
heart failure 

• high blood pressure 

• had an allergic reaction to aspirin or other NSAIDs 

• had a serious stomach problem in the past 

Tell your doctor about: 

• any other medical problems or allergies you have now or have had. 

• all medicines that you are taking or plan to take, even those you can get 
without a prescription 

Tell your doctor if you develop: 

• serious stomach problems such as ulcer or bleeding symptoms (for 
instance, stomach burning or black stools, which are signs of possible 
stomach bleeding) 

• unexplained weight gain or swelling of the feet andor legs. 

• skin rash or allergic reactions. If you have a severe allergic reaction, get 
medical help right away. 

How should I take VIOXX? 

VIOXX should be taken once a day. Your doctor will decide what dose of VIOXX 
you should take and how long you should take it You may take VIOXX with or 
without food 

Can I take VIOXX with other medicines? 

Tell your doctor about all of the other medicines you are taking or plan to take 
while you are on VIOXX. even other medicines that you can get without a 
prescription. Your doctor may want to check that your medicines are working 
properly together if you are taking other medicines such as: 

• warfarin (a blood thinner) 

• theophylline (a medicine used to treat asthma) 

• rifampin (an antibiotic) 

ACE inhibitors (medicnes used for high blood pressure and heart failure) 

• lithium (a medicine used to treat a certain type of depression). 

VIOXX cannot take the place of aspirin for prevention of heart attack or stroke. 
If you take both aspirin and VIOXX. you may have a greater chance of serious 
stomach problems than if you take VIOXX alone If you are currently taking 
aspirin for prevention of hear! attack or stroke, you should not discontinue taking 
aspirin without consulting your doctor 



What are the possible side effects of VIOXX? 

Senous but rare side effects that have been reported in patients taking VIOX \ 
and/or related medicines have included: 

Serious stomach problems, such as stomach and intestinal bleeding, can oca 
with or without warning symptoms. These problems, if severe, could lead I 
hospitalization or death. Although this happens rarely, you should watch ft. 
signs that you may have this senous side effect and tell your doctor right awa; 

• Heart attacks and similar serious events have been reported in patient 
taking VIOXX. 

• Serious allergic reactions including swelling of the face. lips, tongue 
and/or throat which may cause difficulty breathing or swallowing an 
wheezing occur rarely but may require treatment nght away Severe ski 
reactions have also been reported. 

• Senous kidney problems occur rarely, including acute kidney failure an! 
worsening of chronic kidney failure. 



• Severe liver problems, including hepatitis, jaundice and liver failure, occu 
rarely in patients taking NSAIDs. including VIOXX. Tell your doctor if yoi 
develop symptoms of liver problems. These include nausea, tiredness, itch 
ing, tenderness in the nght upper abdomen, and flu-like symptoms. 

In addition, the following side effects have been reported: anxiety, blurra 
vision, colitis, confusion, decreased levels of sodium in the blood, depression, fluic 
in the lungs, hair loss, hallucinations, increased levels of potassium in the blood, in . 
somnia. low blood cell counts, menstrual disorder, palpitations, pancreatitis, nnginc 
m the ears, severe increase in blood pressure, tingling sensation, unusual headache 
with stiff neck (aseptic meningitis), vertigo, worsening of epilepsy. 

More common, but less serious side effects reported with VIOXX have mcludec 
the following: 

Upper and/or lower respiratory infection and/or inflammation 

Headache 

Dizziness 

Diarrhea 

Nausea and/or vomiting 

Heartburn, stomach pain and upset 

Swelling of the legs and/or feet 

High blood pressure 

Back pain 

Tiredness 

Urinary tract infection. 

These side effects were reported in at least 2% of osteoarthritis patients 
receiving daily doses of VIOXX 12.5 mg to 25 mg in clinical studies. 



The side effects described above do not include all of the side effects reported 
with VIOXX. Do not rely on this leaflet alone for information about side effects 
Your doctor or pharmacist can discuss with you a more complete list of side 
effects. Any time you have a medical problem you think may be related to 
VIOXX, talk to your doctor. 

What else can I do to help manage my arthritis pain? 

Talk to your doctor about: 
Exercise 

• Controlling your weight 

• Hot and cold treatments 

• Using support devices. 

What else should I know about VIOXX? 

This leaflet provides a summary of certain information about VIOXX. If you have 
any questions or concerns about VIOXX. osteoarthntis. rheumatoid arthritis or 
pain, talk to your health professional. Your pharmacist can give you an additional 
leaflet that is written for health professionals. 

Do not share VIOXX with anyone else: it was prescribed only for you. It should 
be ta*en only for the condition for which it was prescribed. 

Keep VIOXX and all medicines out of the reach of children. 

Inactive Ingredients: 

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strawberry flavor, xanthan gum. sodium methylparaben. sodium propylparaben. 

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times with only pennies to live on. 
So, I saw all this curiosity and ex- 
citement about the world in the face 
of having had it rough . . . bruises, 
real bruises. 

My mother has three sisters, my 
dad had nine brothers and sisters. So 
evei y place you looked there were 
these women taking chances. Not for 
a minute thinking diere was anything 



A: Completely. And Southern food's 
my favorite. Okra. 
Q: Oh my God. Slime. 
A: Yes. exactly. My husband actually 
has the same reaction. But I love okra 
and fried tomatoes and collard 
greens. I'm the only person whose 
mother, when I was at Wellesley. sent 
boxes of turnips instead of petit 
fours. I remember eating my turnips 



"I'D LIKE TO BE ABLE TO MAKE A ROAST 

THAT DOESN'T LOOK LIKE A DISGUSTING, 

CHARRED THING. THAT'D BE GREAT" 



they couldn't do. And my mom and 
her sisters are hilarious when they're 
together. They're old and vital. So 
that was really good. 
Q: Did she give you one piece of ad- 
vice that always rings in your ears? 
A: Yeah. Never forget to comb your 
hair in back. She still tells me this, all 
the time. [In a picture in Sawyer's of- 
fice, her mother is radiant in a bee- 
hive do.] She really does dream that 
someday she'll have a daughter 
whose hair stays in place, which mine 
never will. In fact, she's coming in a 
couple of hours, and that'll be the 
first thing she'll do: Mention my hair. 
Q: Not your weight loss [of 2001]? 
A: Loss-and regain! But no. she's 
never been critical of weight. She 
hates it when I don't have my legs 
properly crossed or she thinks some- 
thing I'm wearing is too short. Being 
unladylike is a big indictment. Un- 
ladylike is when mv stockings have a 
run in them, or when I just sit .sort of 
sprawled in pants. She doesn't like 
that. It's just about being respectful 
to others. 

Q: Is it a Southern thins;? 
A: Very Southern. 

Q: Do you still think of yourself as a 
Southerner? 



in my room, being so happy. 
Q: If you could be a superhero, what 
would your special powers be? 
A: Well, everybody wants to fly. 
right? As a child, my sister jumped 
off the top of a bookcase thinking she 
could fly, and landed on me and 
broke my tooth, which she is unbe- 
lievably guilty about to diis day. 
Q: In the sibling dynamic, was your 
sister. Linda, generally the torturer? 
A: Oh, no. She'll be disgusted that 
I'm saying this, but she's really a 
saint. I'm not kidding. Since I've 
been little, she only worries about 
others, about me. She would let me 
tag along with her. from the time I 
was tiny. 

But anyway, if I had really magical 
powers I'd be able to cook. 
Q: Not your forte? 
A: I can follow directions and love 
complicated recipes. But just ask me 
to do something like roast a chicken, 
and it's always awful. Horrible. No- 
body would eat it. Just to be able to 
make a roast that didn't look like 
some disgusting, charred. Paleolithic 
thing— that would be great. My step- 
kids say that thev cannot take one 
more weird meal. 

I love parties. I love having people 



over, looking at their faces to see if 
they really liked everything, and then 
interviewing them about how much 
the\ r liked it. 
Q: You really ask them? 
A: Oh. of course. If they don't eat 
something it's all I can think about 
for weeks. They left that on their 
plate, and what can I do next time? 
I'm way too needy to be a good cook. 
At one point I decided to 
learn to cook and approached 
the cookbook alphabetically. I 
did a lot with artichokes. And I 
had\n entire month of beets. 
Marinated beets, beet salad . . . 
I don't know what I was thinking. 
Then I got stuck in the Cs. I did this 
when I was living in San Clemente. 
Q: When vou were working with 
President Nixon? [Sawyer was 
Richard Nixon's press aide: then, af- 
ter his resignation in 1974. she went 
with him to San Clemente to help 
him write his memoirs.] 
A: Yes. Cooking was my life raft. 
Q: What did you learn from him? 
A: I learned something about getting 
up in the morning, when, for what- 
ever reasons, self-inflicted or other- 
wise, your vision for yourself has 
been shattered, has been decimated. 
His ability to be able to get back up 
and simply sit behind a desk, after all 
that, was impressive. 
Q: What would you ask yourself if 
you were me? The one thing people 
don't know about you? 
A: I'm sort of I Love Lucy, and I don't 
think everybody knows that. 
Q: Lucy or Ethel? 

A: Lucy, definitely Lucy. I am the 
first one to get out on the ledge and 
not be able to get back in. Walking 
and tripping over things . . . 
Q: Not a big athlete, are y r ou? 
A: Me. no. I'm brave but untalented. 
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^"■1 e's been a serial killer, a G- 
man. a doctor and a summer- 
school teacher-as an actor, of 
course. Bui whether he's playing 
tough or tender, there's an easy. "aw. 
shucks." sexiness to Mark Harmon 
that comes through, whether he's 
modestly talking about his new 
movie. Chasing Liberty (inspired by the 
classic Roman Holiday), or his hit CBS 
show. Navy XCIS. "I'm only an ac- 
tor." Harmon, 52. says. "What the 
real NCIS do is amazing. They're at 
the very tip of counter-terrorism 
work. My fear is that a real agent in 
a cave somewhere will be compro- 
mised bv a fan asking. 'Do vou 
know the stars oi XCIS on TV?' " 

When you leave the XCIS set. 
you go home to your wife. Pain 
Dawber. of Mark ir Minay fame. How- 
did you two meet? 

It was kind of a blind date. A gal 
I was working with at the time want- 
ed me to meet Pam. but I had taken 
the line that if I ever dated an actress 
again, someone should shoot me in 
the forehead with a dull spear gun. 
So. it didn't work out for us right 
away, but eventually we ran into 
each other, talked and ended up go- 
ing out that same night. A year later 
we got married. 

) Did it feel different right awav? 
It just felt easy. If you haven't 
found that yet, hang on to your belief 
that it's out diere. It's not about light- 
ning bolts and that stuff, it's about 
being comfortable. 

I President Foster, your C/uising Lib- 
erty character, spends a lot of time 
worrvins; about his be<rinnin2;-to-date 



teenage daughter, played by Mandy 
Moore. Your sons. Sean. 15. and Ty. 
10. are approaching dating age. Are 
you getting worried yet? 

- Oh. I expect both of our bovs will 
treat women wonderfully. I have two 
older sisters, and one way or another, 
they taught me. You know. I think 
moral structure is important. And 
that's part of our job as parents. You 
have to make choices in your own 
life and in your kids' lives. 

What kinds of choices? 

My family is from the Midwest, 
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involve more responsibility and. to 
some degree, more discipline. You see 
that when vour kid 2X>es. "Hev. I 
want to play with Billy." you say. 
"Great." And you call die mom. and 
she drops Billy off. and Billy does 
things at vour house and vou so. 
"Unbelievable." I mean, whatever 
he's doing is okay at Billy's house, 
but not okay here. 

Were you always this responsible? 

- I didn't get married until I was in 
my 30s. It seemed to me that in 
growing up and dating I was light 
years behind women. They're born 
more mature. I had lots of friends 
who were married right out of col- 
lege, and I could no more have done 
that than landed on the moon! Then 
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For as long as she can remember, the 
twin themes of Jean Wertz's life have 
been art and candy. So perhaps it was 
inevitable that she .vould eventually 
devise an art form that exquisitely, if 
idiosvncraticallv. merges the two: 
Wcrtz paints reproductions of classic 
works made out of . . . chocolate! 

W'ertz. 50. grew up in Lebanon. 
Pennsylvania, where her family owns 
W'ertz Candies, a local institution that 
has been turning out handcrafted 
truffles and opera fudge" (a dark- 
chocolate delicacy unique to die area 
and reputed to have been the pre- 
ferred tieat of 19th-century opera go- 
ers) since 1931. At 6. W'ertz enrolled 
in her fust art class. "The moment I 
picked up the paintbrush. I knew this 



was for me." she says. After graduat- 
ing from Kutztown University in 
Kutztown. Pennsylvania, in 1979. 
W'ertz supported herself with odd 
jobs, but spent all her free time paint- 
ing. She assumed she had left the 
family business far behind. T always 
said I wouldn't be caught dead work- 
ing there." she says with a laugh. 

Around Valentine's Day 1985. 
however, her father came to her in 
desperation. The candy coater had 
just quit, during one of the busiest 
seasons. Wertz's family needed her. 

Reluctandy. W ertz joined her brodi- 
ers Bill and Richard in the store, and. 
with her mother as teacher, learned 
how to handcraft die shop's signature 
confections, all made widi fresh, nat- 



Jean W'ertz Jound 

making candies "deadly 

dull" and prefers her 

chocolate on a canvas 



ural ingredients. The painstaking coat- 
ing process involves ladling warm 
molten chocolate onto a cool marble 
tabletop. hand dipping each of the 
candy centers into the tempered liq- 
uid, then embellishing each candy 
with an identifying mark (a delicate 
pink R. for raspberry, for instance). 

"We do it exactly as it was done in 
1931." says Wertz. "It results in a su- 
perb product, but it was deadly dull 
as a job." Years passed and Wertz's 
frustration grew. How could an artist 
find fulfillment amid this drudgery? 

She found her answer in 1993. 
when she enrolled in a class led by 
chef Elaine Gonzalez, author of the 
cookbook The Art of Chocolate. Gonza- 
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to craft a basic chocolate box. an edi- 
ble container for smaller candies. It 
was a revelation for Wertz. "For the 
first time, I saw chocolate as a cre- 
ative medium." she says. She flashed 
back to a novelty item she had seen 
in a trade catalog— a Monet copy 
crudely painted on a slab of choco- 
late. Perhaps, she thought giddily, her 
two disparate worlds could be 
brought together after all. 

Back in the shop. Wertz started ex- 
perimenting with edible paint, finding 
an ideal mixture in vodka and pow- 
dered food coloring. For her "can- 
vas," she melted white chocolate and 
molded it flat. She even figured out 
how to craft chocolate frames, usinsr 
gold-colored sprinkles as "gilding." 

From the start, she focused on 
recreating oilier artists' master- 
pieces. "Copying these artists" work 
helps me improve my own tech- 
nique." she says, "and it also lets ire 
reach out to the public. People re- 
spond to these beautiful, familiar 
images. A lot of our customers come 



The paintings won't 
disintegrate, but may fall 
victim to a sweet tooth 



into die shop just to look at the art." 

Even so, her brothers often wished 
their sister would get serious about 
making candy. "She's doodling again." 
one was heard to say. And "when is 
she going to do some real work?" 

Their attitude changed in 2002. 
when the Toledo Museum of Art 
phoned. Communications manager 
Elizabeth Sudheimer had discovered 
Wertz's Web site. www. chocolate 
(irti.stn.com. and hoped to commis- 
sion her to craft chocolate ears to in- 
clude in the press packet for-what 
else?-an upcoming Van Gogh ex- 
hibit. Instead. Wertz persuaded Sud- 
heimer to look at her chocolate 
paintings, which included several 
Van Goghs. The museum ended up 
commissioning her to paint 37 repro- 



ductions of works in their collection. 
The following spring, the museum 
hosted a reception for Wertz. and for 
one whirlwind weekend, she was 
Toledo's top celebrity. A local TV 
station taped her painting a chocolate 
Van Gogh landscape: later, she re- 
peated the demonstration for en- 
thralled museum ^oers. "The 
response was phenomenal." recalls 
Sudheimer. "She's an excellent artist." 
Wertz's biggest fans, however, re- 
main the locals who seek out her art 
in the candv-store window. One man 
commissioned a portrait of his West 
Highland terrier: another woman re- 
quested eight reproductions of fa- 
mous paintings to give as Christmas 
presents. Technically edible, but not 
intended to be. these paintings typi- 
cally sell for S150 
to S200. In the 
right conditions- 
low humidity, mild 
temperatures and 
no ants-they can 
last indefinitely. 
While none of 
her chocolate paintings has disinte- 
grated, a few have fallen victim to a 
sweet tooth. Sudheimer. who owns a 
chocolate Starry Night, remembers 
that "when I was changing offices, 
someone dropped it and dien ate part 
of the frame. Luckily. Jean made me 
a new one." And a Maxfield Parrish 
received as a gift was nibbled on the 
sly by the recipient's young daughter. 
Wertz's current project brings to- 
gether her art and her job in the most 
explicit way vet: She's executing a se- 
ries of chocolate paintings inspired by 
die shop. "It's such an irony." she says. 
"I used to count die minutes until clos- 
ing: now I'm here for hours afterward, 
just playing with the chocolate. I get to 
combine my day job widi my true pas- 
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save — troubled girls who 
get recruited by violent 
gangs. How? She used to 
belong to one herself 

BY NEERAJA VISWANATHAN 






Tabitha Collins* was out of control. 
The 15 year-old had been expelled 
from school for fighting with other 
students and was constantly picking 
fights with kids in her Brooklyn. 
New York, neighborhood. Even 
worse, she was being recruited bv 
two violent gangs and was on the 
verge of joining one of them. Her 
mother. 63. worried she would no 
longer be able to handle her alone. 
Desperate, her mother brought 
Tabitha to family court where par- 
ents can put in formal requests to re- 
ceive additional help from the city. 

A social worker handling Tabitha's 
case suggested she enroll in the Blos- 
som Program for Girls at the Youth 
Empowerment Mission in Brooklvn. 
Founded by Isis Sapp-Grant, the Blos- 
som Program helps girls like Tabitha 
change their destructive behavior. "It's 
all about showing these girls they are 
connected to a larger community than 
just a street gang." says Sapp-Grant. 

Disturbingly, there are many girls 
who are like Tabitha. Estimates vary 




"If / see a girl m trouble. I talk to her no matter where I am." savs Sapp-Grant, here with 
participants in the Blossom Program, the organization she jounded Jor at-risk girls 



widely, but one study suggests that 
girls make up about 10 percent of all 
urban gangs. And arrests of girls 
ages 10 to 17 involved in all crime. 
including violent crime, has in- 
creased since the 1980s. (The FBI 
does not distinguish whether such 
crimes are gang related.) In the poor 
urban areas that are filled with bro- 
ken homes and allow their residents 
few opportunities, these girls often 
Find protection, community and a 
sense of identitv in street cranes and 
other same-sex cliques or groups, 
says Sapp-Grant. 

Sapp-Grant knows; she was once 



one of these girls herself. Raised bv a 
single mother in a poor Brooklyn 
neighborhood, she was 15 when she 
formed the all-girl gang The De- 
ceptinettes. The gang, whose name 
was inspired by the villains in the 
popular TV cartoon Transformers, par- 
ticipated in robberies, thefts and as- 
saults all over New York City. T was 
so angry at the world." she recalls. "I 
felt poor. I felt powerless, and I felt 
like a victim myself. I didn't know I 
could improve my situation." 

Then, when she was 16. Sapp- 
Grant was arrested and jailed for as- 
saulting a girl in the continued 

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subway, and Sapp-Grant's 
boyfriend, die leader of" a male 
gang, was shot and seriously in- 
jured during a robbery. (He lat- 
er died from his injuries.) The 
two incidents made her realize 
that her life was in a brutal, 
downward spiral. She decided 
then to leave the gang and put 
herself on a new track. "It wasn't 
easy," she says She reached out 
to teachers who helped her pull 
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from high school. The next fall. 
Sapp-Grant went to college at 
Fisk University in Nashville, Ten- 
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She would go on to earn a master's 
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.Alter her graduation. Sapp-Grant 
returned to her old neighborhood 




1 he negative impact of hip-hop on girls was the subject 
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founded the Youth Empowerment 



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nonprofit organization to help at- 
risk boys and girls. 

Her first goal at YEM was to 
start a program that would help 
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the first place. She started by in- 
terviewing girl gang members 
and other young female offend- 
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lacked good support systems 
and didn't have access to servic- 
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troubled." says Sapp-Grant. De- 
termined to change that, in 1997 she 
created the Blossom Program aimed 
at at-risk girls between the ages 
of 12 and 18. 

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n subjects including healdi and hy- 
iene, self-esteem. HIV prevention, 
^d conflict avoidance. In one work 
iop. girls discuss how women are 
ortrayed in rap videos. "Movies and 
msic videos flood girls with images 
f tough, street-smart, sexually 
barged women," says Sapp-Grant. 
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lodels. they can't grow up with re- 
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bout her bad behavior." says Sapp- 
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opportunities open to her outside of 
gang life, she realized that she was on 
the wrong track." 

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along with other girls before I came 
here." she says. "But I like the girls 
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More than 130 girls have partici- 
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afloat. Up until last year, she and her 
three staff members didn't even re- 
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to seven days a week so she can work 
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In her cluttered but cheerful 
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r me n t Mis s ion— scheduling 
s. preparing for meetings with 
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Two-year-old Keston Sakultarawattn 
is an inquisitive liitlc boy. Cradled in 
his mother's arms, he loves inspect- 
ing the photos lining the hallway of 
his familv's home in St. Helens. Ore- 
gon. In a familiar ritual. Keston's 
mother. Hale}-. 26, carries him die 
length of the hallway, past the nurs- 
ery where new baby sister Malee Sue 
is asleep, stopping at even' photo un- 
til the) reach the engagement portrait 
of his parents. Haley and Brian. 
Keston points to Haley with happy 



recognition. But he's puzzled b\ the 
young man with almond eyes and 
dark ban. "Whozat?" he asks. 

"That's Daddv." says Haley, "be- 
fore he got hurt." 

To Keston. Daddy is a man whose 
face is a patchwork quilt of leathery 
skin and who sits in a wheelchair. 
calK out to the son he can't sec and 
embraces him with the remaining 
stumps of his arms. The bov never 
knew the face that smiles from the 
photo taken on December 18, 1995. 



The young couple had been intro- 
duced three years earlier by Halev's 
sister. Angellee. who worked with 
Brian at his father's Thai restaurant. 
Angellee had a hunch that Brian's sil- 
ly sense of humor would appeal to 
her younger sister, so she brought 
her to work one dav. Haley was shy, 
worried that her adolescent acne 
would be a turnoff to the handsome, 
popular boy. But as their friendship 
grew, she began to feel beautiful in 
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what was inside a p lalcv look 

the lesson to heart. 

During that hi eason, the 

couple visited an uncle oi Hale) s 
legs in a car acci- 
ird, they had one of the 
philosophical discussions they 
both relished. The) talked about love, 
commitment and the insignificance of 
physical beaut) compared with die in- 
effable beauty of the spirit. Brian af- 
firmed that he would always be there 
for Haley, then asked. "Would you 
stick by me il I became disabled?" Ha- 
ley replied without an instant's hesita- 
tion: "Oi course." She had no inkling 
that she would soon find out if she 
had the couraee of her convictions. 

The day after Christmas, Brian, a 
forest-management trainee, was fix- 
ing some logging equipment at the 
tree farm owned by Angellee and her 
husband, Dan Kloppman. On bitter- 
ly cold days like this. Brian kept a 
lire burning in a metal barrel for 
wanning his hands. The fire was too 
intense, so he grabbed a bucket of 
rainwater to throw on the flames. 

The bucket, however, turned out 
to be filled with gasoline. 

Angellee and Dan heard the explo- 
sion, followed l>\ tortured screams. 
They sprinted down a forest trail and 
found Brian rolling on the ground, on 
lire from head to loot. Angellee 
screamed as Dan swatted frantically at 
Brian with his bare hands before re- 
membering a blanket in the shed. But 
Brian's work clothes were so splat- 
tered with grease that even the blanket 
was no match for the flames at lust. 
Still, Dan heat ai the fire with the 
blanket until it was nearly out. Then 
he and Angellee ripped off Brian's 
boots ami what remained of his smol 
dering clothes ami lifted hi 
and blistered bodv into their van. 



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Haley's sister 
phoned her from 

the hospital. 

"Brian's been 
burned, and it's 

bad/' she said 



Dan turned on the flashers and 
leaned on the horn as he sped toward 
the nearest hospital, just under 10 
miles away. He held his own singed 
hand out the window to ease the pain. 
"Hang in there." he called to Brian in 
the back seat. Brian's throat was be- 
ginning to swell, making it difficult for 
him to breathe. But he managed to 
whisper. "I'm trying," before gasping. 
"If I die, tell Haley I love her." 

Angellee called Brian's parents 
and Haley from the hospital. "Bri- 
an's been burned, and it's bad." she 
said, her voice quavering. When Ha- 
ley and her mother. Brenda Havlik. 
arrived. Angellee related the story 
through racking sobs. Brian had al- 
ready lost consciousness and was in 
a drug-induced coma to prevent his 



Eight days before Bruin's horrific 

accident, the happy couple posed 

this engagement portrait 



going into shock. He lav- in a nearby 
room on a stretcher, awaiting transfer 
by ambulance to the Oregon Burn 
Center at Legacy- Emanuel Hospital 
in Portland, some 50 miles away. 

Upon seeing her fiance, who was 
covered to his neck with a blanket. 
Haley suppressed a cry of horror. His 
face was black and cinders dotted his 
mouth and teeth. His hair was singed 
and blood" was caked on his neck and 
shoulders, where his skin had blis- 
tered. His whole body was swollen. 
Halev- wanted to touch him, but was 
afraid she'd cause him further pain. 

"Then a peace came over me." 
Haley recalls. "I didn't cry. I said. 
'Brian. I love you. Evervthiner will 
be okay. You're in God's hands." " 

At the Oregon Burn Center. 
Dr. Joseph Pulito's initial as- 
sessment was that Brian, 
who'd suffered third-degree burns 
over 95 percent of his body, had a 
minuscule chance of survival. Gen- 
tly, the surgeon broke the news to 
Brian's mother. Jani, and father. 
Chamrus "Mo" Sakultarawattn. a na- 
tive of Thailand. 

Jani begged Dr. Pulito to do what- 
ever it took to save her son. "Brian is 
a devout Christian with a strong 
sense of purpose." she told him. '"He 
would want to live, no matter what." 

Over die objections of several of his 
colleagues. Dr. Pulito agreed to per- 
form a risky, seven-hour surgery to re- 
move Brian's dead skin and prepare 
his bodv- for skin grafts. Privately, he 
doubted that his patient would sur- 
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an s condition had stabilized, and the 
grueling surgical process began. 

Still deep in a drug-induced coma. 
Brian had all of his burned skin re- 
moved, and, in subsequent surgeries 
Cl'l o\'cr a seven-month period), re- 
placed by donor skin and. eventually, 
grafts of his own skin harvested from 
his few unburned patches. (The fire 
had spared his armpits, lower ab- 
domen and genitals, lower back and 
soles oi his feet.) Believing his vision to 
be intact, the doctors sewed his eyelids 
shut to keep die skin from contracting. 
Sadly, they were forced to amputate 
his left leg and right lour as well as 
both arms just above the elbow be- 
cause impeded blood How to his ex- 
tremities had caused tissue deadi. 



For weeks. Brian's body was 
wrapped. mumm\ -like, in head-to-toe 
bandages. The only indications that 
he was alive were the bleeps on the 
heart monitor and the repetitive 
whoosh of the ventilator. Through- 
out the entire ordeal. Brian's family 
stayed at his bedside and prayed for 
his recovery, as did their pastor and 
members of their tight-knit congrega- 
tion. To his doctors' astonishment. 
Brian overcame one life-threatening 
crisis after anodier-a diseased bowel, 
blood disorders, and coundess infec- 
tions. Dr. Pulito's assisting resident. 
Kari Kramer. M.D.. concluded that 
Brian's improbable survival was 
linked to die unceasing prayers of his 
loved ones. She became even more 
convinced after Brian escaped what 



appeared to be certain death from 
kidnev failure. "I went home one 
night sure I would not see Brian alive 
again." she recalls. "The next mom- 
intr. his kidnevs had besam worldlier 
for no evident medical reason. I truly 
felt I was witnessing a miracle." 

Tune and again. Dr. Pulito prepared 
the family for the worst. "I was con- 
standy saying. 'Tliis may be die begin- 
ning of the end." " he recalls. "But 
every day. they'd say. 'He's still with 
us." They were thrilled whenever he 
made it dirough anodier day." 

In January 1996. after Brian had 
spent more than three weeks in a 
coma, doctors began to withdraw the 
powerful drugs diat had shielded him 
from pain. Yet days went by with no 
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indicated little or no brain activity. 
Desperate for some sign diat he could 
hear diem, Haley and Jani whispered, 
"Stick out your tongue, Brian." Afar 
what seemed an interminable wait, 
Brian's tongue poked through his lips. 
Haley and Jani, their eyes welling 
with tears, repeated the request. And 
again, Brian pushed out his tongue. 

The women demanded another 
EEG; this time, it showed normal ac- 
tivity. When Ray Sakultarawattn ar- 
rived at the hospital that night 
expecting to bid his younger brother 
a final farewell, he found a scene of 
jubilant celebration. More joy erupt 
ed when Brian clearly mouthed the 
words "I love you" to Haley. 

It would take two more months for 
Brian to be fully weaned off the ven- 
tilator. But after recovering conscious- 



ness, h 

the device that lei I p ik with the 
tracheotomy tube in his throat. He- 
was in lor the toughest conversations 
ol his life. Feeling what doctors 
"phantom pains" in his miss 
limbs. Brian, his eyes still sewn shut. 
asked his mother, "Were my hands 
burned really bad.'" Jam had to break 
die painful news of the amputations. 

As Brian struggled to absorb the 
full scope of his injuries. Halcv said. 
"Brian, I love you very much." 

"/17/v. 1 " he shot back. 

Haley was stunned by his acid 
tone, so uncharacteristic of the man 
she had known. Jani asked. "Brian, if 
this had happened to Hale}' instead 
of you, would you still love her?" 

"Yeah," he answered quietly. 

Brian cried for a while, mourning 



his lost limbs-the nimble legs and 
that had taken him on long 
mountain hikes, the muscular 
and hands that had been so adept at 
construction work. Most ol all. he 
the feel of Haley's hand in 
his and die pleasure ol wrapping his 
arms around her petite body. 

But a flicker of his trademark impish 
humor soon peeked through. "Guess 
this means you won't have to buy me a 
wedding ring," lie teased Haley. 

"Yes. I will." she said. "And you're 
going to wear it around your neck!" 

But one more agonizing loss would 
follow. The doctors had been confi- 
dent that Brian's vision would return 
once the effects of the coma drugs 
wore off. But a week after regaining 
consciousness and having his bandag- 
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fani and Haley thei 

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ly in his eyes, 
id no reaction. 

Dr. Pulito theorized 
that the intense swelling 
and tissue damage from 
the burns had kept blood from reach- 
ing Biian s retinas, most likeh e tusing 
blindness within 48 hours of his acci- 
dent. Early tests had shown Brian's 
retinas to be pale, but the ophthalmol- 
ogist had attributed this condition to 
the young man's Asian heritage. Now 
it was apparent that the paleness had 
been a function of blocked blood flow. 

Everyone, including all of Brian's 
caregivers, was devastated. Through- 
out his ordeal, the young man had 
held on to the promise of his restored 
sight, of his happiness at once again 
seeing Haley and his family. Now. as 
he contemplated permanent dark- 
ness, the brave young man's spirits 
reached a new low. He lay in bed and 
wept bitterly. When Haley phoned 
her parents with the bad news, she 
was crying so hard no words came. 

As profound and pervasive as 
Haley s grid was. nothing— 
not the horrible scarring of 
Brian s lace, noi the amputations, 
nor his blindness-could shake her 
fierce commitment to her fiance. She 
was constantly at his side. Indeed, 
one ol the few times she left the hos- 
pital was to attend a bridal show to 
pick out her wedding dress. 

Observing Haley's unsw 
tion. Dr. Pulito worried that the 19- 
\ e.n old had pai iiti 




In her son's 

face, Haley sees 

the same dark 

hair and soft skin 

she remembers 

in Brian 



corner. He wondered il she fully 
grasped die enormity of Brian's handi- 
caps and their effect on the life they 
had envisioned. Perhaps all she needed 
was someone's loving permission to 
break off die engagement. The doctor 
confided his concerns to Jani. 

"We wouldn't have thought less of 
Haley if she'd made that decision." 
says Jani. "But her position was very 
clear'. She told me once. "I don't care 
what Brian can or can't do. I just want 
to be able to talk to him.' But I did tell 
her mom. 'If Haley decides she can't 
deal with diis. we'll understand.' " 

"I told Jani diat it wasn't just Haley 
who was in love widi Brian— her dad 
and I were, too." says Brenda. "It 
would have ripped us apart to just 
suddenly turn him loose." 

Brian still wanted to get married. 



Halc\ thrives on mothering 
son Keston I shown here) and 
daughter Malee Sue 



but he. too. worried diat 
Haley had been put in an 
impossible position. Yet 
he also understood that 
her willingness to sacrifice 
was part of who she was— 
and what he loved about 
her. "We believe that love 

isn't something you turn on and off 

when it's convenient." he says. "It is a 

decision, not just a feeling." 

So he asked her. "Are you sure you 

want to get married?" 

"Yes." she said, without hesitation. 

After seven mondis in the hospi- 
tal. Brian came home. The 
wedding was still on— widi Dr. 
Pulito's blessing. "Brian is a lucky 
man," he says. "He has someone who 
loves him for him." The fact that Bri- 
an's ability to fadier children was in- 
tact meant diat the couple could have 
the family diey'd always planned. "A 
dad is diere for love and support." says 
Dr. Pulito. "Brian can do diat." 

The couple married on November 
1. 1997. Brian's fadier. his best man. 
placed the wedding ring on Haley's 
finger: she slipped a chain holding Bri- 
an's ring around his neck. As Brian, 
weaiing leg prosdieses beneadi Iris mx 
and guided by Halev's hand on his up- 
per arm. walked down die aisle with 
his bride, radiant in white taffeta, 
main of the 450 guests sobbed quiedy. 
Suddenlv. Haley's brodier Rusty and 
two of her uncles burst into a silly 
song— "Loving You Lots and Lots." 
from the movie That Thing Ion Do! 
The tension was broken and guests be- 
gan laughing through dieir tears. 
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apartment attached to his parents' 
house. With the occasional help of vis- 
iting nurses. Haley became Brian's pri- 
mary caregiver. (The couple's income 
is provided by Oregon State workers' 
compensation.) Besides bathing and 
feeding him. she learned to cleanse his 
wounds, change his dressings and help 
with his daily stretching exercises. 

Before the accident. Brian and 
Haley had dreamt of living a 
simple life that included fre- 
quent hikes and camping trips. Brian 
had already begun building a log cab- 
in where the young couple planned 
to live. "I thought my life was all 
planned out." Brian says. "While my 
body was burning, I remember think- 
ing. Guess I was wrong." 

During Brian's long stay in the hos- 
pital, a local newspaper ran an article 
about the couple, which mentioned 
that Brian had poured the foundation 
for a cabin he would now never fin- 
ish. Deeply moved by Brian's story. 
Lori Albert, a firefighter in St. He 
len's. decided to enlist the services of 
her fellow volunteers in building the 
house. Eventually, hundreds of peo- 
ple from the community contributed 
money, materials and labor to the 
project that Albert dubbed "Brian's 
House: a Foundation of Faith." 

Two years later, the "cabin" (which 
had morphed into a 2.200-square-foot 
house) was ready, fully customized for 
Brian's needs: A battery-powered lift 
carries him in a sling from the master 
bedroom to the bathroom with its roll- 
in shower. Another room holds exer- 
cise equipment. In a sling. Brian 
bounces on a trampoline for cardio 
exercise and does crunches and leg 
lifts. (He also goes to a local gym widi 
a caregiver several times a week to 
work on strengthening machines.) 

The couple soon fell into a com- 



fortable routine of church activities. 
entertaining and gardening. Brian, 
who had worked as a cook at hi 
thcr's restaurant, provides lips a 
ley prepares the meals that she feeds 
him. For diversion, he listens to mu- 
sic or books on tape and in the sum 
mer they drive to campgrounds 
where they stay in a tent and Brian 
fishes, courtesy of a contraption that 
lets him activate an electric reel with 
the end of his arm. 

"Brian is who 

God chose for 

me. The fire 

didn't change 

that. He's 

still Brian" 

Brian's ability to maintain a posi- 
tive outlook and to avoid bitterness 
and depression is a near-miracle. Ha- 
ley, however, acknowledges that she 
has down days, when the "if onlvs" 
flood her mind. "I sometimes wonder. 
What if I had chosen differently?" she 
admits. 'Til see manned couples, and 
I'll miss all the stuff we used to do, 
like hiking. I'll think of where I could 
be or all the fun I could be having. 
But I also think. How would I feel if 
I'd left him? Besides. I already knew 
that Brian was who God had chosen 
for me. and what happened didn't 
change that. He's still Brian." 

Her greatest sorrow, she says, is 
that he can't sec. So she describes her- 
self to him. detailing her outfits and 
changes in her hairstyle. She paints a 
verbal picture of the world around 
them-the landscapes changing with 



.easons, the growth of their gar- 
den and even the new models of cars. 
turn. Brian lightens her days 
with his irreverent humor. "Can you 
help me out?" he'll ask her. "I'm a lit- 
tle short-handed." 

His humor is a tonic, but nothing 
has revitalized Haley as much as be- 
coming a mother. The moment Kc- 
ston. bom on August 22. 2001. was 
placed in her anns. Haley fell as if her 
husband had been reborn. In her 
son's face she sees the same almond 
eyes, dark hair and soft skin tinat she 
remembers in Brian. 

In autumn 2002. the couple had 
another scare: Brian's kidneys 
suddenly failed. He began dialysis 
but needed a kidney transplant to 
survive. Luckily, his sister. Linda 
Mitts, was a perfect match. That No- 
vember, she donated a kidney to her 
litde brother. 

The procedure (Brian's 43rd sur- 
gery since the accident) was a success 
for bodi siblings. Once again. Brian's 
indomitable spirit had vanquished a 
grave threat to his life. A year and a 
half later, he remains healthy and 
pain free, taking only anti-rejection 
drugs for the transplant. Last sum 
mer. the couple had more good news: 
the birdi of their daughter. Malee Sue. 

Brian and Haley feel they hav e im- 
measurable riches to share with their 
children— a wealth of wisdom that 
was forged in a fire. "We will encour- 
age Keston and Malee to be arrateful. 
to not take things for granted." says 
Brian. "We want them to keep what's 
important always in focus." 

The most profound lessons, of 
course, will require no words. The 
sheer example of the couple's life to- 
gether will teach their children all 
diev'll ever need to know about faidi. 
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children were 2, 4 and 6. our lives took a sudden turn. My 
husband and I divorced, and I went back to work. Days 
got hectic; the children and I were out of die house by 
7 A.M., and we wouldn't be reunited until 7 each night. 
Dinner, homework and baths all had to be squeezed into 
the short time before bed. One night, feeling a little 
desperate that I was losing touch with my kids. I gathered 
them around me on the floor in a circle. I asked them each 
to tell me what had made them happy that day and what 
had made them sad, and they jumped at the opportunity 
to share their thoughts. Borrowing an idea from the end of 
Brownie troop meetings. I suggested we hold hands and 



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sing .i song. Bonnie, my oldest, objected, saying. "But 
Mom. this isn't a Brownie circle, diis is a love circle." And 
with that, our Love Circle tradition was born. It was how 
we ended each day of their childhoods, though it recendy 
occurred to me diat our Love Circle continues. Despite 
living in different cities, our family still communicates daily 
bv phone and e-mail. This two-decades-old tradition is the 
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Bring the Outside in: 
We found these vintage 
shutters at a local flea 
market, but you can also 
use new ones from a hom 
supply store. To hang, 
attach a length of heavy- 
duty wire to eye hooks on 
the back of each shutter, 
then suspend from picture 
hooks designed to hold up 
to 50 pounds each. 



Added Architecture: 
For an architecturally 
inspired look, we hung a 
painted white bookcase on 
the wall (screwed into the 
wall from the top edge and 
flanked it with a pair of 
antique columns we found 
at a salvage vard. The 
upper shelves are perfect foi 
displaying favorite objects, 
while the lowest one takes 
the place of a nightstand 
by keeping the alarm clock 
and other everyday items 
within easv reach. 






New Ways to 

For most people, their bed is more than just a place to sleep. Maybe it's where 
everyone gathers to snuggle under the covers and watch videos on cold 
Saturday mornings, or where you like to go solo to read and unwind. And if 
you're like most people, you want the look of your bed— piled high with 
pillows, or neat and crisp-to reflect your own personality. Of course, the 
bedding itself is only part of it: indeed, what stands behind the bed is what first 
catches the eye. But many people don't utilize the wall above the bed as the 
valuable real estate it is to achieve a mood in dieir room. 

Fortunately, you don't have to spend huge sums of money to give your bed 
a dramatic focal point. We scoured flea markets, salvage yards, home supply 
store: aft supply shops and even old family photo albums to come 

up with the creative ideas on these pages. There's a look to fit every taste— from 
contempoi >untry. from spare and simple to luxurious. At die end of _ 

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Well Tailored: To create 
this modern yet gracious 
look, we set a rough- 
textured, burlap-covered 
headboard against a 
traditional backdrop of 
ivory and beige damask 
wallpaper. To do it yourself. 
go to a home supply store 
and have a Vinch-thick 
piece of plywood cut to 
your desired dimensions 



(for this full-size bed. we 
used a piece 5 feet wide bv 
4 feet highi. Wrap a layer of 
batting (available at sewing 
stores) around both sides of 
the board and secure it in 
place with a staple gun. 
then lay the board on a 
length of burlap with about 
4 inches of overhang on 
each side. Pulling each side 
evenly as you go. secure 



burlap to the back of the 

board with a staple gun. 

Finish off widi two lengths 
o 

of ribbon crossed in the 
center of the board and 
secured in the back with hot 
glue. Add a lengdi of hea\-v- 
duty wire to eye hooks at 
either end of the board, and 
hang from two picuire 
hooks designed to hold 100 
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loved ones close and 
achieve a sleek look by 
mining your photo albums 
for decorating inspiration. 
Choose your favorite black- 
and-white photos and have 
them blown up at a copy 
shop to fit 16" x 20" ready- 
made black frames. For an 
extra hit of color, mount 
the photos on archival an 
paper. We chose a citrus 
green that matched the wall 
color, and cut the edges of 
the photos with pinking 
shears. Toile shams from 
J.C. Penney have a modem 
look when mixed with Pine 
Cone Hill's lime-green quilt 
and houndstooth blanket 
from Garnet Hill. 

2 Cozy Alcove: If you're 
lucky enough to be able to 



create an alcove hideawav. 
capitalize on the snug factor 
with floral fabric. It's easy 
to do: Upholstered 
headboards are available at 
furniture stores, or you can 
have one custom-made in 
your choice of material. 
3 Screened and Serene: 
Don't shy away from using 
accent pieces, like this 
fabric-covered decorative 
screen, in unconventional 
ways. You can choose a 
ready-made one. just be 
sure your pick is 
constructed from fabric- 
covered solid wood panels 
(hollow-framed screens are 
too delicate to lean against). 
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Samuel (top left) and daughter Krisckel 

(top right); the proud family on the 

porch oj their new home in Tacoma fright) 



LI KG I Many immigrants to 
the U.S., Darren and Christina Pen 
struggled for years to carve out a de- 
cern life for their three children. But 
even at their darkest moments- 
including the times thev were 
mugged and drug dealers set up shop 
outside their home— they never com- 
d. No hardship could compare 
to die violence they had survived in 
the "killing fields" of Cambodia. 

Darren ig in Cam- 

bodia's capital. Phnom Penh, in 1975, 
when the communist Khm< Rouge 
seized power and evacuated the 
cities, forcing Darren, his father, his 



pregnant mother and two younger 
sisters to join millions in the march to 
the countryside. After a month on 
die road, where food and water were 
scarce and bodies dotted the land- 
scape. Darren's family was ordered 
to settle in a remote area. "It was 
most difficult." Darren says, recalling 
how people, desperate to build shel- 
ter, {ought over palm leaves and bam- 
boo. "You did what you could to 
survive." Darren toiled in the fields 
all day and attended political indoc- 
trination sessions at night. His moth- 
er delivered a baby boy. who died 
within davs. His father grew weak 



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and ill from hunger and overwork. 

But the worst was yet to come. 
One day. Darren greeted a village 
Khmer chief by calling him 
"teacher '—forsrettins: that the word 
had been banned; for that transgres- 
sion, he was arrested, tied upside 
down and left hanging overnight. 
Sent to a prison camp, he watched in 
hoiTor as soldiers led detainees into 
the jungle— die infamous Cambodian 
"killing fields"-and beat them to 
death. Darren decided to flee, even 
though the only escape route was 
across a large pond and he couldn't 
swim. "I walked in up to my nose. 
and when I woke up. I was on the 
other side." he says, assuming he fell 
unconscious and floated across. He 
was quickly recaptured by Khmer 
Rouge troops, who buried him in a 
hole up to his neck: but Darren 
agarn cheated deadi when, after sev 
era! days, he was saved by a Good 
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iade it back to his 
parents' village, where he 
learned thai Ins entire family- 
save for his teenage sister. 
Rina had perished. 

By l ( »7't. when the Viet- 
namese toppled the Khmer 
Rouge regime, an estimated 1.7 
million Cambodians had died. 
Darren returned to Phnom 
Penh and got a job at the air- 
port, where he met Christina: 
they married in 1984 and moved in 
with her parents. Cambodia was still 
a perilous place, and many were try- 
ing to flee. "There were patrols all 
over." savs Christina, "and ii they 
caught you, they would kill you." 
Still. Darren agreed at great risk to 
esc uit a friend's wife and children to 




(Irom left) Samuel, Knschcl and Michael 

a refugee camp five miles away on 
the Thailand border; he also took 
Rina. hoping to give her the chance 
of a better life. But when die group 
reached the camp, he was accused of 
being a Cambodian spy and forbid- 
den to return to Phnom Penh. 

Darren managed to pay Cambodi- 



an smugglers to bring Christina 
to him. The couple was sent to 
a United Nations refugee camp 
in Thailand, where they lived 
for five years: daughter Krischel 
and son Michael we born dur- 
ing their stav. Conditions were 
squalid, but Darren learned 
English there and received 
training as a nurse and physical 
therapist: he and Christina, 
both Buddhists, also joined the 
Seventh Day Adventist Church. 
In 1989. after U.S. immigration offi- 
cials finally granted them permis- 
sion to resetde here, they relocated 
to Olympia. Washington, with the 
help of international relief agencies, 
but soon moved to Chicago, where 
Darren won admission to a theologi- 
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included baby Samuel, lived in a 
small, rat-infested apartment, and re- 
lied on food stamps to get by. 

Darren completed his studies in 
1992. and the Pens returned to Wash- 
ington so he could be a pastor in a 
Cambodian congregation in Tacoma. 
The Pens found an apartment where 
they got a break on rent by serving as 
on-site managers. But when the city 
condemned the building, diey rented 
a one-bedroom home in an area rife 
with drugs and gangs. '"I was so 
scared," says Christina. "I wanted to 
move, but we didn't have the money." 

They longed for something better- 
"a good place for our children," 
Christina says. Darren had heard 
about Habitat for Humanity, and the 
family applied in June 1998: they 
were approved a month later. Con- 



struction began that month, and the 
Pens began their required 500 hours 
of sweat equity. Dad. Mom and 
Krischel. then 13. did the heavier 
work, while Michael, 11. and 
Samuel. 8. helped paint. At first, the 
Pens felt guilty when they saw senior 
citizens and retirees laboring on their 
house "'It's disrespectful in our cul- 
ture." says Darreni. but they soon 
embraced the volunteers. "We be- 
came a family," he says. The Pens 
moved into their dream house right 
before Christmas. Darren planted 
roses and fruit trees in the yard, and 
set up a basketball hoop for the boys. 
The Pens had never planned on 
comins; to America. Today, however, 
they cannot say enough about the 
country that has opened so many 
doors for them. "War took everything 



from us. but America restored our 
hopc." says Darren. Christina. 38. is 
studying accounting at a technical col- 
lege: Krischel. 18. started at the Uni- 
versity of Pusret Sound this vear on a 
scholarship: and the boys are thriving 
in middle and high school. Darren. 
43, has become well known for his 
community service. His sister, Rina. 
now lives in Pong Beach. California, 
with her husband and four children.) 
Still, he can never forget his past. Dar- 
ren visits Cambodia yearly to do mis- 
sionary work, and he hopes someday 
to work with a Habitat program 
there. "It's taught us how to care for 
others."' he says. "I want to see that 
happen in Cambodia, too." O 



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family tree can tell you when 
Aunt Louisa was born, but not 
what caused her to pass away— and 
that information could save your life. 
Knowine which diseases relatives died 
of may help you avoid getting them 
yourself, says Cynthia M. Powell. 
M.D., associate professor of pediatrics 



and genetics at the 
University of North 
Carolina at Chapel Hill. 
Look for cancer, especially 
breast and colorectal 
cancers, heart disease, stroke 
and type 2 diabetes. Also 
look lor patterns, such as 
the same illness in more 
than one relative. 

"If you see a pattern, tell 
your physician, so you can 
get screenings." says Dr. 
Powell. For some illnesses, 
genetic testing can determine 
whether you cam- die gene 
that could have led to the 
illness in a relative. 

II you have trouble 
finding a relative's cause of 
death, write her state's bureau of vital 
statistics to request a death certificate. 
Older death certificates may contain 
vague information. For example. 
"dropsy" may refer to congestive 
heart failure, and '"tumor" can refer to 
an) type of cancer. To find out more 
about collecting a family medical 
history, go to the American Medical 
Association's Web site: www.ama- 
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Warning 

Q: I recently heard about a 
blood test called CA-125 that 
detects ovarian cancer. Is 
this a test all women need? 
A: vVe don't recommend 
CA-125 tests routinely be- 
cause of the likelihood of 
false positives," says Robert 
Ozolf, M.D., an oncologist at 
the Fox Chase Cancer Center, 
in Philadelphia. CA-125 is a 
protein produced by ovarian 
cancer cells, but CA-125 lev- 
els can be high for other rea- 
sons, such as endometriosis, 
or even having your period. 
Your doctor may use an 
ultrasound to investigate, but 
surgery is the only way to 
confirm a diagnosis. "If you 
acted every time CA-125 re- 
sults were abnormal, you 
would have to do 70 surger- 
ies to pick up one case of 
ovarian cancer," Dr. Ozolf 
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You know that stressful feeling: the 
lightening of your neck muscles that 
brings your shoulders a little closer to 
your ears, the churning feeling in the 
pit of your stomach. Maybe you even 
notice your breath quicken and be- 
come shallow. But whatever the 
short-term symptoms, the long-term 
toll ol stress is greater: High blood 
pressure, obesity and even heart dis- 
ease risk can increase. Try these steps 
to interrupt the cycle of stress and 
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Taking 15 min- 
utes to breathe deeply just once a day- 
can lower blood pressure in people 
suffering from hypertension, accord 
ing to a recent study published in the 
American Journal 0/ Hypertension. The 
next lime you're feeling the effects of 
stress, try inhaling deeply as you 
slowly raise youi shoulders up to 
youi ears. As you exhale, let your 
shoulders sink down away from your 
ears. Repeat this five times and bask 
in the feeling of relaxation. 

If 
you're stressed to the point where 
your neck muscles arc screaming, you 
probably feel like booking a massage. 



But doing neck-strengthening exercis- 
es instead can relieve your pain— and 
may even prevent the pain from com- 
ing back, according to research in the 
Journal of the American Medical 
Association. Lie face-up and gently lilt 
your head, then lower it for diree sets 
of 20 repetitions three times a week. 

The best time to stop 
stress is before it starts. Fortunately, 
this may be easier to do than it 
seems, according to a study at 
Kansas State University, in Man- 
hattan. Kansas. Women who kept 
brightly colored flowers in their 
work spaces, researchers found, were 
less stressed than women who kept 



simple green plants without flowers, 
or no plants at all. The reason? It's 
possible that brightly colored flowers 
capture our attention, giving us a 
quick mental break from the negative 
feelings that lead to stress, says Eun- 
hee Kim. Ph.D.. lead researcher in 
the study. So fill your office with 
flowers, particularly colorful ones 
such as gerbera daisies. Or plant a 
pot of African -violets or chrysanthe- 
mums for a stress reliever with 
blooms that last longer. 

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Too mam women — and even doctors- 
arc still surprised that heart disease is the 
leading cause of death among women. 
In part one of our three-part series, learn 
to recognize the little-known symptoms, 
and how to get life-saving care 



By Lisa Collilr Cool 




When Sue Bullers began to feel ill 

on October 22. 2002, she wasn't overly wor- 
ried. Her shoulder ached, and she felt nauseous 
and exhausted, so the 39-year-old single mom 
from Grinnell, Iowa, went to bed early, figuring 
she'd feel better after a good night's sleep. 
When she woke up in the middle of the night 
with a feeling of heaviness in her chest, she 
wrote it off as one of her usual bouts of heart- 
burn. But the next morning:, she vomited and 
felt dizzy. She called her doctor, and a nurse ad- 
vised her that if she was feeling "really bad." 
she should 2:0 to the emersrencv room. 



That sounded extreme to Bullers. who at 
this point thought she might have gotten the 
flu. so she decided just to stay home from her 
job as an instructor at a group home for men- 
tallv impaired adults. A few hours later, as 
she was making a sandwich for her 4-vear-old 
daughter. Taylor, she felt dizzy again and sud- 
denly passed out on the floor. Taylor threw 
herself on top of her mother and started slap- 
ping her face, screaming. "Wake up, Mom- 
nn !" That almost certainly saved Bullers' life, 
since she revived enough to crawl to the 
phone and call for help. 

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ionized species ol the amphetamine molecule, thereby increasing urinary excretion Both groups of agents 
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of norepinephrine and other monoamines from adrenergic nerve endings, this can cause headaches and other 
signs of hypertensive crisis A variety of toxic neurological effects and malignant hyperpyrexia can occur, 
sometimes with tatal results Antihistamines— Amphetamines may counteract the sedative effect of 
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Ethosuximide— Amphetamines may delay intestinal absorption of ethosuximide Halopendbt— Halopendol 
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carbonate— The anorectic and stimulatory effects ot amphetamines may be inhibited by lithium carbonate 
Meperidine — Amphetamines potentiate the analgesic effect ot meperidine Methenamme therapy — Urinary 
excretion ol amphetamines is increased, and efficacy is reduced, by acidifying agents used in methenamme 
theiapy Norepinephrine— Amphetamines enhance the adrenergic effect of norepinephrine Phenobarbital— 
Amphetamines may delay intestinal absorption of phenobarbital, co-administration of phenobarbital may 
produce a synergistic anticonvulsant action Phenytoin— Amphetamines may delay intestinal absorption of 
phenytoin, co-admmistration ol phenvfoin may produce a synergistic anticonvulsant action Propoxyphene— 
' propoxyphene overdosage, amphetamine CNS stimulation is potentiated and fatal convulsions can 
occui Veratrum alkaloids Amphetamines inhibit the hypotensive effect ol veratrum alkaloids 
Drug/Laboratory Test Interactions: Amphetamines can cause a significant elevation in plasma corticosteroid 
levels This increase is greatest in the evening Amphetamines may interfere with urinary steroid 
determinations Carcinogenesis/Mutagenesis and Impairment ol Fertility: No evidence of carcinogenicity 
hich d.l-amphetamine (enanliomer ratio ol 1 1) was administered to mice and rats 
doses ol up to 30 mg/kg day in male mice 19 mg kg/day in female mice, and 
male rats These doses are approximately 2 4 1 5. and 8 limes, respectively the 
maximum recommended human dose of 30 mg/da nody surface area basis Amphetamine in 

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adverse events, results of physical examinations, vital signs, weights lab 
King exposure were obtained pnmanfy by general mguiry and re 
terminology of their own choosing. Conseguentty. ft is not possible to t 
proportion of individuals experiencing adverse events without first grouping similar types of e.- 
smaller number of standardized event categories. In the tables and lisbngs that follow. COSTART terminolor] 
has been used to classify reported adverse events The stated frequencies of adverse events represent tt| 
proportion of individuals who experienced, at least once, a treatment-emergent adverse event of the type listq 
Adverse events associated with discontinuation ol treatment: In two placebo-controlled studies of up 
5 weeks duration. 2 - .' ADDERALL XR treatfj 

pahents disconbnued due to adverse events (including 3 patieni 
with loss of appetite, one of whom also reported insomrai 
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Weight loss 

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Fever 




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Infection 




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Viral Infection 


2% 


0% 


Digestive System 


Loss of Appetite 


22% 


2% 




Diarrhea 


2% 






Dyspepsia 


2% 


1% 




Nausea 


5% 


3% 




Vomiiino 


7% 


4% 


Nervous System 


Dizziness 


2% 


0% 




Emotional Lability 


9% 


2% 




Insomnia 




2% 




Nervousness 


6% 


2% 


Metabolic/Nutritional 


Weight Loss 


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tachycardia, elevation of blood pressure There have been isolated reports of cardiomyopathy associated wil 

chronic amphetamine use Central Nervous System Psychotic episodes at recommended dose: 

overstimulation, restlessness, dizziness, insomnia, euphoria, dyskinesia, dysphoria, tremor, headachi 

exacerbation of motor and phonic tics and Tourette s syndrome Gastrointestinal Dryness ot the moutl 

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occur as undesirable effects Allergic: Urticaria. Endocrine Impotence, changes in libido DRUG ABUSE AN 

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reports of patients who have increased the dosage to many times that recommended Abrupt cessatio 

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lomyolysis Fatigue and depression usually follow the central nervous sysler 

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\nd that's not all. More women than 
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i \ cral 
mcdii i beta blocker 

(which blocks the effects of adrena- 
line on the heart) and an AC IK in- 
hibitor (which lowers blond pressure, 
thereby reducing the heart's work- 
load). She was in the hospital nine 
days. (Her parents look care of Tay- 
lor. i She recovered with only minimal 
damage to hei heart and is now back 
at work, yet Bullers is still shocked- 
and scared. Although she had several 
risk factors, including smoking, t\pe 
2 diabetes and beins; overweight, she 
just wasn't aware what a dangerous 
combination they were. "I never 
thought I'd have a heart attack at 
39!" she says. 

That thought had never crossed 
the mind ol Andrea Lachowyn. 42. 
either. But when she got home from 
work on September (>. 2002. she sud- 
denly felt so profoundly exhausted 
that she had to lie down. At the same 
time, the sales manager from Dublin. 
Ohio, started having severe pain in 
her arm. chest and back. She 
thought she might be having a reac- 
tion to a prescription medication and 
was frightened enough to call 911. 
When paramedics arrived, however, 
they didn't seem to take her symp- 
toms seriously. "I got the impression 
that they thou .eiv." 

sa) s Lachowyn, a di\ 
of three children ages 5 to 15. "They 
didn't even take my blood pressure 
right away." Still, the paramedics 
took her to the emei torn. 



How to Tell if It's a Heart Attack 

K:e warning signs of a heart attack could save your life. 
? several of the symptoms listed below, call 911 
3tely. Every minute you delay puts you at greater risk of 
heart damage. While you're waiting for the ambulance to arrive, chew 

.v. without water, a regular, full-strength aspirin tablet to help 
prevent blood clotting (yes, it tastes bitter, but the aspirin will get into 
your system faster this way). Once you get to the hospital, don't 
underplay your symptoms: Tell the doctors you think you may be 

ig a heart attack and need a thorough evaluation, including an 
electrocardiogram (EKG) and a blood test to check cardiac enzymes. 
It's crucial to have both tests, because an EKG alone can miss 60 
percent of heart attacks. 

CLASSIC SYMPTOMS (MORE COMMON IN MEN, BUT CAN ALSO 
AFFECT WOMEN): 

• Discomfort, fullness, tightness, squeezing or pressure in the center 
of the chest that lasts more than a few minutes, or comes and goes 

• Chest pain that radiates to the shoulders, neck, arms or back 

• Chest discomfort, accompanied by dizziness>,fainting. sweating, 
nausea, vomiting or shortness of breath 

ATYPICAL SYMPTOMS (MORE COMMON IN WOMEN, BUT CAN 
ALSO STRIKE MEN) 

• Abdominal or stomach pain 

• Dizziness, fainting, sweating, nausea, vomiting or shortness of breath 
without chest pain 

• Sudden, unexplained weakness, fatigue or anxiety, especially after 
exercise. Also, a recent study shows that sleeplessness may be an 
early symptom, up to a month before a heart attack. 



where she was given an electrocar- 
diogram (EKG) and told that her 
heart function looked fine. Four 
hours later, she was sent home with 
a prescription for Valium. 

Lachowyn slept for a few hours, but 
the next day her pain was even worse. 
She called a neighbor who was a doc- 
tor, and he examined her at his home 
office. Her blood pressure was very 
hisfh, so he drove her to an urgent care 
center, where doctors dispatched her 
to the same ER she'd been to die night 
before. By now Lachowyn was in 
such agony she could barely move, 
so she was given a shot of morphine. 
Her lather, who had made it to the 
hospital to be with her. didn't think 
hat was enough. "Did you check her 
t?" he demanded. That prompt- 



ed doctors to do a blood test to check 
her level of cardiac enzymes (an 
EKG alone can miss (50 percent of 
heart attacks 1 . The test revealed that 
Lachowyn. a former 15-cigarette-a- 
day smoker who worked long, stress- 
ful hours as an automobile sales 
manager, had suffered a heart attack 
the dav before. "I couldn't believe it." 
she savs. "And I was ansrrv drat my 
svmptoms had been ignored. If I 
were a man. I wouldn't have been 
sent home widi Valium." 

Lachowyn was treated two days 
later widi balloon angioplasty (inser- 
tion of a balloon-tipped catheter) to 
reopen an artery that was about 50 
percent blocked, plus several medica- 
tions, including aspirin and beta 
blockers, winch continued on page 166 



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but evei since, instead of working 65 
i a week, she has i ui 
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)MS 
What happened to Bullers and 
Lachowyn is. unfortunately, not that 
unusual. Many doctors still consider 
coronary artery disease CAD, also 
known as coronary heart disease. 
essentially a narrowing of heart ar- 
teries due to buildup of fatty de- 
posits called plaques) mostly a 



concern for men. Yet it's the No. 1 
cause of death for Americans of 
both genders, eventually afflicting 
one-third of women and nearly half 
of men. and killing in similar num- 
bers (255,000 American women lose 
their lives to CAD each year, com- 
pared with 261,000 mem. In many 
eases, heart attack is the first symp- 
tom of heart disease that's been de- 
veloping for decades. 

Yet symptoms in women are still 
poorly understood and often go un- 
recognized and untreated. "Women's 
symptoms are definitely more likely 
to be missed or misinterpreted than 
those of men." says Marianne Legato, 



M.D.. professor of clinical medicine 
at Columbia University College of 
Physicians & Surgeons and the 
founder and director of the Partner- 
ship for Gender-Specific Medicine at 
Columbia University, in New York 
City. "Significant numbers of physi- 
cians still believe women are more 
likely to die of breast cancer than car- 
diovascular illness and consider heart 
disease a man's pro\ince." 

The typical woman is no more en- 
lightened. Only 9 percent of women 
ages 45 to 64 name heart disease as 
the condition they most fear— while 
61 percent consider breast cancer the 
most dangerous threat continued 



Tests That Could Save Your Life 

If you haven't already, ask your doctor to screen you for heart disease at your next routine 
appointment. It's best to start routine screenings in your 20s, although it's never too late to start. 



• C-REACTIVE PROTEIN (CRP) A protein found in 
blood that signals artery inflammation, CRP may 
predict heart disease in women even better than 
cholesterol tests do, according to a November 
2002 study at Brigham and Women's Hospital, in 
Boston. While this blood test isn't yet part of 
standard heart screening, it's available from most 
doctors and accepted by many insurance plans. 

• CHOLESTEROL Have your cholesterol checked 
every five years, ideally starting at age 20. This test 
tracks your total cholesterol (which should be under 
200), triglycerides (200 or lower, with 150 to 199 
borderline high), "bad cholesterol" LDL (less than 160 
mg/dL, with 130 to 159 borderline high) and "good 
cholesterol" HDL (above 45; 60 or more lowers risk). 
The latest thinking is that even borderline-high 
cholesterol or triglycerides should be treated with 
lifestyle changes or, in some cases, medication. 

• BLOOD PRESSURE Have it checked annually. 
Previously, blood pressure below 140/90 was 
considered normal. Under new guidelines, people 
with pressure between 120 ard 139 systolic (the 



top number in the reading) or 80 and 89 diastolic 
(bottom number) are considered to have 
"prehypertension" and should make lifestyle 
changes. Those with blood pressure of 160/100 or 
higher are usually put on medication. 

• BLOOD GLUCOSE Have your blood glucose 
checked every three years starting at age 45, or 
earlier and more often if you have a family history 
of diabetes. Diabetes is a particular heart disease 
risk factor for women— increasing heart-attack 
danger three to seven times. Diabetes is defined as 
a blood sugar level of 126 mg/dL, while readings of 
110 to 125 are considered elevated and raise risk of 
both diabetes and heart disease. 

• OTHER TESTS If you have many risk factors or are 
experiencing symptoms, there are more advanced 
screening tests you may ask about, including 
electrocardiogram (EKG), stress tests, 
echocardiography (ultrasound), angiography (X-ray 
and cardiac catheterization), or heart scans using 
electron beam tomography (EBT). These tests and 
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stroke arc even greater. CVD kills 1 

in 2.1 women, compared with 1 in 29 

lor breast cancer. Indeed. GYD 

claims mote women's lives each Near 

than all forms ol cancel combined. 

Why don't women get belter car- 
diac care:' First of all. the warning 
signs may be missed because heart 
disease symptoms ate subtler in 
women than in men. A 2002 study at 
the University of California, San 
Francisco, found that of 721 men and 
women treated in the FR for heart at- 
tack, 58 percent of the men had 
chest, arm, shoulder, neck or jaw 
p. mi, while only 11 percent of 
women had any pain at all. Other re- 
search shows that during a heart at- 
tack, women have a higher rate of 
so-called atypical symptoms, such as 
nausea, unusual fatigue or weakness. 
dizziness, heart palpitations, a cold 
sweat, or indigestion or gas like pain. 

Women's symptoms may also be 
missed because so many doctors still 
perceive heart disease as a man's ill- 
ness, says Nicca Goldberg. M.D., 
chief of women's cardiac care at 
Lenox Hill Hospital, in New York 
Cat}-, and author of Women Are Not 
Small Men: Life Saving Strategies /or Pre- 
venting mill Healing Heart Disease in 
"Even though I know better, 
when I think of a heart attack. I see 
the picture they showed us in medical 
school: a middle-aged businessman 
sweating and clutching his chest." says 
Dr. Goldberg. "Until several years 
ago, that's what young doctors were 



n a bid to do for heart- 
disease awareness what 
the pink ribbon has done 
for breast cancer, the 
National Heart, Lung and 
Blood Institute (NHLBI) 
mounted a campaign in 
2002 called The Heart 
Truth, targeted specifically 
at women. It grew with 
The Red Dress Project in 
2003, with a fashion show 
and an enameled red dress 
pin, available through the 
NHLBI Web site: www.nhlbi 
. nih.gov/health/hearttruth. 

The American Heart 
Association (AHA), which 
collaborated on The Heart 
Truth, begins its own 
three-year awareness 
campaign this month. 
Titled "Go Red for 
Women," it will feature a 
national "Wear Red Day," 
to encourage people to 
dress in red clothing to 
show support. Says Rose 
Marie Robertson, M.D., 
chief science officer of the 
AHA, "Women need to 
know that you can look 
great on the outside, and 
still be a heart attack 
waiting to happen." 



always taught, so even if thev see a 
woman with obvious symptoms and 
risk factors, thev may not think 
they're looking at heart disease. I re- 
cently treated a 12-year-old mom who 
was overweight and a heavy smoker, 
and who had consulted two doctors 
about her chest pain. Neither of them 
did any bean tests: One said she was 
stressed out and needed a vacation, 



and die odier prescribed Valium. Ac- 
tually, she had a 99 percent blockage 
of a coronarv arterv and was at high 
risk for a heart attack." 

HOW WOMEN GET 
SHORTCHANGED 
Research shows that women with 
heart disease also are less likely to re- 
ceive potentially life-saving ueaunents. 
"After a heart attack, they're less likely 
to be sent to cardiac rehabilitation, or 
to get medications like beta blockers. 
ACE inhibitors or even aspirin to re- 
duce die risk of a second heart attack," 
says Dr.-%Legato. Although nearly 
equal nuinbers of men and women 
get heart disease, women receive onlv 
33 percent of angioplasties (inserdon 
of a balloon-upped catheter to reopen 
blocked vessels), stents (mesh tubes 
used to hold clogged vessels open! 
and bypass surgeries. All this may ex- 
plain another deadly disparity: 38 per- 
cent ol women die within a year of 
dieir first heart attack, compared with 
just 25 percent of men. 

Until recently, doctors didn't know 
much about women's heart disease 
or the best treatments because, in the 
past, most major research studies 
were conducted on men. Indeed, 
women comprise only 25 percent of 
participants in all heart-related stud- 
ies done to date, reports die National 
Coalition for Women with Heart Dis- 
ease. "There's a Catch-22: Doctors 
don't use interventions like angio- 
plasty or bypass surgery as aggres- 
sively for women as they do for men, 
because the effectiveness in women 
hasn't been studied as extensively." 
saysJoAnn Manson. M.D.. chief of 
preventive medicine at Harvard's 
Brigham and Women's Hospital, in 
Boston. "As a result, women with 
heart disease sometimes end up being 
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to get answers about what works and 
what doesn't. Although doctors used 
to think ACE inhibitors weren't as ef- 
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The Heart Outcomes Prevention 
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who had heart disease or were at 
high risk of getting it showed that the 
medication has the same life-saving 
effects for women as it docs for men. 
The women who received it were 38 
percent less likely to die from cardio- 
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much as they do in men. 

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Ol the 135,000 American women 
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cent arc younger than (if). The aver- 
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lor men. (But il you smoke, here's 
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years earlier than nonsmokers do.) 
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keeping their heart healthy because 
they're jusl not aware of their risks. 
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warn women ol the danger. When 
the American Heart Association sur- 
veyed more than 1.000 women in 
2000. t)2 percent said their doctor 
Lid never discussed heart disease 
with them. That's alarming, because 
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tor for heart disease-and more than 
half have two. (Dr. Goldberg says the 
percentage is about the same for 
men.) 

While the most serious heart haz- 
ards are the same for men and 
women, some affect women more. For 
example, type 2 diabetes and HDL of 
less than 40 mg/dL are particularly 
risky for women, says Dr. Legato. 
Other risk factors include high blood 
pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes. 
smoking, high stress levels, being 
overweight i especially having fat 
around the abdomen), leading a 
sedentary lifestyle (sitting 16 hours or 
more a day raises risk by 70 percent. 
according to a study in the New Eng- 
land Journal of Medicine) or having a 
family history of heart disease i espe- 
cially a parent who died of it before 
age 55 . New research shows dial the 
immune system's inflammatory re- 
sponse also contributes to clogged ar- 
teries. Inflammation may be caused by 
bacterial or viral infections, smoking, 
diabetes, high blood pressure and high 
cholesterol. Women's risk also dou- 
bles or triples after menopause, due to 
the lack of the protective effects of es- 
trogen. The more of diese factors you 
have, the greater your danger. 

"Flu real key to saving lives, there- 



fore, regardless of gender, is preven- 
tion, "fejeart disease is not in- 
evitable." says Dr. Goldberg. "Most 
risk factors can be reduced, or even 
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had to go into frozen pizza (regula- 
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including some with just a little fatty 
meat, some with lots of lean meat 
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structor at Baylor College of Medi- 
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that lead to blindness, such as macular 
degeneration and cataracts, recent 
studies show. Lycopene is more abun- 
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(Mies in frozen pizza sauce) than those 
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pizza contains about 10 mg of ly- 
copene. which should be enough to 
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good sources of beta carotene and 
folate (broccoli also contains some 
vitamin C and calcium): and green 
and red peppers, which give you fo- 
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Bone builder: Cheese is a great 
source of calcium, which helps build 
healthy bones and teeth. And just 
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20 percent of the daily recommended 
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for women). To trim fat without 
skimping on calcium, look for pizzas 
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A host of new machines— from the no-frills to the 

fancy— mean that you can make cappuccino 

at home that's as delicious as the brews at your 

favorite cafe 



BY RON GIVENS 



Fortune Elkins talks about her "beau- 
tiful passion" for coffee in such a 
headlong rush, punctuated by excited 
gigsrlcs. that you'd swear she's seri- 
ously overcaffeinated. But this 40- 
year-old Web designer in New York 
C lity usually drinks only two or three 
i ups a day. And yet she has made 
loom in her small kitchen for two 
espresso machines — one medium- 
Luge and one large. Does she really 
need both.' Well. no. But she loves 
them. They make great espresso. "I 
just want to have the best possible 
coffee experience." Elkins saw. 

She's not alone. Over the past 10 
years, the American thirst lor coffee 
excellence has gone nationwide, alter 
brewing for years in the rainy North- 
west. Since 1995. the number of Star- 
bucks coffee shops in North America 
has zoomed from 676 to more than 
5.600. Italian terms that used to be 
obscure, such as latte and macchiato, 
have become household words. 
"We've trot a new s;eneration of what 
I would classify as 'gourmet experi- 
menters." " says Ted Lingle. executive 
director of the Specialty Coffee Asso 
ciation of America. "Even if they dis- 
covered a love of collee at a 
Starbucks store, they're now out 
looking for that experience at home." 

Getting more out of that experi- 
ence means getting more out ol cof- 
fee beans, and nothing extracts as 
much flavor as an espresso machine. 
Through a carefully calibrated com- 
bination of hot water and high pres- 
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coffee nirvana topped with the 
crownine dory of the drink— a layer 
ol golden-brown foam known as avimi. 
Taken straight, the flavors should be 
deep and dark and rich (never harsh 
or sour! -an intensity that makes 
espresso the cornerstone of a whole 
family ol thinks, including cappucci- 
nos, macchiatos and lattes. 

Thanks to the better-coffee boom, 
there are more machines available 
that can be used at home, but there's 
a catch. For the amateur, espresso 
can be devilishly hard to get perfect. 
The water has to be at the proper 
temperature— about 200 degrees— to 
extract as much of the desirable fla- 
vors and aromas as possible. The 
beans have to be ground to the 
proper degree of uniform fineness- 
something like a gritty powder— and 
tamped carefully into a small filter 
basket so that the water will be 
forced through them at the right 
pressure 9 to 10 times that at sea lev- 
ad at the right speed. If you've 
ever had an espresso that's thin and 
water-.- and who hasn't— that's be- 
ing went wrong with the 
temperature, the grind or the tamp. 

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1 eft to right: The semiautomatic DeLonghi Bar 42 (SI 99) heats the water and 

pumps it through the beans. The manual La Pawm Romantica PGlb ($879) and the 

Gaggia Classic ($449) let you control the grinding, tamping and water temperature 



possible for the average person to 
make good espresso at home. Xot so. 
With practice, you'll be able to turn 
out shots of espresso that match a lot 
of the heady brews being produced 
in coffee shops. Beginners should ex- 
pect to pay at least SlOO for a basic, 
no-frills espresso maker that will 
make a decent cup. and hundreds 
more for a durable machine that can 
turn out a greater volume of drinks 
with consistently high quality. And 
there are machines that have even 
more features-such as built-in 
grinders— that push the cost well past 
the $1,000 mark. 

CHOOSING A MACHINE 
Before buying an espresso maker. 
you have to know what kind of per- 
son you are: hands-on or hands-off. 
"I ask people. 'Do you want to push 
a button?' or 'Do you want to learn 
the art ol making espresso. 1 '" says 
Todd Salzman of the Internet retailer 
wholelattelove.com. If you want the 
maximum in convenience and vou 



can afford die cost, a super-automadc 
machine is right for you. You put die 
beans in one place and die water in 
anodier. then you liit the button— and 
out comes a very nice, robustly fla- 
vored cup of espresso. All of the 
grinding is done inside the machine, 
though you will have to clean out the 
innards every once in a while. Most 
likely, you'll have to froth the milk 
yourself using an attachment, but 
some super-automatics will do that 
for you. too. The Capresso C1000 
($900) delivers an attractive combina- 
tion of convenience and quality, and 
die Saeco Royal Professional ($1 .498 i 
will make the coffee and froth the 
milk. too. 

For those who want to tweak their 
espresso to taste— and for the truly 
dedicated, this is a consuming pas- 
sion—a greater range of choices is 
available: manuals, scmiautomatics 
and automatics. On the most funda- 
mental level, but not necessarily the 
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to ensuring the correct water temper- 
ature. That, of course, can be a real 
turn-on foi some people, but a real 
pain for others. These espresso ma- 
chines, like the La Pavoni Romantica 
PG16 ($87!)) and the Olympia Crem- 
ina ($2,195), nun- be gorgeous to 
look at. but they probably shouldn't 
be anyone's first machine. 
The $100 to $400 range On a 
more user-friendly level, there arc 
semiautomatic machines that heat the 



and pump it through the grinds 
for you. but you have to switch the 
flow on and off. For about $100. you 
can get a semiautomatic machine 
that will make an acceptable demi- 
tasse of espresso, but it takes a long 
time to make additional servings be- 
cause it doesn't have the heating 
power and boiler capacity. This 
could be the right machine for some- 
body who makes one espresso or 
cappuccino in the morning and then 
goes to work, but the wrong machine 
for somebody who entertains even 
small groups of people. The light- 
weight Krups Espremio Auto Cap- 
puccino ($99) does a nice job on that 
single, solitary serving. 

Machines that cost more than Si 00 
will be a little more substantial in 
their heft, components and capacities. 



Tire Saeco Via Yeneto and the De- 
Longhi Bar 42 both S 1 9 9 i have 
slightly stronger pumps that create 
more flavor-producing pressure, and 
they maintain dreir temperatures a lit- 
tle better, which means they make 
espresso more reliably and in some- 
what bigger quantides. You may still 
end up waiting for cappuccino, since 
foaming milk takes place at a higher 
temperature than brewing. The Via 
Veneto and the Starbucks Barista 
(S350) both use a device that puts 
out a consistent head of crema. but 
without the combination of pressure 
and brewing time that produces the 
fuller and rounder espresso that 
purists call "God shots." 

For those who don't want the has- 
sle and mess of grinding, there are 
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GRINDERS You can have the 

finest espresso machine in the 

world, but if the beans aren't 

ground correctly, your coffee 

will be feeble or harsh. Forget 

about blade grinders; they 

don't give you a uniform size of 

grounds, arid they probably 

can't make the grounds fine 

enough for espresso. They'll 

also heat up the beans, robbing 

vour cup of aroma and flavor. 

What you need is a burr grinder, which has 

two plates with rotary cutting tools that can be 

adjusted in minute ways to produce finer or 

coarser grinds. Although the difference in size 

between, say, the No. 4 setting of the grinder and 

the No. 5 sett! be hard to detect by sight. 

the precise ad ! can create a much better 

resull ewed. These 

sate for shifts in outside 




humidity and temperature, as 
well as differences in the type 
and the freshness of the beans. 
The Gaggia MDF ($149) and 
Faema Family ($269) both 
dispense the grounds through a 
"doser," which makes enough 
for a demitasse of coffee with 
each pull of a lever. The Sc 
Maestro Plus ($149) deposits 
ground coffee into a plastic 
container, from which it can be 
scooped out and measured. 
FROTHERS All espresso machines come with 
teensy pipes called "wands" that dispense steam 
to froth and heat milk. But except for high-end 
equipment with its larger boilers, there often isn't 
enough steam to whip up large amounts of froth. 
If you're going to host parties, you'll want to check 
out the Capresso FrothXpress ($70). above, which 
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an ease the burden. They use 
ured .ind preground pods 
of coffee that are tightly wrapped in 
filter paper, just pop them in the 
machine, and once the coffee is 
brewed, toss them in the garbage. 
The most common system of pods, 
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Experts say that more than 
800 separate aromatic 
components can be 
detected in coffee, so it's no 
wonder that the smell of the 
stuff can be intoxicatingly 
rich and complex. For 
Donald Schoenholt, 
president of Gillies Coffee in 
New York City, the oldest 
continuously operating 
coffee bean-roasting 
company in the U.S., the goal 
is to capture that dizzying 
olfactory experience in a cup. 
"That's what you want coffee 
to taste like— the aroma of 
roasting beans," he says. 

In recent years, Gillies has 
been joined by a number of 
smaller, artisanal roasters 
around the county that find 
great beans in small 
quantities from around the 
world, then blend them and 
roast them with magical 
results. You can taste the 
difference in your cup. 

Among the bigger names 
in better coffee, Starbucks 
Espresso Roast seems to 
have a somewhat burnt 
edge, and the legendary Illy 
company in Italy sells a 
medium roast with cocoa- 



like richness, but a sour 
finish.^or espresso blends 
that are deep, full and 
beautifully balanced, go on 
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some of these American 
products, which cost $10 to 
$11 a pound: 

Platinum Blonde from New 
York's Gimme Coffee 
(www.girnmecoffee.com) is 
a lighter roast with accents 
of vanilla and cinnamon. 
Malabar Gold from Josuma 
Coffee (www.josuma.com) is 
a brew with the biscuit-like 
quality of shortbread and a 
dry finish. 

The New York Espresso 
from Dallis Coffee 
(www.dalliscoffee.com) is 
a slightly deeper brew with 
hints of cinnamon and 
tobacco. 

Dancing Goats Blend from 
Batdorf & Bronson Coffee 
Roasters (www.batdorf.com) 
is dark and intensely rich. 
Black Cat Blend from 
Intelligentsia Coffee 
(www.intelhgentsiacoffee 
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Carioca blend from Gillies 
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Silvia ($449) is a beloved veteran 
in the home-brewing world, and 
the Gaggia Classic ($449) traces 
its roots back to the Italian 
Achilles Gaggia. who revolution- 
ized espresso making in 1938 by 
adding a piston to the machines, 
therein- creating enough pressure 
for brewing with heated water, 
rather than steam. 

At higher and higher prices 
there arc the "prosumer" ma- 
chines, equipment that is intended 
for consumers but incorporates the 
durable components found in pro- 
fessional models. The boilers that 
heat the water are bigger and 
faster, and the systems that heat 
the water will in some models de- 
liver it at two temperatures: one 
just right for brewing, and another 
at the higher temperature required 
for steam. This eliminates having 
to wait for the machine to heat up 
and cool down, which can be a 
blessing when making a lot of cap- 
puccino. The Expobar Office 
Pulser ($750) ; the Salvatore Semi- 
Automatic ($1,475), which is hand- 
made in California by an Italian. 
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decorator, kitchen specialty store or 
an independent retailer. 

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more-extending upward into ma- 
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thousands of dollars. There, as 
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Coffee by Kenneth Da\ids and The 
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are good introductions to coffee 
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equipment. But the best way to 
learn more about various models 
is through the Internet. You can 
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groups at www.coffeegeek.com and at 
alt. t of fee accessible through the 
"groups" section of www. google 
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on espresso making and gives de- 
tailed information on the equip- 
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PIZZA PITFALLS 
Still, sonic pii tin unhealthy 

surprises. But you can dodge them if 
you pa}' attention to the nutrition la- 
while shopping. Here's what to 
watch for: 

Cholesterol: Traditional frozen piz- 
za.- heavy on meat and cheese remain 
the most popular selections, so be 
sure to check the nutrition label for 
fats and cholesterol, cautions Carter. 
Calculate how much a serving of the 
pizza would contribute to your daily 
allotments for the two 35 percent of 
daily calories lor fat, 300 mg or less 
for cholesterol), as a way of determin- 
ing what is a healthy amount for you. 



hese days, even the strictest vegetarians who don't eat dairy 
and people who are lactose intolerant can satisfy their pizza 
hankerings. Many purveyors of pizza, both frozen and fresh, are 
beginning to offer soy cheese alternatives. You'll find soy cheese 
on top-end frozen pizzas such as Amy's. 

Although the taste of soy cheese doesn't match the exact flavor 
of regular cheese, it is tasty and does have nutritional benefits. For 
starters, soy cheese has no cholesterol, while dairy cheese 
contains about 20 to 30 mg per ounce. In addition, soy cheese is 
generally lower in calories, about 60 to 70 calories per ounce 
compared with 80 to 110 calories in regular selections. And though 
soy cheese doesn't have any less fat than the regular type, it has 
little saturated fat. Aside from being lowet; in calories and devoid 
of cholesterol, soy cheese also may help to fight heart disease. 
"There is evidence that soy can help lower cholesterol levels," says 
Melanie Polk, a registered dietitian with the American Institute for 
Cancer Research, in Washington. DC. 



Trans fat: The fact that your pizza is 
pepperoni-less and made with re- 
duced-fat cheese doesn't make it a 
low-fat food. Some fat may be hid- 
den in the crust in the form of par- 
tially hydrogenated vegetable oil. a 
source of trans fat that is as bad for 
your heart as saturated fat. Al- 
though the amount of trans fat in 
pizza crust is less than you would 
find in pastries, you'd be better off 
finding a crust without it. Look for 
pizza crust with substantial amounts 
of healthy ingredients such as whole 
wheat, oat bran and wheat srerm. 
says Melanie Polk, a registered dieti- 
tian with the American Institute for 
Cancel Research, in Washington. 
D.C. The FDA recently passed a 
regulation requiring manufacturers 




to list trans fat content on their 
packaging, but the measure won't 
take effect until 2006. In the mean- 
time, ingredients such as partially 
hydrogenated vegetable oil and 
shortening can tip you off that the 
crust isn't the healthiest. 



Salt: When you snack on potato 
chips, you know you're eating salt. 
But did you know one slice of pizza 
may contain up to 30 percent of your 
recommended daily amount of sodi- 
um? 'Just about eyerydiing that goes 
into pizza is high in sodium, except 
for the crust." says Carter. 

Salt is used to process meat and 
cheese, and to flavor the tomato 
sauce. Two slices of meat pizza can 
contain as much as 1.400 mg— more 
than half a teaspoon— of sodium per 
two slices (more than half the 2.400 
mg recommended daily limit for 
adults). To stay on die healdiy side, 
look for a pie that contains no more 
than 800 mg of sodium per serving. 

"It's worth it to compare brands 
and look for those widi lower amounts 
of sodium." says Polk. Too much 
salt can contribute to high blood 
pressure, and studies have linked 
high-sodium diets to an increased 
risk of stomach cancer, she says. 

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MAY BE SURPRISING, BUT LEAN BEEF HAS ONLY ONE MORE GRAM OF SATURATED FAT THAN A SKINLESS CHICKEN BREAST. 
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irting through mountains of frozen pizzas to find the healthiest choices may not be your idea of 
d time, we've done the work for you. Here are our top picks for an all-around healthy and tasty pie: 
ALL NUTRITIONAL INFORMATION IS BASED ON A 125-GRAM SERVING. 






WHAT WE LIKE 



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Wolfgang Puck 

Vegetable 



Freschetta Brick 

Oven Fire Baked 

Crust Roasted 

Portobella 

Mushrooms & 

Spinach 



DiGiorno Rising 

Crust Spinach. 

Mushroom & 

Garlic Pizza 



221 



273 



262 



Total Fat: 7 g 
Saturated Fat: 3 g 
Cholesterol: 20 mg 



Total Fat: 9 g 
Saturated Fat: 4 g 
Cholesterol: 19 mg 



Total Fat: 8 g 
Saturated Fat: 3 g 
Cholesterol: 17 mg 



Carbs: 29 g 

Protein: 12 g 

Sodium: 449 mg 


$5.99 
for a 
10.78- 
ounce 


The vegetables are so 
fresh and tasty, youll 
wonder if Wolfgang 

picked them from his 




pie 


own garden. 


Carbs: 36 g 

Protein: 11 g 

Sodium: 602 mg 


S679 
for an 
18.74- 
ounce 
pie 


With these thick and 

juicy portobello 

mushrooms, who 

needs meat? 


Carbs: 35 g 


,55.79 
?for a 


We liked the spinach 
and mushrooms on 


Protein: 12 g 


'30.3- 


top, but the tender, 


Sodium: 664 mg 


ounce 


thick crust really won 




pie 


us over. 



California Pizza 
Kitchen BBQ 

Chicken 


$5.19 The big chunks of 
Total Fat: 9 g Carbs: 34 g for a white chicken and 
287 Saturated Fat: 5 g Protein: 17 g 12.96- tangy barbecue sauce 
Cholesterol: 31 mg Sodium: 717 mg ounce made us want to go to 

pie California for seconds- 


Freschetta 

Southwest Style 
Chicken Supreme 302 
With Roasted Red 
Peppers 


Total Fat: 10 g 
Saturated Fat: 4 g 
Cholesterol: 21 mg 


S3.69 Fresh chunks of 
Carbs: 40 g for a chicken with a zing of 
Protein: 13 g 10.49- Southwest spices are a 
Sodium: 965 mg ounce new twist on 

pie traditional toppings. 


Red Baron 

Pizzeria Style „ Total Fat: 14 9 
c . r- . 319 Saturated Fat: 5 g 
Special Deluxe #•■.!_» . ™ 

Cholesterol: 20 mg 
Pizza M 


$5 49 The 9ener°us portions 
Carbs: 36 g for a of sausa ^ e and 
Protein: 14 g 32 47- pepperoni will keep 
Sodium: 825 mg ounce V 00 satisfied long after 
p ie you've thrown away 
the box. 


A.C. LaRocco 
Tomato & Feta 

Amy's Pizza 

Cheese 


Total Fat: 7 g 
251 Saturated Fat: 2 g 
Cholesterol: 11 mg 


Carbs: 39 g 

Protein: 11 g 

Sodium: 341 mg 


S5 99 to T * le ' ow amounts °f 

S6 99 saturated fat and 
for a 23- cholesterol in this pie 

_ „„ mean there's no 
ounce ... . . . 

• guilt in reaching for 

another slice. 


Total Fat: 12 g 
305 Saturated Fat: 4 g 
Cholesterol: 15 mg 


Carbs: 39 g 

Protein: 12 g 

Sodium: 600 mg 


S5 49 With a crust that's 

for a 13- crisp outs ' c,e ancl s °ft 
_ „„ inside, this pizza 
ounce , ,. . . 

1 doesn t need toppings 

to be delicious. 


Tombstone Tota | Fat: 13 g 

Original Pizza, 293 Saturated Fat: 6 g 
Extia Cheese Cholesterol: 30 mg 


Carbs: 32 g 

Protein: 14 g 

Sodium: 586 mg 


$4.69 

for a Gooey gobs of cheese 

20.5- and thick sauce taste 

ounce fresh from the pizzena 
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Vegetable Stew 

Beef chuck is flavorful hut tough unless 
you allow a long cooking time, as we do 
here. For even more tender results, took the 
beef portion of the stew a da\ ahead. To 
finish cooking, reheat the stew slowh over 
low heat until it thins out and tome- to a 
boil, then add the vegetables for the last 
I i minutes of cooking. 



Prep time: 25 minutes 
Cooking time: about 2 'A hours 

3 tablespoons vegetable oil. 
divided 
l'A cups chopped onions 
3 garlic cloves, pressed 
A cup all-purpose flour 

1 teaspoon salt 

'A teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
2'A pounds beef chuck, cut into 
1-inch cubes 

2 cans (14'/2 oz. each) beef broth 
1 cup dry red wine 

1A teaspoon dried thyme 

1 bay leaf 

2 russet potatoes, peeled and cut 
into 1-inch chunks 

2 carrots, peeled and cut into 

1-inch chunks 
2 parsnips, peeled and cut into 

1-inch chunks 
1 large sweet potato, peeled and 

cut into 1-inch chunks 



1. Heat 2 tablespoons oil in a large 
Dutch oven over medium heat. Add 
onions and cook. 5 minutes. Stir in 
garlic, and cook 1 minute more. 
Remove onion mixture from pan. 

2. Combine flour, salt and pepper in a 
bowl. Dredge beef in flour mixture, 
shaking off excess. Heat remaining oil 
in Dutch oven over medium heat and 
cook beef in 2 batches until browned. 
5 to 6 minutes per batch. Stir in onion 
mixture, broth, wine. thyme and bay 
leaf: bring to a boil. Reduce heat to 
medium-low. cover and simmer until 
beef is tender, stirring occasionally. IV2 
to 2 hours. 

3. Stir in remaining vegetables, cover 
and bring to a boil. Cook until 
vegetables are tender. 15 minutes. 
Discard bay leaf. Makes 1 1 cups. 

Per cup: 395 calories, 25 g total fat, 9 g 
saturated fat, 75 mg cholesterol, 550 mg 
sodium, 21 g carbohydrates, 20 g protein, 
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The Healing Power of Soup 



A steamy bowl of soup is not just 
the perfect meal on a cold night, 
it's also packed with tons of 
good-for-you ingredients. Soups 
are a great way to sneak more 
vitamins and minerals into our 
diet because they typically 
contain a lot of vegetables, says 
Marilyn Tanner, a spokesperson 
for the American Dietetic 
Association, in St. Louis. What's 
more, soups have a lower energy 
density than many foods (such as 
pastas), which means you can eat 
larger portions yet consume 
fewer calories. Here, the health 
benefits you'll enjoy from eating 
the stews and soups we feature 

month: 
• A potato-based soup, such as 
.age and Corn Chowder, 
p if 
3 ex 
carbohyi , trigger 



the release of serotonin from the 
brain, which is thought to relieve 
irritability. Leeks also provide a 
good source of the antioxidant 
allicin, which may help increase 
the body's ability to fight 
infections. 

• Both carrots and squash (used 
in our Roasted Carrot and Squash 
Soup) contain high levels of beta- 
carotene, an antioxidant that may 
protect against many cancers and 
slow the progression of cataracts. 

• Tossing garlic into any soup 
may help stave off viral infections. 
And parsnips, another ingredient 
in our Beef and Root Vegetable 
Stew, contain vitamin C and 
supply the body with niacin, a B 
vitamin needed for energy 
metabolism. 

• Researchers aren't sure exactly 
what it is in chicken soup and 
stew that helps your body fight 



off a cold, but they have found 
that a hefty dose helps to inhibit 
certain white blood cells from 
causing inflammation, thus helping 
to avoid symptoms of a cold. 

• Split peas (used in our Split 
Pea Soup With Ham and Rice) 
provide plenty of potassium, 
which is good for fighting high 
blood pressure, and they contain 
a large quantity of fiber, which 
helps lower cholesterol. 

• The soluble fiber found in kidney 
beans, which give additional 
substance to our Turkey Meatball 
and Alphabet Soup, may help 
stabilize blood sugars, which is 
particularly important for 
diabetics. Additionally, tomatoes 
contain the antioxidant lycopene, 
which assists in the body's 
defense against free radicals that 
cause cancer, especially prostate 
cancer. —Megan Cherkezian 



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BUSH'S BEST BLACK BEAN SOUP 

Makes up to 6 servings 



2 tbsp. vegetable oil 
1 onion, chopped 

3 garlic cloves, chopped 
1 tsp. cumin 

3 tsp. chili powder 



'/2 tsp. oregano 
3 cans ( 1 5 o/. ) 

BLSH'S Black Beans 
Black pepper to taste 



In large pot over medium heat, cook onion in hot oil for five 
minutes. Stir in garlic, cumin, chili powder and oregano. Puree 
one can of beans, add to pot. Add remaining cans of beans 
(draining liquid from one). Reduce heat and simmer lor IS 
minutes, stirring often. Add black pepper to taste. Garnish with 
salsa, shredded cheese or fresh herbs on top. Make extra copies 
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Split Pea Soup 
With Ham and Rice 



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Turn leftover stew 
into goulash by adding egg noodles. 

Corvo Rosso 2000 
(Italy, $10) This is a silky and full- 
bodied red that matches up to the bold 
and rich flavors of the beef. 

Chicken Stew With Pearl 
Onions and Mushrooms 

resh herbs can be trick\ to find m 
winter, you can substitute a combination of 
dried herbs that equals 2 teaspoons of the 
rich \tufj. Try tarragon, dill and chives. 

Prep time: 25 minutes 
Cooking time: 50 minutes 

1 bag (10 oz.) pearl onions 
A cup all-purpose flour 

1 teaspoon salt, divided 
A teaspoon poultry seasoning, 

divided 
V- teaspoon freshly ground pepper 

1 whole chicken (3'/2 lbs.), cut 
into 8 pieces, skin removed 

2 tablespoons olive oil 

1 pound mushrooms, quartered 
1 can (14 1 /: oz.) chicken broth 
A cup white wine 

up half-and-half cream 
1 carrot, peeled and thinly sliced 

1 celery rib, thinly sliced 

2 tablespoons chopped fresh 
herbs 

1. Bring a small saucepan of water to 
boil. Add onions and cook 30 seconds: 
dram. Rinse onions under cold water. 
Remove a thin slice from the root end 
ol each and slip off outer skins. 



2. Combine flour. ' 2 teaspoon salt. 
1 teaspoon poultry seasoning and 
pepper in a large, resealable plastic 
bag. Add chicken and shake to coat. 

3. Heat oil in a large Dutch oven over 
medium-high heat. Add half of the 
chicken: reduce heat to medium and 
cook until chicken is well browned on 
both sides. Repeat with remaining 
chicken. Set aside. Add mushrooms to 
pan and cook 5 minutes, stirring until 
liquid has evaporated. 

4. Add broth, wine and cream to 
saucepan with mushrooms mixture 
may look curdled . Add onions, 
chicken, carrot, celery, remaining salt 
and poultry seasoning: bring to a boil. 
Reduce heat and simmer, covered, 
stirring occasionally until chicken is 
tender. 30 minutes. Sprinkle with herbs 
just before serving. Makes 4 servings. 

Per serving: 445 calories, 16 g total fat, 
4 g saturated fat, 139 mg cholesterol, 
1,193 mg sodium, 27 g carbohydrates, 47 g 
protein, 94 mg calcium, 4 g fiber 

Cut up leftover 
chicken, removing all bones, and reheat 
with additional broth to lighten this 
stew into a soup. 

Black Swan Shiraz 
(Australia, $8) Toasty notes of black 
cherry and pepper in this wine 
complement the earthiness of the 
chicken and mushroom combination. 

Split Pea Soup 
With Ham and Rice 

You can use cither yellow or qrcen split 
or this heart i soup. 

Prep time: 15 minutes 
Cooking time: about 2 hours 
10 minutes 

1 large onion, coarsely chopped 

1 carrot, peeled and chopped 

2 celery ribs, chopped 

3 garlic cloves, peeled 

2 tablespoons olive oil 

1 bag (16 oz.) split peas, picked over 
1 smoked ham hock (about 3 A lb.) 

3 cans (14'/; oz. each) chicken 
broth 

5 cups water 



V2 teaspoon salt 

'A teaspoon freshly ground pepper 

1 bay leaf 
V2 cup white rice, cooked 

according to package directions 

Pulse onion, carrot, celery and garlic 
in a food processor until finely 
chopped. In a large saucepan, heat oil 
over medium heat. Add chopped 
vegetables and cook, stirrins 
occasionally, about 6 minutes. Stir in 
peas, ham hock, broth, water, salt, 
pepper and bay leaf. Bring to a boil. 
Reduce heat to medium-low and 
simmer, partially covered, until the 
peas fall apart and thicken the soup, 
about 2 hliurs. Remove the ham hock 
and bay lfaf. When ham is cool, pull 
the meat from the bone and shred it 
into bite-size pieces. Puree the soup 
in batches in food processor, then 
return it to the saucepan. Stir in the 
rice and ham. Makes IIV2 cups. 

Per cup: 220 calories, 4.5 g total fat, 1 g 
saturated fat, 4 mg cholesterol, 543 mg 
sodium, 34 g carbohydrates, 13 g protein, 
35 mg calcium, 3 g fiber 

Talus 2000 Pinot Noir 
(California, $8) This light red has plum 
flavors that accent the smoky ham. 

Turkey Meatball 
and Alphabet Soup 

)ou can purchase ground turkey 
(a combination of white and dark meat) 
or ground turkey breast (white meat 
only, which is leaner) for this recipe. 
Both are yummy. 

Prep time: 20 minutes 
Cooking time: about 1 hour 
10 minutes 

I'A pounds ground turkey 
S A teaspoon salt 

V- teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
4 cans (14'A oz. each) chicken 
broth 

2 cups water 

1 can (14'A oz.) diced tomatoes 

3 carrots, peeled and thinly sliced 

2 celery ribs, sliced 

1 medium onion, chopped 

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Turkey Meatball 
and Alphabet Soup 





'/2 cup uncooked alphabet noodles 
1 can (16 oz.) red kidney beans, 
rinsed and drained 

1. In a medium bowl, combine turkey. 
salt and pepper. Roll mixture into 1- 
inch halls. Set aside. 

2. In a large saucepan, bring broth, 
water, tomatoes, carrots, celery and 
onion to a boil. Stir in meatballs. 
Reduce heat to medium-low and 
simmer, partially covered. 50 minutes. 

3. Meanwhile, cook alphabet noodles 
according to package directions; drain. 
Simmer noodles in soup. 5 minutes. 
Stir ui beans. Makes 10 cups. 

Per cup: 185 calories, 2.5 g total fat, .5 g 
saturated fat, 42 mg cholesterol, 1,032 mg 
sodium, 18 g carbohydrates, 22 g protein, 
43 mg calcium, 3 g fiber 

La Scolca Gavi 
'Valentino' 2001 (Italy, $13) This dry. 
herbal white complements the hearty 
simplicity of the soup. 

Roasted Carrot 
and Squash Soup 

Winter squash hate hard, thnk skin-, 
that protect their flesh and allow them to 

>red without ation for up 

to a month. We like the cream\ sweetness 
• 'J butternut for this recipe, hut acorn, 
kabocha or calaba/a is also tasty. 

Prep time: 25 minutes 
Cooking time: about 1 hour 

5 carrots, peeled and cut into 

^-thick slices 
4 cups squash, peeled and cubed 
1 cup chopped onions 



1 tablespoon grated fresh ginger 

2 tablespoons olive oil 
'/- cup orange juice 

2 cans (14V2 oz. each) vegetable 
broth 
PA cups water 
Vz cup half-and-half cream 
/2 teaspoon salt 
Pinch cayenne pepper 

1 tablespoon butter, melted 
Sour cream, fresh cilantro, optional 

1. Heat oven to 425°F. In a large bowl, 
toss carrots, squash, onion and ginger 
with olive oil. Transfer to a jelly-roll 
pan in an even layer. Roast until 
vegetables are tender, about 40 
minutes, stirring every 10 minutes. 

2. Transfer vegetables to a large 
saucepan. Add broth, water, cream, salt 
and cayenne pepper and bring to a 
boil. Reduce heat to medium-low and 
let simmer 10 minutes. Stir in butter. 
Puree soup in batches in food 
processor until smooth. Top each 
serving with sour cream and chopped 
cilantro. if desired. Makes 7L» cups. 

Per cup: 140 calories, 7.5 g total fat, 2.5 g 
saturated fat, 10 mg cholesterol, 654 mg 
sodium, 18 g carbohydrates, 2 g protein, 
71 mg calcium, 3 g fiber 

Hogue 2002 
Johannisberg Riesling (Washington, 
$10) The apricot and peach flavors in 
this lively white heighten the sweetness 
of the ginger, squash and carrot medley 

Sausage and Corn Chowder 

Leeks collect a lot of dirt between their 

.uts, so slit them from top to 
bottom, separate the layers and wash 
thoroughly before slicing. 

Prep time: 20 minutes 
Cooking time: about 30 minutes 

1 tablespoon butter 

2 leeks, halved lengthwise and 
cut into Winch-thick slices, 
white and pale green parts only 

1 celery rib, thinly sliced 

'-/- pound new potatoes, washed 
and quartered 

2 cans (14'/2 oz. each) chicken 
broth 



I/; cups corn, thawed if frozen 
1 cup milk 

1 cup half-and-half cream 
V* teaspoon salt 
Pinch freshly ground pepper 
Pinch nutmeg 

Va pound kielbasa sausage, cut 
into /4-inch-thick slices 

1. Melt butter in a Dutch oven. Add 
leeks and celery and cook over 
medium heat, stirring frequently. 5 to 7 
minutes. Add potatoes and broth: 
cover and simmer until potatoes are 
almost tender, about 10 minutes. Stir 
in corn. milk, cream, salt, pepper and 
nutmeg and cook until potatoes are 
very tender, about 10 minutes more. 

2. Meanwhile, cook sausage in a lare;e 
skillet over medium heat, stirring 
constantly, until edges brown. Stir 
sausage into soup just before serving. 
Makes 8 cups. 

Per cup: 290 calories, 18.5 g totai fat, 8 g 
saturated fat, 48 mg cholesterol, 1,023 mg 
sodium, 21 g carbohydrates, 10 g protein, 
111 mg calcium, 2 g fiber 

McWilliam's Hanwood 
Estate Chardonnay (Australia, $12) 

This white's velvety oak, vanilla and 
tropical fruit flavors highlight the 
sweetness of the corn and balance out 
the richness of the broth. CA 



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Corn Chowder 




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FAMILY RECIPE MAKEOVER 






en-Fried Steak 

We cut the fat from this Southern classic — without sacrificing the taste 






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f hen I moved from Dripping Springs, Texas, to 
w New York City, I brought my friend's chicken-fried 
steak recipe with me. It's now one of my husband's 
favorites, but I don't serve it as much as he would like 
because it's so fattening. Can you lighten it up? 

BETSY STEPHENS, NEW YORK CITY 



Our Healthy Makeover 

We took Stephens' original recipe for deep-frying steak 
cutlets and cut the fat by more than 50 percent. (See changed 
ingredients highlighted below. Fust, we substituted heart- 
healthy canola oil for vegetable ail. and then cut the amount 
of buttermilk in half. For the gravy, we replaced whole milk 
with 2 percent milk, and we enriched the graw with low- 
sodium beef broth. The results? While the original recipe 
has all the sinful appeal of any deep-fried dish, our tasters 
liked the lighter version for not having the cloying texture of 
many overly fatty foods. Stephens particularly liked the new 
gravy's flavor, which was intensified bv the beef broth. 



Prep time: 20 minutes, plus chilling 
Cooking time: about 30 minutes 

4 (4 oz. each) beef round 
cube steaks 

1 teaspoon garlic salt 

1 A cups all-purpose flour 

2 cups buttermilk 
A cup vegetable oil 

jps whole milk 
A teaspoon salt 
A teaspoon freshly ground pepper 

Per serving: 810 calories, 57 g total fat, 
16 g saturated fat, 95 mg cholesterol, 
794 mg sodium, 44 g carbohydrates, 30 g 
protein, 172 mg calcium, 1 g fiber 



Makeover: 

Prep time: 20 minutes, plus chilling 
Cooking time: about 30 minutes 

4 (4 oz. each) beef round 

cube steaks 

1 teaspoon garlic salt 

1 cup all-purpos 

1 cup buttermilk 

U cup canola oil 

U cup fat-free. Ic 

beef broth 
U cup 2% milk 
A teaspoon salt 
A teaspoon freshly ground pepper 

1. Using a meat mallet or rolling pin. 
pound each beef cutlet to ' i-inch 
thickness. Sprinkle garlic salt on both 
sides of each cutlet. Pour flour onto a 
pie plate or shallow bowl and coat each 
cutlet. Refrigerate until most of die flour 
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48, a stunning redhead who has a grown daughter from a 
previous marriage. "We've been married six years-it's a 
second marriage for both of us-and until three years a-o 
we felt, and acted, like newlvweds. 



"Now, I have absolutely no sexual 
desire. The juices never flow, the heat 
never happens. I want to be more in- 
terested in sex. but I'm just not. I've 
gained 20 pounds over the last few 
years; it's hard to feel sexy when I 
feel so frumpy. Still. I'm convinced 
that the hysterectomy I had three 
years ago is the real cause of my 
problems. Since then. I've seen two 
gynecologists and tried everything 
from hormone replacement therapy 
to herbal and homeopathic remedies 
to improve my libido. Nothing helps. 
Jnn and I haven't made love in 
months and months. On the rare oc- 
casion tliat we do. it's nothing like it 
used to be. 1 feel put upon-almost as 
if it's a chore- and Jnn feels that I'm 
doing him a big favor. I\e tried to v 
plain that I love him and still find him 



BY MARGE 

18 - MARCH 2004 



attractive: I'm just not in the mood. 
For instance, the other night I came 
home from work, and while I was 
hanging up my coat, he walked up be- 
hind me and started kissing my neck. 
I knew where that was heading-but I 
was exhausted and the last thing I 
wanted was sex. I told him to stop^it. 
Whenever I rebuff him like this, he ei- 
ther pouts or. worse, explodes. Jim has 
a short fuse and can blow up in a 
heartbeat. He acts the same way if he 
thinks I'm ignoring Ms family criticiz- 
ing him about some unpaid bill or 
asking for time by myself. 

"But he doesn't understand that 
s< inetimes I need my space. My job 
is stressful. I'm program director for 
my city's community centers. The 
- are long and we're short- 
staffed. Jim is an economics profes- 
RY D. ROSEN 



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so'- but for the last six months he's 
been on sabbatical researchin 
book, which means that he's always 
hanging around the bouse. Besides 
irk. and his two boys. 17 and 
\9. who live nearb) with their modi- 
er. there's not a whole lot in his life. 
11'- rarely sees his old university 
friends, dropped his lifelong hobby of 
woodworking, and stopped playing 
basketball. His whole world centers 
on me-and it's suffocating. 

"Jim has also convinced himself 
that I don't like his sons and accuses 
me of not trying hard enough to be 
a 'family.' I've always been reluctant 
to push myself on them. But Jim ex- 
pects us to be this instant close-knit 
family. Now that they can drive, his 
sons drop by at all hours. I feel that 
coming over without calling is an in- 
trusion on our privacy. Inevitably, 
we slide into an argument and soon. 
neither of us can stand to be in the 
same room. 

"Until I met Jim and his family I 
didn't know what it meant to be nur- 
tured and loved. I grew up the oldest 
of three. My mother is mcrediblv self- 
centered, and my father, who has 
since passed away, didn't take interest 
in my life, either. Mother moved 
nearbv 10 years ago when Dad died, 
but I rarely see her. My brother and 
sister both live out of town. 

"I met Jim at a friend's party. I'd 
been a single mom for a long time and 
Jim was the first man I was seriously 
interested in. We shared a love of 
books, politics, gardening and the out- 
doors. Jim courted me with flowers, 
home-cooked meaJs and tickets to jazz 
concerts. I never felt so much love-or 
passion- and I miss die way we were. I 
want to be my old self again, so when 
Jim suggested counseling. I said I'd go. 
Still. I'm not convinced that I can 
change: it's as if. sexually, continued 



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,i switch has been Hipped. And while 
my husband has die patience of Job, I 
know that he's not going to stay in a 

sexless mania. lame 

him: who vvai ho has ab- 

solute!-, no dc - 

me 
ul frustrated. 
I've practically given up." said Jim. 
43, who. at 6 feet. 4 inches tall, still 
looks like the college basketball play- 
er he once was. "She's been uninter- 
ested in sex for at least three years, 
which is a real change from the sexu- 
ally alive woman I fell in love with. 
She's always telling me she doesn't 
feel sexy because she's gained 
weight. Well, who hasn't? I still think 
she's beautiful! But trying to con- 
vince her of that is like talking to a 
brick wall. When we do have sex. 
she's so obviously not into it that I 
can't help dunking that weight isn't 
her issue, it's me. I feel like she's not 
sexually attracted to me anymore. 

""Cassie's aloof in other parts of our 
life. too. She'll storm in the door, an- 
nounce that she has a million mes- 
sages to return and needs to be alone. 
Instead of laughing easily as she used 
to, she's prickly and snappish. She 
treats me like a fool who can't do any- 
thing right. If I fail to pay a bill on 
time. I'm irresponsible. If I want her 
to join me and my kids for a mo\"ie. 
I'm not respectful of her privacy. I 
love that my boys are comfortable 
coming and going between our house 
and their mother's. I know Cassie sees 
it as intrusive, but I'm grateful for any 
time die) want to spend with their old 
man! I wish I had a nickel for even- 
time Classic begged off, sa\ ing she 
wasn't feeling well, when we were due 
at my parents' house for dinner. It 
means a lot to my parents for 
spend time widi them. 



"I grew up not far from here. Dad 
worked for the electric company. 
Mother was a bookkeeper. As kids. 
we always came first. I'm thankful 
that we still live close enough to visit 
reCTularlv. My folks often worked two 
jobs so diev'd have enough money to 
put me and my two brothers through 
college. I've never 
seen my father hap- 
pier than the day I 
received my Ph.D. 

"In the besinnins; 
I loved teaching, but 
die politics of acade- 
mia wore me down. I 
needed to jump off 
the treadmill for a 
while, to finish a 
book I've been plan- 
ning for 20 years. I thought I'd make 
a lot of progress, but Cassie's right: 
I've lost my zest for it— and eventhing 
else, it seems. I waste a lot of time 
staring at a blank computer screen. 
You'd think now that I'm home so 
much. Cassie and I'd spend more time 
together. But it's just the opposite. 

"The way we've grown apart is so 
disheartening because we used to be 
so good together. WTien Cassie and I 
met. we clicked right away. We'd bodi 
been divorced, both had kids, so we 
understood and respected each odier's 
issues. I don't know what happened. 
Our arsruments are interminable. I 
know I have a bad temper, but many 
times. I try to table things until we 
both cool down, and she won't let me. 
I'll even walk out of die room, but she 
always has to have the last word, and 
she draws me right back in. 

"Right now I know I need to make 
a lot of changes in my life. I miss the 
interaction with students and col- 
es, and I need to find die confi- 
2 to finish my book. But most of 
want to reconnect with mv wife. 



which is why I suggested we see a ! 
counselor in the first place. I'm not j 
sure how- much longer I can go on 
like this. Its more than not making 
love. Yes. I miss the sex. but I also 
miss the intimacy and the passion we 
used to have for each other. Where 
did it all sjo? Is it lost forever?" 



"She treats 

me like a fool 

who can't 

do an\"thirig 

right" 



"Lov . de- 

can occur at 
any age. and for a 
variety of reasons." 
said the counselor. 
"It could be lifelong 
or situational, trig- 
gered by physical 
conditions such as 
illness, medication, 
menopause or just 
the stress of life. Cassie told me that 
since her hysterectomy three years 
ago shed experienced changes in her 
body— vaginal dryness, occasional 
night sweats and hot flashes. While 
it's normal for a diminished sex drive 
to accompany these symptoms. 
I suspected there was more than a 
physical cause at work here. 

"I told Cassie that in order to re- 
store her sex drive, she needed to im- 
prove her relationship with her 
husband outside of the bedroom. 
Their families, children and careers 
all became fuel for fights and the ani- 
mosity severed dieir communication. 
Cassie's accusations that Jim didn't 
understand her need for privacy and 
suffocated her with demands for 
closeness made him feel sad and an- 
gry. .After repeated rejections, he be- 
came defensive and stopped investing 
energy in die marriage. 

"We hammered out strategies to 
short-circuit arguments and improve 
their communication. They agreed 
that as soon as either sensed that a 
discussion was becoming continued 



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to keen a log of when 
Cassie spoke critically. When he 
started keeping track, he realized her 
remarks occurred less often than he 
had thought. Tins awareness enabled 
Jim to drop his guard and focus on 
the good moments they shared. 

'Jim also had to learn to find hap- 
piness in his life that didn't revolve 
around Cassie. It was clear that he 
was stuck in a midlife career rut. We 
discussed what he could do lor him- 
self to find pleasure. 'My book should 
be done by the end of the summer.' 
he told me after several sessions. And 
I've decided to resume teaching in die 
fall.' Upon my suggestion, he recon- 
nected with colleagues and took up 
new projects, such as enrolling in a 
furniture-making class and working 
for a candidate in their district's Con* 
gressional race. "He's so busv now I 
have to ask him when he can squeeze 
me in.' said Cassie. pleased to finally 
have some time to herself. 

"To this end. I suggested the couple 
make nonbreakable dates with each 
other once a week. Some dates were 
to be reserved for taking care of 'busi- 
ness (such as paying bills and dis- 
cussing the kids : some were for 
cuddling only: and some were for 
practicing the structured exercise 
called 'sensate focus' that helps cou- 
ples gradually phase in sexual activ- 
ity-undressing each other, touching 
and kissing-without the pressure to 
have ^rcom set the mood 

with music. | __ and sc 

candles. I told them to just enjov the 




moment and each 
other. After a few 
weeks of diese dates, 
both rediscovered 
how much thev an- 
ticipated and enjoyed 
their time together. 

"Meanwhile. I 
helped Cassie im- 
prove her body im- 
age. I gave her a 
couple of sentences 
to think to herself 
whenever she felt 
critical about herself: 
"I don't have to look 
like a model to feel 
sensuous.' and "Pans 
of my body can 
bring me great pleas- 
ure, and if I share them, it will make 
my partner feel privileged.' As she 
learned to appreciate who she is now. 
her bedrock of negativity began to 
crumble. I also told" her that she had 
to do things that physicallv aroused 
her before she would feel a surge of 
desire. I suggested she pamper^ her 
body and tap into her sensual side 
through regular exercise, massage 
with fragrant creams, as well as the 
occasional facial or pedicure. Making 
time to listen to her favorite jazz 
CDs. to enjoy a bike ride through die 
countrv or the beauty of a sunset 
would also awaken her senses and 
add pleasure to her life. 

"After about five months. Cassie 
and Jim felt readv to put lovemaking 
back into their lives. To break the pat* 
tern of rejection that Jim felt. I insist- 
ed that Cassie be the initiator. They 
decided to spend a long weekend in 
Florida, and while there, thev re- 
newed the intimacy that had lon^ 
eluded diem. When they reuimed. I 
reminded them that thev had to set 
the stage for romance bv scheduling 




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"She learned 

to pamper 

her body and 

tap into her 

sensual side" 



sex just like any oth- 
er activity. Jim has 
also asked his chil- 
dren and siblings to 
call before dropping 
over. -They were fine 
with it.' he said. At 
the same time, he 
has made separate 
plans with his chil- 
dren to attend a foot- 
ball game or have 
lunch, instead of 
waiting for them to 
drop by. With more 
time alone. Cassie is 
more open to familv 
get-togethers. 

"Cassie and Jim 
ended therapy after a 
year, with greater patience and empa- 
thy for each other. -Because sex is sup- 
posed to be fun. I didn't realize I had 
to work at it.' Cassie said. "But now 
that I understand that. I feel so much 
freer to make it even better.' " ^ 

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based on interviews with clients and 
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Matters for Women: A Complete Gu,de 
to Taking Care of Your Sexual Self The 
story told here is true, although names 
and other details have been changed to 
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When Don lost his 

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brunt of the breadwinning 

and child rearing. Could 

Don meet her halfway? 

Br end Don 

Bozarth were married for seven rears and 
living in Fairfield, Iowa, when zee ran their 
story in February 7.9.97. Soft-spoken and 
easy-going, Don owned a sporting-goods 
store, and Brenda ran the pharmacy depart- 
ment at a local hospital. But as the economy 
nose-dived, so did Don's business— and in 
short order, their marriage. Stressed to the 
max, Brenda resented being the sole bread- 
winner and caretaker of their son, Lhlan, 
5. "I never have a minute to myself?' she 
complained. "I rush home from work, pick 
uf> Dylan at the baby-sitter's and make din- 
ner. I'm sojrazzled that I wind up yelling 
at Dylan foi every little thing." She blamed 
Don for Jailing at his business and causing 
xiety ana worry. Don told us, "I 
know (he's thinking, Win me, God! Why 
did I ry tins loser? Maybe I am 

a loser. I my business work; I 

can't make my >> cork." But most 

upsetting to Doi 

were i "Brenda is always 

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of Patricia Keller, Ph.D.. a clinical social 
-worker in Iowa City. When we caught up 
with Brenda, now 47, and Don, 50, zee 
discovered much ha.s changed. 

It's hard to remember the 
way we were. Now we have two terrif- 
ic boys; Dylan is 17 and Tared is 11. 
Eight years ago. we moved to Chipley. 
Florida, where Don's parents live. 
We'd been there on vacation, and on 
a fluke. I heard about a job at a hospi- 
tal pharmacy that paid much more 
money than I'd been earning. I got 
the position that day. It was tough for 
me to leave my family in Iowa since 
we were all very close, and other than 
my in-laws, we didn't have a network 
of friends in Florida to call upon for 
things. But it forced Don and me to 
depend on each other again. 

r. . . . And we needed to get away 
from those fierce Iowa winters! 

da: I don't resent being the 

breadwinner anymore. Counseling 

:d me realize that one reason I 

BY MARGERY D. ROSEN 



"The boys thrive 
under their father's 
care." says Brenda. 
here with Don and 
their two sons, 
Dylan (left) and 
Jared (right) 



felt I couldn't count on 
Don was because I never 
gave him the opportunity 
to show me how much he 
x - could help out. I was so 
super controlling that I al- 
wavs insisted we do thinss 

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my way. Once I stepped 
back. I saw how the boys 
thrived under their father's 
care-and how special it 
was for them to have him around. 
Don: But I needed to regain mv 
confidence. So I went back to col- 
lege part time, and took care of the 
boys after class. But we soon realized 
that my being a stay-at-home dad 
was working so well that I should 
stay home full time. 
Brenda: He has also become the 
kids' soccer coach and scout leader. 
We're having fun again as a familv. 
Don: And financially, we're doing just 
fine. Still, it's hard to shake the feeling 
that I should be doing more to pro- 
\tide for my family. Even though there 
are a lot more stay-at-home dads these 
davs. down here I'm the only guy on 
the field trips. But between Brenda 
and me. it's no longer an issue. 

Ida: Raising children is such an 
important job. and now Don excels at 
it. I thank God for that everv dav. U 



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smile," says Maggie 
Richardson about 
meeting her husband 



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Puppy Love 

Looking for love among a litter of Border collies 
resulted in purebred passion for these two dog lovers 



birthdav. 



ed her 30th 
Maggie Heyn. now 34. 



knew two things for sure: She was fi- 
nally going to get the dog of her 
dreams, a female Border collie, and 
she was going to stop compromising 
in the boyfriend department. "I made 
a conscious decision that there would 
be no more mercy dating, no more 
kissing frogs, and no more savins ves 
to a bad match because of one re- 
deeming quality," says Maggie, a con- 
sultant for the ci nment of 
Baton Rouge. Louisiana. 

She had no clear plan, however. 



for procuring either the dog or the 
man. Luckily, fate stepped in and 
managed to get her both. 

Through a book-club friend. Pene- 
lope Jenkins. Maggie heard about a 
Border collie who had just given birth 
to purebred pups. But when she called 
the owner, she was disappointed to 
learn that the only female in die litter 
was spoken for. Consumed with her 
job and her community activism she 
organizes citizen crime watches in Ba- 
ton Rouge's poorest neighborhoods). 
Maggie put her dog desire on the 
back burner for a lew months. 

BY RENEE BACHER 



Meanwhile. Jenkins was 
seven months pregnant. 
Her all-male teammates on 
Turbodogs. the Ultimate 
Frisbee team she belonged 
. to. decided to throw her a 
baby shower, and invited 
die book group. 

Armed with a plate of 
brownies. Maggie arrived at 
the home of the host. John 
Richardson, an environ- 
mental engineer. As soon as 
John, now 39. opened the 
door. Maggie was a goner. 
"John was so cute and had a 
great smile." she says. 

Distracted by his host 
dudes. John had litde time 
to do more than exchange 
brief pleasantries with Mag- 
gie. She mentioned that his 
house seemed to have a 
nice backyard, and he replied that it 
would have been nicer if his two 
dogs hadn't torn it up. He remem- 
bers looking into her friendly, intelli- 
gent eyes and suddenly feeling 
"desperate to get to know her." even 
though he assumed that she had a 
boyfriend. An uneventful hour later. 
Maggie and her friends took off. 

The next day. John asked Jenkins 
whether Maggie was dating anyone. 
His heart soared when he was told 
diat she not only was single but also 
very smart. In fact. Jenkins informed 
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Cosmetic Indication- ."id Usage: 

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■ ^ludnidications: BOTOX* COSMETIC i 'ection at the proposed iniecaon atefsi and in 

"uiaton 

Warnings: 

■ rsrrjticn ol BOTOX* COSMETIC Risks resulting from 

Cauton should be e> g BOTOX' COSMETIC to ndmduals with periphery motoi neutopathic diseases 

:.cnal disorders reg myasthenia gravis or 
reasednst i jinicalty significant systen 
BOTOX' COSMETIC Published mec ; 

ents with known or unrecognized neuromuscular dse 

i iimcal deses In some of bese cases, dysphaga "as 

"flt ot cervical dystonia patients with all Botulinum tc . r 
nough 10 warrant the insertion of a gastric feeding tube There is also 
■ o suoseouent to the finding of dysphagia 
III wmg administration ot BOTOX lor other indicates ol adverse events involving the 

—ie ivrth fatal outcomes Some of these patens -ad rsi> 

l Human blood Based on effective donor screening and product manufactunng 
, -mote risk lor transmission ol viral diseases A theoretical nsk tor transmission of 
. ■ - ise (CJO) also is considered extremely remote No cases of transmrsson ot viral diseases or CJD nave ever 

PRECAUTIONS: 

Epinephrine should te available or ol i " ; ods taken as necessary shoulo an anaphylactic reaction occur 

i : effective use ol BOTOX' COSMETIC depends upon proper storage ot the product selection of the correct dose, and 
hysicians administer rg BOTOX' COSMETIC must understand the relevant 
lorvoi ... . I.- land inya -■ j-.ens to the anatomy due to prior suroical procedures 
..■-■• BOTOX COSMETIC treat nem is used in the presence ot inflammation at the proposed infection 
■.present in the target muscieisi 
Reduced blinking from BOTOX* COSMETIC injection ot the (xbiculans musde can lead to corneal exposure persistent epithelial 
detect and corneal ulceration, especially m patients with VII nerve disorders. In the use of BOTOX tor the treatment ot blepharospasm 
one case of corneal perforation in an aphakic eye reguinng corneal grafting has occurred because ot this effect Careful testing of 
corneal sensation in eyes previously operated upon, avoidance of iniecson into the tower lid area to avoid ectropion, and vigorous 
treatment of any epithelial defect should be employed This may teguire protective drops ointment therapeutic soft contact lenses or 
closure of the eye by patching oi other means 

Inducing paralysis in one oi more extraocular muscles may produce spatial disorientation double vision or oast pointing Covenng 
the affected eye may alleviate these symptoms 

! i BOTOX ' COSMETIC treatment is used in patients who have an inflammatory skin problem at the 
mmetry, ptosis, excessive dermatochalasis deep dermal scarring, thick sebaceous skin or the 
] : stantially lessen glabellar lines by physically spreading them apart as these patients were excluded from the tase 3 
safety and efficacy mats 

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Information loi Patents 
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Co-administration o! SOTUX' COSMETIC and aminoglycosides or other agents interfenng with neuromuscular transm ss 

njrare-likenondeoclaiL'ing blocker lincosamides polymyxins, qumidine magnesium sulfate anticholinesterases sue: 

chloride I should only be pertortned with caution as the effect ot the toxin may be polentaled 

The effect ol administering different botulinum neurotoxin serotypes at Die same time or within several months of each other s 

unknown Excessive neuromuscular weakness may be exacerbated by administration ot another botulinum toxin pnor to the 

resolution ot the effects ol a previously administered botulinum toxin 

Pregnancy Pregnancy Category C 

Administration .- BOTOX' COSMETIC is not lecommended dunng pregnane/ There are no adequate and well-controlled studies ct 

BOTOX' COSMETIC in pregnant women When pregnant mice and rats were injected intramuscularly dunng the penod of 

organogenesis, the developmental NOa (No Observed Effect Level jl BOTOX" COSMETIC was 4 ij.Vg Higns 

were associated with reductions in fetal body weights and/or delayed ossification 

In a range finding study in rabbits, daily injecrbon of 1 25 UAg/oay (days 6 to 18 ot gestation) and 2 U/kg idays 6 anc ' I 

gestation) produced severe maternal toxicity abortions and/or'fetal malformations Higher doses resulted in death of bi 

rabbit appears to be a very sensitive species to BOTOX' COSMETIC 

ii oecomes piegnant after the administration ot this drug, the patent should be apposed of the potensal risks ircluoing 
abortion oi fetal malformations that have been observed i 
Carcinogenesis. Mutagenesis. Impairment ot tertlitv 

Long term studies in animals have not been performed : rial of BOTOX' COSMETIC 

The reproductive NOEL following intramuscular iniection of 4 8 
Higher doses were associated ivrth dose-dec • 

to mate) and testicular atrophy or an altered estrous cyde in female rats There were no adverse - Fi 
embryos 
Hursngmot 

wn whether this cruc is excreted in human milk Because many drugs ate 

(vhen BOTOX' COSMETIC - acninistered to a nursinc .-. 

Use ol BOTOX ' COSMETIC led in children 

Clinical studies ol BOTOX' COSMETIC : 

:,!«: ol BOTOX" C0SME*1C 
There were ' i • 

function and of 
ADVERSE REACTIONS: 

associated with dvsr • I 

rare reports jl adven i 

outcomes Some 

relationship ot these ■»,■■ 

glaucoma one day after 

after laser mdotomy and traPecuir • 

reported iffa treatment ol Nepharospasn 

In dimcal rate of BOTOX* COSMETIC - BOTOX' COSMETIC m ; 

headache respiratory infection ft 



Less trequeri adverse rsaecrs rojdec oar bene at the necw sa arc -usee neatness. 

jecta ja-dLUucM arar i teejlrir 
weakness c* aoacert ^usaes may occur asa res* of re screacr'rj 
miectjor and occurred withr re hrst neek. *Te evers iwe genera - , ransert cut ra, as seve - 
Thedataoeso .. - ■BOTOX' COSMETIC --!- sudiectj - 

jaceoKtreoleo rjntal saoes r. assess re use : BOTOX* COSMETIC" - re -orve-er 7 re abearance of 
r, 3se «ere -ec... -- BOTOX* COSMETC tested 

cess was -ere r re BOTOr COSM" I 
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Randomized Double Bind Studies: 

Rates of Adverse Events Reported by >2 or more Subjects n the BOTOX' Cosmetic Group, by Treatment Group- 
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trequenc, •:• ■■ '.' -^ 'niuS \='S: 

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Bronchitis 
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Skin and Apoendages 
Etythema 
Skin Tightness 
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Nausea 



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- for facial lines there has been a sinole reported incident of diplopia 
" -ss roe most •^eouerrbV reported (XimnJication, tias been reported in the 
ranents 

' BOTOX' COSMETIC "or cosmetic Duracse- nation of antibodies that may reduce the 

efraveresso'sjese:.- BOTOX* COSMETIC 'or slaoeUar lines or BOTOX* for other iixlcatons Formation of 

neutta : ng anbbddss iduce the effectiveness ol BOTOX* COSMETIC treatment of the appearance 

; ; ol BOTOX' - re treatment of other dmica) indications such as cervical dystona 
traosrius by inactvamo the biolooicai acuity of the toxin The rate of formation of neutralizing antibodies in 
: BOTOX* COSMETIC has not been weJ studied 

; aricody formation have not beer well characterized The results from some studies df the use of 
BOTOX' (i tt ' aborts suoaest thai BOTOX* miecbons at more frequent intervals cr at higher doses 

reater nadence of arfflxvJy fonnabrjn. The poterttal fa anabody fonraton may be mnmrzed by iniecang the lowest 
• re ongest feasible ineTaS between iniecaons 

The fcftdwirc adverse reactions rave beer dentrned snee the drug has been marketed skin rash imduding erythema multiforme. 
: "urtus arc aleraic reaction Because these reactions are reported vdluntanfy from a 
-'^ssrbie to naabtv estimate bar frequency or establish a causal relationship to 
tXEinum tom 

-.nus! 31 2000. there have been 7 spontaneous reports of serous adverse events decurnented as 
' EtOTDX* maudmg anaphvacOc it?jacrrJon, myasttienia gravis, decreased heanng, ear 
■ase and located nuroness blrec xiscin and retinal vein occlusion' glaucoma and vertigo with nystagmus 



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Maggie and John rounded out their 

family with a daughter, Marien, 2, shown 

here with the four-legged Maggie 



planning to fix her up with an MIT 
graduate she knew. 

"Hey. what about me?" John 
protested. 

The date with Mr. MIT never 
materialized. Instead. Jenkins and 
her husband took John to Maggie's 
30th birthday bash at a local restau- 
rant. When they walked in. John 
spotted Maggie on the stairs. "She 
was dazzling." he recalls. Surprised 
but delighted to see him again. 
Maggie began talking with John 
about the environment, and she 
was thrilled to discover that he 
shared her passion for improving it. 

The bond was cemented over a 
romantic dinner, alone, a week later. 
"That's when sparks really flew." 
says Maggie with a grin. "John is 
close with his family and an only 
child, like me. He talked about his 
job as an engineer, and about mak- 
ing sure his plant meets federal en- 
vironmental regulations. We both 
like feeling that our work con- 
tributes to the greater good." 

Their next date was a Sunday jog 
along the Mississippi River with 
John's dogs, a chocolate lab and- 
surprise— a Border collie. "Oh. my 
gosh. I love Border collies!" Maggie 
exclaimed upon seeing the dnee of 
them. Secredv. she took diis as vet 



how they md 



another sign of how we 
matched they were. 

A week later, while visitir 
Jenkins's newborn daughter ; 
die hospital. John and Maggi 
discovered the most cosmi 
connection of all. The pair b< 
gan chatting about babies, puj 
pies and the unbearabl 
cuteness of both. Maggie me 
tioned that she had tried 
buy a Border collie pupp^ 
from a friend ofjenkins's a fev 
months earlier, in September 
but that the female she wanted] 
had already been claimed. 
"'Was the friend's name Johr 
Mai' ne?"John asked. 

"Yes." Maggie said. "Why?" 
"He's the person who sold me 
my dog in September." 

"You mean my dog!" Maggie said 
laughing out loud at the impossible 
coincidence. But there was more 



1 



'I hadn't diought about what I'd! 



call my puppy." John said. "But 
when I saw her. a name just came 
to me out of thin air: Maggie'' 

A year after then first meeting.! 
the couple married in a large cere- 1 
mony at the Catholic church in 
Maggie's hometown of Columbus. 
Georgia. Just six weeks after her 31st I 
birthday, Maggie had reached her I 
goals, getting her guv and her dog in I 
one perfect package. 

John is often asked if it's confus- ' 
ing to have two Maggies in the 
house. "Xot really." he replies as he 
looks endearingly at his spouse, 
cuddled on the couch with her 
namesake and their 2-year-old 
daughter. Marien. "I usually call my 
wife 'sweetheart. 1 " Q 

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watch siblings until they're at least in 

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'ds in -If your kid asks a lot of questions about what might 
happen when they're alone, it may be a sign of anxiety 
and immaturity," she says. 

For moms, the good news is that being 
a latchkey kid isn't necessarily a bad thing. 
"Obviously, there are risks, but letting kids 
spend some time caring for themselves as 
they get older and more responsible can 
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Brief Summary of Prescribing Information 

contraindications ai i 

mMG-CoA 

INISTERED TO WOM 

i CONCEIVE AND HAVE Bl I 
while taking this di 

WARNINGS: Liver Dysfunction 

rsistent elevations l>3 times the upper limit of 
normal [ULN] occurring on 2 or more occasions) in serum transaminases occurred in 07% of patients who 
received atorvastatin in clinical trials The incidence ol thcst abnormalities was 02%. 02%, 0.6%, and 2-3% for 
10, 20. 4fl, and 80 mg, respectively 

(If li in othei i 

>equelae 
Eighteen ol 30 pati 

recommended that liver function tests be performed prior to and at 12 weeks following both the initiation of ther- 
apy and any elevation of dose, and periodically (eg, semiannually! thereafter Liver enzyme ch j 
occur in the first 3 mi i Patients who develop increased ■ 

should be monitore 

reduction of I hould be used with r. 

patientswhoi intities of alcohol and/or have a history of liver disease ft 

la the use of atorvasi 
TRAINDICATIONSI Skeletal Muscle - Rare cases of rhabdomyolysis with acute renal failure secondary to myo- 
globinuria have been reported with atorvastatin and with other drugs in this class Uncomplicated mya 
(tin treated patients Isee ADVERSE REACTIONSl Myopathy, defined as i 

weakness in conjunction with increases in creatine phosphokmase ICPKI values 
considered in any patient with diffuse myalgias, muscle tenderness or weakness, and/or marked elevai 

should be advised to report promptly unexplained muscle pain, tenderness or weakness 
accompanied by malaise or lever Atorvastatin therapy should be discontinued it markedly elevated CPK 'eve's 
occur or myopathy is diagnosed or suspected The risk of myopathy during treatment with drugs 
increased with concurrent administi onne, fibnc acid derivatives, erythromycin, nia : 

lungals Physicians considering combined therapi with atorvastatin and fibnc acid i 
immunosuppressive drugs, azole antifungals, or lipid-lowenng doses of niacin should cai 
benefits and risks and should carefully monitor patients for any signs or symptoms of muscle pa 
weakness, particularly during the initial months of therapy and during any periods of upwa' j 
either drug Periodic creatine phosphokmase ICPKI determinations may be considered m such situations 
is no assurance that such monitoring will prevent the occurrence of severe myopathy Atorvastatin therapy should 
be temporarily withheld or discontinued in any patient with an acute, serious condition suggestive of a myopathy 
or having a risk factor predisposing to the development of renal failure secondary to rhabdomyolysis leg. severe 
acute infection, hypotension, major surgery, trauma, severe metabolic, endocrine and electrolyte disorders, and 
uncontrolled seizures). 

PRECAUTIONS: General — Belore instituting therapy with atorvastatin, an attempt should be made I 

hypercholesterolemia with appropriate diet exercise, and weight reduction in obese patients, and tc I 

underlying medical problems Isee INDICATIONS AND USAGE in full prescribing information) Information for 

Patients — Patients should be advised to report promptly unexplained muscle pain, tenderness, c 

particularly if accompanied by malaise or fever Drug Interactions — The risk of myopathy during treat 

drugs of this class is increased with concurrent administration of cyclosponne. fibnc acid denva 

time acid), erythromycin, azole antifungals Isee WARNINGS, Skeletal Muscle) Antacid: When ator\ ■ i 

Maalox' TC suspension were coadministered, plasma concentraoons of atorvastaon decreased approximately 

35% However, LDL-C reduction was not altered Anfrpvnne.Because atorvastatin does not affectthe 

netics of antipynne. interactions with other drugs metabolized via the same cytochrome isozymes are not expected 

Colestipol: Plasma concentrations of atorvastatin decreased approximately 25% when u 

were coadministered However, LDL-C reduction was greater when atorvastatin and colestipol were 

in when either drug was given alone Cimetidine: Atorvastatin plasma concentraoons and LDL-C reducton 
were not altered by coadministration of cimetidine Digoxin When multiple doses of atorvastatin and dice ■ 
coadministered, steady-state plasma digoxin concentrations increased by approximately 20 : 
digoxin should be monitored appropriately Erythromycin: In healthy individuals, plasma cone 
statin increased approximately 40% with coadmimstratjon of atorvastaon and erythromycr a 
cytochrome P450 3A4 (see WARNINGS, Skeletal Muscle! Oral Contraceptives r 
an oral contraceptive increased AUC values for norethindrone and ethinyl estradiol by approxima- 
These increases should be considered when selecting an oral contraceptive for a woman taking atorv 
Warfarin: Atorvastatin had no clinically significant effect on prothrombin time when administered I 
mg chronic warfarin treatment Endocrine Function — HMG-CoA reductase inhibitors .nterfere with cholesterol 
synthesis and theoretically might blunt adrenal and/or gonadal steroid production Clinical stud.es 
atorvastatin does not reduce basal plasma Cortisol concentration or impair adrenal reserve The efl 
CoA reductase inhibitors on male fertility have not been studied in adeguate numbers of patient; 
nn 'hr pituitary gonadal axis in premenopausal women are unknown Caution should be exercised if ar HMG-CoA 
reductase inhibitor is administered concomitantly with drugs that may decrease I 
steroid hormones, such as ketoconazole, spironolactone, and cimetidine CNS Toxicity— E 
imale dog treated for 3 months at 120 mrj/kg/day Brain hemorrhage and optic nen 
seeii in another female dog that was sacrificed m moribund condition after 1 1 weeks of escalating dos 
mg/kg/day The 120 mg/kg dose resulted in a systemic exposure approximately 16 times the - 
under-the-curve (AUC, 0-24 hours) based on the maximum human dose ot 80 mg 
seen in each ol 2 male dogs lone treated at 10 mg/kg/day and one at 120 m . 

lave been observed in mire after chronic treatment for up to 2 . 
at doses up to 100 mg/kg/day These doses weie 6 to 1 1 times Imousel and 8 to G 
based on the maximum recommended human dose of 80 mg/day CNS vascular lesions, characterized 
cular hemorrhages, edema, and mononuclear cell infiltrat ir spaces, have bei 

treated with other members of this class A chemically similar dr. 
turn (Wallenan degeneration ot retinogemculate hbersl in clinically normal doc s 
plasma drug levels about 30 tames higher than the i 
i dose Carcinogenesis. Mutagenesis, Impairment of Fertility 
study in rats at dose levels ot 10 30 
in one, there was a rhabdomyosarcoma and 
AUC 10-241 value ot approximately 16 times the mean human . 

genicity study in mice given 100. 200, or 400 
nomas in high-dose males and live sAUCIO- 

i '80 mg oral dose 

weights wen 

s Pregnancy — Pregnancy Category X See 
CONTRAINDICATIONS 
and reaches 
doses up to 300 mg/kg/day or in .nets.:,:',..,;: t kg/day. These dose! esufred in multiples of about 30 

times Irat) or 20 In _-.• ,Qp or 

225 mg/kg 

: 

4 and 21 in pups ol 
91 at 225 



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Hidden Costs of Cell Phones 

Nearly hall of American teens have cell phones, according to the 
Chicago firm Teenage Research Unlimited. And since many plans 
charge only about $20 a month to add a family member to an 
account (and often throw in the phone for free), what's not to like? 

Plenty, if you read the fine print. If your teen insists on all the bells and 
lictures, text messaging, e-mail— that cells can be equipped with, 
the costs will skyrocket. Picture messaging typically costs 25 cents per 

imasre, and text messages run about a dime 
for ever} - greeting sent. '"It adds up faster 
than you might think." says Denver mom 
Kay Sandler, whose two teens bodi have 
these state-of-the-art cells. 

Besides, having your child reachable 24 7 
by cell (an undeniable plus) sull doesn't nail 
down her whereabouts. "To make sure your 
child is where she claims to be. follow up cell- 
phone conversations with die occasional land- 
line call," advises Edward Christophersen. 
Ph.D.. author of Parenting That Works. Of 
course, if you're willing to play Big Brother 
-make that Bis Mother i. brand-new dobal 

s O 

positioning system (GPS technology- 
available through such companies as uLocate 
and Wherify Wireless lets you track your 
teen's real-time location on a Web site. The 
larger social implications of such monitoring— 
which many experts predict will be ubiquitous 
by 2005— remain to be seen, but it's a sale bet 
that teens will be among the first to claim 
invasion of privacy. —Janine S. Poutiot 




A Dangerous 
Sex Trend 

Oral sex has become a widespread 
practice among adolescents. A 
staggering 40 percent of 10th- 
graders engaged in oral sex in the 
past year, with a quarter reporting 
three or more partners, according 
to a survey in the Journal of 
Pediatric Psychology. Kids like that 
oral sex preserves their status as 
virgins, won't result in pregnancy 
and carries little risk of HIV or 
other STDs. 

The latter, however, now appears 
to be wishful thinking. In a 2003 
University of Wisconsin study, 78 
percent of new cases of genital 
herpes were caused by a virus found 
chiefly in the mouths of 16- to 21- 
year-olds. An even more sobering 
study from Johns Hopkins linked 
certain strains of the human 
papillomavirus (HPV) to head and 
neck cancers. "Having performed 
oral sex on more than one partner in 
the previous year increased the risk 
of contracting this untreatable STD," 
says lead researcher Maura Gillison, 
M.D. Clearly, parents need to have 
serious sex talks with their teens. 

—Caroline Stanley 



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At 18, your child becomes eligible to have a credit 
card in her own name (in other words. Mom and 
Dad no longer have to co-sign or be liable for 
debts). That explains why your mailbox is suddenly 
awash in preapproved credit-card offers. But if this 
mail is not destroyed, warns American Consumer 
Credit Counseling spokesperson Bob Currier, "the 
recipient is vulnerable to identity theft, because a 
felon can change the address and have the card and 
statements sent to a blind post-office box." 



Nearly 90 percent of kids, though, take the bait, 
with more than a third acquiring their first card in 
high school. By college, they carry an average of 
three cards, with balances totalling around $2,500. 
according to the national student loan financing 
corporation Nellie Mae. The upshot: Like many of 
their elders (48 percent of adults pay only their 
minimum charge each month), teen card holders 
quickly learn to use high-interest plastic to live well 
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Picky, Picky Picky 




husband and 
I were away on vacation for a week. 
his parents bravely, flawlessly over- 
saw our children Sam. 13. and Lila. 
11. On our return, the kids met us at 
the door bursting with this happy 
news: "Grandma and Grandpa 
bought us HoHo's!" Grandma 
winced, as though she'd been caught 
slipping them vodka martinis. 
"That's great, that's what grandmas 
arc for." I said— and meant it. But it 
took two subsequent phone conversa- 
tions to reassure Grandma that really, 
it was quite all right. 

I guess I have a certain reputation 
as a mean old Sugar Grinch. As part 
of a generation determined to Build a 
Better Baby. I'm sure I've cried on 
the shrill side of caution with healthy 
food, especially when Sam and Lila 
were toddlers. Hint: Even m\ own 
mother, who found my rules a bit 
harsh, used to gilt wrap a box of 



Froot Loops for our kids to tear - into 
on Christmas morning. 

I've relaxed a bit since then: I'd be 
a fool to face the teen years bran- 
dishing a spear of broccoli. But I'm 
still a Mean Mom at mealtimes— and 
proud of it. Though I now recognize 
pizza as a food group unto itself. I re- 
fuse to abandon my fight against an 
insidious eating disorder far more 
widespread dian sugar" and fast food 
addictions-food brattiness. It's a 
growing form of parental enslave- 
ment that goes bevond the classic 
"picky eater."' And it makes feeding 
children even harder. Think about it: 
How many conversations have you 
had with other moms about What 
Thev'll Eat? How main of us ap- 
proach kid mealtime with the same 
anxieties instilled by that fearsomely 
finicky Morris The Cat? 

Before I had children of my own. 
I used to blame food brattiness 

BY GERRI HIRSHEY 



How many of 

us approach kid 

mealtimes with 

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squarely on the parents. I'd been 
startled by the 3-year-old who spat 
out my homemade spaghetti sauce 
and yawped. "That's not my manjiara!" 
His mama declared, almost proudly. 
"He only eats Paul Newman's 
brand." Inwardly, I muttered. "'You 
ninny." What sensible adult would let 
a toddler dictate die shopping list? 

Alas, as a new modier. I was a fool 
of another sort-an optimist. Sam be- 
gan life as a cheerful omnivore: at 
age 3. he wolfed down eggplant 
parmigiana and sesame noodles. As- 
paragus! Pea soup! Other moms gog- 
gled in envy. Then at age 5. darkness 
fell and my boy became a pouty sul- 
tan of absolutes. Kindergarten lunch 
could be only a peanut-butter sand- 
wich, no jelly ever-ever-ever. I went 
along widi it. since he got variety at 
other meals. Then we got a note 
from his teacher: Sam thinks he 
might like somediing besides peanut 
butter for lunch. I investigated fur- 
ther: He'd been trading a lot of the 
sandwiches and it seemed die curren- 
cy of plain PB. had just fallen. 

D'oh! I smacked my forehead in a 
Homer Simpson spasm of enlighten- 
ment. The little weasel was double- 
crossing me. Finally. I got it: Food 
brattiness is a complex double helix 
of nature and nurture. Real hunger 
may be primal. But in a continued 



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land of plenty, with super-size su- 
permarket aisles and endless choic- 
es, kid nutrition has become a war 
of wits. Shortly after the P.B.-no-J. 
caper. I watched, horrified, as a 
friend tried three separately cooked 
entree choices on her litde dictator. 
who pronounced thumbs-down on 
all of them and commanded. "Mac 
and cheese! Mow!" In my own home. 
I confronted the food peccadillos of 
visiting kids. The otherwise won- 
derful Max only eats "white food"- 
plain pasta, boiled chicken breast, 
steamed rice. Samantha. who claims 
to just adore pizza, maniacally 
scrapes off every bit of sauce and 
cheese before the pitifully naked 
crust can touch her lips. Kenny can 
eat no food— from pancakes to 
baked beans— without a red tide of 
ketchup: he travels with packets of 
it like so much snakebite serum. 
"You never know."' he told me. 
"when somebody might try and 
make you eat something . . . plain." 
Few are shy in expressing dieir sus- 
picions of O.P.F. Other People's 
Food i. My mom. who was helping 
out at Lila's 5di birdidav party, still 
talks about die ponytailed connois- 
seur who looked askance at the 
platter of chicken nuggets and 
chirped: "Are diese the good ones 
or the cheap ones ?" 

Faced with the notion of my 

kids treating me like some rock star's 
personal chef "Remove die brown 
MnM's! No cheese on Thursdays!" . 
I settled on a policy of tough love 
at the table and continued vigi- 
lance at the market. It's a simple, 
no-nonsense plan. And it's not too 
different from that of my parents. 
who knew real hunger as children 
during die depression. Thev fed us 
supremely well— with a heaping side 
order of respect for good food, and 
those who work to put it there. 



Fussing was not an option. Like my 
mom. I cook well and often. I make 
a lot of stuff they like, along with 
some tilings the adults like better. If 
they're truly hungry, they'll eat it. If 
not. they'll live. And Mom and Dad 
will finish their meal in a whine-free 

zone. If thev honestlv hate some- 

I 
thing, it goes off the menu. And ?: 

cruising the supermarket aisles. I de- I 

veloped an immuniry to their piteous I 

mantra "You're so mean!" as we j 

pass the gooey-gummy lunch snacks. I 

Has it worked? After nearly a f 
decade of this policy. I think they've f 
chosen to skip about diree meals. I 
We ^iii take them anywhere, with- I 
out trepidation. They're skinny but I 
robust. Risking catcalls from the I 
rest of you. I will reveal that Sam's I 
favorite veggies are brussels I 
sprouts. His greatest triumph, be- |i 
yond a pretty fallaway jump shot, is I 
getting his 7-year-old cousin to try— 
and like— calamari. I'd never pre- j 
tend to have food brattiness j 
completely eradicated in our house. ! 
But I have learned this much: Be as t 
accommodating as a short-order ! 
cook and your kids will eat you 
alive. Be a total, unrelenting Grinch 
and the battling will never stop, i 
Meet them halfway across the 
kitchen table— with a little sugar 
added— and you stand a Fighting 
chance. It was in this renewed spirit I 
of dining detente that I bought my 
first package of HoHo's last week j 
i well, two: original and caramel). 
Sam whooped when he saw them ] 
on the counter, then caught himself. 
"Whoa. Mom. are these for us? 
Mom. you okay?" 

"Getting there." I told him. "Save 
me a bite." & 



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The Games 



As their husbands rack 

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stiff backs, women 

wonder why grown men 

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Every Sunday morning at 7:30. 1 
bring my wife a cup of coffee in bed. 
And everv time. I get die same yawn- 
ing response. 

"Play nice with the other boys." 
Diane says before rolling back over 
to sleep. "And don't get hurt." 

It's not exactly an inspiring pep 
talk as I depart for the gym. But. in 
many ways. I share her concern 
about the half-court basketball game 
I've been playing in. with the same 
group of guvs, for die past 12 years. 
In our game, where the average 
player age is about 48. winning isn't 
everything. Being able to walk to die 

BY STEPHEN FRIED 



whirlpool unassisted afterward is 
everything. Being able to play the 
next game is everything. 

I'm at the age when most men ex- 
perience basketball only in memory 
and on television, especially this 
month during the NCAAs— which 
thev watch until it's warm enough 
outside to play golf. So I'm pleased to 
be part of a group that plays and 
sweats together, year-round, held to- 
gether bv ankle and knee braces, pre- 
scription goggles, taped fingers, and 
die power of competitive camaraderie. 

I must admit diat I'm awed by die 
amount of intense time diis group of 
guvs spends in the alternative uni- 
verse of our half-court-at-midlife 
game. Not only do we play three 
times a week, but we also e-mail 
promiscuously— making sure we have 
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a husband 



cyber-trash-talking about presil 
ous games. But only one playel 
has ever said his wife was both! 
ered by the amount of time hi* 
familv was losing; to the sramel 
And thai could be because die\ 
have four kids whom she lef 
her law career to raise, and beP 
cause he also has a lot of travel 
and dinner commitments foil 
work. He also has the worst in! 
jury record in the game: two! 
torn knee ligaments, both off 
which required surgerv and ex- 
tensive rehab. 

Another player actuallv cameJ 
to die gym one Sundav morn- 

2 direcdy from the delivery 
room after his first child was 
born. He claimed he got per-f 
mission from his wife, who had 1 
just finished 12 hours of labor. , 

We are still waiting to hear 
her version of diis conversation. I 

As for Diane, her reaction is 
always the same: 'Just don"t get 
hurt." And when I do get hurt- 
so far no surgeries, but a lot of 
very colorful sprains, cycles of 
excruciating back pain, and an 
endless variety of contusions 
and gouges— she never calls me 
an idiot although she mav be 
drinking it), because she knows 
the game sustains me in ways 
diat matter to our marriage. If I 
anything, Diane would like me i 
to have more hobbies. She 
wants die exn~a time alone in die \ 
house to write she's a novelist . 
But she also realizes how much I 
need to interact with a regular 
group of guys for reasons other 
dian work or family— to recreate 
a certain bunk-mentality that I 
associate with summer camp, a 
dynamic that's increasingly hard 
to find as the hair under your 
bandanna grays or disappea 
There's also die purelv physical 



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MARCH 20C 



satisfaction of your body's doing 
something perfectly without your 
even thinking about it. Each of us 
has become addicted to the auto 
nomic ballet of his best shot. 

As the game has evolved, we've 
gotten to know each other's playing 
styles, moods and physical changes 
intimately. We play only with the 
guys we bring (based on the princi 
pie that if you're going to have a 
career-ending injury, it should at 
least be inflicted by someone you 
know and like). So we are able to 
experiment with different match- 
ups—except for the two attorneys 
we call "the Bruise Brothers." who 
plav with such disregard for their 
own bodies that we allow them to 
guard iand hurt) only each other. 

While this is far from a sweats- 
support group, we have developed 
a kind of brotherhood over 12 
years' playing three-on-three. We're 
quick to comment on physical 
changes (in weight or mental acu- 
ity) and we minister to each other's 
injuries (out of a combination of 
compassion and selfish need to re- 
tain our regular players i. We also 
bear witness to the plot twists of 
our off-court lives and offer whatev- 
er support we can. Several years 
ago. one of our players lost his ex- 
ecutive job. That sent a chill 
through a group that had conic to 
gether in their 30s when we were 
young marrieds. but now were star 
ing down the bazooka barrel of 
middle age. So after years of play- 
ing only on Sunday, we decided to 
add a second game, and started 
playing on Wednesday afternoons. 
too. We told ourselves we were do- 
ing this to help our friend through a 
rough time but. in truth, we created 
this afternoon "hooky game" to 
stave off our own midlife crises. It 
was a much cheaper and less risky 
indulgence than a sports cai 01 an 



affair. . 

lunch. 
didn 

We liked th< 
much, we added anodiei 
day. And so far. 
worked as preventive drera y: Onh 
one of oui regular pi 
true midlife crisis. We di ,i u 
and other personal stuff 
the game. While we try to ki 
on court bantei focused 
controversies, oui post-game 
sions have a tendency to sudd- 
deep, on politics or business or the 
most private of matters. .Arid then we 
get dressed and go back to our lives. 

Several weeks ago. my basketball 
buddies and I attempted to do 
something together besides plav. It 
uas the first time in 12 years that 
we had all seen each other in any- 
thing but gym clothes. One of the 
Bruise Brothers was fighting in a 
celebrity boxing match on a Satur- 
day night, and we decided to meet 
for dinner and then go watch some 
body whack him for a change. 

Tire dinner conversation was pret- 
ty subdued. Apparently, we have an 
easier time being loose with our feel 
ings when physically spent. So, il 
vou have trouble setting vour bus 
band to open up, try athletic sex. oi 
maybe just have him run around the 
block a few times. The fight itself 
was also pretty subdued. Afterward. 
I wondered if the group would go 
out drinking together. Instead, at 
8:45 on a Saturday night, most of us 
were reach to call it quits. 

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. the new- 
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first day of school in September, the 
students had one burning question: 
"Where's the dog?" 

Rumor had spread around the 
halls and throughout the cafeteria 
that Fern Ridge vvas getting a dog. A 
clog! No other school in Parkway 
School District had its very own dog. 
"This seemed like the right school in 
which to try something like this." 
says Eidson, 50. proud owner of 
Max. an 18 month-old standard poo- 
dle. Black with a white stripe on his 
chest, he's a big dog-80 pounds of 
thick, curly fur topped bv soft eves 
that say. "I understand." 

Eidson figured a dug like Max vvas 
just what vvas needed at Fern Ridge. 
an alternative school founded in 
L992 to provide ' _ed" teens 



"He knows 
he's special," 
says Eidson 
of Max, the 
big dog 
on campus 



Ottering wet kisses and 
a canine shoulder to 
cry on are just two of 
the ways Max helps 
struggling teens at an 
alternative high school 
feel better about 
themselves— and life 



the opportunitv to maximize their in- 
tellectual and social skills. The 
school's close-knit population of 115 
students and 1 1 teachers had been 
known lor fostering a feeling of fam- 
ily. But how can you have a family 
without a family dog? 

That's what Eidson wondered 
when she was hired at Fern Ridge, 
so with the full support of the 
schools superintendent, she set out 
to find the perfect dog. Eidson hand- 
picked Max from a litter by a local 
breeder, and spent the summer train- 
ing him for the American Kennel 

BY JEANNE MARIE LASKAS 



Club's Canine Good Citizen test. He 
passed— a necessary prerequisite to 
becoming certified by Therapv Dogs. 
a national organization that oversees 
the good manners of therapy dogs. 
In addition to knowing standard 
obedience commands. Max pos- 
sessed another essential, but often 
elusive, quality in abundance-a gen- 
tle, calm and loving nature. "This is 
the most incredibly laid-back dog." 
says Eidson. "You pet him and fee! 
your blood pressure drop." 

This wasn't the first time Eidson 
had thought to enlist a dog in her ef- 
fort to reach students. In the late 
1980s, as director of special educa- 
tion in nearbv Meramec Valley, she 
brought in Banjo, a puli and certified 
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J Max in to 
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turned to Max and said. 'Come on. 
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When he arrived in die school's lobby, 
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her lap and looked up at her. She 
started petting him. She stopped talk- 
ing to me and started talking to 
Max. "Well, at least you love me. 
Max." she said. 'I guess I really do 
matter. don't I. Max?" " 

It happens again and again, and 
the teachers at Fern Ridge welcome 
all that Max does to help keep 
volatile teenage emotions under con- 
trol. Students having trouble concen- 
trating might be sent out of class to 
take Max for a short walk, and often 
return calm and receptive to learning. 
Others find that just petting him 
helps them relax and focus. Studies 
have shown that dogs can lower 
blood pressure in people faced with 
stressful situations.! Guvs who can't 



talk about their girlfriend troubles 
will come in to Eidson's office and 
talk to the dog. And that trusting en- 
vironment inevitably opens the lines 
of communication between the stu- 
dents and Eidson. 

When Savannah Allen. 17. sees 
Max in the morning before school. 
"my face just lights up." she says. "He 
makes me feel good about myself." 
Jason Marks. 19. has volunteered to 
be Max's official dailv dog walker 
during third period, and it's definitely 
improved his attendance record. 
'"Max makes me want to conic to 
school." he saws. "Max depends on 
me to be here." 

■ to watch 
Max help these kids with their self- 
esteem." savs Eidson. "Thev're learn- 



ing a lot about relationships and un- 
conditional love, and how to care for 
others. Oh. I just think we should put 
dogs in all our schools!" 

She pauses to consider the practi- 
cal concerns of this. "First of all. 
you'd need someone willing to bring 
the dog to school every dav." This is 
no problem for Eidson. who thinks 
of herseli as Max's mom. "We're so 
bonded." she says. "He knows he's 
special to me. When I'm at home pet- 
ting my other dogs. Max won't 
whimper or bark or growl. He'll just 
climb up on me and get on my lap. 

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For Cindy Bar, a Bethesda. Mary 
land, lawyer, the epiphany came 
when she realized she was jealous of 
her children's baby-sitter. "I was out 
of the house by 8 in the morning and 
didn't get home till 7 at night." re- 
members Bar. 47. "Then I'd have to 
get out of my work clothes and make 
some semblance of dinner. By the 
time we were done eating, even if I 
kept Justin and Samantha. now 12 
and 10. up late and spent every sec- 
ond with them, we had maybe half 
an hour of play time. I knew there 
were a hundred things going on all 
day that the sitter was sharing with 
them and I wasn't. And I was envi- 
ous of the baby-sitter and the other 
mothers in my community who got 
to spend more time with their kids." 

Bar had never considered giving up 
her job when she became a mother. 
But as her kids grew, she found she 
enjoyed their company more. And 
their needs seemed to get more com 
plex. Parenting became not just cud- 
dling and patching skinned knees, but 
cheering at soccer games and talking 
through homework projects. Mean 
while. Bar made partner at her law- 
firm, which put Inn under increasing 
pressure. "'I was lhing my life In a to- 
do list and a tune clock, and I wasn't 



We used to think that 
the most critical time to 
stop working was when 
our children were babies 
and toddlers. But new 
research suggests that 
adolescence is when our 
kids need 'is most 

BY CAROL LYNN MITHERS 



enjoying any of it. which spilled over 
onto my family." she says. "My hus- 
band, who worked long hours, too. 
encouraged me to think about my op- 
tions. Then another partner retired, 
and I was asked to take over his de- 
partment. I woke up one day and real- 
ized the scales had tipped. In 1(1 years, 
my children would be gone. In 10 
years. I could work as a lawyer again. 
or find a new career. But I wouldn t 
get back that time with them-and I 
wanted it." Alter long discussions with 
her husband. Bar told Justin and 
Samantha that everything was about 
to change: Mommy was coming 
home. Three years later, she says sim- 
ply: "I am so happy I did this.' 

Sherri Pearson. 48. of Blooming 
ton. Illinois, stepped off a career path 
that included full-time jobs as an 
emergency room nurse/manager, 
physician recruiter and sales manager 
nine years ago. when her daughters 
were 14 and 6. Since continued 






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part lime ' an 

be horn 

the wall when the 

i idler de- 
su\ till midnight 
i >rk all weekend to 
are foi an audit. Two years of 
nursing school gave her a new career 
and the flexibility to 
work just weekends. 
"When I worked lull 
nine, my son couldn't 
play soccer because there 
was no one to take him." 
she says. "My daughter 
couldn't take ballet. If 
they didn't spend hours 
in after-school care, they 
had nowhere to go. I . b •'"'., 
couldn't ha\c them com- 
ing home to an empty house." 

What these three women did is 
changing the definition of "stay-at- 
home" mom. While most women 
who drop out of the workforce do so 
when their children are infants and 
newborns, a trend is afoot for moms 
to work early on. then stay home 
when the kids are preteens or teens. 
Their instinct is being supported bv 
striking recent research that one of 
our long held parenting assumptions 
is wrong: As oui children approach 
adulthood, they need us as much as 
they ever have, il not more. 

THE ABANDONED 
ADOLESCENT 
Virtually every parent has heard how 
much crucial physical and emotional 
development - iring .. child's 

first few years of life. As a result. 
we've become intenth focused on 
making those int. showering; 

babies with love and attention, as 



well as toys and experiences that will 
engage and stimulate them. Unfortu- 
nately, this early concentration has 
been accompanied by a slacking off 
later. For example, while 75 percent 
of parents of 9-year-olds report "high 
or moderate involvement" in their 
child's school-related activities, by 
age 14. only 55 percent of parents are 
still that involved, and with each 
passing year, the rate continues to 



lished in the journal Health Edua, 
Behavior in 2001. Being "connected" 
widr their parents and families which 
not only meant feeling loved but hav- 
ing a parent present before or after 
school, at bedtime or dinner helped 
protect teens against almost everv 
health-risk behavior studied, accord- 
ing to the National Longitudinal 
Study on Adolescent Health, which 
studied more than 12.000 girls and 




Parents need to 
be available to 
talk to teens — 

I and even to fight 

I with them 



drop. Our intense locus on how kids 
spend dieir non-school time similarly 
fizzles. A national telephone survey 
of kids ages 14 to 17 done in 2001 
for the YMCA found that the aver- 
age teen was left unsupervised after 
school two davs a week— and for 32 
percent it was three or more days. 

"There's a widespread notion that 
the older kids get. the less parenting 
makes a difference, and the less kids 
want their parents involved in their 
lives." says Laurence Steinberg. 
Ph.D.. a professor of psychology at 
Temple University in Philadelphia 
and author of The Ten Basic Princij 

Parenting. "Neither is true." In 
fact, studies show that parents retain 
an enormous influence over their al- 
most-grown kids. Teens who felt that 
their parents liked, respected and 
took them seriously were less likelv 
than their peers to smoke and drink, 
according to a study of more than 
4.200 middle school students pub- 



boys in grades 



to 12. 
Another survey, pub- 
lished in 2002. showed 
that girls whose mothers 
were actively engaged in 
their lives were far less 
likelv to have early sex. 

Finally, it's become 
clear that adolescence is a 
time of surprising physi- 
cal and psychological de- 
velopment. Within the 
brain, many of tire excess cells and 
connections formed during childhood 
are "pruned." leaMrig onlv those that 
are frequently used, according to Jay 
Giedd. M.D.. a neuroscientist at the 
National Institute of Mental Health. 
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Steinberg, "including the growth of in- 
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die ability to have relationships charac- 
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studies and statistics, but they seem 
intuitively aware of them. For Lisa 
Dembiczak. the overriding fear was 
what could happen if her children 
came home from school to an empty 
house. "Everything I read said that 
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lici dan I be. 

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around, lio a who 

indy Bar worried 
children's academ- 
n k. hut their moral 
You see these kids who 
don't have a sense of belonging or 
wholeness." she says. "If I wasn't 
there and something happened, if my 
children got into some kind of diffi- 
cult)'. I'd never forgive myself." 

WEIGHING THE 

TRADE-OFFS 

That's not to say that the decision to 

leave the professional world is easy. 



Min's work had always given her 
"a sense of purpose and self-worth": 
Dembiczak worried about being 
bored ("and sometimes I am." she 
confesses': Bar savs that die idea of 
being dependent on her husband for 
financial support was difficult. All 
three women's husbands were sup- 
portive of their wives' desires, 
though often decidedly ambivalent 
about tbe financial cost, which was 
and is very real. 

Still, these parents say. the trade-off 
was w'orth it— not because of dramat- 
ic changes in their children, but in 
the slow and steady accumulation of 
time diey've been able to spend with 
them, something that experts stress is 
crucial to good parent-teen relation- 
ships. "The research is quite clear 
about the need for parents to be 



around enough that a connection can 
happen when a teen is ready, enough 
that they convey the message that the 
door is always open." says A. Rae 
Simpson. Ph.D.. program director for 
parenting education and research at 
the Massachusetts Institute of Tech- 
nology, in Cambridge. "Parents need 
to be available to talk to teens— even 
to fight with them. Teens do a great 
deal of challenging and testing, but 
they still look to parents to set rules 
and limits, and for their opinions. At 
times they may provoke conflict, to 
help them figure out where they 
themselves stand. To help them 
shape their ideas and learn the 
process of arguing and disagreeing in 
a way diat's healthy and leaves every- 
one feeling okay is so valuable— and it 
takes an enormous amount of time." 






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-\\ r ith younger kids, you can de- 
cide when to read or play." adds Dr. 
Steinberg. "Teens have their own 
schedules, and you cant plan an inti- 
mate conversation. To have the great 
moments, you really need to be on 
call as much as possible." 

For Bar. one great moment came 
by accident, when she fell into a pro- 
foundly serious conversation with 
her son. "One day he came home 
from school and said. -Mom. they 
talked to us about drugs today. Have 
you heard of cocaine? Do you know- 
anyone who's used it? There was a 
really good guitarist. Jimi Hendnx. 
and he used drugs.' Because I was 
there, I could really get into it with 
him. I could say, -Yes. Jimi Hendrix 
was talented, but he's no longer 
alive: If he'd brought this up when I 



was just walking in the door at 7 and 
stru<Min2; to s;et dinner on the table. 
I wouldn't have taken the time lor an 
in-depth conversation.' 

When, during a car ride home. 
Pearson's daughter casually men- 
tioned that a new, city high school in- 
cluded a day-care center for the 
children of teen moms, "there was an 
opportunity for me to talk about un- 
belief that children should come after 
marriage." says Pearson. "There are 
days when I pick her up from school 
and she unloads everything. She talks 
about what happened that day. how it 
affected her-she tells me things she 
never would if 1 hadn't happened to 
be there at exactly that moment. I just 
didn't have time for that when I was 
working. I went through a period 
when I worried if I was a good mom. 



Now there's no question." For Dem- 
biczak. the change is so profound 
that "every day has its moments. 
Raising children isn't about watching 
them take the first step. It's seeing 
every step." 

Mothering during the adolescent 
years, these women acknowledge, is 
different from mothering during in- 
fancy, when die years ahead seem end- 
less, open and full of promise. This 
tune is bittersweet, the final years be- 
fore children are out the door for 
good. "I saw this as my last chance." 
says Pearson. "A lot of us think that it's 
too late to come home in this season of 
mothering-but it's not." Q 






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Cottonelle: Looking out for the famir 



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How 



The next time you meet someone who seems 
untrustworthy, try to sneak a peek at a calendar 
before you write her off as bad news. 

Where you are in your menstrual cycle may 
actually determine how trusting you are of others, 
say researchers at Claremont Graduate University 
in Claremont, California. In one study, 21 college 
students were asked to give up to $10 to an 
anonymous person who possibly would reimburse 
them threefold. Researchers found that students who 
were ovulating kept a tighter fist on their money than 



those who were elsewhere in their menstrual cycle. 

What could be the reason? Higher levels of 
progesterone during ovulation, when it is possible 
to becomi stop brain receptors from 

processiny i. a hormone linked to social 

and maternal bonding. 

In other words, it's possible that Mother Nature 
brings out the skeptic in would-be moms as a way 
to ensure that every move they make is in the best 
interest of potential offspring, says Paul J. Zak, 
Ph.D., lead researcher in the study. —Jen Matlack 



HOW 

POWERFUL 
MEMORIES 
ARE MADE 

Ever wonder why you can 
recall every detail of your 
prom dress from 10 years 
ago, but not how much 
your monthly mortgage 
payment is? You're not 
having a senior moment. 
Researchers at Wake 
Forest University believe 
that when emotions run 
high— whether due to 
happiness or grief— the 
brain produces an enzyme 
called protein kinase C that 
locks in long-term memory. 
It's likely that your 
emotions were much more 
intense on prom night than 
when you sit down to pay 
your monthly bills. 

—Megan Cherkezian 




Relationships That Can Make Yon Sick 

When selecting a seat at your next family gathering, you might be 
better off sitting next to the mother-in-law you can't stand 
than the sister-in-law you're on die fence about. That's because people 
we have mixed feelings for cause us more stress than those we're 
definite about-even if those definite feelings are hostile, say researchers 
at Brigham Young University BYU and the University of Utah. A 
study of 102 men and women socializing widi friends revealed that 
blood pressure doesn't spike as high during interactions with those we 
strongly like or dislike as during exchanges involving ambivalent 
feelings. "These interactions are unpredictable." saysjulianne Holt- 
Lunstad. Ph.D.. assistant professor of psychology at BYU. "You don't 
know if diey'll be positive or negative, which can cause anxietv." —M.C. 



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" ; -'t to being" mar- 
iiiu. i wonder grimly, as I clutch 
my can of Raid. It's 3 A.M. I've just 
come into the kitchen for a glass ol 
water, when something the size of a 
Shetland pony skitters across the 
counter and into the dishwasher. 
John, of course, is nowhere to be 
found. This is the 
Murphy's Law of 
Marriage: The task 
you most dread is the 
one you face when 
your husband's away. 

As I stand there 
trembling with revul- 
sion, I have an 
epiphany: We need 
to rewrite our mar- 
riage vows. Love and honor is all 
very well, but how about the part 
where the cleric says. "Do you, [cur- 
rently beloved person], promise to 
perform at least one disgusting chore 
for the rest of your life, so your wife 
never has to do it again?" I asked my 
girlfriends, and every one of them 
had at least one item on her list. 
"Clean behind the refrigerator." 
"Skim the congealed fat off the refrig- 
erated chicken soup." My friend Emi- 
ly had one request that sent chills 
down my spine: "Empty the garden 
slug traps." 

For me. it is this: Deal with insects. 
Any insect. Please don't tell me how 
' '.pule!'- are for the environ- 
ment. I ahead) know this, and it 
makes no difl me. En >ugh 

with the ( ts Have 

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dming ladybug season, when the lit- 
tle suckers travel in packs, storming 
warm rooms and plopping onto your 
head like terrifying jelly beans with 
legs? I think the main reason I live in 
New York City is that after 20 years 
I've managed to resign myself to the 
existence of one type of insect— the 
cockroach. Anything more exotic 
calls for a day in bed and a \ alium. 

Back to the problem at hand. See- 
ing the roach, naturally I scream, 
and discover that screaming is 
strangely unsatisfying without an 
audience. Its only result is to wake 
my 2-year-old. Henry, who comes 
downstairs, nibbing his eves, to see 
what the commotion is about. He 
arrives just in time. "Yl'CKA BUG!" 
he yelps, and shoots back upstairs as 
if jet-propelled. And indeed, the 
yuckiest ol bugs has reappeared, and 
BY JUDITH NEWMAN 



pauses for a moment while consider- 
ing his options: Duck under the sink, 
or make a break for it? He chooses 
the latter, dashing across the kitchen 
as I spray and scream. It is then that I 
notice the spray, which has been leav- 
ing an odd foamy trail, is not Raid, 
but hair mousse. 'What am I trving to 
do. volumize it to death? 

The next morning I call John. 
"You're coining home and staying 
home until this is resolved." I say- 
okay, shriek— into the phone. "You're 
overreacting." he replies. "Yeah? 
Talk to the roach." I say. 

Three nights go by. and nothing; 
no insect life of any sort makes a 
guest appearance. I am beginning to 
think I've somehow succeeded in my 
search-and-destroy mission when we 
are all in the living room— Henrv 
pummeling his Pound a Ball, gende 
Gus. his twin brother, playing with 
Iris Mozart Magic Cube— and I go to 
turn on the light. There, on the lamp- 
shade, is Bugzilla. Resting. Mocking 
us. "Don't move." murmurs John as 
he creeps into the kitchen to get the 
roach spray. "Don't say anything . . ." 

But it is too late. Involuntarily. I 
scream, and Henry looks up from his 
toy. "YUCKY BUUGGGGGG." he bel- 
lows, and to my utter amazement, 
mns toward the lampshade, waving 
his tiny hammer ferociously. He 
knocks the roach off the lampshade, 
and knocks the lamp over. too. The 
monster scoots across the rug and 
meets John's foot with a sickening, 
satisfying crunch. 

I still shudder every time I relive 
the scene. Though I have to say. it 
was a proud moment for me. It's 
clear Henry understands his role in 
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who'd been begging me to 

come, said I'd be pan of her family.' 

"But though I call all the time now. 
she's always too busy to make plans. 
If we do sec each other. I'm just tag- 
ging along on her errands, like going 
to her kids' soccer games or the salon 
so she can sret her hair highlighted. 
Not my idea ol fun. YVe last saw each 
other two months ago— I invited her 
and her two kids for dinner to cele- 
brate her birthday— and it felt like old 
times, but these moments are few 
and far between, and I'm beginning 
to think our friendship is over. 

"Looking back, there has always 
been something about the relation- 
ship that has made me uncomfort- 
able. Adrienne is brilliant and 
everything has always come so much 
easier to her: sometimes she doesn't 
seem to understand how hard I've 
struggled. Also. I've gained about 40 
pounds since college, and she rou- 
tinely makes snide comments, such 
as 'Why are you stuffing your face 
with cake when you want to lose 
weight?' I know she's a single mom 
and busy with her consulting practice 
and her boyfriend, but I don't under- 
stand why she treats me this way." 

The counselor's turn: "Pamela and 
Adrienne's friendship has always had 
its ups and downs, but it might have 
; without any major crises if 
it had remained long distance. Lots 
of people s.i\ ' live 

close b\ .: it Pamela's move to 

the same city as Adrienne bn 




She Never 
Has Time for Me 
Anymore 



out more differences than similarities 
in their personalities. As we grow 
older and cope ^-ith the demands of 
family, romantic partners and career, 
there may be a tendency to give up 
too soon on friendships that require 
"work." Abandoning a friendship 
where diere's a shared history and a 
mutual underlving concern might of- 
fer temporary relief, but it would like- 
ly lead to long-term regrets. 

"Pamela needs to realize that Adri- 
enne's family and work obligations 
make it harder for her to find time for 
their friendship. If Pamela feels Adri- 
enne has been unsympathetic, espe- 
ciallv about her weight challenges, she 
certainly has a right to let her friend 
know that. But what Pamela sees as 
criticism may actually stem from Adri- 
enne's concern about her friend's 
health and self-esteem. Pamela should 

BY MARGERY D. ROSEN 



hear her friend out before she comes 
to ironclad conclusions. Most impor- 
tandy. these two old friends need to 
create new memories. Since the birth- 
day party seemed to work out well. 
Adrienne and Pamela might consider 
other fun acti\"ities-with or without 
the kids— that would offer them the 
chance to reconnect." & 

The story told here is true, although 
names and other details have 
been changed. Jan Yager. Ph.D., is 
a Stamford, Connecticut-based 
sociologist and friendshio expert. 

If you have a friendship dilemma thai you 
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ihree adorable kids and a high- 
powered career in real estate after 12 
years as a stay at home mom in 
Wauwatosa, Wisconsin. But inside, 
the 42-year-old was on the fast track 
to burnout. Then a life coach made 
an old-fashioned suggestion with a 
twist: Take a vacation-but take it 
alone. Sprague had never been away 
on her own. never planned a trip 
without her husband and, most im- 
portant, had never left her kids be- 
hind. "1 thought if I did that," 
Sprague says, '"then I certainly wasn't 
being a good mother." 

Everyone has tapes that loop 
through their heads: I'm not good at 
math: I have to host Thanks rivine 
because I've always done it; 2ood 
parents don't need any time for 
themselves. At best, our identities in- 
corporate our passions and curiositv. 
At worst, we end up typecasting our- 
selves in roles that feel more limiting 
than liberating. When that happens. 
even if the core impulse is healthy— to 
be a responsible mother, for exam- 
ple—the outcome can be demotivat- 
ing and draining. 

The problem isn't just that we type- 
cast m ither. Sometimes familv 






members, friends or co-workers do it 
for us. and their expectations only 
serve to push us deeper into our as- 
signed pigeonhole. The roles we're 
given span the gamut and are often 
born of positive attributes— fearless- 
ness, kindness or a strong work ethic. 
Still, even complimentarv typecasting 
can be confining. 

"What happens when someone 
who is admired by friends as Norma 
Rae or Rosa Parks-wants to sit out a 
particular conflict and bake bread in- 
stead?" asks Deborah Anna Luep- 
nitz. Ph.D.. a psychotherapist in 
Philadelphia. "Being known for our 
strengths is inevitable, and it's not a 
bad thing. But when the need for 
change is met with anger, derision or 
disbelief, it can make us feel stuck." 

Sprague can't say if it was her own 
mother or the culture at large that 
framed her sense of what mother- 
hood should mean— or if it was en- 
tirelv her own invention. But 
wherever it came from, the image left 
her own needs and desires out of the 
picture. In examining her concerns, 
she realized drat not only would she 
benefit from recharging her batteries. 
but her children would also benefit 
horn time alone with their dad. She 
booked a flight to Aruba and spent 
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Have you arrived at a 
place in vour life where 
you'd like to be more 
adventurous or less 

- 

predictable? If you Ye 
been hpecast— b\ 
Yourself or others — here's 
how to break free 

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comforl in the 
la\ : they tell us 
ed of us. so we know 
i have. But as we mature 
and change, we sometimes outgrow 
our assigned parts, or find that they 
were never right for us in the first 
place. Breaking out of the role we've 
conformed to requires an unflinching 
assessment of what our life is like 
now and what we want out of it— a 
difficult but not impossible challenge. 
Often the first step is to identify the 
parts you, and those around you. 
play. At your next family gathering, 
observe the occasion as if you were a 
camera, suggests Caroline Adams 
Miller, a life coach in Bethesda. 
Maryland. Step back and identify 
people by their first names, such as 
"Mike" and not "my father." Identi- 
fy the various typecast molds and 
what their value is to the person and 
the system. For example. "Susan is 
the peacemaker because it enables 
her to always be in the middle of 
every situation." or "Jimmy is the 
black sheep, which means he never 
has to adhere to the same rules as 
everyone else." or "Amy is die smart 
one and she always does the right 
thing" and so on. Identify your own 
role, and ask yourself what you get 
from it and whether it is serving vou 
well at this point in your life. 

Next. Miller advises, brainstorm 

what other roles you'd rather play. 

It's also helpful to ask people who 

know you well to tell you what they 

strengths. 

Finally, consider what you'll gain 
or lose iking a change. For in- 

stance, if vou're alwavs the first to 



volunteer for functions at your chil- 
dren's school, cutting back would un- 
doubtedly mean you'd be less 
involved, but it would also mean 
you'd have some much needed time 
to do other things. 

While it will certainly take emo- 
tional fortitude to break out of any 
hard-and-fast role, physical strength 






also plays an important part, says 
Miller. "When a client expresses an 
interest in making some sort of 
change, whether it's to be more fi- 
nancially responsible, more emotion- 
ally resilient or to be perceived as 
smarter. I often assign exercise— espe- 
cially weight lifting— because when 
people feel more empowered in dieir 
own bodies, diey feel more empow- 
ered to take on massive changes." 

But even if you're in the best of 
shape physically, change takes 
courage. Nancy Friedman-Cohen, a 
mother of two from central New Jer- 
sey, who worked full time as a psy- 
chotherapist, longed to incorporate 
more creativity into her life, to sing 
more and return to painting, activi- 
ties she enjoyed when she was 
younger. But after long workdays, 
which included evening hours, she 
often had a headache or was too tired 
to pick up a paintbrush. "I realized 



that I couldn't be creative when I was J 
so busv ruiinino; around." she savs. 

She considered cutting back on her 
evening hours, but worried that some 
patients would be inconvenienced. 
More practically, with one of two kids 
in college, she knew this wouldn't be 
a great time for income loss. The 
risks seemed daunting, but doing 
nothing seemed worse. 

"I took a leap of faith." says Fried- 
man-Cohen. "I let clients with evening 
appointments know I was available 
during die day. and guess what? Peo- 
ple came to me during the day." 

Now. ,on one of the evenings she 
used to work. Friedman-Cohen is 
either singing, painting or placing the 
piano. The exhaustion and head- 
aches are gone, and she feels that 
she's refrained her identity as some- 
one who takes care of others in a way 
that is not at her own expense. 

"I've learned to be in touch with 
my own needs and assert them when 
necessary, and still care for people 
around me. I'm much clearer about 
what I want and about setting 
boundaries, and that's all part of the 
process of nurturing myself and not 
worrying so much about what other 
people will think." 



s 



ometimes. we find that trying 
something new is hard because 
it's. well. new. Often, it's helpful to act 
as if you've already made a change, 
which in and of itself can lead to 
change. "Research has shown that the 
mere act of smiling, even when you're 
not happy, can actually change your 
brain chemistry," says Miller. "There- 
fore, it's been hypodiesized that if you 
behave as if you are already in a new 
role, then you can begin to authenti- 
cally become that person." 

Role breaking takes some strategiz- 
ing. says Dr. continued on page 68 



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iiv Imiiioi. suggests Dr. Luepnitz. 
such as using a birthday or New 
Year's resolution to joke dead serious- 
ly about die new you. "Make a toast 
and tell everyone die rules of the New 
Me: "No one calls me before 8 a.m. to 
discuss romantic woes or anything 
less dire than a terrorist attack in my 
own backyard." " 

Once you decide to make a 
change, be prepared for mixed reac- 
tions. There's the best friend who in- 
sists you can't possibly be interested 
in applying for that job in sales be- 
cause you've never been the bubbly, 
outgoing sort. Or the husband who 
encourages you to go back into the 
workforce after staying at home with 
the kids, then complains that you're 
never around when he needs you. 

In most cases, critical comments 
are more about what's at stake for 
the speaker than they are about you. 
That's because your changes in- 
evitably create loss for others, ex- 
plains Florence Isaacs, author of Toxic 
Friends/True Friends: How lour Friends 
Can Make or Break low Health. Happi- 
ness, Finn, "People worry 

they'll be dropped by the wayside," 
says Isaacs. "If you win the lottery or 
get that degree, they're not where 
you are air. more." 

W hen you foresee an unsupport- 
ive response. nindwork, 

advises Michele W'einer Da' 
ily and couples therapist and th 
thor of C/iange Your Lift and I 
It. "You can saw "I know you misht 



have some difficulty with the change 
I plan to make." or 'You might not be 
expecting this, but it's somediing I've 
been thinking about." " It may help to 
reassure him or her that you're going 
to continue to hold up your end of 
things, that the family or the person 
is still a priority, she says. 

When Westport. Connecticut, free- 






lance writer Corrine Thompson. 37. 
told her family members of her plans 
to write a screenplay, most of them 
either scoffed at her or became very, 
very needy, worried that Thomp- 
son— aka Miss Always Available— 
would no longer have time for them 
if she took on such an ambitious proj- 
ect. "I've actually come to the point 
where I don't tell them I'm writing 
anymore." says Thompson. "They 
take a lot of energy from me. and I 
just want to focus on the screenplay. 
In fact. I actually told my sister I'd 
stopped writing and now she's not 
bothering me anymore." 

Sometimes, less-than-positive re- 
sponses contain information diat can 
be helpful to you in making a change. 
About 20 years ago. when Nan 
Feyler, of Philadelpliia. turned 28. she 
decided to redirect her life. She'd 
worked as a circus clown and a job 
counselor, but she wanted to affect 



the world in a more substantial way. 

Feyler. bursting with enthusiasm 
for her newly hatched plan, couldn't 
wait to break the news to her father. 
"Dad. I'm going to go to law school." 
she announced. 

"What makes you think you can 
get in?" he responded and then went 
back to reading his newspaper. Even 
at the time. Feyler knew her father's 
question had merit: She had never 
been a strong student. So she took a 
prep course for the LSAT entrance 
exams, and scored in the top 2 per- 
cent in the nation. She was awarded 
a scholarship to New York Universi- 
ty's law school. 

Topping that. Feyler went on to 
run the AIDS Law Project of Penn- 
sylvania, and. at the age of 48. went 
back to school again and earned a 
master's degree in public health at 
Columbia University. She didn't let 
her father's skepticism slow her 
down, and in the end. she says, her 
father was incrediblv proud of her. 

When people make positive 
changes in their lives, says Werner- 
Davis, good things generally happen 
as a result, and resistance from others 
isn't likely to last. "Sometimes it's just 
a knee-jerk response, especially in the 
beginning." she says. "Even die most 
fiery responses fizzle over time." And 
the payoff can be priceless. 

"The mental wiring that leads to 
typecasting can be undone by under- 
standing and affimiing that vou can 
Finally be your authentic self." says 
Linda Durand. a Philadelphia-based 
life coach. "When that happens, 
vou'll realize that living die truth not 
onlv is possible, it's healthy and natu- 
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on shoes, if you still hear from 

an old boyfriend . . . Should you tell 

your husband everything? 

BY JEANNIE RALSTON 



During their 10-year marriage, Ellesor 
Gray and her husband have shared a 
lot: job changes, building a house, her 
mother's illness, raising their dauah- 
ter. But recently Gray made it clear 
that there was some sharing she 
couldn't abide. Her husband's e-mail 
account was on die fritz and he want- 
ed to use hers. .After losjffinjr on. he 
asked for her password. When Gray 
said she'd enter it herself, her hus- 
band thought she was joking and 
asked again. Gray wouldn't budge. 
She made her husband look away as 
she typed in the code. 

"He was flabbergasted and angry." 
recalls Gray, who lives outside Co- 
lumbia, South Carolina. ""I explained 
that nothing in my e-mail would hurt 
hint- It's just that I don't think I 
should give up all my privacy and 
ist because I'm married." 

i me: I becomes we. 

Evei ,1 with your 

beloved. That's the romantic ideal of 



marriage. But. after talking to women 
like Gray, I wonder: Is it realistic? Is 
it even desirable? 

"The balance between separateness 
and togedierness is one of the central 
rubrics of marriage." savs John W. 
Jacobs. M.D.. a psychiatrist and au- 
thor of All You Med Is Loir and Other 
Lies About Marriage. "Each couple nies 
to find a formula that bodi partners 
are comfortable widi. Sometimes one 
spouse wants more togetherness and 
tire other wants more separateness. It 
requires tremendous negotiation." 

Among my friends, manv are ab- 
solute in their conviction that hus- 
bands and wives should share 
everything. Yet when they reflect a 
bit. they often realize that they do 
hold back information— whether it's 
what they really think about the cur- 
rent quality of their sex life or how 
they would rate their in-laws' person- 
alities. "I tell David everything," a 
neighbor assured me. But almost im- 




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ely after making that assertion. 
backpedaled. "Well, I guess not 
'ring? She paused, then capitulat- 
ed. "Okay, okay. I admit it — I tell him 
only what I think he should know." 

The experts are not surprised. In- 
deed, most say that the "mo secrets" 
rule is more mythical than actual. 
"Nobodv shares everything; v\ 
spouse, nor should they." says thera- 
pist Terrence Real, the author of How 
r Get Through to Tbu? "Everyone 
needs boundaries, and in marriage 
the\ should be flexible enough to al- 
iens each partner some room. The 
key is moderation: If a boundary is 
too firm, a couple can become de- 
tached and disengaged. If you set no 
boundaries at all. a couple becomes 
too enmeshed, which is unhealthy." 

In other words, the merging of two 
people in marriage is figurative, not 
literal. Spouses will always be sepa- 
rate people, and within every person 
there is a space that needs protecting- 
meaning you don't have the right to 
look through each other's mail, e-mail. 
drawers or purse (for diose who carry 
one without permission. In fact, in a 
rare display of professional unanimity, 
all the experts interviewed for tliis ar- 
ticle agreed that Ellesor Gray has 
every right to protect her password 
from her husband. ("Conflicts over 
passwords are extremely common to- 
day." notes Dr. Jacobs, i 

But how does this recognition of 
the need for privacy play out in the 
real world? In the best marriages, 
spouses give each odier latitude to go 
about their business, implicitly trust- 
ing that thev will be told what they 
need to know. Nowhere is diis rule of 
thumb more pertinent continued 



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down, tl i >st of- 

ten v. h .< r se 

u I 

iv idea 
how i a haircut." my 

le. echoing dozens 
- I contacted.) 

ents seem 
in work most smoothly when 
both partners are allowed to x 

keep their own counsel on 
day-to-day money questions 
and confer on major deci 
sums. One couple I know. 
for example, checks with 
each other before making 
any expenditure over $200; up to 
that limit, each spouse is free to exer- 
cise discretion. When one partner mi- 
cromanages the purse strings, the 
other may feel compelled to hide ex- 
penditures lather than risk causing a 
stir— a scenario rooted in mistrust that 
only begets more of it. says Real. 

WHEN SILENCE 
IS GOLDEN 

Lltimately then, privacy, like so 
much else in marriage, boils 
d< >wn to die issue of mist. How much 
freedom should each partner give die 
other? When is keeping something pri- 
vate— or. its inverse, invading someone 
else's privacy— a betrayal of trust? 
Though I have nothing to hide. I 
would be miffed if my husband. Robb. 
opened my mail without asking, as 
would he if 1 did the same. Robb. a 
photographer, travels a great deal, and 
it'> unlikely that he tells me every detail 
of what happens when he's away. But I 
assume that nothing would shock or 
if he did. I recognize that 
ito every cranny of his 
\or. happily, is he easilv 

In fact, I find that ha\-ing a part o( 



myself that is private is the very qual- 
ity that allows me to regenerate and 
renew myself widiin our marriage. If 
I felt obliged to share everything I 
think and do with Robb. I'd be so de- 
pleted of energy that I'd have nothing 
left over for the other parts of my life. 



?chnes to 
and her 
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facts?" 



coming out of my body in die week; 
after griing birth, and I still don't 1 
him see me pluck the occasional strav 
hair out of my chin. 

Mamtaining this zone of privacy 
protective: it keeps you from lool 
pathetic or incompetent in the eves 
the person you value mo; 
in this world. It may simp 
be that you don't care to 
dure the imosdy innocuous i 



eve rolling; that would are 



including my work and our children. 

Besides, revealing every thought 
that flits across your brain can be 
highly explosive. "It's natural to have 
negative feelings— even to hate your 
spouse— at moments, but it's rarely 
productive to say so. especially since 
you may not feel that way the next 
daw" says Dr. Jacobs. "If you told your 
spouse every time you felt irritated or 
disgusted by him. diat would be very 
destructive for die marriage." hi short. 
says Dr. Jacobs, not sharing is some- 
times the more prudent course. 

Thing to spare the other's feelings: 
What could be a more noble reason 
for keeping something to yourself? A 
woman I know told me recendy that 
she had liked sex better widi her ex. 
but would never dream of revealing 
this to her husband, whom she 
adores. She nghdy keeps this informa- 
tion to herself to protect his dignity- 
just as. sometimes, you keep tilings to 
yourself to protect your own. My 
friend Lisa declines to tell her hus- 
band her weight. "I look like I weigh 
less dian I do. so why freak him out 
with the facts?" she asks, quite rea- 
sonably. Lord knows I spared my 
husband die 2,'orv details of what was 



the news that you talk to 
your mom on the phone 
every day. Or maybe youl 
don't want to feel anv| 
dumber than you already 
do. One friend, a careful, thoughtful 
mother, never told her husband that 
their baby once rolled off the chang- 
ing table onto the floor. "The baby 
wasn't hurt, and I felt terrible enough 
already," she says. 

Sometimes, a woman's silence has 
to do widi a proprietary sense that an 
experience is hers, not her husband's. 
Must you mention that you mastur- 
bated while your husband was away 
on a business trip? "Some men would 
feel like failures if their wives told 
them that." says Kate Wachs. Ph.D.. a 
Chicago psvchologist and author of 
Relationships for Dummies. "They might 
take it personally, even though it can 
be good for a relationship because in 
general the more you masturbate, the 
more interested you are in sex." 

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add to or detract from their pleasure. 
Neither does Dr. Wachs see much 
purpose in discussing your romantic 
past, or even any current innocent flir- 
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r here's a difference, of course, 
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issues can you justifiably, and harm- 
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if revealed, would drive a wedge be- 
tween you and your husband? 

Real believes that all of us know in- 
stinctively where that line is drawn, 
whether we admit it or not. Here is 
the barometer he recommends: Ask 
yourself, if someone \ideotaped your 
actions and played the tape for your 
spouse, would he be hurt or alarmed? 
Or would he be unfazed? "Can you 
look in die mirror and answer down 
to your toes diat what you're doing is 
innocent?" says Real. "If you can't, 
then you've got a problem." 

At that point, you have to ac- 
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not because of your right to privacy, 
but because you know deep down 
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vou've crossed over into deception. 
Real hastens to add that this does 
not necessarily mean that you should 
confess even. - one of vour transeres- 
sions to your husband, but rather 
that you need to address your own 
reasons for committing them and 
change vour beha\ior accordingly. 

I've treaded in these murky waters 
myself. Several years ago. I attended 1 
a friend's wedding in Cleveland with- 
out Robb. After the festivities, a 
group of us i all women ! jumped into 
the lake, naked, near the lodge where 
the reception was held. Soon some 
groomsmen came swimming up. also 
in the buff. It was a lark at first-I 
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all— and seemed perfectly innocent. 
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>ention the skinny-dipping to Robb. 
I he found out from another partici 
I ant (a distinct possibility) and noi 
I om me. wouldn't he have every rea- 
• in to conclude that I had something 
i hide? Recalling the old political 
ictum that the cover-up is worse 
lan the crime, I fessed up the next 
norning on the phone. Robb wasn't 
>leased, but it blew over. And I had 
he satisfaction of knowing that I pre- 
empted some relationship damage: A 
/ear later when Robb and I next 
bund ourselves with the group of 
swimmers , that midnight dip was the 
:opic of gleeful reminiscing. Had the 
story caught him by surprise, I would 
have had a lot more explaining to do. 



Thai's not to say that there aren't 
plenty of occasions when I go off on 
a girls' weekend, for instance -when I 
gloss over the details ol what I've 
done iheil live without knowing we 
stayed in the hotel bar until 2 a.m. 
and said (I still believe that men 
would be shocked to find out how 
much women talk about sex). 

"There's a certain amount of adult 
activity that you have no obligation to 
report." says Renee A. Cohen. Ph.D.. 
a clinical psychologist in Santa Moni- 
ca and Torrance. California. You're 
not a child asking permission. Ideally, 
there is enough basic trust in your 
marriage to allow for this freedom." 

In the end, how much you can rea- 
sonably keep private depends on the 
tenor of the relationship you and 
your partner have built. Knowing 



your husband as well as you do will 
help you gauge how much— and 
what he expects yon to share with 
him. Let that knowledge, and your 
own good conscience, be your guide. 

\nd if in doubt, choose openness: 
( Raring the air is almost always 
more beneficial than keeping a secret. 
As Dr. Jacobs points out. the more 
that spouses need to keep private 
from each other, the more unstable 
the marriage is apt to be. "When yon 
are open about who while 

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embrace who that individual is." 

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Q: If I smell a 
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A: "Scent strips are a good 
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"Begin smelling due area you 
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"At first you smell this dominant scent, but later vour brain 
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Gillotin. a top perfumer with Givaudan Fine Fragrances U.S.. 
-creator of many popular fragrances worldwide. "This is 
actually an evolutionary advantage that permits you to instead 
smell the odor of smoke or anything potentially dangerous." 
Assuming that the only danger you're in is losing track of your 
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warm, to allow for the best absorption." 
The last piece of the puzzle, of course, is 
the fragrance itself. The lower the alcohol 
content of a fragrance, the longer it will 
last. That's why eau de parfum, with the 
least amount of alcohol, is the longest 
lasting, followed by eau de toilette and 
eau de cologne. Other suggestions: spray 
your ironing board with fragrance before 
ironing and let it dry. The heat from the 
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clothes, says Palma. Or spray fragrance on 
your hands, clap them together a few 
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together— is that weird? 

A: Do-it-yourself fragrance combining is a great way to express 
your originality, and in fact, some perfume lines are designed 
with mixing and matching in mind. "There's no rhyme or reason 
to what works,'' says Cord Coen, president of Zents, a small 
fragrance company in Boulder, Colorado. "It's simply a matter 
of trial and error to find a blend that strikes your fragrance 
fancy. If your two favorite scents are in the same fragrance 
family, they're likely to be a great match." Since there are 
several categories of scent from which to choose (citrus, green, 
marine, floral. Oriental, woody and aromatic), try mixing 
perfumes from different families as well Coen recommends 
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For adults and children 2 years of age and older 
with seasonal allergic rhinitis 

• Take SINGULAIR o- 
time each dav 



• Take SINGULAIR every day for as long as your 
doctor prescribes it 

• You may take SINGULAIR with food or without 
food 

How should I give SINGULAIR oral granules to 
my child? 

Do not open the packet until ready to use. 

SINGULAIR 4-mg oral granules can be given either: 

• directly in the mouth; OR 

• mixed with a spoonful of one of the following 
soft foods at cold or room temperature: applesauce, 
mashed carrots, rice, or ice cream. Be sure that the 
entire dose is mixed with the food and that the child 
is given the entire spoonful of the mixture right away 
(within 15 minutes:. 

IMPORTANT: Never store any oral granule/food 
mixture for use at a later time. Throw away any 
unused portion 

Do not put SINGULAIR oral granules in liquid drink. 

However, your child may drink liquids after swallowing 
the SINGULAIR oral granules. 

What is the daily dose of SINGULAIR for asthma or 
seasonal allergic rhinitis? 

For Asthma (Take in the evening): 

• One 10-mg tablet for adults and adolescents 
15 years of age and older, 

• One 5-mg chewable tablet for children 6 to 14 
years of age, 

• One 4-mg chewable tablet or one packet of 4-mg 
oral granules for children 2 to 5 years of age. or 

• One packet of 4-mg oral granules for children 
12 to 23 months of age. 

For Seasonal Allergic Rhinitis (Take at about the 
same time each day): 

• One 10-mg tablet for adults and adolescents 
15 years of age and older, 

• One 5-mg chewable tablet for children 6 to 14 
years of age, or 

• One 4-mg chewable tablet or one packet of 4-mg 
oral granules for children 2 to 5 years of age. 

What should I avoid while taking SINGULAIR? 

If you have asthma and if your asthma is made worse 
by aspirin, continue to avoid aspirin or other medicines 
called non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs while 
taking SINGULAIR. 

What are the possible side effects of SINGULAIR? 

The side effects of SINGULAIR are usually mild, and 
generally did not cause patients to stop taking their 
medicine. The side effects in patients treated with 
SINGULAIR were similar in type and frequency to 
side effects in patients who were given a placebo 
(a pill containing no medicine). 

The most common side effects with SINGULAIR include: 

• stomach pain 

• stomach or intestinal upset 
» heartburn 

• tiredness 

• fever 

• stuffy nose 

• cough 

• flu 

• upper respiratory infection 

• dizziness 

• headache 

• rash 

Less common side effects that have happened with 
SINGULAIR include (listed alphabetically): 

agitation including aggressive behavior, allergic 
reactions (including swelling of the face. lips, tongue, 
and or throat, which may cause 'rouble breathing 
or swallowing), hives, and itching bad vivid dreams, 
increased bleeding tendency, bruising, diarrhea, 
hallucinations (seeing things that are not there), 
hepatitis, indigestion, inflammation of the pancreas, 
irritability. |Oint pain, muscle aches and muscle cramps, 
nausea, palpitations, pins and needles numbness, 
restlessness, seizures (convulsions or fits), swelling, 
trouble sleeping, and vomiting. 

Rarely, asthmatic patients taking SINGULAIR have 
experienced a condition that includes certain symptoms 



that do not go away or that get worse.These <_ 
usually, but not always, in patients who weret 
steroid pills by mouth for asthma and those i 
were being slowly lowered or stopped. Afthc 
SINGULAIR has not been shown to cause this con 
you must tell your doctor right away rf you get ( 
or more of these symptoms 

• a feeling of pins and needles or numbness ( 
arms or legs 

• a flu-like illness 

• rash 

• severe inflammation (pain and swelling) of i 
sinuses Isinusitis) 

These are not all the possible side effects of 
SINGULAIR. For more information ask your doct| 
or pharmacist. 

Talk to your doctor if you think you have side effe 
from taking SINGULAIR. 

General Information about the safe and effective | 
of SINGULAIR 

Medicines are sometimes prescribed for conditio 
that are not mentioned in patient information leaf 
Do not use SINGULAIR for a condition for which r 
was not prescribed. Do not give SINGULAIR tootl 
people even if they have the same symptoms you 
have. It may harm them Keep SINGULAIR and all) 
medicines out of the reach of children. 

Store SINGULAIR at 25'C (77'F). Protect from moisJ 
and light. Store in original package. 

This leaflet summarizes information about SINGU 
If you vvould like more information, talk to your 
doctor. You can ask your pharmacist or doctor for 
information about SINGULAIR that is written for 
health professionals. 

What are the ingredients in SINGULAIR? 

Active ingredient: montelukast sodium 






SINGULAIR chewable tablets contain aspartame. ■ 

source of phenylalanine. 

Phenylketonurias: SINGULAIR 4-mg and 5-mg chewal 

tablets contain 0.674 and 0.842 mg phenylalanine. 

respectively. 

Inactive ingredients: 

• 4-m o oral g ranules : mannitol, hydroxypropyl 
cellulose, and magnesium stearate. 

• 4-m o and 5-m g chewable tablets : mannitol, 
microcrystalline cellulose, hydroxypropyl cellulo(| 
red ferric oxide, croscarmellose sodium, cherry' 
flavor, aspartame, and magnesium stearate. I 

• 10-mg tablet : microcrystalline cellulose, 
lactose monohydrate. croscarmellose sodium.l 
hydroxypropyl cellulose, magnesium stearate, "« 
hydroxypropyl methylcellulose, titanium 
dioxide, red ferric oxide, yellow ferric oxide, an| 
carnauba wax. 

What is asthma? 

Asthma is a continuing (chronic) inflammation of th 
bronchial passageways which are the tubes that car 
air from outside the body to the lungs. 

Symptoms of asthma include: 

• coughing 

• wheezing 

• chest tightness 

• shortness of breath 

What is seasonal allergic rhinitis? 

• Seasonal allergic rhinitis, also known as hay 
fever, is an allergic response caused by pollens 
from trees, grasses and weeds. 

• Symptoms of seasonal allergic rhinitis may 
include: 

• stuffy, runny, and'or itchy nose 

• sneezing 



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>ut the colors of nature- 
jorgeous greens, beautiful 
)lues, pretty pinks and 
:ool corals— to work for 
'ou this spring 



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1ESMERIZING EYES 

'our eyes are your face's star attraction. 
nd you can make them more exciting 
vith the season's array of blue, purple 
md green eye shadow. Not only do 
hese shades brighten your eyes in a 
lew way, but they're remarkably easy to 
Near No matter what your skin tone, 
/ou can take part in this springtime 
:olor fling. But first, a few guidelines: 

GREENER DAYS 

The secret to using shades of green lies 
in applying them lightly, without 
complicated contouring and shading, 
and by choosing shadows that are 
transparent and slightly shimmery, 
rather than opaque and matte. Also. 
look for shades that will complement 
your skin tone. "The soft green used on 
the model (at left) works because of 
her skin's warm undertones," says 
makeup artist Tommy Joiner, who did 
the makeup for all of the models in 
this story. On the opposite end of the 
spectrum, women with lighter, cooler 
skin tones (such as blonds with blue 
eyes) would look best in a more vivid 
shade of green. If you're not sure 
whether you have "warm" or "cool" 
skin, go to your favorite makeup 
counter for advice. 



Create your own color enhancements with this dazzling array 
of velvety eyeshadows, vibrant liners and professional- 
quality makeup brushes. 1 Merle Norman Luxiva Color Quads 
in Cloud Nine. $21; 2 Kevyn Aucoin Concealer brush. $24, 
and 3 Eyebrow/Mascara brush, $12; 4 Sepnora brush, $20; 
5 Wet & Wild liners in cool green and 6 turquoise. $1; 
7 Clinique High Impact Eye Shadow Soft Shimmer in Keyhme 
Pie. $13.50; 8 Lancome MagiCils in Turquoise Magic $22 




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THE BEST OF THE BLUES 

Blue shadows are making a big 
comeback, but in a new, sophisticated 
way. "Apply a 'whisper' of color, not a 
shout.' " says Maria Verel, Diane 
Sawyer's makeup artist. Many eye 
shadows look bright and intense in the 
pot. but don't be put off— they actually 
brush on very lightly. If you're still 
worried about too much intensity, start 
slowly, say the experts. "Try dipping 
your brush in a bit of translucent face 
powder first, and then into the palette 
itself." advises makeup artist Troy 
Surratt. Or. says Verel, soften the look 
by dusting gold or silver highlighting 
powder over the eye. A fan-shaped 
brush is the perfect tool, says Mally 
Roncal, Sephora's national makeup 
artist, who also works with 
singer/actress Beyonce. "It allows you 
to sweep on just a stroke of color 
exactly where you want it," she says. 

EYELINER SMARTS 

Save really vivid hues, such as cobalt 
blue and electric green, for lining 
the eye. close to upper lashes, in 
thin strokes. That way, you'll get a 
dose of eye-brightening color without 
making a big commitment. "It's a lot 
more wearable that way," says makeup 
artist Nick Barose. 

LOVE YOUR LASHES 

Once your pretty-as-a-picture shadow 
is securely in place, don't go anywhere 
without a hearty helping of mascara. 
Reach for no-fail black or dark brown, 
or try colored mascara, which subtly 
enhances your eye color. Like this 
season's shadows, colored mascaras are 
never as bright as they appear in the 
tube. "In fact, purple is the easiest to 
wear," says Barose, "probably because 
it's so close to brown." 



Sheer formulas take the fear factor out of bright eye shadow. 

1 Shiseido The Makeup Silky Eye Shadow Quad in Earth and 
Sky. $30; 2 Wet & Wild liner in sky blue, $1; 3 NARS Eyeshadow 
in Heart of Glass, S18: 4 Sephora pencil in 508, $5; 5 Lola Eye 
Shadow in Skyline. $18; 6 Estee Lauder MagnaColor Maximum 
Intensity Mascara in Magna Blue. $20; 7 Trish McEvoy brush 
#41 $19, and 8 #21. S53: 9 Yves Saint Laurent Ombres Vibration 
Duo in Iris-Peacock Blue, $36 



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THREE CHEERS FOR CHEEKS 

This season's preferred palette of peach, coral, pink and 
bronze are just the ticket to achieving a healthy glow. And 
while the endless array of blush shades and textures 
(powder, cream, or liquid) can be dizzying, there's never 
been a better time to bring your best flush forward 

Start by priming your face by dipping a big fluffy 
brush into a pot of bronzing powder and dust it all over 
your face, concentrating on your forehead, chin and the 
tip of your nose. This will warm your complexion and 
make it an ideal backdrop for bright color "Smile and 
apply the blush with a soft brush to the roundest part of 



Perk up your look with these vivid yet 
soft cheek shades. 

1 becoming Added Brilliance Bin 
Highlighter in Tint and Bronze 514 

2 Bourjois Pastel Joues blush in Rose 
Frisson, $13; 3 Christian Dior DiorBlush 
in Firelight, $32.50; A Origins Sunny 
Disposition, $11.50 5 Yves Saint 
Laurent Touche Blush in Spice. $38: 

6 Prescriptives Blossoming Cheek 
Shimmer irfCherry Blossom, $25; 7 Shu 
Uemurl brush 16R. $35; 8 Shiseido 
The Makeup Luminizing Brush Powder 
in Beige Shimmer. $45 



your face, blending up to the cheekbone and toward the 
temple.'' says Surratt. 

As with eye makeup, there's a place for cheek 
shimmer products, too. Blend on shimmer, in either a 
liquid or cream form, and use it after applying 
foundation and before powdering; follow it with either 
powder or cream blush. A bronze or copper shimmer 
will enhance the look of the bronzing powder, while a 
paler shade of white or pink will give you a fresher, 
brighter look. Both are beautiful this spring and give 
your complexion a gorgeous glow 



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LIP APPEAL 

)htfully 

i juicy 
he look our model 
nd cotton candy 
>re than one right tint 
Best of all, many of 
-v formulas promise to deliver 
younger, fuller lips. too. 

PRETTY AND PINK 

Pink lipstick is omnipresent right now: 
it's in every shade from hot to nude. 
When choosing a pink lip shade. Barose 
recommends that you stick to a shade 
that's a bit darker than your natural lip 
pigment. Otherwise, you risk looking 
too pale and washed out. 'Think pink 
but also fruity." he says. 

COOL CORALS 

An easy way to add pizzazz to your 
spring makeup look-without having 
to do much else to your face-is to slick 
on a coat of coral lip color. Look for 
shades that verge on pink (not orange) 
and wear this vivid color against an 
otherwise neutral face-since it shouldn't 
share the stage with other bright hues. 
"Look for colors that are bold even in 
the tube," says Surratt. "They'll diffuse 
to a perfectly sheer shade." 



This sprmg, seek out sheer lipsticks, rich glosses and 
lip-Plumping formulas. 1 Avon Beyond Color Plumping 
L.plmer with Retinol in La Vie en Rose. $7 2 L'Oreal 
Volume Perfect Upcolour in 110. S9.99; 3 Too Faced 
Lip Gloss Luxe ,n Modelizer. $ 18 ; 4 Yves Saint Laurent 
Personnel lipstick in 8. $27; 5 Revlon Super 
us Lipgloss in Shine That P nk S6 99 

6 Prescnptives Moonbeam Reflective Gloss. $17.50- 

7 se Lip Creme. $22 

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by Merle Ginsberg 



IT'S THE PERFECT TIME TO BE A FUNNY WOMAN 

in America. When Ladies' Home Journal set out to pay tribute to female comics, 
we were struck by just how rich and varied the field is today, and at how bold, 
brave and committed to breaking down boundaries these laughing ladies are. 
They're producing their own movies and starring in their own TV shows and 
plays. They're trampling taboos with glee, defying convention and using levity to 
brighten our darkest moments. 

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Mullally. Ellen DeGeneres and Katey Sagal— inspire us. entertain us. sometimes 
shock us. but never bore us. Come along as we visit these three incredible women 
to talk about the serious business of beimr verv. very funnv. 



Her genius is for sly. quietly exasperated 
observations about modern life (on au- 
tomatic flushing toilets in airports: "I'll 
decide when I'm done!'. Ellen De- 
Generes first came onto 0111 comic radar 
after her standup acts landed her her 
own show. E/lc/i, in 1994. which became 
a showcase for her loose jointed physi- 
cal stvle. But she's always richest in her 



own voice, telling her own quirky sto- 
ries and stealing the show witli wry 
asides like when she hosts the Emmys. 
Thanks to her portrayal, there may nev 
er be a more beloved Regal Blue Tang 
than her Don- in Finding Nemo. And she 
may have found her best venue yet as 
host of her own talk show, 'the Ellen De- 
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"WHEN I WAS 13," SAYS ELLEN, "MY MOTHER 

WAS CRYING A LOT. I WOULD CHEER HER UP TO 

THE POINT WHERE SHE'D START LAUGHING" 



second season Even more than her like pointing out what's different she said. "Are you Ellen DeGed?" Sll 
oddball qu - for celebrities (to about all of us— and what's the same, couldn't even say my name. She st 

Jennil i "Do you use your I've learned that if I fee! something, ed saying. " Okmigod. Ohmigod." 

real even if I think it's weird, somebody Q: So what's powerful about corned^ 

civilian" else has felt it. too. We always Ellen: Being able to manipulate pel 

guests [Uvcai old cham- assume we're the only ones. We're pie's emotions. I realized the powJ 

Ellen did an the only ones who get in the bathtub when I was 13 and my parents wej 

: act. Her book. and. in order to even out the water getting divorced. My mother w< 

Is ... , packed with temperature, paddle on one side, and really going through a hard timi 

Crying a lot. And 
would cheer her up 
the point where she' 
start laughing. It 
very interesting at 1 
to have the roles re 
versed, to know yo 
her signature observations of the ab- paddle in the opposite direction on are actually making your mother fee 
surd, quickly rose to the top of the the other side. I would do that and good. I still feel like that onstage, 
best-seller lists in the fall. With Ellen, think. I know other people do this! Q: As a talk-show host. Rosic 

who recently turned 46. what vou Q: Whv don't we admit it? O'Donnell was known as being nia 

see is what you get, and we love what Ellen: Because nobody likes to be and sweet. Is that the niche voi 
we get: lots of giggles that leave us honest about their quirks. That's why wanted to fill? 
with a warm glow. it's interesting to me. and that's proba- Ellen: It's not diat I feel like I have tc 

Q: Do you think that women are al- bly why I'm a comedian: I was quieter, be nice. I just am nice. I am so grateful 
lowed to lie funny now more than I watched people. We moved a lot for everything that's happened to me 
they used to be? when I was a kid. and I was alwavs Eve gone through times when I wa 

Ellen: Historically, women could be die new person at school. Our family so angrv. so devastated, and I think 
funny if they were on stage with a didn't communicate at all. no one that's normal. Hev. life is full of pain 
man. Even Goldic Hawn was the talked. When someone in die family For evervone. But I love that now 

said. "Everything's fine." I was die one 
who said. "No. it's not!" I don't know- 
where I came horn! I don't even look 
like anybody else in my family. 
Q: So what's the last diing diat made 
-you laugh out loud? 
Ellen: Yesterday I went to my 6- 
vear-old goddaughter's plav— Kathv 
Naiimy's daughter is my godchild. 



ditzy girl who was allowed to be fun- 
ny only with guys. Then there was 
the extreme, like Joan Rivers, who 
was brash. But now. it's okay for 
women to be strong. And the more 
women we sec who aren't tough in a 
bad way— just strong, and there is a 
difference— the better it is. I'm strong, 
and I never thought I was strong be- 



fore. I grew up weak and scared of Those kids trying to sing and per- 



everything. and wanting to please 
everybody. I didn't ever want to be 
the center of attention; that's still un- 
comfortable to me. 

\tl that contribute to developing 
■ and of comedv? 
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can be exactly who I am. So I am 
completely comfortable in my skin for 
the first time in my life. Part of it is be- 
cause I'm 45. Pan of it is because I've 
been through so much I never be- 
lieved I could have endured. I was al- 
wavs paralyzed with fear that the 
worst-case scenario would happen- 
well, the worst-case scenario did hap- 
pen: My career and relationship [with 
Anne Heche imploded. And I actually 



form-diat made me laugh out loud. 

Q: You must really be relating to kids made it dirough! So on this show I 

these days after playing Dorv in Find- can be exacdy who I am. [Today Ellen 

ing Nemo. And I'll bet diev're relating lives with her girlfriend of three years. 

to you. photographer Alexandra Hedison, 

Ellen: This is a whole new audience! and dieir two cats.] 

Even when kids hear mv voice now, Q: So does it make you insane to 

ing hunn I don't talk about thev flip out. There was a little girl tak- have to go and tape every day? 

sex. oi curse, winch I i azy. I ing tickets at die play yesterday, and Ellen: I'm continued on page 117 



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oving it. Even on the weekends I can't 
sait to come back on Monday be- 
i :ause I love it so much. 
3: Did you always want to be a co- 
nedian? 

Ellen: When I was really young I 
vantcd to work with animals, but I 
iidn't pursue it. I was lazy. I didn't 
:are. 

Q: Are you still an ani- 
mal person? 

Ellen: I'm a dog per- 
son. Shirley MacLaine 
came on the show re- 
cently to talk about the 
book her dog wrote. I 
didn't have that connection with my 
dog— it didn't tell me things or write 
books. I would have liked my dog to 
make money for me. I don't know if 
I could have made book deals for my 
dog, but that would have been great. 
too. 

Q: Is there anything you don't like 
about doing the show? 
Ellen: The only bad part of this job 
is that I have to have hair and make- 
up even" single day. The minute the 
Show's over I go in the dressing room 
and scrub off the makeup. I never 
wear it. I never wore makeup on- 
stage, ever, even when I was doing 
stand-up. I hate it. But I love every- 
thing else about the show! 

While the over-the-top hilarity of Peg 
Bunch- on Married . . . With Children 
might be what first comes to mind 
when one thinks of Katey Sagal. it's 
her current role that has truly 
demonstrated the depths of her tal- 
ent. As the country has mourned 
John Ritter since his death last Sep- 
tember, it has been Katey's job to 
guide her <S Simple Rules family back 
to the task at hand: showing the 
lighter side of the trials and tribula- 
tions of evervdav life. Onlv a comedi- 



an with hi .[ i ipath) 

and warmth could pull off - 

a task-no other TV show has 

been able to maintain its ratings 

the untimely passing of its - 

makes ii all look "simple." bin then. 

the pros always di >. 

Q: Your life so far does not read like 

the textbook of a funny huh. You've 



( )h. I wanted to be Lama 
Nyro. Svlvia Plath— wearing all black. 
The whole thing. 

Mow does that person become a 
■ person?" 

1 iok me by surprise. 

I always used hu- 
ll skill. I had that dry, 
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"I'VE GONE THROUGH TIMES WH 

ANGRY, SO DEVASTATED/' SAYS ELLEN, "BUT I 

LOVE THAT NOW I CAN BE EXACTLY WHO I AM" 



been through several miscarriages, a 
divorce, the untimely deaths of both 
your mother and father when you 
were still quite young, then your co- 
star. John Ritter. died. You've had a 
lot of tips and downs. 
Katey: Isn't it wacky? I have "one 
of those lives." Some of us do. I've 
had it really, really great— and really, 
really low. I finally grew up enough 
t( ) realize that not everyone has the 
same life. At age 48. I realize. I have 
more of an upswing and a down- 
swing than other people. 
Q: Yes. we hear you're on an up- 
swing right now. 

Katey: Yeah. I got engaged in Au- 
gust to Kurt Sutter. He's a writer and 
producer on 'The Shield. We met two 
years ago. 

Q: You know. Ellen and Megan said 
the same thing— about being in a 
good place right now -and you're all 
about the same age. 
Q: It's true. It's not that you don't 
care what people think, you just 
aren't shaped bv it anymore. It just 
stops being about anybody else's 
opinions. I definitely went through 
mv years of trying to lit in. 
Q: It seems like you were a loner 
when you were younger. 



p i sona I put on. It's fiumoi 
from a dark place. 

Q: You know what Megan said 
about Peg Bund} - from Married . . . 
With Children? She said there would 
be no Karen Walker if there had 
been no Peg Bundy. 
Katey: Yeah, they Ye kind of cut horn 
the same cloth! Peg was definitely a 
cartoon— which was woo fun. But Peg 
was originally written a la Roseannc. 
Peg and Al were supposed to be kind 
of slovenly: her sexiness was our in- 
vention. I drought diey were so com- 
bative that thev had to have some kind 
of hot sex appeal going on. 
Q: Did people say you were funny 
when you were a kid.' 
Katey: In high school I ran for of- 
fice and won because my speech 
made everybody laugh. I was cyni- 
cal, quirky and quick. But il you 
talked to any boyfriend or husband 
I've had. I'm sure they'd tell you I'm 
dreadfully serious! I'm just not all 
that funny. I'm not zany. 
Q: Are you the kind of person you 
thought you d turn out to be? 
Katey: I'm a Capricorn. I was 
amazingly old when I was younger. 
:\nd I have a much younger energy 
now. I think there's continued 



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time. When you have children. 

you can'i be frivolous. They bring 

ii to everything. 
Q; So everything was against this 

yet it works. Why? 
Katey: Love is so much about tim- 
everyone involved. And 
diere's more than one person on die 



couldn't be happier about her re\ 
uonary show and the new turns 
life has taken as a result. But lirst. 
explains the cast on her leg. 
Megan: I tore a ligament in my 
the other day! John Cleese was gues 
stalling on the show, and he was hoisj 
ing me up to a chandelier, and I lot 
my balance and fell. Now I've got dil 




big old swollen ankll 

"YOU LEARN TO LOOK AT THE FUNNY SIDE," ^ d l couldnt § et i 

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SAYS KATEY "YOU DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST band and i are iryiJ 
PAIN. HUMOR'S A GREAT WAY OF DOING THAT" £S^^ etoJ 

pregnant? How fab! 
Megan: I don't know if I can. be] 
cause I'm 45 and I don't want to dd 
in vitro. We're doing it the old 
fashioned way. I would adopt. I lavm 
the idea of adoption. I always have 
My mom almost adopted anothej 
child when I was 8. But my husbanc 
is 11 years younger, and he wants tc 
try to have our own kid before we 
try anything else. 

Q: How do you feel about this classic 
"older woman, younger guy" mar-| 
riage you're in? 

Megan: I've made it a point to nev-j 
er lie about my age. I think our cul- 
ture is so overwhelmed with youth* 
and looking a certain way— and thatl 
has no meaning. I haven't had any 
Botox or any work. I don't judge' 
anvone for having plastic surgery, but 
it's just not for me. Getting older is a, 
part of life and I believe it's beautiful. ' 
Q: How does your husband feel; 
about die age difference? 
Megan: Even though he's an actor, 
he's like a farm boy. he doesn't care 
about superficial things. I've always 
had a rash of younger men who were 
taken widi me. When I met Nick. I 
couldn't tell his age because he looks 
older. But I really don't think it 
makes any difference, continued 



nun's a great way of doing that. 
Q: So why didn't you pursue your 
earlier ambitions of being a rock 
stai ? You sang with Bette Midler and 
Boh Dylan. 

Katey: I got more and more disillu- 
sioned by it. more self-destructive. 
Another door opened, and I some- 
how had the smarts to walk through 
it. But I just finished a new record. 
It's acoustic, soul, rhythm and blues, 
with iolk roots. We're going to put it 
out on the Internet later this year. 
And I do gigs whenever I can. I just 
love to sine. 

Q: You took 8 Simple Ritlc\ intending 
to work with John, who was an old 
friend, on a fun sitcom. It's not really 
a sitcom anymore. 

Katey: It's true. Now. we are showing 
people how to get over tragedy and 
that you will laugh again. It's a whole 
different thing now. But I don't feel 
like the star. I sort of consider die fami- 
ly to be die star of the show. 
Q: And you have two kids in real 
life. Does your fiance have kids. 1 
Katey: No. My kids are 7 and 9. 
Kurt early on, but he did- 
n't si, i for a year. You just 
have i b kids gave him 
a hard time. ... < rent too em- 



planet for each of us. I've been in 
love a couple of times. I feel so lucky. 
My fiance is funny, loving. My kids 
understand the concept now of 
"more people to love"-and more 
gifts at Christmas. 

Q: What's the last thing that made 
you laugh out loud? 
Katey: Oh. John Ritter. Definitely 
John Ritter. I miss John a lot. Most of 
the time, thinking of John is joyous 
because he was such a joyous person. 
As much as I'm missing him, I can al- 
ways enjoy the memories of him. I 
laughed with him about 20 times a 
day. He reminded me of an old- 
school comedian type— a vaudevil- 
lian. He was just a naturally funny 
.person. 

A comedy about a neurotic city girl, 
her gay male roommate, her drunken 
assistant, and flaminslv flambovant 
friend? On a television network. 1 Five 
vcars and six Emmys later. Will is 
Grace is one of the most popular 
shows in broadcast history and 
Megan Mullally's helium-voiced, bo- 
somy, outrageously rude Karen 
Walker is at the center of it all. Re- 
cently married to her longtime 
boyfriend, Nick Olferman. Mullallv 



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Q: What is Nick doing now? 
Megan: He's an actor, but now lie's 
working as a carpenter on Courteney 
Cox Arquette and David Arquette's 
new show. Mix It Up. They happen to 
be our neighbors, and Courteney arid 
Nick were also in a movie together. 
I'm very impressed by diem— Da\ id's 



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but I kept him at bay, because in the 
past. I tended to rush into relation- 
ships. At a certain point. I formally 
asked him if he would be my 
boyfriend. We didn't consummate 
our relationship for quite awhile— that 
was my doing and it wasn't easy! I 
just knew he wasn't a fling. 
Q: Are you excited about the possi- 
bility of becoming a mother? 
Megan: Let me answer this way: 
We got a second poodle in May; 
they're both rescue dogs and so cute. 
Pets are great because they really 
show you what kind of parent you 
would be. They bring out your ma- 
ternal feelings. I didn't think I would 
be good at parenting, but now I 
know that's not true. 
Q: Do you and Nick fight? 
Megan: We really don't argue that 
much. We newer had a very stormy 
thing: he's my best friend. He was 
willing to commit to me on that level, 
and I was willing to commit to him. 
It's funny, for the first year of our rela- 
tionship. I told Nick I would never get 
married again. I didn't believe in it. 
My fi was very pleasant, 

and I had the most amicable divorce. I 
believed in ha\ing a long-term monog- 
amous relationship bin not a signed 



so sweet and handsome and 
Courteney is so nice. They're so real- 
David even wanted to put in their 
marriage vows that neither of them 
would ever have plastic surgery. 
Q: Some say die source of humor is 
intelligence, some say it's not taking 
life too seriously. What do you drink? 
Megan: I don't know. I was always 
very inhibited as a child. Some things 
do change! I was still very introverted 
when I went to college. Even though 
I had done a good amount of what 
would be called comedv. I never 
thought of mvself as a comedic ac- 
tress. I could only be funny around 
people I really trusted. I have an in- 
nate distrust of show-off behavior. I 
.was never the cutup. 
Q: Do you think that women tradi- 
tionally have been given permission 
to be funny? 

Megan: Probably not. Maybe I've 
had an opportunity to unwittingly go 
a couple of steps further than a lot of 
women, given how our show has 
been written. I like to take chances 
and go there, and that's the key to 
comedy— allowing yourself to look 
stupid. 

Q: You do so much physical humor 
as Karen: vou're always flashing vour 



boobs and being over-die-top silly. 
Megan: Oh. God the boobs. I coi 
have counted on one hand the timl 
I'd ever showed any kind of cleavafl 
on TV before Will ir Grace. I nevj 
thought of myself as even ha\ing bl 
boobs— I'm a 36 B. or 34 C. But thei 
are a couple of male writers who quij 
fancy me in die chest area! Now 

boobs have beel 
mythologized! Noi 
they write things fc 
Karen like. "I've got 
killer rack!" Then the] 
get costumes that ail 
very low cut. Karej 
Walker is just up for anything. 
Q: What have you learned froi 
Karen? Eric McCormack told Ladiel 
Home Journal that your tastes have god 
ten more sophisticated because of her. 
Megan: I think having more thar 
Sll in my bank account has made 
my taste better! I don't know if m) 
taste is more upscale. I just hav 
more money. The only way I'm like 
Karen is that she wants to have fun- 
that childlike capacity. 
Q: Why do you think Will ir Grack 
succeeded as gay TV? 
Megan: Will b Grace is not politi- 
cized. And the gay bashing is builtl 
into our show. I've been in a truck I 
stop and had a table full of truck I 
drivers say. "Oh. I love your show!" I| 
sign their napkins. 

Q: Do you get letters from the pro- 
alcoholics club? 

Megan: Yeah, some people write! 
and say, "Let's get together and have 
a martini!"' Well. I've only had one 
sip of a martini in my life, and I 
thought I would throw up. Q 



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Dakota Fanning 

At just [(I years old, this golden- 
haired girl with wide eyes and an old 
soul, holds her own with mature 
comics such as The Cat in the Hat's 
Mike Myers. 




Molly Shannon 

Shannon's got the market cornered 
on kooky and irreverent characters 
that tug at your heartstrings. We'll 
be Cracking Up along with her new 
show on Fox this spring. 

Courteney Cox Arquette, 
Jennifer Aniston and Lisa 
Kudrow 

Comic history was made when these 
direi met. They've made us 

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As Grace Adler on Will hf Grace. 
Messing is hapless and hilarious 
enough to make you believe she mal 
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Kelly Ripa 

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Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Kirstie 
Alley and Candice Bergen 

Get these ladies uheir own shows 
again, please— ones that are as funny 
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wonder— fust thing in the morning 
no leSs! And then at night, she does 
it all over again on Hope c!r Fait hi 

Ten Polo 

Polo lets us in on the joke with her 
light, loopy style on I'm With Her, and 
as the straight girl in Meet the Parents. 

Renee Zellweger 

She had us at hello with one of the 
most expressive— and adorable- 
faces in Hollvwood. Whether she's 



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Sandra Bullock 

Bullock's girl-next-door goofiness 
gets us every rime, hut it's the 
vulnerability she lets shine through 
he) gorgeous grin that makes her a 

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Cameron Diaz 

There's something about Diaz's 
sunny California vibe, megawatt 

smile and smooth moves that we find 
downright heaven-sent. 

Jane Kaczmarek 

We think is < in the 

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Constance Marie 

We love this Latina Lucy— she keeps 
George Lopez in line and the rest of us 
in stitches with her spicy style. 

Brooke Shields 

From pretty babv to tunny lady: She 
knows how to play her physical 
beaut}' for laughs while remaining 
likable and low-key. 

Parker Posey 

With a glint in her eve and a semi- 
screech in her voice. Posey is edgy, 
entirely endearing and. whatever die 
role, she's Best in Show. 

Christine Baranski 

This tart-tongued comedian (Happy 
Family, Welcome to Mooseport) polishes 
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Goldie Hawn 

The Glorious Miss Goldie. whose 
2:is;sle still makes us srrin. was a 
revolutionary, elevating the classic 
dumb-blond sexpot persona with 
street smarts and a sweet soul. 

Nia Vardalos 

For her big. fat break she wrote anc 
played family frustrations for laugh 
in a fresh, yet warmly familial- way. 

Sara Rue 

We think her rueful delivery makes 
her. actually, more, not Less Tlian Peifet 



Bonnie Hunt 

Life JJlth Bonnie, written, directed ant 
produced by Hunt, is an oasis of 
understated impro\isational comedvl 




Constance Zimmer 

She's the true wake-up call on Good 

mg, Mhi mi, in die tradition of 
hoarse and cranky comics who know 
how to work a snarky sneer. 

Suzanne Pleshette 

Her world-weary and wisecracking 
ways have earned her a place in our 

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8 Svnple Rules and. of course, 
that last Xruhart. 

Sarah Chalke, Christa 
Miller-Lawrence and 
Judy Reyes 
If laughter is the best medici 
this trio's combination of 
fall-down-funny physical 
comedy, deadpan disses and 
earthy attitude make Scrubs 
a show that'll have you feelin 
better, fast. 

Whoopi Goldberg 

From her Oscar-\\inning role i 
' ■ host to her star turn in her Ty 
hit Whoopi, she nails each and I 
every line ^vith a knowing smill 
















Carol Burnett 

Six Emmys later, we tug our 
ears in salute to her towering 
talent, and her gift of making 
us laugh till we cry. 



Kate Hudson 

She inherited her mom's comic 
genes, but Hudson brings her | 
own special sweetness to 
mo\ies such as How to Lose a 

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Jicia Silverstone 
ou're Clueless if you don't 
:e die humor in Silverstone's 
queaky delivery and little frowns. 

/;.. Match is right on target. 




3osie O'Donnell 

She even makes being sued funny. 
Sure, she's foul and furious, but we 
like laughs that pack a punch. 

Cheryl Hines 

Nobody plays appalled for more 
laughs than Hines. who gives 
as srood as she °;ets as Larry 
David's patient wife on the largely 
improvisational Curb Your 
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is having them wit] n -old 

daughter. Faith. 

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get into the most interesting discus 
sions about good and evil, if it's 
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sions you don't expect to have with 
your 12 -year-old." 

As a mother. Hall is up for the 
challenge, and as the person responsi- 
ble for bringing God to Friday-night 
TV, she's been thrilled to leam that 
millions of viewers are. too. ~]oan of 

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mother's past. "A lot of the spiritual journey is net 
about the afterlife." says Hall. "It's about this lit 
and how we live it. Small decisions can have hugj 
repercussions." 

The show had been percolating in Halls heal 
since her own childhood obsession with Joan of An 
the 15th-century saint who believed she was obeyint 
God's call when she helped drive the British fror, 
France. "It's the girl warrior icon." she says, "that 
have always identified with." 

But it was a personal spiritual awakening tha 
brought Joan of Arcadia to life. Hall was raised in I 
devout Methodist familv in rural Virginia, anc 



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Joan of Arcadia star Joan Girardi (Amber Tamblyn) 
has an unexpected meeting with God, who appears 
to her in the form of a cute boy 

moved to Hollvwood after college to become a tele 
vision writer. She was very successful working for hit 
TV shows such as Northern Exposure. Moonlighting, ER 
and Chicago Hope, among others, but left her church 
far behind. 

Then in 1997. during a stay in New Orleans, she 
was walking to her hotel at night and was violently 
attacked and raped. The trials, which included two 
hung juries, dragged on for a year and a half, and 
ended with a third trial and a conviction that sent;, 
her attacker to prison for 15 years. Hall found her- 
self desperate for a way to cope with the ordeal and 
find inner strength. She turned first to yoga, then 
Buddhism, then to an earnest study of the world's re- 
ligions before finallv converting to Cadiolicism. (Her 
sister Karen, who writes for Judging Amy. had con- ! 
verted in 1995. 

"In Hollywood, this is extremely bizarre." Hall 
- with a laugh. "I may just as well have said I be- 



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ieved in UFOs. But. well, I just don't care what 
jeople say about me." 

Writing the scripts for Joan of Arcadia is a way for 
Hall to explore and grapple with her faith in God. 
"You know, I can be as mad at God as anybody," 
she says. "A friend of mine died recently. I was 
mad! So I tried to find a way for Joan to express 
that on the show. What I wanted to say to God 
was. "You know, you have a lot to answer for. bud- 
dy. Nobody asks to be born!" And that's what [oan 
says to him on the show. And he says to her. 'You 
wish you weren't alive?" " 

Hall is no stranger to drawing inspiration from her 
own life. The single mother character in Judging Amy. 
for instance, mirrors her relationship with her own 
daughter. "All drose dilemmas and the way Amy talks 
to her daughter, that's me." Hall says. "Like, when 
your child starts to manipulate you. and you just say. 
'That's fascinating, honey. Now get in die car.' Mother- 
daughter stuff is one of my favorite subjects. That dy- 
namic never changes, it just shape-shifts. Maybe every 
now and then you resolve one tiny thing." 

Examining the mother-daughter dynamic on TV 
is one thing. But God? "Yeah, that was kind of a tall 
order." says Hall. To that end. she sat down with her 
Joan oj Arcadia crew and gave them a list of Ten 
Commandments for the series, which include such 
pronouncements as "God can't directly intervene." 
"Good and evil exist." "Everyone is allowed to say 
No to God, including Joan." and "God expects us to 
learn and grow from all our experiences. However, 
the exact nature of God is a mystery, and that mys- 
tery can never be solved." 

The result: a show about God drat is bodi thought- 
ful and entertaining. Pitching; a show about God to a 
medium as secular as TV would seem to have been a 
thornv challenge, but Hall savs she faced no obstacles 
in Hollywood. "CBS just wanted it." says Hall. 
"There is a hunger right now for some discussion 
about God. I think September 1 ltli had something to 
do with the shift in climate. It made people feel vulner- 
able, and that's when we start looking for God. It's 
also why he's so popular on airplanes." 

For Hall, the notion of God as a character who ap- 
pears in the daily and ordinary routines of life is a fa- 
miliar one. "You know. I'm a practicing Catholic, but 
I was aware of God being everywhere long before I 
converted," she says. "'Tire only thing you need to do 
to see God is to look. That's why Joan is seeing 
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RESSED 



AMERICAN 
FAMILY 

Are you and your family 
stressed out and short on 
solutions? In this yearlong 
exclusive report, Ladies' Home 
Journal examines why and 
how we've become a nation 
of frenzied, frazzled families, 
and the toll stress takes on 
our health, marriages, children 
and our personal happiness. 
In this first installment, we 
spotlight the seismic social 
shifts that got us here, and the 
best ways to get off the 
tension treadmill 

BY MARTHA BARNETTE 



! he alarm clock war 

ins before we feel fullv rested, racing 
to get the kids ready for school, sit- 
ting in the hurry-up-and wait of rush- 
hour traffic, carrying impossibly 
demanding workloads, scurrying to 
finish shopping and chores, driving 
the kids to soccer practice and music 
lessons, scrambling to fix dinner, lis- 
tening to depressing newscasts, help 
ing the kids with homework, having 
spats with loved ones, worrying 
about crime, cancer, infectious dis- 
eases, terrorism and how we're going 
to pay next month's bills, much less 
save for the future. 
Who us. stressed? 
You bet. Recent research : ndicates 
that Americans are one hair-raisingly 
stressed-out bunch. When the Na- 
tional Women's Health Resource 
Center conducted an online survey 
last summer, more than 90 percent of 
respondents said the level of stress in 
their dailv lives was moderate or 
higher, and more than half com- 
plained that stress adversely affected 
their personal lives. Moreover, a 
2002 Harris Interactive poll suggests 
that stress is coming at us from all di- 
rections. Asked what sorts of things 
had troubled them in the past month. 
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ring parents." 
n our growing anxi- 
eties about the state of the world: A 
poll conducted last fall for the Robert 



Wood Johnson Foundation and 
America's HcalthTogether. a non- 
profit health and healthcare organi- 
zation, found that four in 10 
Americans reported feeling more 
stress and anxietv in their lives today 
than they did before the September 
11th terrorist attacks-a number 
that's even higher than a similar poll 
taken in November 2001. 



Meanwhile, technological a( 
vances have ratcheted up the pace 
life in the 21st century, bombarding 
us with an endless stream of informa 
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phones, round-the-clock news, anc 
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PRKSSl RKDIN POl GHKKKPSIK: 

Meet the MacKenzies 



It's 10 a.m. on a 
Sunday, and as usual, 
chaos rules in the 
MacKenzie household. 
Though Robin. 40, her 
husband, Leigh, 56, and 
their brood of six 
children, two dogs and 
a cat moved into their 
five-bedroom house 
outside Poughkeepsie, 
New York, a year ago, 
they've been so busy 
the halls are still 
cluttered with 
unpacked boxes— as is 
the living room, which 
is substituting for a 
pantry while the 
kitchen is being 
renovated. Robin, who 
has just returned from 
a fire de . tment fund- 
raiser breakfast, is 

e the 
younger kids— Conall, 8. 
Bryn. 7, Riley. 6 
3— who ; 

ght. Now. 
re crank\ 
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to big 
sister 



about to lose it 
herself. "Leigh 
disciplines the 
kids by taking 
away the 
PlayStation." she says. 
"But I just yell." 

The MacKenzies are 
stressed to the max, 
which is why Ladies' 
Home Journal selected 
them from among 
some 500 entrants for 
our yearlong Stressed- 
Out Family Makeover. 
Between now and 
December, we'll bring 
in a Stress Swat Team 
to help them navigate 
holding down 
demanding, full-time 
jobs (Robin is a real 
estate broker and Leigh 
is a commercial 
salesman for Culligan 
water systems), 
juggling the clashing 
schedules of their kids 
(Katlyn. 15. and 
Christopher, 13. from 
Robin's first marriage 
are also part of the 
mix) and fighting over 




paying the monthly 
bills on time. 

Like most put-upon 
parents, Robin and 
Leigh haven't found 
ways to dial down the 
stress. Getting Bryn, 
Riley and Keavy to 
clean up their room is 
such a losing battle that 
Leigh has thrown in the 
towel. "I call them the 
three little pigs." he 
says with a rueful laugh. 
Robin would love to 
hire a nanny or 
housecleaner to lighten 
the load, but money is 
tight. There simply isn't 
enough time for 
anything— from parent- 
teacher conferences to 
exercise. Leigh, once an 
avid biker, has gained 
25 pounds over the 
past 10 years; Robin 



gave up kickboxing last 
year, which had brought 
her some relief from 
tension headaches. 
Making enough time for 
each other als